Dating An Ibo Guy But His Sisters Are Demanding

I see this thread has taken the turn for the worse.

dot, what concerns "jail" with what we are saying. Please go and sit down.


Milky, stop making this into a tribal issue. That aside if he continues ti whine aboiut being broke and still feels the need to feed those parasites he call sister, it's best to get to stepping. People like that USUALLY don't change vene with marriage. You'll probably end up having to argue over whether you should get your kids diapers vs him sending his sisters money for their own kids.
Gosh some parents should be ashamed. I'm thankfully i wasnt raised to be a damn tick on my siblings

Such people are just looking to cause trivbal fights. You ignore them, not respond in the same likeness.

Sorry D-reloaded i never meant to come out gun blazing it was just that yours truely tried to twist some shit with me. Cheers ify

Milky milky na you write this?? i can't understand you anymore ehh which one you dey fight for?

did you read where she said that he barely has money for himself, osisi? that sometimes she has to spend her OWN money to help him out?

Why would you want money from your brothers when you are working? I'm sure if you and your husband were struggling deeply and every penny he came across was sent to Nigeria, I bet you'd be singing a different song.

It's obvious that you people are being biased.

I thought the poster was married already.It all comes down to whether you think its right for a partner to determine how the other spends his/her money especially when the relationship hasn't evolved to a fully committed relationship.

I can understand a married woman complaining about her husband but someone who is not,who may just be one of the passers by wanting to change someone.
She is not yet of much significance in his life.
She can decide not to help him financially
She can infact pack her 'Ghana must go' and go

@Poster, you obviously are  tribalist.did you have to tell us you are from Edo and the guy from Igbo for us to understand the story.My advice, leave the poor guy alone and find a more suitable Edo guy that will not care for his family and concentrate on you even when you are not married to him!.

@romeo, how u dey.Don't mind all these gals.Big Ups!

if they are as demanding as that, and the dude is willing to take on such a responsibility, then she needs to decide if she will be suitable for such a man/vice versa. It doesn't sound like this is a recent occurrence, so it must have been going on even before they started dating.

If she 'knows' igbo sisters the way she says, then its obvious that, according to her understanding, they will not stop. If that is the case, simply explain to the man and move on. After all they are still only 'dating' so there is a lot of time to remedy things by each person going his/her way.

and the ones that do involve full commitment, does other person have a say despite the fact that they havent gone down the altar yet? between how do outsiders know which non-married relationship is of full commitment or not? Are their tips/hints somewhere?

I see what you mean. Well my question wasnt really about the OP, just in general to the lame comments stating a person doesnt have a say in a relationship until they are married.

milky, you better run before you end up with parasites like dot as in-laws

@ dot
If my brother don't give me money no more then he having it from me! i will always spend my brother monies pure and simple 

its obvious u r ready to be a TICK all your life!!!

caring less if ur brother's eat or not----such love,

way to go!!!!

thumbs up!!!

@ I-MAN

We don't know,they may not be fully committed,that is why the poster's lament is on very shaky grounds.Even if they were married,a partner's entitlement to control how the other spends money is doubtful at best,never mind when they are not even married.

I would be extremely reluctant to complain about how my wife spends her money on her siblings,even more so,if its my girlfriend

COMMITTMENT IS COMITTMENT,ESP when U R TOWING THE LINE TOWARDS MARRIAGE.TINY PROBLEMS TEND TO GET BIGGER BY THE TIME U GET MARRIED.IF I WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE AND HIS WAY OF LIFE CONTINUES LIKE THIS IT WILL GO for the WORST because,KIDS R  INVOLVED,A FAMILY HAS STARTED AND THESE TICKS WONT STOP COMING.THEN when U OPEN UR MOUTH TO COMPLAIN PEOPLES REPLIES WOULD BE;DID U NOT SEE D SIGNS when U WERE DATING?,Y DIDNT U TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT THEN? SO HE WILL CONROL IT.BY THEN ITS TOO LATE!SO I don't UNDERSTAND UR POINT! THIS APPLIES TO EVERYTHING THAT LEADS TO BUILDING A HOME TOGETHER

WOMEN don't OPEN THEIR EYES AND GET INTO AN ABUSIVE MARRIAGE,THEY ALWAYS CONSOLE THEM SELVES WITH;HE WILL CHANGE FOR THE BETTER ITS ONLY A LITTLE TEMPER .AT THE END ,THE MAN TURNS INTO A TERRORIST IN THE HOME,AND A WIFE BATTERER.because SHE KEPT QUIET ABOUT IT AND DIDNT MAKE HIM SEE THE WRONG IN IT.

[size=8pt][i]no one is controlling anyones bank account

what if your hubby sends moni to his sisters and her kids to detriment of himself and family? can't pay your kids school fees, pay the rent,or put food on your table? of course you will be singing a different song??.and we r talking about gals that work!!!

lastly, your husbands brother- inlaws shuld be ashamed of themselves because they r men like u hubby,and can't  afford to take of their own family? unless something went wrong along the way.GOD FORBID MY BROTHER TO DEPEND ON ME AND MY HUSBAND TO SURVIVE!!!!!, SUCH A SHAME


Must you answer every replies to your post. To me nairaland is a very good place to look for advice, but for such advice, it might be good or bad and is left for you to pick from such advices. to me oooo" you are taking every issues too serious anf if you think you have answers to your problems them why are you here.

people have different love for people in there lives, but is left for you as am individual to diferentiat that love and draw line when it matters. You have not told us how your boyfriend grew up with his siblings the maybe very close before or maybe they have an impact is his life which he feels he is indebted to them. but i don't think he is a fool, because if you said he is a caring person i don't see him failing his resposiblity as a husband when the time comes. and if such sisters are good people and the want the good of there brother they will not push him to do what he cannot afford. or maybe are you sure he is not the one giving them the impression that he has?

You sounded like a diffcult person who will not want her husband to have anything to do with his families, remeber all fingers are not equall and be happy that your boyfriend or your husband to be will have to give people, but not as a fool because i believe is blessed to give than to recieve. Relax your mind and be friendly with his sisters thank God you have not made any complain about the mum, as for the sisters just relax and live the 4 time been because i believe they are women and whats goes around comes around.and my last word for you is be nice and relax your mind and have a good hearth, and stop making the issue a tribal issue is everywhere. Iam niether Ibo or Edo just want to say my own


 
 
 
 

Lol. Very true. But you should know by now that Nigerians contradict themselves 24/7.