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amsky (f)
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My Husband Won't Listen
how can i get my husband to listen to me?
as the days go by,i see that my darling hubby is more into his work than anything else.h plays with the kids,love them with all his heart, but hardly ever has time for me.we used to have saturday mornings to ourselves, but lately, that has been taken away from me too. He always says he needs time to himself. I'm going to threaten to go on a long break with the kids. That will probably awaken him.
He is a good dad and a good hubby too. He is alive to all his duties, but i really feel left out.
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toksdam (m)
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don't be selfish,leave the kids out of it,find your way out of he web,get romantic,trick him to a hotel room,do anything but don't leave him for a minute,you may not be able to finish what you start,try to also find someone he will listen to,please do take it easy,remember your children need both of you.ok,i wish you luck.if its real serious we can talk give me a call
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kerzakov (m)
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sorry dear, i understand
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Seun (m)
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Hello amsky, You took a bold step by coming out with your story. 1) I think you need to analyze your feelings more deeply. Why do you feel left out? What specific things do you wish you could do with your husband? Your husband can't understand you if you don't really understand yourself. 2) You cannot guilt people into spending more time with you. You can't make people pay attention to you by telling them to. You have to make them want to spend more time with you by basically bribing them. By giving them something they want in exchange for what you want. Generally, a husband wants great sex. And good food. And to get his fragile ego stroked regularly. You simply need to make sure that he gets these things in abundance whenever he spends time with you. You cannot make him spend time with you, but you can motivate him to do so by giving him more of what he wants. Can you do that? Remember, He is a good dad and a good hubby too. He is alive to all his duties, but i really feel left out. So he just needs a little positive modification. (The dramatic gesture you're currently planning may be harmful.) Good luck with that. |
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amsky (f)
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toks dam thanks a lot my dear, that set me thinking. if you are married,i wish you all the best,and if you are not----may the best man come your way.i'll try out all your tips too.it's not easy for me anyway,seeing him playing with the kids and all,but when i come along he's tired just how does that make a woman feel??? and to know that this guy was all over me bfore the kids came.-don't get me wrong,i love my kids alot.but some time should be spared for me too.he used to admire me alot-i'm quite pretty  but that does not happen anymore,he stares in to his children's eyes,and all that.that should be for me.my 7mth old daughter,almost leaps out of my arms when she sees her daddy.he's a good man-honestly-he take's good care of the family and is alive to all his responsibilities, but i need more tlc than i'm getting.the looks into the children's eye's should be mine  toksdam you are my friend.thank you so much. |
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amsky (f)
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seun,thank you soooooooooooooo much.okay,as for food and all that,it's good-at least to the best of my knowledge.he does not complain. as for the other one well,twas good till i had my baby.the birth was traumatic,and i had a little problem with my hip after that,so that has affected our'plays' a bit.the acrobatic has kind of reduced sha.but is that why?  thank you soooo much.i stroke his ego to the extent that he does not even listen anymore.na wa sha,but i thank you so much.the drama will be put on hold-or even cancelled.we'll talk tonight-when we can hear just ourselves,the babies are asleep,and it's just us. be blessed |
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ndubest (m)
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, check whether he has a favotrite sports hobbies
, like football or stuffs like that and watch that with him or discuss the latest developments on it
if he like board games, challenge him to one of them, that way u may get his attention
Goodluck my dear
quit the idea of "running" away with the kids
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Osibisa (m)
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@ amsky
u should really check very well may be u've offended him that he is folding his arms to see if u cud come up with something.d idea of leaving when u know he is angry @ u isn't d best if 4 me i will say go ahead to whereever and let someone else help him out.what do u think? do some rethink n come out with a constructive ideas to wininng him again.u know him better than we do.
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snappy (f)
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Seun that was great its now i know that u hav great potentials on d inside of you. didnt know that u had such an advice stored up in your memory box. plz keep it up i know with this when u eventually get married your wife would enjoy you
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BISHOB (m)
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Sincerely I feel for you. But lets look at it this way, your husband getting this busy might be sincere. Nothing fishy. Or he is just bored.
Try and change your approach to him. Change your style of relating to him. Woo him all over. You know what I mean. Try more sexy touches and appeals to him. He has vein and brains, I believe he'll pay more attention to you.
Above all on a very romantic setting, discuss the issue with him and see wonders. You'll get your man or your woman do things for you better when you ask for it in a romantic mood. You know what I mean,
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Bblak (f)
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Examine yourself to know if you are lacking in your matrimonial duties.Gdluck  |
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eezzy (f)
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@ poster
A lot of what Seun said is sound advice. But the age of your husband matters
also since at a certain age men seem to go off certain things - its called mid-life
crisis which they suffer more than us women. Its a time of reflection and self-assessment
and confusion. Just affirm him and let him know you love him no matter what - if this
is the case.
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tonib (f)
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hmmmmmmmm though am not yet married, but i think you shld just examine yourself, try and check if you re still doing those things you were doing before u got married that got his attention, if not then begin to do them, you can also draw his attention by talking to him about the whole thing and also pray about it.
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Soundmind (m)
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@poster,
Sorry for what u are going through. It actually hurts, take it easy and simple, you will win.
A man is very easy and cheap to get if you know the trick. As your husband, i do not know if you have tried some of these.
- Feed him yourself as a mother feed a child when you are eating (once a while)
- Bath together with him, bath him yourself and persuade him to bath u aswell. Once a while, while u are bathing, suck his privates. If he desire give him sex in the bathroom if it is condusive.
