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davidylan (m)
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na only his sisters dey demand now, you just wait until he has to send monthly allowance to his parents, school fees for his cousins and buy schnapps for his aged uncles and aunts in the village. Na then your eye go clear well well. Leave the fellow . . .  i've got igbo family too and trust me, it never gets better only worse. Like an uncle of mine used to say, a man's FIRST priorities are to his wife and kids, all others come a distant second. If your boyfriend isnt ready to understand this biblical truth then carry leg waka small. Love will tide you over for no more than 2yrs after marriage, after that issues like this are likely to determine if your marriage goes up or down. |
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chidichris (m)
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my dear,
u mentioned it here that he is ready to do anything for u so why worry yourself about him taking care of his sisters.
by the way, do u have brothers? how are they close to u? how demanding are u to him? do u believe that girls shld depend more on their brothers to survive or depend on boyfriends or possibly jump from one man to the other to survive.
my dear, count yourself lucky if his sisters like u. i am ready to let go if u advice me against giving to my sisters. have u thought about their family upbringing.
it is advicable that u join him in making his sisters happy and by so doing he will love u the more for doing the things that will make him happy otherwise quite because ur happiness will be short with him if u go into marriage.
for me, my sisters are too precious that i will distance myself from u as soon as u mention ur oposition to that.
please do not try changing his mind against his sisters because they could mean happiness to him.
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milkyway
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Sisters still hounding their brothers despite the fact that they get salaries themselves. Pathetic
If you love yourself, you had better leave. Families can become unbearable especially in Nigeriathanks u r the only one who seems to understand my point of view,am not controlling anyone.just want to be sure of what am getting myself into. As for your question??yes i got a job and am not one of those good samaritan girls 
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milkyway
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@ cidi chris
by the way, do u have brothers? how are they close to u? how demanding are u to him?
i mentioned i had brothers and we are very close too,i can't bring myself to be a parasite to them,in addition i have a job?its not fair at all to do such to people.
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milkyway
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@kkyce
whats your problem.if he is not to give them who will?
obviously u are one of those gals who will want to be a madam in her brothers house from her matrimnial home!!!!!and i can bet u r the type who wont tolerate that in your own realationship.
in addition u r very greedy if u have a JOB and u r still a parasite to ur own brother who is trying to make ends meet and plan his future? thank GOD u r a woman u will see this kind of thing happen TO YOU
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milkyway
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@ PRESIDO
So play your card well if you want him
AM NOT GOING TO YIELD TO THE MANIPULATIONS OF GIRLS
LIKE MI, HE IS NOT MY SUPPLY LINE FOR FUNDS.I HAVE A JOB!THESE ARE THE TYPE OF LADIES THAT WILL COME UNNANOUCED TO YOUR HOUSE when U R MARRIED,AND ENTER YOUR KITCHEN ANY HOW IN THE NAME OF ITS MY BROTHERS HOUSE,MY BROTHERS MONEY,WE WERE CLOSE before U CAME INTO THE PICTURE, B'because HE FAILED TO DRAW THE LINE
NO LADY LIKES that!
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milkyway
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@ ROMEO
U SOUND LIKE THE TYPE that WILL LAZY AROUND,AND HAVE EYES HIS BROTHERS HARD EARNED MONEY,EVEN when U HAVE A JOB,AM SO SORRY for you.
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romeo (m)
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@ ROMEO
You SOUND LIKE THE TYPE that WILL LAZY AROUND,AND HAVE EYES HIS BROTHERS HARD EARNED MONEY,EVEN when You HAVE A JOB,AM SO SORRY 4 You.
Nooooooooooooo!!!! point of correction. Sorry for your self no be me |
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milkyway
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@ ROMEO VERY FUNNY.LEARN TO B INDEPENDENT OF PEOPLE AND TEACH YOUR SISTERS SAME  |
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milkyway
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@ CHIDI CHRIS it is advicable that u join him in making his sisters happy and by so doing he will love u the more for doing the things that will make him happy otherwise quite because your happiness will be short with him if u go into marriage.GALS LIKE MI that VE JOBS? I SHULD ALSO JOIN AND SPLIT MY SALARY FOR THEM TOO.  ? because I WANT TO MARRY THEIR BROTHER?THANK You VERY MUCH You TOO You DNT KNOW URELF!!!! |
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D-reloaded (f)
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milkyway, glad you are at least thinking things out and not letting love blind you.
you should consider david's advice as well.
