Why Are There So Many Divorce Cases In Yorubaland?

Yoruba married couples tend to divorce for even very flimsy reasons, especially by the wives. This is not exactly the case in the North, and also in the south east and south south. It is almost unheard of for an Igbo or calabar woman to start a divorce proceeding against her husband. In contrast, it is commonplace in Yorubaland to see women divorcing their husbands. It is always funny watching these proceedings in the customary courts. The question therefore is, why are there so many divorce cases in Yorubaland?

30-Year Old Marriage Crashes 
 

By Bola Odutayo

An Agege Grade A' Customary Court has dissolved a 30-year old marriage between Mrs. Bosede Oladokun, 60 and her husband, Mr. Joseph Oyediran, due to irrecociliable differences.

Mrs. Oladokun,, who filed the divorce petition, P.M.News gathered, has been married to Mr. Joseph Oyediran for over 30 years and bore him three children; Maria, 30, John, 20 and Oluwaseyi, 18. She accused her husband of being fetish and that she could no longer live with the respondent.

She disclosed that her ordeal started when she had sex with her husband on a particular night and her husband cleaned her private parts with leaves.

According to her, she fell ill and after talking to some neighbours about the issue, she took a leave from her office to go to her village for treatment.

She narrated that she came back to find her landlord’s sister in her matrimonial home, with her husband. She also claimed that most of her belongings had disappeared, to her surprise.

The court, after several adjournments to make her husband respond to the allegations levelled against him, dissolved the marriage and directed the petitioner to maintain the peace and that her children should see her anytime because they are grown ups.

http://www.thenewsng.com/modules/zmagazine/article.php?articleid=21042

All those Yoruba Lagos socialite babes are divorcees. The news is rife with their exploits. So you really do not need any scientific survey for this known trend. Eg, Kuforiji Olubi, etc etc

@ Poster

This is your first post and you started with posting Rubbish.So because you read about this case you assumed there are so many divorce cases in Yorubaland.
I personally believe you're one of those tribalistic idiots and my only advise to you is to change the way you think.

Obviously. He just joined and that is all he's been talking about. As you can see he's a bitter imbecile.

haba!

A guy spoke his mind and people are screaming, crucify him! crucify him!!

Hmmmn. . . . . .here we go again. People using stereotype and petty propaganda to throw pot shots at an entire ethnic group. I guess the first poster Olydim went through the entire South-Western part of Nigeria from Lagos, to Ilishan, Ife, Igbara-oke, Ilesa, Ijebu, Akure, Gbogan, Ife, Okitipupa, Efon-Alaye, Owo, Ikire, Ekiti etc.  and discovered that most of the couples in all those areas were divorced. He did not see any couples that were still married or had tied the knot for many years and were still enjoying conjugal bliss.

I guess they were all in outer space.

Erm. . . .can we have a round of applause for this pseudo-scientific researcher named Olydim who ought to win an award for this piece of profound inanity??

I am divorced and happy - Stephanie Okereke


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I guess Stephanie converted to Yoruba last week.


laudate, hey 

And in your job as the Honorable Assistant Registrar , pray thee, let us have the statistics, figures i mean e.g Yoruba women initiating divorce  -- 1,000,000,000,000  Ibo women---- Isoko women ----Hausa women -----  etc. Then only, would this thread be worth continuing. Anyone seconding? Anyone responding?

You had better be out, bloody liar.

Word

Finally someone is making sense. It is a fact that Yoruba women are more independent-minded than most of their compatriots. They seem to be able to survive without a husband than Igbo women, for example. This trend can contribute to explain my question.

You might have come to a slightly different opinion if you were attached to the supreme court
or if
The customary court was not in a Yorubaland.

There is no need in crucifying the poster,what he said is true but he did not give the right reasons.

I need to say it like it is. and I don't care who agrees or disagrees.
It is true from my own observations that Yorubas divorce more frequently than the other 2 major tribes in Nigeria but that's not because Yoruba women are  less of wife material.
It only shows they have guts more than their other compatriots.

In Igboland for instance,divorce is viewed as a big taboo word.
An abused woman suffers years of abuse and sometimes is maimed for life by the abuser.
The church will tell her to pray,the neighbours and her parents will tell her to stay and endure so that she can answer the name MRS.

A divorced woman in Igboland is not too welcome in Church,town meetings,she is a subject of ridicule,people will regard as "The woman who left her matrimonial home", a cancer, men would warn their wives to keep away from her lest she leads them astray.
She's practically banished to life as a single mother,no man would marry a "used good".
For these reasons many women in the East remain with their men no matter what.
A trend that is slowly changing due to education.

Yoruba women have been ahead of the game in terms of literacy compared to other women in Nigeria,that taboo was lifted ages ago.
They are not as likely as women from the East to resolve to life as a punching bag so they would promptly leave an abusive man and could remarry easily.

Cases of divorce in Igboland for instance are very few,women who even eventually leave hardly ever get a legal divorce,they just walk away with nothing.

We live in a world sadly where many women are abused and used as mere property  by  men who were supposed to love them.
Physical abuse is not even punishable by law,it is regarded as a family matter.
I commend any woman who would have the nerve to seek to be disentagled from a man whose aim is to humiliate,control,dehumanize,belittle,punch and kick his wife and even subject her to sexual battery just because he can.
Its time women stood up for themselves and sometimes divorce is the answer!


I heard a real life story where a man punched and kicked his wife endlessly in a fit of rage and when he was done,he urinated on her.
This happened at Aba.
The poster may regard this as a successful marriage but that is a woman that has no business staying with such a man.
She is more worthless than a public latrine in his eyes.
Someone should have showed her the way to the customary courts.

I'm not saying abuse is more common amongst the Igbos because I don't believe it is,I'm sure the scenes are common everywhere,
I'm only saying that perhaps the average Yoruba woman knows it is unacceptable and is willing to do something about it.

well said.

very sad story 

after all the heinous things he did to the woman, he beat up her mother and they still said stay and pray?? That he would kill her someday?

I'm not in support of divorce, but there is no excuse to remain in such a union, unless you have a death wish. 

@ topic

I don't know if there are any statistics to back up this claim of divorce in Yorubaland, but if it does occur more often than other regions, It will be due to the higher urbanization/westernization that prevents people from staying in a relationship that is potentially life threatening or hopeless in the name of 'keeping face' or bearing 'Mrs'.

So the behaviour of two Yoruba girls, now represents the behaviour of ALL Yoruba women? Or because your friends cannot act as real men in their own homes, therefore, you think that all Yoruba women lord it over their husbands? It is like saying all Nigerians are 419 people, simply because of the activities of a nefarious few.  

Abeg, free your mind o jare. More than 4 of my male cousins are married to Yoruba women and they are quite respectful to their husbands. One of them till today, kneels down for me whenever I visit their home despite the fact that she is about 8 years older than I am! Yes. . . . .

As for Yoruba women, let me remind you that there are many Edo men & women who bear Yoruba names and have intermarried with Yoruba people. Even the princes of the Oba's court bear yoruba names. Prince Ademola Iyi Eweka is a good example. So what unecessary generalisation of Yoruba women are you propagating here? Are you saying there are no women from other ethnic groups, who are not aggressive? Na wa o!