Should I Tell My Ex-Boyfriend That I Want Him Back?

Your  man said you are not giving him enough love( is that the reason he gave you )

Firstly how do you give enough love? because for some men no matter what you do ,you don’t love them enough let me coach you on something , you see this men that we girls are dying for and they don’t do the same in return they don’t know what they have until they loose it COMPLETELY. When a man makes that type of statement in their own terms it means I want to leave you alone but I don’t have any excuse to do that so I will use the fact that you are not giving me enough love.

I had the same issue with an ex- boyfriend, one time he said I wasn’t showing him I loved him enough. There’s nothing I didn’t do for this guy. I did everything any normal guy would love. I treated him the way any normal guy would love to be treated but he still sat on the fact that the love was not enough . For God sake this guy( I said to myself)  you are just a boyfriend not yet my husband you should be the one to worship me and want me and do everything for me, it shouldn’t be the other way round .Unknown to me he was already seeing someone and no matter what I did he did not see it . Fine it was hard and I let go of him…he dated this other girl but they didn’t last a month. He wanted me back so bad he did everything he could and he got me back. Like 4 months after like they say , a tiger never changes its stripes the whole,,,,,,,, I don’t think you love me enough started again ….but this time around I just left him , till today he still wants me back but I know that I can never go back …, trust me I still love him but I had to let go because if I didn’t I will be the one that would hurt at last and the same thing will keep happening over and over again ,

Margarita,  No matter what anyone says here, you will still do what you want to do. Experience is the best teacher, if you don’t learn you wont have experience so if you wan to go ahead go, but I tell you if another girl were to go through what I have been through I am sure they would have committed suicide. I am a strong black intelligent and hardworking woman ………, heartbreak can't break me again , instead I will break heartbreak, its not me that is this way but it is what men have made me become.

I wish you all the best but be strong and leave your heart open for anything

hey margarita, just read your thread: 4 real i ain't a heart breaker but just tryin to say what i think is ryte.
Firstly: The guy seems like if he doesn't/didn't love u 4 real. (it seems u love him more than he does over u.):because  He's the one who started the break-up thing, and as u've u said, it's been few months since that happened, and he's never called or contact u since.
Which shows that he doesn't care, love nor need u anymore, and it seems like u've been hurtin your head so much because of that guy,
but it shows that he doesn't even remember if u exist.

For this ocassion: u're supposed to take the words "BEING STRONG."
We all know that it's a hard thing forgettin bout a person u truly love, but what if u exist for him and he doesn't exist for you? just be a strong girl and 4 sure there's a day he'll call u or try to get u back, then he'll realise how u felt, but won't be able to compare with his feelins too, i think he'll feel worse.

I'm sorry if all this made u feel bad, but u can also do what u think is best, .
GOOD LUCK.

Takethat, that story must have taught you a lot of lessons! Wow, a lot happened in there. Kudos for surviving all that.

@ eslynera
If the guy does NOT want to see her then why would it be better if she goes to see him??? I'm missing your logic here. Seeing him won't change that he does not want her.

^^^ So if you think being hang up on when she calls is bad, what about when she spends her money to fly/ drive to see him and he takes one look at her and leaves her standing there like a fool?

Or another worse case scenario: The guy takes advantage of the situation by being nice to her just to mess around/sleep with her and then reject her anyway after she leaves town? You don't think that's worse? If he doesn't want her, he doesn't want her. Showing up won't change that. It will just take away any human dignity and respect she has left.

There are many ways to read when a person is telling you NO, they don't want you. You don't need to spend money and go see their face to tell.

If anything, I say she should call him once and once only to test the waters. If it still doesn't sound hopeful, let it go. Why force yourself on someone who doesn't want to be with you? i.e. If this is the case. Margarita, it's hard to believe that at this point, but someone else will come along. Decent men are like buses. One takes off, another one will show up that' s going where you are going and you can hop on. It's stupid to run after the one that already took off. You'll almost never catch it.

do it. u'll be sorry if u don't. maybe he's the one for u and u'r letting him go because u're too proud

No way! Don't go to him. He will pretend and take advantage of you. If you were the one that broke up the relationship, i would have encouraged you to go and see him. If you go back now and he accepts and later throw you out you'll end up in deeper misery.

Thats it, wiseguy

yeah, i think she should just try by goin, u never know, maybe the guy is missin her now so badly, but he just keep lookin for ways to start it up, thinkin the girl will tell him "HELL NO!!! FOR HELL AND HEAVEN, I CAN'T COME BACK!!!"
so the guy just probably feels so down.
by tryin, she can prove if the guy still loves her.

 

tell him

you don't have to beg me. u just gott@ say the world and imm@ take you round the world.

@topic
i believe that if a guy knows your worth, he will come runnng back and if u know your worth, i don't think u did beg a dude to take u, nahhhh, that is degrading cuzz he will see it like he is doing u a favor. sit back and relax let it do what it do.

Na wa  every day people write here help me ,help me.


But we never grt any feed back[b][/b].


Did she go or not did her take her back or not.

girl i think u heard it all? don't just try it all

i knw its not easy but be yourself.

gudluck

  make up your mind ,follow your heart n u'll have peace of mind even if u guys don't get back together he'll respect u 4 that.trust me!

There is evidence that when we practice bringing attention to what we appreciate in our lives, more positive emotions emerge, leading to beneficial alterations in heart rate variability. This may not only relieve hypertension but reduce the risk of sudden death from coronary artery disease.  The above is for your own good.   I am a guy, I believe it's proper to tell him how u feel, especially going to his home town will really make him have a serious thought about you.  Even if he does not like you, he will be seriously moved to the extent of knowing how much you care and love him.  He must surly come to respect and love you.  Go ahead with your plan.  It will work.