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milkyway
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@davidylan
thanks for your advise and thanx for understanding my
situation. u re one of the few that understand my post, its not easy oh,
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milkyway
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@ chidi chris my dear,
u mentioned it here that he is ready to do anything for u so why worry yourself about him taking care of his sisterspermit mi to call u a fool(LOW LIFE PARASITE),can u read your post?the sisters are tearing him apart with demands and i shuld do same? yes he is ready to do anything 4 mi,but i should also join his sisters to bury him early abi?am not as illiterate as u and your family.d young man is just coming up and u want to rip him apart to satisfy yourself MAY GOD DELIVER You  |
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romeo (m)
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@ ROMEO VERY FUNNY.LEARN TO B INDEPENDENT OF PEOPLE AND TEACH YOUR SISTERS SAME I am the type that feeds kids like you, if your mouth is running like a loose water tap why not go and settle your issue alone instead of coming here to pester us with your lousy story |
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milkyway
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@ ROMEO
U R ONE OF THOSE NFA IBO BOYZ DT WAIT TO POUNCE ON PPLES
WEALTH,MY DEAR GO WORK HARD 4 UR OWN, U DNT WANT TO WORK,BUT U WANT brother TO GIVE U ALL,brother HAS HIS WIFE AND FAMILY TO THINK OF,COMMOT EYE from PEOPLE THING,
PEOPLE LIKE U MAKE PEOPLE RUN AWAY from IBO PEOPLE
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romeo (m)
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@ ROMEO
You R ONE OF THOSE NFA IBO BOYZ DT WAIT TO POUNCE ON PPLES
WEALTH,MY DEAR GO WORK HARD 4 UR OWN, You DNT WANT TO WORK,BUT You WANT brother TO GIVE You ALL,brother HAS HIS WIFE AND FAMILY TO THINK OF,COMMOT EYE from PEOPLE THING,
PEOPLE LIKE You MAKE PEOPLE RUN AWAY from IBO PEOPLE
Summary= Childish |
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ifyalways (f)
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milky way i still wonder why you are getting unnecessarily worked up here.if you think you can't put up with the sisters attitudes and never be part of it as you are not a good samaritanwhy don't you take a walk.there are lots of guys out there without sisters or none demending sisters from other tribes in nigeria that would be willing to manage you.  come to think of it,is the guy complaining?have you ever sat yourself down to ask why its like that?has it ever crossed your unsamaritain mind that your guy might have done same to the sisters? abeg fishes full ocean jare,you can't stay carry waka jejejely.nobody send anybody message.hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss |
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presido1
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Oviously you brought your concern here because you have adviced him and he did not seek your advice. Its either you leave him and the sisters or you take him as you have seen him. Must you marry him him? i guess no.
Why are you so worked up, You just want to beef igbo gyls and nothing more. Mind you if you finally marry him your daughters will be igbo gyls as well.
don't impose yourself on him their are many non-igbos out there looking for gyls. Check them out you might be lucky to find one that suits you!! maybe only child if thats is what you are looking for.
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kojeiwa (m)
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The problem is on your Guy. Long as your Guy is willing to give to his sisters, they will always come
back for more. No matter how much his sisters makes. Some people could be nice to a fault.
Maybe by the time the sisters get married, they will leave him alone. He seem to like playing the BIG brother role
and taking it too serious. If he is giving his sister money to buy material things, i wouldn't support that at all,
since the girls are working as well.
Questions:
Does he complain he is broke?
Is he playing his own role as a boyfriend financially?
How old are his sisters you are taking about?
If the fact that he is giving money to his younger sisters is making other things go wrong, them you
should be worried and talk to him about it, but don't make it a problem. If not, let him keep up his good
work as a BIG brother,sooner or later all this will stop, maybe by the time they get married or he thinks he has done
enough. Don't make him think you are a bad or greedy girl, that might affect his decision to marry you. If you really
love him and would want to marry him, try to be patient and understanding. Don't get married and expect
things to change, you will be deceiving yourself. I am a Edo boy, so i am just advising you as a brother.
The Igbo people here are not advicing you, rather they are retaliating, because you making it a tribal issue.
