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|Religion / Re: What Did God Do For You In 2009? Share Your Testimonies by PHBABE(f): 2:58pm On Dec 25, 2009|
so much. protected me from harm all year long!!!!! Thank you Jesus Christ for everything.
|Family / Re: Which Could Be A Better Choice For Dating And Marriage? by PHBABE(f): 5:14am On Apr 19, 2009|
older guy( 10-18 yrs gap), ambitious, no love for now, stable MD VS younger guy (2-4 yr gap) , less ambitious, love and frienship, just starting his career?
|Family / Re: Which Could Be A Better Choice For Dating And Marriage? by PHBABE(f): 5:12am On Apr 19, 2009|
what about guy with same age gap, but no love, but very ambitious and younger guy with less ambition but with love and friendship?
|Religion / Re: You're A Christian, Your Wife Is A Muslim. Will The Marriage Work? by PHBABE(f): 7:23pm On Mar 16, 2008|
yea, anyone, pls wats great one?
|Family / Re: I Lost Two Friends In Two Weeks by PHBABE(f): 8:02am On Mar 03, 2008|
My dear, by His grace nothing will happen. We will keep you and urs in our prayers. Nothing will happen in Jesus Christ name, Amen. My sympathy for ur losses. Please Take heart.
|Family / Re: Should This Muslim Lady Marry Her Catholic Boyfriend? by PHBABE(f): 5:52am On Feb 09, 2008|
what is great one and conc all about?
abeg oh, make una no vex
|Family / Re: My Marriage Is Dying Before My Eyes: Help by PHBABE(f): 9:28pm On Jan 26, 2008|
shapey, you dont have to succumb to the pressures of human beings. i would advice you delete your name from this site. if they believe you, they believe you and if they dont they don't. that one is not ur problem. i am happy for you and your hubby true life story or not. remain blessed.
|Romance / Re: Worst Thing Your Boyfriend Or Girlfriend Has Ever Done? by PHBABE(f): 5:45pm On Dec 11, 2007|
|Forum Games / Re: One-word Association by PHBABE(f): 3:45am On Nov 19, 2007|
|Family / Re: Meaning Of Chimaobi by PHBABE(f): 5:15am On Nov 06, 2007|
IT MEANS " GOD KNOWS THE HEART" I THINK ITS UNISEX.
|Violent/Disgusting Non-Celebrity Crimes / The Pathetic Story Of An Igbo Woman In Dallas by PHBABE(f): 6:06am On Oct 12, 2007|
The Story Of My Life-------by Mrs.Roseline Nnawuihe
My name is Roseline Nnawuihe. I am the wife of Nze Benjamin
Nnawuihe from Umuezukwe, Awo-Omamma, Imo state, Nigeria, and
we live in Dallas.
I have been following very closely the various write-ups on
the internet, especially those written by my husband with
regard to the upcoming Orlu elections in Dallas, and I have
come to the conclusion that I can no longer keep quiet while
innocent people¢s character and personality are slowly but
surely being destroyed. For those who have been following
the internet lately, Mr. Benjamin Nnawuihe in his most
recent writings, indicated that me his wife, has been
sleeping around with other men. He has also waged a war
against another man who he claims is the cause of all his
I have been married to Benjamin Nnawuihe for 20years, and
had 5 children for him. I was married to him at the age of
18years, and joined him in Dallas from Nigeria after my high
school. For those 20years of marriage which can pass for
20years of bondage and slavery, I have had to endure
constant physical abuse, verbal abuse, and emotional abuse
and mental torture in the hands of Mr. Nnawuihe. On my very
first day in this country, he sat me down and lectured me on
the ills of associating with other people. It did not matter
who. He cut me off from all my relatives and my friends. He
did not allow me to talk to anybody on the phone. He got me
pregnant every year even when I protested, because according
to him, he did not want all those men eying his beautiful
He would not let me out of the house unless to go to
work or to go to the grocery, and I was on the time clock
for both errands. When I come home from grocery, my husband
will go through the list of items on the receipt to make
sure they were only the things that he wanted. He would make
me return any of the items to the store if it was a personal
thing. For the purchase of the grocery, he will tear out one
check leaf and write the name of the store on it. I have
worked two jobs since my arrival in this country. God help
me if I was running more than fifteen minutes late in coming
home. I would get the physical beating of my life. He would
call my job at school and make complaints to get me fired.
He actually called the police a few years back and alleged
that I was into Medicare fraud. I refused to call the police
even when I was urged on by many people because I loved him,
and also because he threatened my life if he ever had a
police record. Even then, he still called the police himself
and made a report just to build up a record against me.
