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CHocolaTE,"Why on earth do you people think Nigerian women are desperate to get married to you?
See eh, the reason why majority of women seek marriage is because of societal pressure from people that cannot mind their business and because they want to have kids that will not be called bastards so you better understand that fact."

This line appear to be written by an embittered and misguided female. Your reasons adduced for marriage is in the first place very disheartening. The real question you should be asking yourself is "why on earth must I be married?"
The last I remember, no one has been charge for refusing to get married nor has has anyone been compelled to produce a husband before been delivered of her baby.
You want to eat your cake and have it back. Girl, that is almost impossible.
Marriage is of mutual consent and functions best when there is mutual sacrifice.
When you critically look at marriage, you will see the many sacrifices everyone has to make. It is a risk taken in the belief of a better tomorrow. It is a leap into uncharted territory irrespective of how many times you've been married or how many relationships you've had or how much "experience" you may also have acquired.

My advice for you girl is to order your priorities, then go ahead and live your life. You one have one life. Please minimize the mistake you make in it. Time could be an enemy.
[quote author=Ovaiegbe]CHocolaTE,"Why on earth do you people think Nigerian women are desperate to get married to you?
See eh, the reason why majority of women seek marriage is because of societal pressure from people that cannot mind their business and because they want to have kids that will not be called bastards so you better understand that fact."

This line appear to be written by an embittered and misguided female. Your reasons adduced for marriage is in the first place very disheartening. The real question you should be asking yourself is "why on earth must I be married?"
The last I remember, no one has been charge for refusing to get married nor has has anyone been compelled to produce a husband before been delivered of her baby.
You want to eat your cake and have it back. Girl, that is almost impossible.
Marriage is of mutual consent and functions best when there is mutual sacrifice.
When you critically look at marriage, you will see the many sacrifices everyone has to make. It is a risk taken in the belief of a better tomorrow. It is a leap into uncharted territory irrespective of how many times you've been married or how many relationships you've had or how much "experience" you may also have acquired.

My advice for you girl is to order your priorities, then go ahead and live your life. You one have one life. Please minimize the mistake you make in it. Time could be an

killuminati: 1 like

Whoever you are, I beg you by/in your mother's name to be quiet if you can not be reasonable.
The recent blast in a bus station is targeted at no tribe in particular? That is the most insincere thing I've heard in recent times. Even the Emir of Kano commented that the blast may be designed to incite a civil war, thus alluding to its sectional nature.
I am not an Igbo man but greatly sympathize with them for the slow, careful but certain ethnic cleansing taking place in this nation. This is no time to blame GEJ for anything. We have a well orchestrated gorilla warfare taking place amongst us. the sooner you realize this, the safer you will be.

I wonder what the point of argument and cursing is on the above subject. The questions we should be asking are,
1. Does Maiduguri deserve a presidential visit?
My answer: YES
2. Is it late for the president?
Answer: Better late than never
3. Is it right for the President to visit Maiduguri?
Answer: YES
4. Since APC has preempted the President, Should he refuse to go to Maiduguri?
Answer: An absolute NO because of the first question above.

So guys, get yourselves a better vocation and stop ranting here.

Elebiju: I can see u are suffering from dyslexia,am I d one living I̶̲̥̅̊n d past or d poster I quoted?idiota! Rabid benin dog

I can see you are in the mood to abuse. I was only agreeing with you that, to always leave a subject matter and digress to another issue as I see is the case with the continuous reference to the civil war, only amounts to living in the past.
I'm sorry if my English was too hard for you to understand.
In any case the abuses are needless.

Elebiju: no!no!no! He killed 3million souls that ojukwu offered to Ogun for sacrifice,pathetic tribe always derailing at d slightest opportunity with 15likes from fools

Fools live in the past while the future beacons.

OYINBOGOJU: How do I categorize those thieves?

@Poster I'm Speechless.

Very interesting. I think everyone in this forum who has ever given a bride or cheated in an exam or twist the law in his favour is as corrupt as any president that has ever been.
My point is, we can not seat in our comfort zones and label people corrupt when we do everything to encourage their acts.
[b]BE THE CHANGE!![/b]

Firstly, cohabiting couples without the formalities of marriage are commonplace in our society today and because this is so, it is imperative upon us to see this discuss as an important one.
Marriage in Nigeria has laws governing it (be it, Religious - Christian or Muslim, or customary). These law are designed for the good of the individuals involved and also for the society.Operating a relationship (cohabitation)outside these laws will therefore be to the detriment of the individuals involved.
Despite the reality of our situations ( be it economic, social or emotional) it is my candid advice that no guy or particularly lady should allow themselves to be in this kind of an arrangement and if they already find themselves in it, should do everything possible to either regularize the relationship or quit it.

