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Teejay07 (m)
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Definitely a no - no. Its not a good idea. It does not mean both parties will really get to know each other as deeply as they should. And, the pretence can still be there on the part of either party. Since the real marriage is yet to be contracted traditionally, in court, church or even in a local council wedding office.
Until you 'contract' the marriage, you never really get to know each other. Also, its not in the best intrest of the woman. Because they she wont have the protection she is expected to have in law (moreso in Nigeria where marital law is yet to be fully tested). Or, what damages/ claims will the woman have recourse to after spending so much time, emotion etc and she eventually gets kicked out by the man - will you just expect her to walk and not look back?
Evenin marriages, with the backing of law, worse things have been known to happen. Life, they say, has no duplicate. And, if it is not panadol it can't be the same thing as panadol.
Marriage is a play, where no amount of rehearsal can prepare you for all the eventualities you will meet on stage.
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iice (f)
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Considering the 3 seconds love i see around, it's not advisable for most people
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Akinagirl (f)
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Tottally agree iice, people seem to fickle and impatient. I say never to move into gether without real marriage. Make the guy have something to look forward to.
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lucabrasi (m)
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i think its a good idea,soo many things that was the norm in the old days are no more now,its a good idea so as to allow u both to know more about each other,with the cost of a wedding its also a good way to save up both for the wedding and the marriage,theres no use pretending that sex doesnt go on in relationships because even couples that don't live together might veryy well have more sex and get up to crazier sturvs than the live-in lovers
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welli (f)
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yea!i belong to d skul of tot that says it brings C FINISH.spending anite at his place is preferrable
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Tattooboy (m)
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welli
yea!i belong to d skul of tot that says it brings C FINISH.spending anite at his place is preferrable u ever done that? @topic watever |
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welli (f)
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me ke?do that?insult on my personality  |
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Tattooboy (m)
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since u're smiling, means u're . . .
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welli (f)
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can u complete that please, means i'm what?  |
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oYaTo (m)
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yea!i belong to d skul of tot that says it brings C FINISH.spending anite at his place is preferrable
Abeg make una pardon my little unknowledgable self. wetin be C FINISH? |
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welli (f)
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C FINISH means disrespect,not placing value on someone,over familiarity, and so on,
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Tattooboy (m)
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am scare, think u going to squeeze my ass :  |
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welli (f)
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betta be scared  |
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Tattooboy (m)
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yea its safer
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oYaTo (m)
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@welli Thanks
@Topic
I've always wanted to experience a live-in before gettin married and i still do, but i have to admit the thot of over-familiarity, taking each otha for granted and eventual disrespect has crept into my mind
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