I would hide my bodily bruises from people, and lie just to
protect him. Last year 2006, while he was leaving for ORA
convention in Miami, he seized my cell phone so that I do
not talk to anybody while he is away. When I tried to get
the phone from him, he called the police and told them that
I prevented him from making a 911 call. I thought it was all
a joke until the police came and handcuffed me and put me in
jail. I spent that weekend in jail while he was away in
Miami enjoying himself. I had no way of contacting anybody.
Even my children were helpless and stayed at home hungry. My
16year old son then contacted my friend Mrs. Livina Ike who
contacted a lawyer. That lawyer was attorney Godson Anyanwu
who bailed me from jail and handled that case. He is a
living witness today.
This man is so insecure that I got a beating anytime he sighted me greeting any man, even if they are his relatives. Whenever we went to parties together, we
will always leave early fighting all the way home just
because a man asked me for a dance and he would attack the
person. At my age, I still look VERY GOOD, and I am grateful
to my God for that. Every man that talked to me or
complemented me was my lover. I have gradually learned to
put up some resistance and not curl up like a baby and cry
all day as I used to. Benjamin Nnawuihe can talk and bark
all night long when he is mad, and still go to work in the
morning. He forbade me from owning a cell phone because he
wanted to make sure I was not talking to other men behind
him. It was not until two years ago after I had a tire
blow-out on my way from work and was stranded on the highway
at midnight that I disobeyed him and got a cell phone. Even
though I have been the major bread-winner in the household,
I will always handover my paycheck to Ben every pay day as
he instructed, and I was forbidden from owning a bank
account, or to call my parents in Nigeria, not to talk of
sending any money to them to feed with. Benjamin has never
been gainfully employed since I arrived in this country, but
he was able to build a house in Nigeria with all the money
he collected from me. It was only a few years ago that I
disobeyed him and opened an account because it was becoming
difficult for him to give me money even to buy my
under-wears. My husband¢s relationship with his children
is even worse. He beats and abuses them on the slightest
pretext. He does not know how those children are fed or
clothed. Unlike other fathers he does notparticipate in any
of the children¢s school activities. When they disagree
with him on any issue, he threatens to disown them. For the
past one year, he is not on speaking terms with our 17year
old son because he does not agree with his father¢s
treatment of me and Benjamin Nnawuihe has told him several
times that he is not his father. Anybody who has seen this
boy will see the carbon copy of Benjamin Nnawuihe. Mr.
Nnawuihe has not allowed me to travel to Nigeria since 1999
even when my father died, or even to go see my sick old
Through all these years, I have been very supportive of my
husband. I have been faithful to him till this day but he
will always accuse me of sleeping around due to his
insecurity. He is a very hateful and wicked man and he does
not forgive. People see him as a very angry man who never
smiles, and they wonder how I have put up with him all these
years. He does not have any friends because he cannot keep
friends. His politics is that of bitterness and personal
destruction. He is very devilish and should be avoided by
decent people. In 2004 he had a land dispute at home with a
man from Umuezukwe, Awo-Omamma. While traveling to Nigeria
that year, he swore that the young man will not be alive to
live on that piece of property. He later rushed back to the
United States suddenly. I later learned that the young man
in the land dispute has been shot dead by unknown people. Is
Ben Nnawuihe a murderer? You be the Judge.This is just one
of several cases.
Let me get to the issue about Dr. Okechukwu. For the
records, let me state that I have never had any extramarital
affairs with anybody for that matter since I married Mr.
Benjamin Nnawuihe. My God knows this, and Benjamin Nnawuihe
knows this. In 2005 OOPA elections, I was running for the
post of PRO against Mr. Ifeanyi Iwunze who is Dr.
Okechukwu¢s good friend. I was not comfortable going
through with an election because I felt that I will lose
because people hate my husband. I was advised by those who
know him to approach Dr. Okechukwu to help in urging Mr.
Iwunze to step down for me because they were very good
friends. My husband was not in good terms with the Iwunze
family, so I asked Dr. Okechukwu not to tell my husband
about it because he will feel insulted. Later on, my husband
saw details of phone calls between me and Dr. Okechukwu on
our phone bill and accused me of sleeping with him. He
refused to listen to any explanations. About two weeks later
n December 2005, Dr. Okechukwu visited us with his wife and
children in what ndi-igbo call ¡igba oriko¢. They ate,
drank, and spent the entire Sunday evening with us. Dr.
Okechukwu used the opportunity to explain everything to my
husband that nothing happened between us, and that it was
just politics. Mr. Nnawuihe will not let the matter go. He
called Dr. Okechukwu on the phone several times threatening
that he will kill him, and Dr. Okechukwu reported the matter
to the police. He has vowed that he will destroy Dr.
