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BISHOB (m)
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this is a serious matter. It seems the cousin's smile causes wahala. Tell him to stop smiling at least for now. shikena.
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ifeke (m)
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Please be very careful with this matter, am happy with your level of maturity. You did say who is older here, you, your cooool because or your sister. Does your because know??? It might help if he know; that way he could help your sister. Am sure he will know what to do if he is also as matured as you are. However, this could backfire if he is not that matured to handle such information. The guy fit begin die for your sister too, especially if he is like you sister that has not really mixed with the opposite sex. In all I believe that with you around the situation will not get out of hands. Goodluck!!
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ndumart (m)
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She will definitely get over it soon, it happens every now and then but still try talk to her.Am sure she will realize its bad.Its pure infatuation.
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bennnie (m)
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abeg make una go sew iron pant with padlock 4 that your sister before she commit wetin i no wan mention
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ogrebuga (m)
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If she is a muslim, no probs. At least they can get married and it is not incest
True enough this is a candid advice. i think this happens to alot of gals, even on thread, howver they are busy casting stones.
anyways, most of us girls, our first crush more often than not happens to be our cousin, close family friend. i have a ben a victim of it.was during my puberty days, but ofcourse i was too naive, scared to even pursue such lucid aspirations.somehow i got over it. i went a mixed sch, met finer boys had more silent crushes, infact i was obsesed with a dude at some point. and after 9 months, the fela asked me out, gues what i did i totally refuesd, because i tot it fly to say no, to any form of toasting even if your were dying quietly on the inside.
there is no need for prayers, your sister needs to experience some more boys/men. not by sleeping around ofcourse.and your cousin ned sto be aware of how he makes her feel, hopefully he would be weary of the intended incest and put a end to the crush or obsession.
hows that for advice.
don't listen anyone of these people quik to insult, they are just hypocrites, aint we all?(at some point in our lives)
God bless you, you seem to be the only sensible person here, everyone else is too busy condemning and casting out demons, kpshew!!! As if that will solve the matter.  |
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Ajikawo (m)
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make your cousin stop to dey use close up, e be like sey hin teeth too white,  |
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adusol (m)
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she'll get over him with time and space
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~Lady~ (f)
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What's with all this condemnation?
@Poster.
Your sister just needs to get out. When men chase her around trust me he will get out of her head.
It's the same thing when a guy and a girl break up and they're still in each other's hearts until they meet other people.
She should meet more men and I mean classy men, not some low life dirty dog.
It would pass soon.
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babadee (m)
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she needs to get shagged(not by her cuz0), just might end the crush thing!
had a crush like that and solved it by shagging other chics, lol
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eezzy (f)
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she needs to get shagged(not by her cuz0), just might end the crush thing!
had a crush like that and solved it by shagging other chics, lol Are You together!! This problem is a result of the strict upbringing that most parents take to, thinking it will help their girls when all it does in enstrange them from a normal life and its ups and downs that they should experience as they grow up. Your sister will certainly outgrow this attraction as soon as she starts meeting and interracting with other men apart from family members. |
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Guchis (f)
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It's a crush, so i'm sure it'll eventually go away.
She only needs to socialise to get her mind off him.
It's well.
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choco4life (m)
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@poster,
Hook me up with this sister of yours and your cousin would be history.
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onyeka_ng (f)
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all those people talking deliverance and prayers should plz give me a break.am sure most of u are victims of this type of situation and you are here putting up a saintly attitude.
@ poster
talk more to your sister make sure they hardly see each other, let her join social groups and go out often.all the best.
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marlet01 (m)
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@ Poster
Maybe you should talk more to your folks, they should make sure she and your cousin would be kept apart for a long time so the fear of the unknown won't happen.
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nwando
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Quote from: bionic on Yesterday at 03:25:09 PM this is a candid advice. i think this happens to alot of gals, even on thread, howver they are busy casting stones.
anyways, most of us girls, our first crush more often than not happens to be our cousin, close family friend. i have a ben a victim of it.was during my puberty days, but ofcourse i was too naive, scared to even pursue such lucid aspirations.somehow i got over it. i went a mixed sch, met finer boys had more silent crushes, infact i was obsesed with a dude at some point. and after 9 months, the fela asked me out, gues what i did i totally refuesd, because i tot it fly to say no, to any form of toasting even if your were dying quietly on the inside.
there is no need for prayers, your sister needs to experience some more boys/men. not by sleeping around ofcourse.and your cousin ned sto be aware of how he makes her feel, hopefully he would be weary of the intended incest and put a end to the crush or obsession.
hows that for advice.
don't listen anyone of these people quik to insult, they are just hypocrites, aint we all?(at some point in our lives) This is a great contribution and so true. But those crushes were mere little girl fantasies that led nowhere and were never acted on. Moreover it happened in puberty This girl in question is 24. In some Islamic countries,where 9 year olds are considered ripe for marriage a 24 year old could be a grandmother. So we are not talking of a spring chicken. She ought to grow up. Are there no smiling men in her neighbourhood? she ought to move before she comes on to the cousin in the dead of the night.
