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diehard (m)
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There is this girl i'm really in love with and have proposed marriage to, but her family is putting their foot down because we both have AS genotype. She is really confused because she still need her family, while i need to make a decision on wether to call off the relatioship or get married to her without her family consent which she seems reluctant to do
What do i do!?
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OyinboNo1 (m)
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You could agree to only have children by IVF, and have the emryos screened (leaving aside the financial and moral considerations). Otherwise it's 25% chance of each baby being SS type.
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almondjoy (f)
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There is this girl i'm really in love with and have proposed marriage to, but her family is putting their foot down because we both have AS genotype. She is really confused because she still need her family, while i need to make a decision on wether to call off the relatioship or get married to her without her family consent which she seems reluctant to do
What do i do!?
Now this is really sad. AA=25% AS=50% SS=25% Well, the ball is ultimately in your court. It can go either way. Odds are 25% favourable, 50% fair and 25% poor. If I were you I would go ahead and marry my sweetheart. Hopefully medicine is advancing and the odds may be in your favour God being on your side. I have a family friend who was in the the same situation, with 4 kids and all are either AA or AS. Not one of them is SS! Both sets of parents never attended their wedding because of that but the couple in love decided to go ahead--against all odds. One of the saddest weddings I ever attended. The father of the bride refused to give her away. God smiled on them and all is well with the parents now.  Again, I have a cousin with 5 kids. One is AA and the other 4 are SS. Let us say--they are managing! Don't want to discourage you too much.  Goodluck! 
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ifyalways (f)
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hmmmmmn omo the ball is in your court.your future fate is just in your hands.i wish you goodluck on any decision you make.
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milkyway
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my dear,its difficult but mmy advice to u is to let go
its sad,but the risk aint worth it at the long run.that is y before
getting seriously into a relationasip,all these are of importance to
find out.
good luck
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diyobdw (f)
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Are you ready to bring up an SS child ? try visiting a doctor and learning about SS patients before you leap into it. The chances are 75% good but that 25% left is large, and often not preventable aside from terminating the foetus prematurely --no fact , just what i heard.
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teddy5 (f)
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I suggest u think about it carefully. True there r ways arond it i.e. checking the blood type of the child at a certain stage but the moral considertaions, i am not sure its something you may want to get into. I was in a relatnship for 4yrs only to find out we were both AS  . We agreed it was best to go our separate ways. In the long run, we r better off. I am sure u will find someone else. Its ur call. Take heart
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ndubest (m)
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, Find a child or adolescent who is SS and ask their experience , ask also from the parent of such kids their experinence consider all the possible worst sceneriors if you have the financial muscle to bear the consequences, then its your call
please don't be selfish in your thoughts, the momentary joy of today and the long term suffering of tommorow if you have an SS should also be considered
finally seek medical advice
if ask me
please don't bring suffering to the world in the name of love
some people that are SS are still blaming their parents for that decision (but then we didnt have this information unlike now we do)
Above, pray and ask for God's Guidance, with Him everything is possible and nothing is impossible
Goodluck man
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