Should I Tell My Ex-Boyfriend That I Want Him Back?

Honey, I have been in that position before I want to ask you

Firstly, your boyfriend said you should break up (to me if a guy says that, I feel he had nothing for me) I am saying this because if your man noticed that you had drifted apart then he should have tried to work things out with you not to tell you to go your way.

I also read your plan I tell you guys are DOGS, if you do that to him even if he didn’t want you , he will pretend he still wants you just because they are selfish…they want to eat their cake and have it …, he will only play along with your plan and once he is done you are out again……
What I think

I think for him to be the one that broke up the relationship, he should be the one to call you and say he wants you back . you are only wasting your time by thinking about him    (except if he is also thinking about you). I am sorry to say thses but he may have moved on with his life and you are still here dying over him ….


No matter what I say (do what you feel is best for you). I am not a relationship breaker, the truth is bitter and iam just giving you advise on a past experience


1, Who broke up the relationship…if it was you then I think to cool down your mind it is worth tellingthe boy how you still feel about him

i think you should go and tell him what you think even if he is not interested anymore you'll go back home safe @ least. the point is give it a try.
going to his town and telling him how you feel will mean a lot to him and the next thing you know he start remembering the good times you use to have together and how nice you were to him (if you are). good luck. (dress to impress thin dress)

i thk your plan is perfect n might really work,Go girl

bt da question is, ds he feel da same way bout You too?

well what can i say ill advice you to chill out for some weeks because i know his missing you the way
you are missin him <you never know what you have until you loose it >your plan is nice but wait so he could be the one to call the relationship back because he might not value you as much as he used to if you are the one to call it back just  tell him how you feel and don't care what people will think because he must have really been nice to you for you to want him back so go girl
                          drezzle 4 reazzle

DONT DO IT GIRL!!!!!!
let your EX remain Ex!
if he wants u, he would look for u.

your seeing him may only rekindle what he loves about u and after a while, he gets to dump u again wt the same excuse or worse.
just give it time and make sure you close his door permanently shut, 'because thats when u can meet  someone that TRUELY WANTS You FOR WHO You ARE.

i know it hurts thinking about him all the time, but i suggest you go out more often and mix with other people, and let time heal the wound.
have been there and i know how you may feel, but i promise you with time you will come to thank God.

Take this lyrics from Light house family--Ocean drive


He left you Black and blue, without a word of explanation
And he took your love for granted and he left you high and dry
But you know someday, when you'll wonder what you see in him anyway
WHEN that day arrive we'll live on, 

Ocean Drive
Don't know why you're so blue
Sun's going to shine on everything you do
and the sky is so blue
Sun's going to shine on everything you do

once again.
DONT DO IT !!!

@takethat

What I meant to say was you are one straight shooter, nothing wrong with that.

I can understand that you're really hurting, but your plan may put you in deeper misery. I don't support getting back to him, since he suggested the break-up. 99% of the time, that is a sign of desperation and men will eat you up and discard you if they smell desperation. But if you must establish contact, try calling him over the phone, if possible, and tell him you called to find out how he is doing. Please don't pour out your emotions when you talk to him. Make him want you. If he does he'll come looking for you. If not, just count your loses and move on with your life. Remember what you're missing is not really him, but the way he makes you feel. You can discover that feeling in another guy if you give yourself a chance.

Don't let pride stop you from getting back the one you love.  You love him dearly, giving it a try won't hurt you. Just go back n tell him how you feel. Infact, even if he doesnt' feel the same way right away, he'll prolly start developing new love and be interested in giving your relationship another try n he'll want to make it work this time just because you have genuine feelings for him.

Most people on here would tell  you not to do it (i would tell u that too, if i didn't know what it really means to be hurting inside about loving someone who has no idea that you do), Anyways,  they'll all tell u not to do it, because well guys are stereotyped to make yanga of girls that want them desperately. it's like if you tell him u want him, he'll prolly keep u to the curb n make u hurt more, or he'll accept u n treat you like trash just for telling him u want him back.

the truth of the matter is, Go back tell him u still love him, go through with your plan,  Youu'll be able to tell if he wants you back. if after telling he still doesn't want you, you have nothing to lose, rather he has lost a girl who truely loves him. Infact you haven't lost your pride, because love made you do what you did. ,  not what people would say.

This topic can go on for 13 to 16 pages,  you'll hear different opinions, but the best thing i'd say you should do is go with what your heart tells you. your heart would continue to ache if you don't do what it tells u. Right now, u can't think straight except you tell that dude how u really feel, and tell him u want him back. if you don't do that, you'll continue to blame yourself for not trying. trust me hun, it's not an easy thing to do, but you should do it.

My two cents.

well, i'd say you start by calling him rather than going all the way to see him.
that way you're able to test the waters that is able to guage his feelings by his response to you on the phone.
give it time, see if he gets to call you back and show concern about your wellbeing and stuff.
then you take it up from there.
if you think he wants you and misses you then give your plan a shot but if not then to hell with him and move on.
goodluck girl!

Don't ever go back to your vomit!!! Show him you can do better!

Hey dear,i think i've got d perfect reply to this.
Why did he call off d relationship?
If he did it because he thought u wer not showing him enough love as he shows u,or may be he taught u don't sincerly love him from your heart,
then u can carry out your plan.
Like me,sometimes i just sit down and wonder if my girl really loves me as much as i love her.I feel like calling it off.In such case,if i call it off,then she comes begin,since i "loved" her so much,den Y not?
But hope say e never too tey sha? 

Thanks to all of you that have posted messages.
@hotangel, i think i need to do it just to satisfy myself. Knowing that at least i tried. Still thinking about it though.
@kave, its as if u know, i think that was one of the main reasons why he said he called it off- cause i did not show enough love.

Having read all the replies, am not quite sure i want to carry out my plan because i don't want rejection oh. But please keep the suggestions coming. Its not yet time to carry out my plan. Thanks again to all of u, u guys are real nice.

Hey girl, i'll advice to wait for sometime before u make any move since u just broke up.
since u truly love him itz nice to let him know your true feelings for him, let him know that u still want him. But i won't advice you to go to his town, itz better you call him ^{as your boyfriend you're supposed to have his number} so call him on the phone and explain your feelings not just your feelings this time but your true feelings for him.
Let him know that you still love him as he once loved you, make him see and believe in the power of love.
u know somtimes u can move mountains just by the words you say
try to speak in a low, weak, helpless yet romantic tone
and if after all this he doens't want you back then u live your life, he's not yours because what is yours will always be there for you

Something also makes me suspect that before he asked you to break up, he had another bus waiting. So he is riding that new "bus" now.

Thagodfada, what town are you in?