Dating An Ibo Guy But His Sisters Are Demanding

Am an edo girl dating an ibo guy and he wants to maay mi,he is a very nice and sweet young man ready to do anything 4 mi.my problem is that his sisters never leave him alone,always demanding
and they kip telling him that you know its just for now by the time u get married we will stop.but we all know thats not true.
   its not like he is rich or something,he is just trying to make ends meet,and they never ask him how he is faring . he is always broke because of these gals.he gives them monthly allowances and they work,they come to his house unnanouced. and to mi this is not fair at all.ve always heard that this is something about igbo gals and i can see it for myself.
   i asked him to stop all these things because if he wants to start his own family,he needs moni to do so.i kip finding out new developments about these gals and he rises up to their defense some how .he started saying its like i don't like them and its not true,i just want to set things right or else they will become a bigger problem in future.he is a very quiet person and not until he met mi he started becoming open minded,he used to tell his sisters everything and they give him selfish advice. he doesnt have friends either.i need help!!

At least u knw before u enter in2 marriage, by going in2 marriage with him ul have 2 live with d fact that his sisters are demanding, so make ur decision, it could stil be no I wont marry him

well romeo,thats the point! if there was a house he was building or something,i wont ave a cause to complain,but that is not the case.nobody is saving any money for him,he gives them for their personal stuff to the detriment of himself.ve seen it happen a lot of times.he is a nice person like i said, to a fault and he likes them no doubt am not against that but they are taking advantage of this.

   its obvious men like u would put your wives in 2nd place ova your sisters and mothers,instead of seting the records straight from the beginnig,because u lack the ability to draw the line.
 
 

You have not married him yet you want to dictate how he treats his family. No wahala. What if you pull him away from his family and they hate him because of that and at the long run you dump him who will he follow. By the way if he cannot help his sisters now that he is a bachelor when do you think he will do that when he marries you?. What you felt to remeber is that you are still nobody in his lyf until he marries(don't be suprise that his parents don't know about you) you and if you don't like his sisters they might as well advice him against you. So play your card well if you want him

I was only being real and i wouldn't like to give you false advice, it's men like me that put their "girlfriends" and not wifes in 2nd place where my sisters are until our relationship is defined,
Try to know his sisters and becomes friends or whatever but if you try to separate them you will end up being one leaving

Word!

if you know its going to be a problem to you, then leave him.

Topics like this one on Nairaland are capable of causing funny problems between guys and their girls. Once girls start getting addicted to such topics, they start to eye their men closely and read meaning into anything the men say or do.

WOMEN!!!!!!!  Nairaland is a very good forum, but if u get addicted, it can split u and your man ohhhhhhhhhhhhh

People come onto this forum and advise people to leave their men or women, they make it sound easy, like love or tolerance or peace is not an option. I just think it aint fair. If you want to give any advice, put yourself in their shoes, advise them to go the extra mile, and if all options lead to a failure - give them some straight talking but leave them to make up their own minds about which direction to go. Your's is to advise, not to direct ohhhhhhhhh.

I am speaking from experience.

hi whitelexi,please advise mi genuinely as a woman to a woman'
i need your advise please

Hi Milkyway

Let me start by saying that i'm a young ibo man, i'm an only son, as well as the last kid in the house. I've got 8 sisters born before me, the eldest one is 20 years older than me. She's old enough to be my mum and her first kid is just 3yrs younger than me.

Having said that, i think i am very lucky to be the last kid, just imagine what would happen if i were to be the first kid

whats your problem.if he is not to give them who will?

Not sure why you even bothered to put yourself in this kind of predictament

Sisters still hounding their brothers despite the fact that they get salaries themselves. Pathetic

If you love yourself, you had better leave. Families can become unbearable especially in Nigeria.

If leaving isnt an option YET, I say stop talking to him about it, gauge the sisters and see how they treat you. If they are demanding and also MEAN towards you, run.

to the Op, are you working?

as for the advice of joint account, please ignore it. Like you need him taking out of the joint account to provide for HIS family. Nonense.

yea and i'D rather it stay that way than her adding her own share and he does the same with it.

I just hope the OP is working herself and not depending on MR Alanu Samaria (Good Samartian)

I wouldnt necessarily call it controlling. The girl is obviously worried. If this is the guy she sees herself marrying, she has the right to wonder whether such things will continue if/when they tie the knot. From what she's written, it's people like that, that tend to resent the wife and say she's the one that stole their honeypot from them and start to act up towards her. Girl needs to be careful is all.
Wouldnt you tell your female siblings or friends or whatever to do the same. People always say "shine your eyes" before jumping into marriage, and well I guess that is what she is doing.

I do stand by the fact that she shouldnt question it anymore and just watch. She should also not make plans for marriage with this dude anytime soon either until she is sure of what she is getting into.

So if a person doesnt spend his entire paycheck on his family then he doesnt care about them?

Rofl.

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girl, that's too much right thereif it was me, i'll be likebye and pack my bags. i can't deal with his sisters stress. 

word x2

milkyway, how do they(free loaders sisters) act towards you?
whatever the case don't get between them and their brother,
people that ask for money religiously will get rid of anybody that stand in their way!! >Nollywood films<
advise the dude to advise the ones working to be more independent
and when you tie the knot, make sure you move faraway,send them loads

_{Nigerians should move away from this almanjiri mentality!}