This thread was inspired by a nairalander who once posted this "After making a vow to myself and God when I was 16 to get married as a virgin , it seems harder each day and im just 19. God pls help me."
The comment was made in this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/1837501/popular-nigerian-celebrities-recount-how/2

I saw an article online that may help her and other nairalanders in her shoes keep their virginity. Below is the article:


How Do I Stay a Virgin Until Marriage?

Many young people make the commitment to wait for sex until marriage or at least until a special relationship for a variety of reasons, but remarkably few actually make it, despite their best intentions. Approximately 80% of people have had sex by the time they graduate from high school, and more than 95% lose their virginity before they get married.

I married at 24.5, and my wife was 21.5 years old. We were both virgins until the day we got married—so yes, it is possible, and worth it. I believe that had either or both of us not been virgin prior to marriage itwould have been that much more difficult to abstain from sex until marriage (it was difficult enough as it was), because once you know what it feels like, and you know the right buttons to push, and you have overcome some of the initial tentativeness and natural inhibition that protects you, the drive and facility to make it a sexual relationship becomes that much more powerful.

After we were engaged, my wife and I had to set up rules for ourselves to make sure we made it, and I am glad we did.
After we were engaged, and the longer we were engaged the more powerful the sex drive became. I was happy when we finally did get married because for about 2 months before our wedding date thinking about sex became that much more real and it felt like the sexual attraction grew more intense the closer we got.To make it to that point in my life as a virgin I had to set up some guidelines for myself, and after we were engaged, my wife and I had to set up rules for ourselves to make sure we made it, and I am glad we did.

If you are a virgin and would like to remain that way until marriageor until you feel like you have met the right person I do have some tips that helped me avoid crossing that line before I was ready. These tips are written with teenagers in mind, but with some modifications would apply equally well to the more mature crowd and to those who may not be virgin, but would like to avoid getting too physically involved too soon.

Principle #1: Avoid situations in which sexual activity is possible & likely

1)Avoid having a steady relationship while you are young. Date a lot of different people, but don’t become too tied down to any one before you are ready to deal with the consequences of a serious committed relationship and before you are ready to explore the possibility of a permanent relationship. The longer you are paired off with just one person, the more comfortable you will become and the stronger the physical attraction will become. You will also be presented more opportunities to cross boundaries that you didn’t initially want to cross. I used to try to follow the rule about not going out with the same person more than twice in a row.

When you are getting into a serious relationship you should also ask yourself a few key questions:
*.Is this the kind of person I can see myself with for the rest of my life?
*.Is this the kind of person I think would be a good parent for my children and a good companion for me?
*.Am I ready to settle down and commit to just one person?

If you are ambivalent about the answers to these questions you should probably avoid getting too seriously involved at this point in time.
When you are young, becoming exclusively involved with just one person has additional drawbacks. While it is nice to always have somebody to go out with, it gives some security, and facilitates becoming more emotionally and physically involved, it also limits your opportunities to get to know other people. It also creates a lot of extra unnecessary drama because you will in most cases end up breaking up, find yourself wanting to get to know other people, be confronted with jealousy and variety of other relationship traumas.I used to follow thetwo date rule.
I wouldn’t go on a date with the same girl more than twice in a row until I had gone out with a different girl. It made for great fun in my dating life and I got to know a lot of really great people that I wouldn’t have known as well if I had been tied to just one girl.

2) In general, don't make a habit of hanging out at other people's houses when there are no adults around.Seeking to avoid adult supervision is usually a sign of trouble.

3) Don't make a regular habit of trying to be secluded from everyone else. You are much more likely to cross the line when you are all alone in a place whereit is unlikely that somebody might see you.

4) Never go into a bedroom together,especially if you are alone. Stay out of his and he should stay out of yours. Just like number 3, you are much more likely to start fooling around when you are alone somewhere private. If you start fooling around it won’t be long before you are pushing the boundaries further and further.

5) Date in groups and try to avoid being alone too much.

6)Make sure the groups you are with share your standards. While peer pressure can lead you to do things you don’t want to, it can also be protective. If you have friends with high standards they will help you avoid and overcome difficult situations.

7) Stick to a curfew. Whoever said nothing good happens after midnight was right. The more tired youare the less well your brain functions, and it is not uncommon to run out of “other things” to do late at night.

Always let your parents know where you are at and who you are with. Also let your parents meet the people you hang out withand bring them around the house often. I know it seems like parents are the enemy, but they have been around the block a few times and probably can be helpful. Believe it or not, they were in the same kinds of situations you are now in when they were your age. Other adult role models can also be of help.

