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real_demi (f)
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@Zandra1 and Hilli666 The issue might not just be Inferiority Complex but that popular brainwash that the man must always be submitted too irrespective of what the man does. @kembaby Please realize that only the living can pray. If she stays with him till she dies, then she can't pray for a change, can she?. that's only logical,, innit?  She can live elsewhere, not neccesarily under the same roof for God to hear and answer her prayers. I am NOT an advocate of divorce except in extreme circustances. I however subscribe to seperation especially when abuse is involved. |
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nigerwife
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Honey, you already know the answer to your question. Your mind and your gutt is telling you to leave listen to it. Don't let these idiots judge you because you stayed for 11 years. Its clear that you stayed to try to make things work. I'm not going to tell you to pray because God knows and I that after staying for 11 years you have already.
You have daughters thats whats important here. They are watching you. Show them that you respect yourself and value your life.
Beat you to a pulp that is truly a COWARD. Lazy useless coward,
You need to make your mind up for once and all and focus on providing a safe lovable environment for your children.
I know you want to hold on to idea of being married but honey you need to face reality.
I wish you the best. Feel free to hit me up if you want to chat.
Please ignore these small minded people, so quick to past judgement. Remember you belong to God not your husband. He has no right to beat you. If he wants to cheat you can't stop that, but you don't have to let him beat you.
Be wise my sis.
From a Real African American Woman, Love ya!
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nigerwife
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Another thing I just read someone tell you to be submissive. Yes I believe that women and to be submissive and that the man should be the head of the house. Her husband is not leading he is cheating and beating her. Ladies be submissive but do not subject yourself to abuse. Use wisdom. You don't have to get your a** beat to pacify his ego.  |
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eezzy (f)
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Vipi Bimkubwa,
There is that much that one can take in a marriage, beyond which
you are doing yourself a this-service. Where there is no Love, Respect and Faithfulness
that marriage can only fail because the three are the foundation stones of marriage.
Evaluate your situation well, pray and then make the right decisions for yourself and
you will know if it is the right decision, like someone said, your gut feeling will help you out.
I wish you well my sister.
As for being submissive, submission only comes with love. It is very easy to submit to a loving
and caring husband but the opposite of submission is rebellion, which is what comes when a husband
is unloving, unfaithful and disrespectful. There can be no submission in the absence of love - do not be deceived.
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Seun (m)
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Being submissive to a bully is like emptying your bank account and submitting all your money to a robber.
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delegirl (f)
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i will not advise u to leave your matrimonial home for another woman to come in please for GOD sake be patience and have faith in God, do pray for him he is going to change byy God grace
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Nihil-ce-M
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i will not advise u to leave your matrimonial home for another woman to come in please for GOD sake be patience and have faith in God, do pray for him he is going to change byy God grace
Listing all the craps in this comment would be an isult to my intelligence!  |
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