The truth of the matter is that in this country no one wants to play fair and since there is no law in place to checkmate these things, such people like Glo can get away with these crimes , But on the flip side people should stop spending money in trying to win one lottery or the other because these lotteries are one of the tricks of the super rich to milk the poor. If you dont believe me, do the maths!

try69: MARRY A FRIEND IS THE SIMPLE ANSWER TO ALL THE MANY TALK..Same reason I encourage dating over a period{maybe a long period}.

You could marry a friend and still have a clumsy marriage. There is a clear difference b/w dating and marriage. One has a responsibility level varying from zero to 80% while marriage on the other hand has a 100% responsibility level. If you are getting less in marriage then you can not be happy and smiling.

It is interesting to see a thread which started six years ago still fanning such interest. This goes to show the importance of the issue in question to everyone.
Alluding that dating couples are most times happier than married once is not completely true to me. After all as the saying goes,"as you make your bed so you will lie on it." You will all agree with me that there are clumsy dates as there are clumsy marriages.
I'm a guy so I speak as a guy. You can only be happy in your marriage if you can gain the respect of your spouse. Love is good but as the marriage progresses, it is mutual respect that sustain it. So these tips for the guys, (1) Never allow yourself to be seen as an idler or lazy person and (2) Show respect to your spouse - stop flirting, looking at or complementing other ladies in the presence of your wives or even dates. Remember respect is reciprocal.

Mine is Psalms 1
Psalm 1
1 Happy are those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or take the path that sinners tread, or sit in the seat of scoffers;

2 but their delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law they meditate day and night.

3 They are like trees planted by streams of water, which yield their fruit in its season, and their leaves do not wither. In all that they do, they prosper.

4 The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away.

5 Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous;

6 for the LORD watches over the way of the righteous, but the way of the wicked will perish.

A reliable source in Aso Rock told us that the decision to take the First Lady to Germany for better treatment was borne out of the fact that her medical aides in Nigeria complained that they could not get accurate diagnosis as a result of insufficient medical facilities in the country.[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]

Her medical team is simply incompetent. I had a similar incident when I was 12. I had collapsed and was taken to Air force clinic in Kaduna. The doctor there diagnosed Appendix and referred my case to Armed forces reference hospital, Kaduna where I was admitted and pumped with antibiotic for no explicable reason.
It took a visiting foreign military doctor to inform them that my case was critical and that they may loose if an urgent surgery was not done before they made bold to refer my case to ABU teaching hospital where the surgery was finally carried out.
Doctors kill several patients out of shear incompetence.

WOULD YOU LIKE TO HAVE STATE POLICE?
http://www.vanguardngr.com/2012/08/why-northern-govs-oppose-state-police/

In my area in Calabar, I can attest to a great improvement in ppower supply with an average of 20-24 hours of supply each day. this is steady improvement. However, I think distribution staff of PHCN need a lot of training as their conducts will be highly detrimental to any change in generation and transmission.

This lawyer guy should wake up from his slumber.How can he talk about disintegration simply because a flag is introduced in Bayelsa state. Cross River, my own state had its own flag and anthem as far back as 2002 and several other have since introduced theirs also. We all are Nigerians no doubt but, our right to associate is enshrined in the constitution let alone associating as state citizens created by the same constitution.

I have read most of the comments here and disappointingly many of us have remained the unconcerned people we've always been, watching while bad history is made repeated right before us. Let me share a poem by By Pastor Niemoller.

First they came for the Jews and I did not speak out because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for the Communists and I did not speak out because I was not a Communist.

Then they came for the trade unionists and I did not speak out because I was not a trade unionist.

Then they came for me and there was no one left to speak out for me.

This isn't Nollywood. You may never have a chance for a Part2

Let them tell us their real agenda

onila:

this thread is meant for parents or Nigerians who think all girls schools are the best
parents shld also pay attention 2 their daughters who go 2 all girls schools and not ignore them thinking they are in a good environment
because when they leave they end up becoming ashawo aashawo

What you become in school or after school is a result of consistent choices one makes and this in turn is a function of ones set of principles and believes. All girls school or co-ed school alike, children should be thought principles that can guide them through life.
Lest I forget, children learn more from the actions or inactions of the adults around them.

Funny, really really funny.