Principle #2: Avoid intentionally stimulating the sex drive

1)Don't do things that stimulate the sex drivelike simulated sex (grinding, dry humping), touching or rubbing each others' privates above or below the clothes, talking dirty and fantasizing together, etc. In general avoid lying down together, especially lying ontop of one another. Starting to explore each others’ bodies is nice and exciting, but should be reserved fora serious, committed relationship.

2)Technical virginity alone is not the goal. If you startfingering, giving hand jobs, oral, anal, etc., you really aren’t inexperienced any more and you haven’t saved much. Virginity, or chastity rather, is about more thanjust the technical status of a hymen being traversed by a penis. Engaging in other “substitute” activities will not keep you any more sexually pure than engaging in vaginal sex. They are still sexual activities so don’t fool yourself into thinking they are alright.

3)Try to keep yourself busy and avoid excessively thinking about or fantasizing about or stimulating your own sex drive when you are by yourself. Eliminate porn consumption and questionable media. Just remember “Junk in, junk out.” In other words, what you spend your time filling your head with will influence your attitudes and desires and eventually the activities that you choose to engage in.

4) Avoid heavy make out sessions. Keep kisses short and respectfuland limit the hand and body contact, especially with respect to private areas. Again, don’t lie on top of each other. Horizontal is hazardous. Kisses show affection, but they can also be very sexually stimulatory. At this stage I think I think it wiser to stick to kisses that show affection and save the arousing kisses for later when you are ready to enter into a more intimate relationship.

In conclusion, recognize your own limitations and thesituations in which you feel the strongest temptations, and make plans to avoid those situations. Set up some ground rules for yourself and your relationships. Date people who share common values and seek the advice of trusted adults, including your parents, religious leaders, and successful married couples you trust. Talk about the rules you have established with your parents and friends and rely on their help.



Source:http://www.girlsaskguys.com/sexual-behavior/a1742-how-do-i-stay-virgin-until-marriage

Much ado

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Lolmoi:
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What's a virgin doing in a relationship@OP.

I no gree 4 number one

you and virgins sef. well we virgins are the last of the dying breed.
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. waiting for people to start asking questions like
"how did this make frontpage" when this thread
makes front page.

Just fed up of all these ladies virginity threads here and there

Why are people so concerned about female virginity than making money
?

englishmart:
don't call it crap my friend. LOL
In nairaland best threads don't make front-page.
The naivety of our mods is abhorrent

I'm glad you noticed it too

And after keeping all these, you later turn to be a nagging, boring, frigid wife.

#notovirgins

englishmart:
yes o. For your mind abi. You Wey don nak sotee your name don turn nakia

you really smart o. how you take know say i be carpenter?

adonbilivit:
you really smart like ur last name o. how you take know say i be carpenter?

LOL. By their fruits we shall tell.

Virginity is really an expensive thing.... Why having sex is as cheap as 50naira...thanks to these local brothels around....and God also has special blessing for the people that decides to keep their virginity before marriage....tosyne2much you fall my hand oh..free the guy jare..no biggie in Fp...have made it thrice and its just gives u sme little fame nd likes..and then it dies down.

Kachisbarbie:


truth be told, this is a very good question you asked

don't mind some damn hypocrite jhooooor, today, Virgins, 2moro, Who wears it better, next 2moro, albino or black yet dey spew do "I get paid for FP"

chibwike:
Virginity is really an expensive thing.... Why having sex is as cheap as 50naira...thanks to these local brothels around....and God also has special blessing for the people that decides to keep their virginity before marriage....tosyne2much you fall my hand oh..free the guy jare..no biggie in Fp...have made it thrice and its just gives u sme little fame nd likes..and then it dies down.

I understand you broda, I have made FP too and it added no kobo to my bank acc.. Just that most of these virgins and non virgins threads here and there tire person

lalasticlala:


I post to express myself & to entertain my fans. I always maintain that my posts are for my few fans. If they find their to FP fine, if they don't, I can never complain because nobody pays me for FP, OK. Don't take these things too seriously. Try to b indifferent about this FP obsessions.

I don hear sir

tosyne2much:
don't mind some damn hypocrite jhooooor, today, Virgins, 2moro, Who wears it better, next 2moro, albino or black yet dey spew do "I get paid for FP"

y attacking the innocent dude y don't you created your own thread if you are so desperate of FP and free the guy

tosyne2much:
I don hear sir

Alright. Cool

tosyne2much:
I have created more sensible threads than this, if I hear say e make FP

** I know this epistle will make FP**
Make una dey look ooooo

calm down bro. unquote the long post please. just have fun...na money lala dey use upload those pics o. the guy dey try sha coz to upload like 20 quality pics no beans. you sef get mouth here na. fp or no fp, no body send us outside nairaland.

Am still a virgin and I have been doing all of that