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AZINO (m)
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i understand hw u feel because i ave being in that situation before.my cousin girl this time was in love with me and wanted to marry me,she approached me,told me if i has was afraid of we getting along she would tell my mom.she was older.anyway though i was young then i had to find a solution.what did i do?i did what was best for us.u know what,i believe in u that u can solve your sister's problem.so get on to it u know the situation better,trust in u self and the solution will pop out.wish u the best.GOD HIS WITH You.AMEN
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metro (m)
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you sister should understand that the earlier she start to get your cousin off her head the better because it can lead to her doing real terrible things. maybe you shlould keep her away from that your cousin and let her join any socal group and
or youth group or if she in school she should mix up with guys more often and more importantly it may be hard but if she can stop anyform visible contact with your cousin that would be very much better so she would stop thinkin about him,
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eddyafterm (m)
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well thats a good think if they can only play it good, how i wish i was that your cousin, i would have capitalized on the situation since superman draws,
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iseyi (m)
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Y'all should stop acting holier than thou, the problem is quite glaring, he was the first male figure she came into contact with outside the nuclear family and such a transference is only natural, i believe it's taking her this long to dissociate because she hasn't come into contact with more responsible and matured men, she needs to change her circle of friends!!! someone somewhere on this thread said that she needs to join clubs------nah, i don't believe that, she just needs mix more with the opposite sex, that is when she can stop unconsciously comparing your cousin with other males that come accross her way, also, i feel you should let byour cousin be aware that you know of the situation so that he is not tempted to take advantage of girl, even though he might be a responsible guy,!!!
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Damoche10
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Don't send negative signals because that is what u feel which might not be true. This has happened to me too. We were very close and everybody felt we were dating/sleeping with each other while we were just fond of each other.
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coolisaac (m)
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MY GUY, AS You DEY PRAY TRY TO TALK TO UR SISTER AND ALSO FIND OUT IF UR COUSIN TOO IS IN LOVE WITH HER. ASK THEM. You ARE GUY RIGHT?
SO TRY DOING THAT STUFF.
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Warfy Boy (m)
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your mom/dad must kno about this before it gets out of hand
thats nt love but lust
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olrotimi (m)
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arrh, error!  |
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Eddygreat (m)
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Na wa, , well am not supprice, because worst than that happens.
My advice is that, you find out, if your cousin do not hv that mind. And if he does not you and your sister should meet him, tell him every thing using someelse as an example and ask him to tell u wht will be his advice to such person. I think his answer will help to solve problem.
Dont also forget to pray over this issue. |
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Babahimsef (m)
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Watin de do all una? i don't see anything bad for a cousin to love another. afterall,i onces had crush on my cousin too and every thing was all right.
we still feel somthing for each other.please don't blame me. water don pass brigde before i know watin de happen.
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waxyweller
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make una no complain at all, cus i kissed my niece and we almost had sex, just that i was in a rush and the comdom torned, so she rejected the koko, I don't think there is something bad in it oooo,
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cecegorz (m)
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I suggest that three of you should have a serious round table discussion and quench this flicker before it becomes an inferno.
I have this primary school mate who 'did' her younger sister then. you know what? as at 2day, the guy has married three wives, divorced two, and his life is completely upside down. meanwhile his age mates are yet to marry their first.
Truth is your sister needs help, be it psychological or spiritual, forget about people who are discountenancing that, they're just ignorant. The fact that she is 24! and still cannot get rid of it herself speaks volume.
Don't let them destroy their future now that u're aware.
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waxyweller
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I suggest that three of you should have a serious round table discussion and quench this flicker before it becomes an inferno.
I have this primary school mate who 'did' her younger sister then. you know what? as at 2day, the guy has married three wives, divorced two, and his life is completely upside down. meanwhile his age mates are yet to marry their first.
Truth is your sister needs help, be it psychological or spiritual, forget about people who are discountenancing that. They're just ignorant The fact that she is 24! and still cannot get rid of it herself speaks volume.
Don't let them destroy their future now that u're aware.
That one is younger sister, its a different case, Ok? read the topic very well |
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cecegorz (m)
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@Waxy weller
There's not much difference between you and your cousin, the same first blood lineage runs through.
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okooyinbo (m)
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@ the Poster!
Please don't mind these Christian people o jare. I am not saying your sister should allowed herself be shagged by your cousin. Nevertheless, these Woli ekes of latter days should stop their irrsome reference to the bible. If the bible is true and righteous and indeed forbids such relationship, how the hell did humans according to the bible (opinion that i strictly do not share) come into existence? We know very well that Cain killed Abel, fled with one of his Sister to a distant land, We also know from the bible that Adam and Eve begeth a son Seth after Abel and the bible made us believe he too married one of his sister. If you are doubting, go read genesis. Forget what the bible say: You can't be more christians than Europeans and Americans who in the first place made you "Slave" of the bible. There, marriage between Cousins has legally been practised throught the centuries (and beautiful omo oyinbos abound from these connections)!
In Nigeria however, and indeed most part of Afrika: this practice is not permissible due to cultural constraint. Thus what do I intend to say? I'd tell you to forget wasting your time praying to Allah or Jesus. Get to talk with your sister about the societal constraint. Thats the only problem if she happens to get into any liassion with her cousin. Genetically, there is nothing to fear. Its not going to be any incest because they are not from the same father and mother. As a matter of fact, some very intelligent minds have already stated what to do: Get your sister to experience the world and not wait for any heavenly abode where virgins get 7 handsome men each;-)! Eyi torokobo ti mo ni lati fun o. Iba eyin bami agba ati eyin iya mi arugbo ojo o.
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holythug (m)
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kasala go bust o
u better d sometin before they ruin d family 
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gud9ija (m)
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That one na fatal crush o! I suggest u bring her to me for deliverance before it gets out of hand. Then i would still be willing to help! She'll forget this HANDSOME cousin of yours! , But then warn that COUSIN of yours SERIOUSLY!  |
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ajadrage
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Are you guy's aware of the meaning of the word 'incest?'  |
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