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omoge (f)
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David said it all. Girl, find your way o. Na small small the thing dey start. some guys don't know how to say no when it comes to their siblings or extended families because they want to be ''nice'' me na only son and no relative bobo i go take o |
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D-reloaded (f)
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[quote author=omoge link=topic=97501.msg1742735#msg1742735 date=1196700586 me na only son and no relative bobo i go take o Those ones are the worst. "only son" or "only child" are recipe for disasters because instead of the siblings being the ones to annoy you. It's the damn mother. Since he;'s the only son or kid, the mom will be around you two 24/7 God Forbid. |
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omoge (f)
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D R, i forgot to add, only when the mother is gone better yet one should develop that gbagbati |
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omoge (f)
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i just remembered a thread where someone was saying in that particular tribe, the lady will pursue you and your mama out of your own house |
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milkyway
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@ kojeiwa
my brother,its good to know that i ve my brother ere
thanks for ur response,sincerely i noticed d ibo people were
trying to get back at mi rather than help,but its ok
as per the questions u raised
Does he complain he is broke?
Is he playing his own role as a boyfriend financially?
How old are his sisters you are taking about?
yes,he complains constantly about being broke,i even help out .he can't afford to buy his personal stuff and even make his place look nice,and these gals don't care,all they care about is money.if the gals actually love him,they would want him to improve in his life style. and they work??they have jobs?? its shocking!!!
when he is always caught up with demands and can't improve his life style of course u know the result,
as per the last question they are above 26yrs old.
ve bin very patient,also i try to make him understand that he needs to save money to make his own home.
if i see things are not changing,my brother i'll move on.because i hear ibo gals r like that.and from theiir replies to this post its obviously true
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milkyway
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@ presido You just want to beef igbo gyls and nothing more. Mind you if you finally marry him your daughters will be igbo gyls as well.no doubt they will become ibo gals but with a difference,because they ve an edo upbringing too.which will neutralise that sense of dependence on siblings,even when they ve jobs .everything boils down to sheer greed,and a terrible mentality.BUT u don't want to accept it. also u fail to see the part were i say the gals ve JOBS,they WORK |
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dot2002 (f)
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what you got in man is a little strange to me, i can tell you this though don't go in to this one because you will never like the sisters and they will never like you. Nothing will change because family will always be more important than you, if he was jail today for 20 years you will leave tomorrow, forget i love him so much crap, his family will be there for him no matter what.
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milkyway
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@ dot2002
if he was jail today for 20 years you will leave tomorrow, forget i love him so much crap, his family will be there for him no matter what.
thanks very much,theres no point getting married for you at all,if that is ur idea of better for worse.just remain single, live in ur fathers house,don't start a family of ur own and i bet u,it will be so much fun! :-XHISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
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dot2002 (f)
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XHISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS that word is not in Google. But hiss like hatred with passion is actually in the bible ''The merchants among the people shall hiss at thee." (Ezek 27: 36), just don't let your poison get to me its fine at a distance. and if you want her to go into this one and stick it out with the sisters she's welcome too but know that marriage is a marathon. You have not started yet and you could see enemies, 20 years time they will support their brother to marry another woman or worse throw you out without blinking an eyelid. If there's not love between the families don't go into it, There are load of men in Nigeria ready to settle down with the right woman. men controlled by another person that is not there wife is a no no. |
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milkyway
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@ dot2002 like i said before,don't get married! secondly,even the devil quoted bible 4 jesus so, lastly if u are born again,u wont talk about a woman leaving her husband if he is jailed.so, |
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romeo (m)
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@ presido You just want to beef igbo gyls and nothing more. Mind you if you finally marry him your daughters will be igbo gyls as well.no doubt they will become ibo gals but with a difference, because they ve an edo upbringing too.which will neutralise that sense of dependence on siblings,even when they ve jobs .everything boils down to sheer greed,and a terrible mentality.BUT u don't want to accept it. also u fail to see the part were i say the gals ve JOBS,they WORKDo you want to send them to Italy or Belgium to work for you?? Go to your village and marry one of your own and end the whole wahala of Igbo people |
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rotimy (m)
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Thank God for opening your eyes early enough to know that you are entering a bonded family. Your worst mistake is to fence them off. Their combine power can sweep you off and they can even prevent tne marriage from taking off. See how you can accomodate and befriend them so that in the days of crisis in your marriage , they will stand by you. All responsible African men carter for their sisters. How much are their salaries? You guy is my hero.
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