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zheroes (m)
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what do you do or how do you cope when you really love your husband but the sex is bad
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yimiton (f)
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That simply means TIME TO TALK.
It could be a little embarrassing or awkward at the beginning but that is the best bet.
Both of you should study the topic together too and the wify shouldn't be shy to tell her husband precisely what she wants and the other way round.
If this doesn't work, they may want to see a therapist or something like that. There should be people that specialize in that field.
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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look for ways to spice it up, geeez would you leave your husband just because of that.
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jkpretty (f)
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That's why old fashion, which is best fashion says "No sex before marriage"
If not u wouldn't be able to tell which is "bitter" or "sweet". What ever u get would have been the best.
If your hubby is bad in sex, darm! but well, u have to live wit it or find ways to solve it.
However, For u to spot the difference, u have to do the job of "teaching him".
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lukmond
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but how u take marry husband wey no sabi "DO".abi una no do before una marry?
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onyeka_ng (f)
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but how u take marry husband wey no sabi "DO".abi una no do before una marry?
its not compulsory to 'DO' before marriage. @ poster TALKING, COMMUNICATION is the answer.both parties should be able to talk things over. |
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Omo Mummy
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That's why old fashion, which is best fashion says "No sex before marriage"
If not u wouldn't be able to tell which is "bitter" or "sweet". What ever u get would have been the best.
If your hubby is bad in sex, darm! but well, u have to live wit it or find ways to solve it.
However, For u to spot the difference, u have to do the job of "teaching him''
JKPRETTY,YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT
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adeboo (f)
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I think its been said that they need to communicate alot.
You need to sit down and talk seriously and if not, there will be alot of stress and temptation may creep in.
So talk about it and see what can be done about it.
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Seun (m)
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Sex is an acquired skill like playing football. You've got to practice to become a pro.
As a married couple, you have a lot of time to practice. You may need books, counseling, etc.
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D-reloaded (f)
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That's why old fashion, which is best fashion says "No sex before marriage"
If not u wouldn't be able to tell which is "bitter" or "sweet". What ever u get would have been the best. I assume that would be your answer if you wait 30 years and on night of said marriage, you end up with a premature ejaculator. Rofl. Dont know why people automatically try to label virgins as naive. Why WOULDNT she know what is good or not? If a guy is done within less than 5 mins, you expect her not to know that something isnt right? What kind of morons do you take them for? |
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almondjoy (f)
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@Topic That would really be a welcomed relief! I will cherish him. For he has tried!  I am really tired of getting my butt kicked in bed. I rarely win these days especially after all them kids! Please let the sex suck for once!  I DON TIRE! OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH!!!!! Some of us are just plain sick of it--we have started stayin' away from home--just to avoid the "battle" ahead. All I can dream about these days is to hold hands for a change!!!!!!!  HABA!  |
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D-reloaded (f)
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Lol  |
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funmeme (f)
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practice makes perfection! u have to call im, teach im and u know, tell im how u want it when he starts, if u want it hard tell im 2 be hard u know communicate it while practicing it. that will make im improve and understand the kind of posture or style u will prefer. but come! una no try am before u una marry? abi na person bin dey help am wey u no know??  the lord is your strenght girl. keep on keeping on |
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SwtNsoFLyy (f)
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@almondjoy, you better consider yourself lucky girl, and not stay away from your man at home, plenty women have their men trying to get out there and willing to give it all up to other women, but u don't know what u got till its gone, so maybe he should take up your offer. LOL, (just kidding mamma, because u REALLY don't want that)
@ poster, is he not good in bed because your not satisfied with his SIZE? OR is it because hes not rocking your boat nicely with your waves? Should never be shame between a husband and wife, for u to talk to him about what plases u, but thats easily fixed if its the 2nd part. (not size part) I can not blame you, with a husband who just doesnt know what to do in bed, that is such a turn off, so u must take the matters into your hands since u are married. If u know what u like, them please teach him because he may just not know or be as good as u are. but most importantly, if u love this man, the last thing u want to do is hurt his feelngs,
try not to be discouraged at him, because if he aint all that good in bed, all u have to do is be patient and as your doing it, help him adjust his position, body or his manhood to suit you and him also, u know what im talking about here lady, show him how to caress your body, by caressing him the same way,
as far as size is concerned if this is the problem, maybe some of the guys can tell u a bout, that enlargement thing, i don't know , but , yea, i totally understand this, thats pretty heartbreaking. , and sme people lie when they say size don't matter, because it does for some people, but not all,
love & light,
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ifyalways (f)
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hmmmmn  |
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Attention (f)
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@ poster,
If i understand you "the sex is bad" then find another name for sex and maybe in the day when you are apart send him a reminder that there is action tonight.
But meanwhile, you are lucky as some women even want to run out of their homes for reasons of too much demand. They hardly even have time to rest and the worst is even when you have not yet had a child, the man would feel that its by having it every minute that the woman would conceive not minding if there's anything like timing.
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rilwan01 (m)
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i like your coments,baybe we can be friends.any way my mail is jalbeloved@yahoo.com.am jibril from fct.wish to hear from you.thanks |
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efuah (f)
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ding-----dung!  |
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uspry1 (f)
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What is wife for? She is husband's helpmate, best friend, teacher, soulmate, chef, housemaid, and many more positions she have around her husband.
Sitting down communicating and educating him in the quality of sexuality if she has urge heavily! Marriage suppose to be all fun, committed, release from stress, starting to have family, etc.!
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rati ken (m)
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Dan Asabe aka rilwan01
Could u remove that pic now orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr?
@ Topic
Why u dey ask us?, teach am or leave am. There are little or no options to that
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squirrel20 (f)
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YOU HAVE TO TALK TO HIM OR MAYBE IF THERE IS SOMETHING IN PARTICULAR THAT YOU WOULD WANT HIM TO DO, YOU NEED TO TELL HIM TOO THAT WAY THINGS WOULD IMPROVE.
ALL YOU NEED IS COMMUNICATION
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odiaseo (m)
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I have been asked similar question about a wonderful couple who had a horrible sex life. It can be a very disheartening situation because the man does get a sense of masculinity from his ability to perform sexually. He feels less that a man when he cannot get it right in bed. It can also be devastating for the woman especially is she rightly upheld the abstinence before marriage virtue. Her world can fall apart and seeking sexual satisfaction outside marriage most often results. All is not lost, the situation can be turned around and remedied if both couples are heady to work at it. I'm sure you would find my views worth reading. Wonderful Couple Horrible Sex Life |
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lamidebaby (f)
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I believe there're professional sex therapists (someone correct me if i'm wrong) u can consult. don't know about in naija though. most importantly, like some've said earlier, both of u need't communicate.
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uchetobi (f)
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sex is over rated
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