I Am Tired Of My Girl: I Need Advise

I started a relationship about 2yrs ago with this lady who resides the same street with me. Infact we have being friends before the intimacy. I really love her but i doubt her love for me. The reason is because she is one that cannot sit down for 5mins. she is always here or there. She likes social gathering and like partying. She is also my first love in my entire life. i am 28yrs of age and she is 24yrs of age and never being in a relationship until april last year.i am in my final yr and infact only 1 semester remaining for me to leave the university. She is just a secondary dropout but i kept encouraging her that she could go to school and i have told her that i would get a G.C.E for her next yr and even pay for her lessons. I do give her weekly allowances close to 3,000 naira buy her clothes and do alot for her. Honestly speaking she is the only one that has seen me naked and no one else but still she flirt.I have caught her close to 4 times with a guy in his car and she knows it. Everytime she apologises and say sorry.she says she love me but i think she is just after my little money. i really want to marry her but i am in a dilemma. i am not used to girls and i am the shy type and she knows it. she knows i cannot talk 2 a girl because i am shy. I am tired and fed up. I told her that i am pissed off. Just this Friday i was with her eating and drinking in a public pub and she received a call from her numerous boyfriend and immediately she said she was leaving to see someone. i confronted her and she said its just a friend. I later found out that it is one of her boyfriend who comes with a car. I was mad and could not sleep that night. I was infact weeping and said i would never see her again. Even as i send this poser i am still in tears and cannot continue anymore. We still saw this morning and there was no greetings because i was off to somewhere.I am fed up with life. ITs like women are the same. I really need a constructive advise from this house.I would love that because its a critical issue on ground.

 Do not go on with her, she is not for you.
You will outgrow shyness. If you must have a girlfriend, talk to your  sisters or cousins and they will help you.

@poster,
face your studies and get a life. perhaps this is the devil that has been sent to  ensure you don't graduate by toying with your emotions. she sure doesnt deserve  you and no matter what she says, she is not satisfied with you and forget the money you give her. it is alot though, but might be peanuts compared to what she receives from outside. so, take hold of your heart  and use  your head. focus on what is before u and  achieve something. @24 she doesnt have her GCE. do you think she will have it at 30? move on with life my guy.

Secondary school dropout
A flirty personality
Disrespectful

If these are the qualities you want in a wife go for her.

 She doesn't love you, period!!!!!

And your statement-ITs like women are the same- please do not use your only experience to judge us, please.

Oyinbo MAGA dey, Naija MAGA dey sef.
@poster
if u no wise up men ur on ur own. Haba! Guys don soji pass that level u'd b a graduate soon and ur stil this dumb. Well u said it she's d only one u've eva slept wit and i guess she's good that na y u don kolo finish. Omo abeg wise up, bone d bit%*h and move on she aint 4u u deserve a beta lady.

Is that the best advice you could give?! If you've none to offer, then don't contribute!!! 

@ muuyiwaa: It would appear that you're a very generous, giving young man, if not a little naive. This girls knows you too well, and she's using that knowledge to her advantage. Which is NOT to your advantage. I know it hurts, but there'll be other girls, and happily, they're not all like your current lady, there are girls with kindness and integrity out there.

First love can be hard, and it's easy to imagine that if you let go, you'll never find another, but not true! I'd advice you to let this lady go, and crack on with your studies. You're almost done anyway, and distractions like this, you don't need. It would be a shame to ruin your future over someone so worthless and shallow.

And life is definitely worth living! I also feel you need to talk to someone else, share your feelings and thoughts with someone who hasn't got an emotional attachment to you. Make more friends with both male and female. Shyness is not limited to you alone, you'd be surprised how many people that brag about their "conquest's" have actually done anything! You'll gain confidence with experience, and the first step to this is to get rid of your lady, she'll only drag you down, and fuel your insecurities.

Best of luck.

@siena

thats how you feel? ok just one question dude and i'll shut up: if you were in his shoes, would you wait till things got this bad before you took a step, or you would continue to mugu for her in the name of love?_{if no be say ur posts dey make sense and u na my guy i for yap ur ass off}

Maybe she is just a sociable person, she doesnt sound like a flirt to me or a wakaabout.

Its just that she could like going out - i am like that but i have to cut it down once i am in a relatioship with the view of settling down.

She is still kind of young and if u like her, u don't have to dupm her now.

One word bro. BAIL 

Lol, yours sounded harsh bro, but not to worry. Maybe I was harsh the way I responded to you. Truce? 

No worries, brother. As you guys say, "no shaking", "nothing dey happen"! 

HE  HE HE _{bro wake the f**k up and smell the coffee}

sIENA BABY THANKS FOR THAT

form your story one ought to be tired because she doesn't deserved to be your girl.

the greatest reward of runing out from trouble is more trouble, so bro take your time and put yourself together. i think this is the time you have to work hard and face your life to the brim. although we are humanbeings, the feelings is inevitable. so just got to forget everything. may be she is not the girl for you. you been  shy is not a criteria that you can't get another babe.

just work hard and see if she will not be jealous of you . may be when you don hammer. she will be the one begging to come into your life.

some times it does happen. 

take heart eh

hmm! na wa o!
so maga still full this country boys dey waste time dey look for oyinbo wey go pay.
ol'boy u better wake up.the small money you should be using to enjoy yourself as a student,u dey go put am for bear bear bank.
u better face ur studies

hahahahha , that one small thing now haba,  that one na small thing wey that gurl do,  see let me tell you a gurl can i like you if she really likes and not love,  you go buy house for her and she go still dey flirt believe me,  all na game