Okechukwu¢s reputation in Dallas, United States, and
Nigeria. He is going around telling people that Dr.
Okechukwu writes me checks in thousands of dollars and
bought a car for me. I am here to state that Dr. Okechukwu
has not given me any money, and does not give me any money.
For years I put up with Benjamin Nnawuihe letting me use the
car to work when it pleases him, and seizing the keys when
it does not please him. In order not to lose my job, I saved
up some money to buy a car. Mr. Nnawuihe went with me the
day I bought my car. It was the little money I saved up I
used to make down payment like everyone else and I am
carrying a car note. Anybody who has had an accident and
been to a doctor will understand what I am about to say. I
was involved in an accident with my car. I received
treatment at Medical Rehabilitation clinic owned by Dr.
Okechukwu/ Dr. Ezenagu/ Dr. Ozor. The money that was paid by
the insurance company included $300 (three hundred dollars)
for pain and suffering which was paid to me on the official
clinic check. My husband seized that check till this day but
continues to tell people that Dr. Okechukwu wrote a check
for one thousand dollars for me. My husband knows the truth
because he was aware of my treatment, and also because has
had the same experience with Dr. Okechukwu in the past. If
Mr. Nnawuihe can prove his story, then I am guilty of
everything he has accused me of. My problems with Benjamin
Nnawuihe started long before Dr. Okechukwu arrived in town,
and has taken a turn for the worse since Acho Orabuchi and
his wife got involved in my family affairs and became his
chief adviser. I want people to ask around in Dallas what
happened to several families that took Acho Orabuchi in as
their friend and adviser. Ask Chief Ike. Ask Mr. Godwin
Ibekwe, ask Mr. Festus Okorie. Where do I stop? Yet Acho
Orabuchi continues to live with his own wife Ngozi Kate
Orabuchi who was arrested for shoplifting in 1997, and again
convicted of shoplifting and theft in 1999. If Acho Orabuchi
wants me to post the public record on the internet, let him
declare that I am lying. This same people will go on the
internet, pass moral judgments on others and circulate
salacious materials about them. Are the Orabuchis home
wreckers and more? You be the judge.
I have no University education because Benjamin Nnawuihe
wanted me only to work and not go to school. My grammar may
not be the best, but I have tried my best with some of my
educated female friends to put my ideas together in this
My experience in the hands of Mr. Benjamin Nnawuihe will
fill a whole novel. I have only given a brief summary of it.
Anybody reading my story will ask why I am telling it. I
have two reasons. The world must know the truth about who
Benjamin Nnawuihe really is because he has taken the moral
high ground and he has put his family matter out there. I
left Benjamin Nnawuihe nine months ago while he was in
Nigeria because knowing him, that is the only time that I
can leave safely. I have waited this long to do it because I
wanted my children to grow up a little more in a family
setting with a father and a mother but Benjamin Nnawuihe
chose not to be a responsible father. I will wonder for the
rest of my life if I made a good decision, but I leave it in
Gods hands. The second reason for my story is that I believe
there are hundreds of women out there married to Nigerian
men who are living my life. They need to know that they have
a choice. If there is anybody out there who thinks that what
Benjamin Nnawuihe has done to me is acceptable, it is my
prayers that their daughters meet the same fate when they
I do not have much access to the internet. I am asking
whosoever that reads my story to please send it out to as
many forums as they have access to. Silence they say is
golden. But if you are dealing with a mad, sad, disgruntled
man like Benjamin Nnawuihe, silence will no longer be
Thank you for taking the time to read my story and may God
|Career / Re: What Do You Really Love to Do? by PHBABE(f): 4:14pm On Sep 08, 2007|
shopping, watching home videos and cooking!!!
|Religion / Re: Drop Your Prayer Point Here. by PHBABE(f): 4:27am On Aug 24, 2007|
thanks for all ur prayers. I know God has answered all of them, and some of them i have already seen come to pass. Thanks
|Romance / Re: Tomorrow Is My Wedding Day by PHBABE(f): 7:33pm On Aug 23, 2007|
big congrats man! May God be ever present in ur union, and the people said - Amen!!!
|Romance / Re: How To Deal With Shyness - 3 Secrets For Success by PHBABE(f): 1:29am On Aug 13, 2007|
thanks a lot kate. been shy all my life, but, the older i gets the less shy i tend to be . think i'm over coming it gradually. thanks!!!!!
|Family / Re: Ever Lost Someone As Dear As Family? Come Light A Candle For Them Here by PHBABE(f): 1:06am On Aug 11, 2007|
i light a candle 4 my grandpa who passed away right after his golden jubilee celebration, may his soul rest in perfect peace, amen. . .
|Religion / Re: Drop Your Prayer Point Here. by PHBABE(f): 12:07am On Aug 11, 2007|
Thats right. God works in mysterious way . . . . I will pray 4 her too.