Jakumo: The battle-ready troops currently guarding nationwide premises of the defunct Nigerian power company, PCHN, should also be tasked with arresting as many former employees of that dead agency, which never provided ANY electrical power to Nigeria for at least the past quarter century, and making those captives perform vigorous parade-ground physical exercises in exchange for freedom and a state pardon.

The usual fifteen minutes of squatting frog-jumps while grasping one's ears should be augmented with dozens of push-ups, sit-ups, leg-raises and 50-yard wind-sprints, all as the warm-up sequence, after which all of the less determined former PHCN saboteurs can be weeded out with one-arm pushups, floor-shaking bench presses and full-contact karate bouts with military special forces operatives drafted over specially for the disciplinary measures.

It is imperative that all employees known to be guilty of serving the perennially non-functional state electrical power corporation of Nigeria should face some form of justice, to penalize them for the regressive effect they and their employer have had on Nigerian industry, health-care, commerce, education and communication, effectively trapping an entire nation in a developmentally stagnant dark age for close to three decades. If a mass-cull of the erring saboteurs is selected as the most expedient response to their lives of sin, the West African sub-region will be the better for it.
Funny. Really funny. You made my day.

Jakumo: The battle-ready troops currently guarding nationwide premises of the defunct Nigerian power company, PCHN, should also be tasked with arresting as many former employees of that dead agency, which never provided ANY electrical power to Nigeria for at least the past quarter century, and making those captives perform vigorous parade-ground physical exercises in exchange for freedom and a state pardon.

The usual fifteen minutes of squatting frog-jumps while grasping one's ears should be augmented with dozens of push-ups, sit-ups, leg-raises and 50-yard wind-sprints, all as the warm-up sequence, after which all of the less determined former PHCN saboteurs can be weeded out with one-arm pushups, floor-shaking bench presses and full-contact karate bouts with military special forces operatives drafted over specially for the disciplinary measures.

It is imperative that all employees known to be guilty of serving the perennially non-functional state electrical power corporation of Nigeria should face some form of justice, to penalize them for the regressive effect they and their employer have had on Nigerian industry, health-care, commerce, education and communication, effectively trapping an entire nation in a developmentally stagnant dark age for close to three decades. If a mass-cull of the erring saboteurs is selected as the most expedient response to their lives of sin, the West African sub-region will be the better for it.
Funny. Really funny. You made my day.

Why is this forum always full of haters. Nigeria/Ghana conflict will be resolved soon and sorry for you all, you cant eat your sorry-words back. No, I guess abusing people is fun to you all. People move around as they please, to find a living for themselves, they simply follow opportunities.
Asking people to pay $300,000 to establish a business is simply a devious means of destabilising an industrous neighbour. The Ghanian authorities should have a rethink of this policy.

I believe the STF must have reviewed intelligence information the had collated over time and decided that the most tactical action to take is to create a position from which to they can actually assume control of the crisis. Probably, insurgents have often diappeared when pursued into these areas suggesting that they may have a cover around the area.
These soldiers are human beigns too and therefore will die if shot at. No information is ever often given of dead soldier in this crisis areas yet they suffer loses too. If in their best judgement these communities need to move then so be it. Let us not forget that moving in a hurry under the watchful eyes of the soldiers will mean arms and ammunitions will be difficult to carry.
Let the soldiers be supported to do their job.

Adams Oshiomhole must apologise to Jega. From all observations, Jega and his team have done a marvelous Job.
Oshomhole do the honourable thing. When you misfire, you apologise. We are waiting.

Joel.:
This was planned killing... Benin go scater if them bring fake result.

Joel.:
This was planned killing... Benin go scater if them bring fake result.

Make Benin no scatter o. If Benin scatter, no be Adams or General pikin go die for street o. My brothers wise up. Make person no instigate una go die for nothing o.

ayobase:

Stop displaying ur foolishness on NL.
Dont think u were ever a xtain cos a 10yrs old boy will explain this perfectly!

You guys should stop antagonising Logicboy01. he may be ignorant, misguided, or outrightly whatever but he still has a right to an opinion and the right to express it. There are a thousand and one schools of thought in the world and we can not be fighting or cursing simple because the other man thinks differently. Do not forget it is God's prerogative to save.

