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Souljagirl (f)
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@michelin89. i try my sista, i try  |
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quinofhart (f)
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@quionheart. well said. as a naija woman, i too have been faced with so much pressure from not just my immediate family, but also friends and people that shouldn't even have the guts to be saying rubbish to me at all. they're not happy with the fact that i'm single, as if it is such a bad thing. na so so "u're not getting any younger you know" or "see what has happened to you after shunning all those guys that were asking you out before" or downright "go and get married!" as if i'm a goat without a brain.
i don't know how people even think in our society, being mrs is so impt to people that they will go to any length to snag a man, even if he's as useless as a rag and has 4 wives already. it pains me that some women just see themselves as something to be owned by someone else. i've seen so many naija marriages where the man does as he likes, and the woman has no power or no say to make him change his ways. some of them will be chasing small small girls shamelessly and the wife is expected to suck it in, as if she has no choice. i say kick his ass to the curb! why let one yeye son of adam disrespect you all over the place. is that supposed to be a partnership?
me i'm sha afraid of the fact that i will have to "possibly" spend the rest of my precious life with one man. chei! make God sha give me will power. LOL.
@souljagirl love that nickname of yours by the way. Yep i am glad you feel me oh, please husband and wife business is no joke at all, i went out with my husband for 7 years before i finally agreed to marry, and even in those 7yrs sef, it takes a long time for a boy to grow to a man(if you know what i mean  ) yeah its no picnic at all! when you think of it really , we are talking two human beings , very different coming together as one, it is scarry stuff  |
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top_kin (m)
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Agreed, we imported a lot of the western culture and it has greatly influenced our culture, norms and perspective. But, come to think of it, were these culture(s) forced down our throat? I sincerely believe everyone can discern rightly and has a choice of accepting or rejecting whatever is offered to him/her. Please, leave the westerners out of this, we should take full responsibilities for our actions.
Why remain silent in a relationship/marriage likened to hell for you? Why stay with someone who believes he has to try out all the latest wrestling and boxing skills on you always? Why remain in a relationship that you cannot get an IOTA of joy from it? It's all woes and cries! Some people cannot SIMPLY remember a happy moment in their life or their parents' life since they got married! A marriage either makes or mars you. It can even determine where u spend eternity. Why put urslf tru al deze SUFFERING when u can actually have a peace of mind?
I'm not a divorce advocate but sincerely speaking, let's call a spade a spade; leave out christianity and face reality, if my wife or husband ceases to be a WIFE or HUSBAND, my dear, it's high time we called it quit!!! Q.E.D
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Souljagirl (f)
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@quionofhart, thank you, my sista. i can't even imagine how you and your hubby get along. i'm sure you do great, but hmm, una try o, 7 years no be small thing. i get kind of edgy after knowing someone for even just 1 year. i'm always like "ok i its time to move on, i think i've known everything about this person, and its time for some new excitement" commitment-phobia my sister. and no be say i be spring chicken o! . i'm in my twenties, but i just have that fear and the thot of being with 1 person for the rest of my precious life scares me. though, one day i'll be brave enough to try the marriage thing sha. why not take a risk right? the craziness in our society just scares the crap out of me - all kinds of people and their hidden problems: it's either your partner turns out to be gay, or he's a secret crack head or he turns out to be a pedophile or he's into midgets and all kinds of ish.  i fear. too many abnormal people out there. even with the high divorce rate, one can't be pesssimistic unless they try it first abi? |
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quinofhart (f)
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@souljgrl I hear you.  ps. ''into midgets'' lol may not be a bad thing |
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Gamine (f)
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lol
Only God can help us.
Really!
Save us from any form of heart break
'because i know, no man can do it
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EFOSA VAL (f)
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this is from frankies post! '' This is not funny anyway. These days I seem to be annoyed with that fool that I called a friend ''almondjoy'' because of the way she talks senselessly. For me to teased about marrying her is like a disaster to me. *sighs*'' hehehehehehhhe don't worry, once you're married every thing will b ok just don't miss this nairaland opportunity go get it boy |
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