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chrisoml (m)
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@ Poster
R You sure you're not d person in question here.
I quite agree wit what 'nwando' said.
Besides at age 24 common this is no longer a baby and am sure we r not talking of a 15yrs old
This person is of age and ought to know whats right and wrong and what is God's law on family relationships
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Zahymaka (m)
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I think many of the posters on this thread haven't taken several things into consideration:
1. Her feelings could be genuine. Crushes tend to be rather quick to wear off, although some may last this long. Is it because of some strange taboo that prevents mentioning love between cousins that practically everyone has dodged around that word?
2. It is very, very natural for such feelings to arise so all the talk about deliverance and prayers is, I'd say, uncalled for. In our society such associations carry the forbidden label, and I'm sure both sides know it. Whatever they decide to do after that depends on them, and condemning someone for having such feelings doesn't help in any way.
3. There is no telling whether the people in question are Christians, so all the talk about incest as an interpretation of God's will is moot. The Bible did prohibit sex between most relatives except cousins. Cain and Seth must have married their sisters, and Leah and Rachel were both cousins of Jacob. If an argument were to be made using African culture, it'd make a lot more sense.
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mojoy (m)
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That does it!! I,m making sure my little girls make contacts with non-familials. Hey, wait a minute, what of other "hazards" out there. Damned if you do, Damned if you don,t story of life.
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Riff-Raff
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This kind of things happen. i happen to fall in love (infatuation/crush/whatever) with my cousin when i was a kid but i got over it. i think she should talk to a phycologist. watch them well before they start eating the forbidden fruit ohhh! |
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phanty (f)
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OK I THINK ITS ACTUALLY NATURAL since that is d only (mature) male she came in contact wit first.
but at her age i tot she should be doin beta now,but since what she feels is actually hindering her acquaintances u should try nd help her get out of it so she doesnt turn to antonniete in catalin nd sebastian
on serious note u should try nd get her associative else ,
to b candid m highly suprised
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Emperoh (m)
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« #31 on: December 10, 2007, 05:26 PM »
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sraight talk: she`s not in love, she is stupid (@ 24!), her very own cousin! she should grow up, find a man, her emotions are misdirected, ?
and hope ure right?
are u sure of your interpretations?
she is not stupid.if u ve been very close 2 a male cousin u 'll understand. it takes only the grace of the almighty for you not go byd cousins
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igocheroll
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IF YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT LOVE STAND FOR, I THINK THIS MAY OCCURE, THE ONLY WAY OUT IS TO PREVENT WHAT IS BAD FROM EXSISTMENT
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bluehorizo (m)
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@Poster
TELL YOUR SISTER TO CONTACT ME FOR DELIVERANCE AND COUNSELING.I AM SURE SHE WILL GET OVER IT ONCE I COUNSEL HER.
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yinchar (m)
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na waa ooooooooooo she needs conselling
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Sisi Eko (f)
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Na double wahala for deadi body and the owner of deadi body.
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joshjosh (m)
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for goodness sake it is not a crime to love your cousin. they are not having sex and they will both be responsible to respect their family. it is a phase she will will grow out of
my cousin is my best freind. we grew up together and have never been seperated for almost 30yrs. we went to primary school together and boarding house together. when i left nigeria we kept in touch. i helped her out of nigeria before i remembered my own direct brother and sisters. today she is a happily married wife and mother. it is good to have a family member you love and respect. and o we still talk daily and of course i still love her before she is a fabulous freind and a great lady and that doesnt stop her being my cousin.
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kennie89
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d best thing is 2 let your cousin no wot is going on in d house o. if he talks 2 your sister maybe she will be ok. good luck.
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playmate (f)
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for goodness sake it is not a crime to love your cousin. they are not having sex and they will both be responsible to respect their family. it is a phase she will will grow out of
my cousin is my best freind. we grew up together and have never been seperated for almost 30yrs. we went to primary school together and boarding house together. when i left nigeria we kept in touch. i helped her out of nigeria before i remembered my own direct brother and sisters. today she is a happily married wife and mother. it is good to have a family member you love and respect. and o we still talk daily and of course i still love her before she is a fabulous freind and a great lady and that doesnt stop her being my cousin.
*clears throat*luvly story bt obviously your case is different frm hers. weneva her because smiles her heart melts that is nt d usual platonic love i know of nd its been 4 a long time now she's 24 she still hasn't gotten ova him.that is more dan a crush,i 1st believed she was infatuated but at 24 am sure she has met a lot of people but hasn't been able 2 get ova him.d best tin is 2 distance demselves completely der shuld b no reminder of him at all if possible,that is a beginning. |
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skipo87 (m)
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let the poor girl explore her sexuality
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gorociano (m)
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in jewish custom you can marry your cousin and since we are now a global village, your sis should propose to the guy, make the good traits of the family more evident in their children,
seriously, from childhood to 24 years, that aint no crush, its LOVE
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