When you want to look at any subject within a text it is best to start from the very begining. In Genesis 1 the Bible records the story of creation and states,"..... and God made man in his own image; male and female created he them". At that point he did not make any distinction between the mal and the female. Neither did he even assign to them reponsibilities. It was Adam who discovered Eve and said, "this is now the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh". This statement clearly sets forth the principle of equality of all men - male or female, for you can not be greater than your own bone or your own flesh. In essence Adam was saying, this is a form of myself.
When we go to school we compete with each other on the basis of intellectual content and not gender, when we go to work we compete on the basis of our output and not gender but when it come to religion, we want to lord it over the female simple on the basis of gender. Guys, this just can not sell. Where a more worthy female exist, you just must settle for second best or else there will be no reason for exellence.

Meanwhile, General Azazi has refuted media reports circulating, especially on the social media, which claimed that his media aide quoted him to have described President Jonathan as weakling who refused his desire to call in General Muhammadu Buhari for questioning.

The social media, especially Twitter, were awash with the report on Saturday.

But sources close to General Azazi described the reports as totally untrue.

Also Mr Mike Awe who was quoted by a section of the social media to have spoken on behalf of Azazi denied making any such statement.

Awe, who is not a spokesman of the former NSA, said “the story cannot be true and it is not true.”
http://tribune.com.ng/sun/sports/7691-real-reasons-azazi-was-sacked-new-nsa-to-probe-sponsors-of-violence-horsefall-ogomudia-nearly-replaced-azazi

carlos86: Unity is not a must.Divide this God forsaken country

Guy, speak for yourself. If you feel God has forsaken you, do not put it on the rest of us.
Me and mine are neither forgotten nor forsaken.

Long One: My view; love is meant for courtship, and when marriage enters, reality sets in. Therefore, it is important to find something greater than love to hold a marriage together.

I've gone through most of the post here and feel compeled to contribute. First love that leads to marriage is not a feeling. I here people define love as a feeling you feel when you feel for someone the way you never felt before. That is infactuation or better put the kind of love you have for a car or a shirt, shoe, food etc. Love can not be defined by mere words, it is best described because where it exist certain attributes must be found. So If I find a girl I like and go on to date her, i make a choice whether I want to love her I can live with her exhibiting those attributes daily. What are the attributes by the way, the are kindness, gentleness, temperance, faithfulness, peace, self-control, joy ........ All these attributes have no basis with feeling. You do not feel kindness for someone or feel faithfulness or self-control. You make a choice to be faithful, kind, peaceful and self-controlled. Once our perspective of what we are going into is right, then I believe it can then be a pleasure ride.
I'm dreaming of the lady I shower with all these attribute and still be me.

nakedall: power is not banking that one can lie, the fact is still remain the fact - NO LIGHT. lets wait for the next 100 years if things will happen. 52 years we have only 4000MW, in 100 years lets hope to have 8000MW.

we phuck in darkness, born in darkness, grow in darkness and die in darkness - not new thing to us!

WHILE I HATE YOUR VULGARITY, I WILL STILL COMMENT ON YOUR POST. ELECTRICITY CAN BE LIKENED TO A DELAPIDATED HOUSE INHERITED FROM YOUR GRAND-FATHER bad roof, cracked walls and probably rising damp. YOU HAVE NEAGRE RESOURCES AND HAVE TO USE THE HOUSE THE WAY IT IS UNTIL YOU CAN FIX IT. yOU DO NOT BUILD A HOUSE IN DAY OR A WEEK.
THOSE WHO KNOW ARE TELLING YOU THAT THE REFORM IS ON COURSE BUT YOU WANT TO PREFER FIGHTING OVER LIGHT YOU DO NOT HAVE TODAY. THIS IS A COUNTRY WE ARE TALKING ABOUT AND NOT YOUR HOUSE WHERE YOU PROBABLY CAN USE AN "I PASS MY NEIGHBOUR", PROBLEM SOLVED. EVERY NATION HAS A POWER PLAN WHERE ANTICIPATED LOAD DEMAND IS PLANNED FOR BEFORE IT ARISES BUT YOU HAVE A NATION WHERE BEFORE 1999 NO SUCH PLAN EXISTED AND ELECTRICITY WAS SEEM A A PRIVILEDGE. SORRY TO SAY, YOU WOULDN'T SEE LIGHT BY MORNING TOMMOROW LIKE YOU EXPECT BUT YOU WILL HAVE IMPROVED POWER SUPPLY BY THE END OF THE YEAR AND ONWARDS. tHAT SHOULD SUFFICE.

PROUD-IGBO:


^^^Do you actually know the origin of that word in bold ? If you did, you wouldn't use it when quoting any of my posts.

Thankyou.

don't get yourself worked up. The word was probably coined from nyem mniri - which means give me water. The people who use it do not even know what they are saying.