I pray that God grants me success in my exams tomorrow. AMEN.
|Family / Re: Why Dads Should Support And Encourage Mums (in Pics) by PHBABE(f): 3:38pm On Aug 10, 2007|
hahahaha, lol . . . Very funny~
|Romance / Re: My New Girlfriend Is A Virgin. Shuld I Disflower Her? by PHBABE(f): 5:50am On Aug 07, 2007|
dont do it!
|Jokes Etc / Re: Hot! Joke Of The Day: Lady Palava by PHBABE(f): 12:09am On Aug 03, 2007|
made me smile. keeps u wondering till the punch line.
|Family / Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by PHBABE(f): 8:05pm On Aug 02, 2007|
hmmmmm, na wa oh! this marriage thing is even more serious than i thought . . . .
|Romance / Re: Help Me :'( :-x by PHBABE(f): 7:46pm On Aug 02, 2007|
plus, u are denying ur real husband (the guy who might really care about u) the first taste (thats if u care). . .
|Romance / Re: Help Me :'( :-x by PHBABE(f): 7:35pm On Aug 02, 2007|
my dear, dont do it or u will regret it. imagine this - - -if someone likes u, they will do all it takes to make u happy not make themselves happy. if they see themselves marrying u, they wont be in a hurry to Be Intimate wit u. the only time someone will be in a hurry to Be Intimate with u and not respect ur wishes is when they dont care about u.
its a proven fact. and i can bet u that if u lose it b4 ur wedding night to please someone and not willingly, You will REGRET IT!, but, if u do it bcuz u want to, u might still regret it but it wont hurt as much!!
thats my 2 cents . . .
|Family / Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by PHBABE(f): 2:54am On Aug 02, 2007|
Olofinje, i definitely feel you on that.
One thing my mother always told me is that "marriage is very difficult, it is not a game of sentiments". I always keep that in mind when i am perusing my choices.
|Family / Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by PHBABE(f): 8:17pm On Jul 31, 2007|
ah ah, what happened to my previous post?
|Family / Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by PHBABE(f): 11:36pm On Jul 30, 2007|
I dont know wat it is that draws me to ur post, but it seems so honest amongst all others. True talk.
I wont mind reading more advice from u, if u dont mind. I like and prefer being faced with harsh reality. thanks for the advice my sister. FRIENDSHIP eh, hmmmm. . . . . . .
|Family / Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by PHBABE(f): 6:25pm On Jul 27, 2007|
y do u think pp should get married earlier, "the earlier the better" ? just curious . . .
|Family / Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by PHBABE(f): 6:46pm On Jul 26, 2007|
Seun, I think we should have a forum dedicated to marriage alone. It will act as a counselling center for the unmarried pp. wat do u think?
|Family / Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by PHBABE(f): 6:37pm On Jul 26, 2007|
Marriage is something i think about all the time and I have decided not to worry about it anymore and reassure myself that God has my best interests at heart.
But I still find myself thinking about it. Ok, I will try to stop . . .
A few questions though, some people say, oh (from a gals perspective) It is beta to marry a guy a lot older that u are (5-10yrs) so that he can over look some little things u might do or 4 what ever reasons
some say, its beta to marry someone close to your home town (village), so that when they think about your folks, they'll think twice before they maltreat you.
Others say its beta to marry someone u love. others say love is not enough.
So confused, does one have to fulfill all these different criteriae 4 marriage to work?
As for me, I feel like if two pp (mutually) really love and care for each other, as in not becuz of how they look or whateva, if they really love each other as
friends, i feel like marriage should work. then again, I don't know because some people say, marriage is totally different.
as u can see, i am very CONFUSED, i guess i might have to wait till i get in there to see 4 myself . . . .
|Health / Re: Pfizer Faulted Over Drug Trials In Nigeria by PHBABE(f): 6:23pm On Jul 26, 2007|
For real, thats heartless. Nigeria, we don suffer!
|Family / Re: How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage? by PHBABE(f): 11:05pm On Jul 25, 2007|
wow, thanks. very insiteful.
|Romance / Re: How Can I Quit by PHBABE(f): 5:21am On Jul 13, 2007|
My advice is that u realize that its not size that matters all the time. some gals have confessed that it depends on how well a guy can use his magic wand that counts. some guys have it big but cant use it well. But for now, 4get about sex till u r married. Plus, go to church and pray to God to renew ur mind byt changing the way u think. one love!
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