- Butting him up as he is dressing up
- Ask him which shoe/sandal he will wear and polish it without request.
-Sleep together with him in the same bed and ask him to cover you (hold you closely) to enable you sleep well. Always hold him as well as you are sleeping.
-Get his food ready as early as possible.
- Buy him gifts especially inner wears
- Once a while, while you are in the bed, stay on top of him. And kiss him steadily. Not to motivate him sexually, it to show him u care.
- Once a while suck his privates, and breast feed him as you do to your child.
- Stroke him regulaly
- While in bed, allow him feel and enjoy your breast and other hot zone as much as he want.
- Try and make him suck your pussy as well.
- Always look attractive and clean.
- While making your head, ask him which style he want and even persuade him to accompany you there. Not to stay till u finish, just take you there and go his way.
- Naturally women alway wash their husband, cloth, go extra by ironing the cloth and admire him much whenever he dress to your taste.
In short, the list is endless. Try some of these and you will see, the love and care will gradually come back.
Best of luck.
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rockiedink (m)
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@soundmind wow!!!  these are surefire to work anytime!!! married men in da house, any comments? |
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biolabee (m)
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@oga soundmind
I bow oh
Let anybody who is having marital issues file your way
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Jonnyville (m)
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@poster,
Sorry for what u are going through. It actually hurts, take it easy and simple, you will win.
A man is very easy and cheap to get if you know the trick. As your husband, i do not know if you have tried some of these.
- Feed him yourself as a mother feed a child when you are eating (once a while)
- Bath together with him, bath him yourself and persuade him to bath u aswell. Once a while, while u are bathing, suck his privates. If he desire give him sex in the bathroom if it is condusive.
- Butting him up as he is dressing up
- Ask him which shoe/sandal he will wear and polish it without request.
-Sleep together with him in the same bed and ask him to cover you (hold you closely) to enable you sleep well. Always hold him as well as you are sleeping.
-Get his food ready as early as possible.
- Buy him gifts especially inner wears
- Once a while, while you are in the bed, stay on top of him. And kiss him steadily. Not to motivate him sexually, it to show him u care.
- Once a while suck his privates, and breast feed him as you do to your child.
- Stroke him regulaly
- While in bed, allow him feel and enjoy your breast and other hot zone as much as he want.
- Try and make him suck your pussy as well.
- Always look attractive and clean.
- While making your head, ask him which style he want and even persuade him to accompany you there. Not to stay till u finish, just take you there and go his way.
- Naturally women alway wash their husband, cloth, go extra by ironing the cloth and admire him much whenever he dress to your taste.
In short, the list is endless. Try some of these and you will see, the love and care will gradually come back.
Best of luck.
Soundmind, you be Guru 2 da core see how u take list dose na wa o
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Lola4eva (f)
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@poster-he's your husband, that means he comes home to you everynite, if ure as smart as i think u are, im pretty sure ull work something out soon |
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3d (m)
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@poster
maybe he is bored ,invent a new routine more fun and intimate,
the ball is in your court serve in whatever direction you please,
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banadogs (f)
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take your time in making d decision because ds is a really crucial issue. u can pick up ds bk-FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES. it will help u a great deal. please pray and take decisions carefully when it comes to your husband and your family.
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mystikalb2 (m)
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@amsky
well, u know your husband more them any body else, u must know how to make him happly in all round, just try your best, wish u good luck.
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julieto
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is anybody in the house that knows about the progress reports on the recently heard interview in swiftnetwork.i will be glad to know also about their salary package and other benefits.i have so far taken their test and attended two successive interview.i was told they will still call for another round of interview.
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rockiedink (m)
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is anybody in the house that knows about the progress reports on the recently heard interview in swiftnetwork.i will be glad to know also about their salary package and other benefits.i have so far taken their test and attended two successive interview.i was told they will still call for another round of interview.
wetin be this sef?  |
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weebee (f)
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I can feel jealousy in the air you and your children are not rivals so don't worry since you are not competing with another woman. You should thank God for the kind of husband he gave you. Dats a loving husband you have got there so don't blow things up by being unnecessarily demanding. I understand the fact that you need your husband all over you but you should still be thankful because some men don't have time for their children let alone their wives. They would rather go out and stay with girl friends even married women with their own children rather than stay with their wives and kids but your case is not like that because your hubby is only busy working and playing with his kids you still see him around. Probaby you offended him and that is why he is trying to avoid you to some extent. Why don't you just sit him down and have a talk just you 2 without the children and let him know how you feel. I feel that should do. |
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amsky (f)
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oh my goodness am so happy and shocked at the same time.i joined this forum just on sunday and i'm getting all this support??? thank you everyone.these are really great things you have suggested,and i promise to try them all out starting from tonight. soundmind,thanks a bunch.i'll do all these and more.i know things will get better with all the advice i've received. i have alot of friends in you guys :)am so so so happy. thank you all. |
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olunifemi (f)
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my husband hardly have time 4 me, not has
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kola oloye (m)
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why don't you start your quest by pretending that you are not feeling too well?
stay at home for a day or two. make sure that you have him close to you but don't
allow the hospital issue.please be careful about it.
As in appreciation for his care, you can now come out with some of those tricks that
you have been taught.It will work. GOOD LUCK.
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emma@emma
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Thank God for the kind of hubby you have. check yourself out and look at the things you do before marriage that intrest him most and give that a shot.
all the best.
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