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rotciv (m)
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Help me out here, i used to be a playboy and in that period i met a girl who surprisingly to me i did want it to be a one night stand. We ended up getting so close we hang around together, parties, beaches u know the whole stuff. We share everything that happen to us together. Sometimes she sleeps at my place and nothing will happen. During this period she had guys asking her out while i was still being myself. The feeling i had for her was so strong i can't actually refuse her anything and it was the same for her. I wanted to ask her out but i was scared that her feelings for me might not be that strong and i can't afford to loose her as a friend. I kept this to myself for 4yrs. She later got to have a boyfriend and i, a girlfriend but still we still enjoy spending time together. The latest development is that we even most time disappoint our partners just to hang around together. The only thing we have ever done is peck ourselves. Tell me is this real love? Help MMMEEEEE U can reply if u want
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Seun (m)
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It's just friendship, but friendship is the foundation for a lasting relationship.
You need reorientation, otherwise you will mess up this relationship once it starts.
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jkpretty (f)
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Hey Guy be careful here, because ur friend might not have the same feelings like u claim to have. Maybe she did before but for her to have a boyfriend & let u know, then i think she knows what she is doing. Long term friendships like this often results into destruction when talks of relationship comes up. u should never have waited that long before letting ur feelings known. If u tell her, & she does not feel the same way, she might not know how she would handle further conversations with u, which leads to breaking her trust & ending ur friendship.
Be sure of what u want, u should never have waited that long.
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Iyanlax
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I say, honour your feelings for her and tell her you like her and want more than just a frendship with her. BUT, you must get your feelings straight within yourself first. AND you aso have to really consider the relationship you have with your current girlfriend and the one she has with her boyfriend! Are you both living in denial and messing about with your partners? Think my friend think befor you act. Sounds like you may have outgrown your want to b player ways, or is it a case of wanting what's not yours?
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Nautillus (m)
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Dude, don't try to eat your cake and have it again ok, believe me She know that you like her as much as she likes you, but since you've been such a chicken for four years, she's moved on even if she loves you So get a grip and keep you present galfriend before you riun everything by revealing your belated feeling, gbam  |
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babycool (f)
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Yes, you have to be very careful, she may no feel the same way as you do, she may just be viewing you as just a friend, if her feeling towards you changes, either she will want to talk about it or she will not hestitate to make a further move.  |
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tobigirl (f)
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There is no way your friendship can last with that tension in you. get a grip of yourself and tell her how you fee. 'are you not tensed'
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rotciv (m)
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Thanks for all ur input well later i evetually told her how i felt and she claimed to be shocked and. Any i didnt tell har for us to start anything just wanted to get the weight off. felt good. Now i have decided to keep it at friends. the issue is that she plays her 'chykas' pass me to analyze for her. When she meets a new guy or gets asked out by any, she gets across to me to analyze the guy. If his good enough and stuff. The surprising thing is she spends her airtime to call and give me the whole story and ask for my own opinion of the guy. In all these cases she wants me to tell her what to do pertaining to the guys more like make a decision for her. there was one incident that she had to come all the way from the island to c me on the main land to analyze the new guy. She even came with the pix they took and all, the day the went out. what do i do? what do u think all these 'choke ups' are? Its beginning to annoy me because she will only visit to 'play by another new guy' but will never visit ordinarilly. Please i need y'all opinions.
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rosquare (m)
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@ poster,
if you really want to know if she feels something
for you,then show off with a new catch.
the problem is that she is getting all the attention she
needs from you.
give her a taste of her pill and she'll be game.
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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i think she sees you as a good friend, who is concerned about her welfare and she holds you in high esteem, thats why she seeks your advice, nothing more.
taking things further might spoil everything and you end up loosing a wonderful friendship, so its best you keep things the way they are.
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rotciv (m)
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what do u think about the second msg. I sent about her 'playing her chykas' pass me to analyze for her
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