Christie Uzebu

maclatunji:

I thought and thought about what next to write this weekend, nothing was forthcoming. Then, something said to me, ‘why don’t you write a follow-up to your post about people hiding their true age‘?

Well, this is it. I was opportune to get loads of comments on that particular post, where I wrote about the norm of people reducing and increasing their age or refusing to tell it for reasons best known to them.

Popular and more topical among the comments was ‘women/ladies/girls are more guilty of the act’.

Now, I’m asking, “women, why are we synonymous with so many issues”? I’m a lady myself, and I won’t sweep anything under the carpet.

During my industrial training sometime in 2011, I had my first work experience. I was happy to feel like a working class, and the first place I worked, I was under a woman. Next, I had to move to a different work station where I worked under a man. Well, the difference was clear and I resolved to avoid every situation that would make me work under a woman. Fast-forward to my first job as a working class, I had to work with four women all at the same time. It wasn’t a terrible experience like I thought ‘cos I had fun with them. So, I’m not saying all women have issues, but most of us do.

Ladies, cast your minds back to primary and secondary school days when there was something called ‘keeping malice’. The boys were never found in that act, it was like a girl’s dress and only them were found wearing it.

Just last week, my phone brought out a list of LinkedIn contacts that were on BBM. Since we are in the marketing age, decided to add all of them. So many of them accepted the request and I was over-joyed, only for me to start getting barrage of messages. “Who’s this”? “Do I know you”? “Have we met before”? “How did you get my pin”? With too many messages, I had to send a broadcast letting them know I was a LinkedIn contact and my BBM automatically added them.

“Oh! Great”. “No p”. “Okay”. “Good to have you here”. Got so many positive comments in return. However, one was different. She complained about how it wasn’t possible for my phone to have added her and how I didn’t construct the broadcast message respectfully. I just smiled and thought to myself, ‘not surprised, it’s a lady’. Yes, you would hardly find a guy complain about such irrelevant thing.

Why are we so uptight about so many things? Can’t you just see your fellow girl and say hi with a smile on your face?

I got talking to a friend who told me about females in her office and their many issues. “I really don’t understand them. These girls never say hi. Even if you do, they tend to snub you like we’ve previously had a terrible encounter”. I could completely relate to what she was talking about because I’ve had encounter with lots of ladies my age who probably think relating with their fellow ladies is completely wrong.

I’m not praising the guys, I have no reason to praise them ‘cos I’m a lady. Just stating the facts. You’ll rarely find a guy who would cast jealous eyes on his male counterpart. I haven’t met guys that are snobbish. I’ve never had a cause to worry about a male friend putting up an attitude like he has issues with me.

Lots of these ladies’ attitudes are probably as a result of some ladies feeling they are above the next person’s standard or they feel inferior seeing their counterpart is doing better than them, I have no idea.

Ladies, we really need to calm down. I know we have lots of personal problems to deal with, but let’s be open to whoever it may be. Being a boss, let your employees miss you when they’re on leave. Let your female colleagues be more comfortable with you than with the guys. Let’s stop being so uptight, let’s stop being snobbish. Let’s be freer and flare up less”.

Source: http://storried.com/women-why-are-we-our-own-worst-enemies/

Over to you ladies...

100% true

a botu of wet gin for you..

Kk

You are right!

Maclatunji since when did you become a lady or have you travelled abroad to change your gender to a lady as in tr@s sekzu@l




Anyway good to know about that. So to the matter its individual differences its not in all cases

until u start loving those better than you and giving them credit will that change

Its d 'Amosu' in them....

The Op is absolutely right. One reason is inferiority complex and low self esteem. They tend to take their emotions to the high side thus acting upon them. The thought of "another female being better than them" is what brings out the 'claws' of these women. Always wanting to prove they are better than the next female. Whether it is based on looks or in been virtuous or achievements or even marital status, low self esteemed women are constantly comparing themselves with others. In some cases, men also contribute to the competition, constantly pitching one woman against another with comparisons based on what they expect their women to be physically and personality wise.

Sometimes, the society helps to create unhealthy competition amongst women with its disastrous mentality. I am using Nigeria as an example. This constant measuring of women's worth based on marital status also worsens matters. These statements "Go and marry" or "your mates are getting married every saturday" or if you dnt do this or that for your boyfriend/hubby, another woman will" also encourage competition. It only takes a really strong willed woman with high esteem that doesnt fall for all these scare tactics/comparisons to not fall amongst competitive women. Such a woman will find it easy forming good friendships/relationships with her fellow females. A woman who has no personality issues will be very confortable with other females. I have met a lady for the first time and we bonded like we've always known each other so there are females who are different and dnt have these problems.

When women are continuously pitched against one another, it would become a norm and with time they wont feel too comfortable with one another. I think we need to get rid of that mentality and women need to stop placing themselves in competition with others. Self contentment and a healthy self esteem matters alot. Such women need to seriously work on themselves cos their attitude can be really irritating and they are usually very frustrated.

Let the women bashing begin

Mynd44:
Let the women bashing begin

It won't, we are gintlemen

Mynd44:
Let the women bashing begin

yeah niggah!

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I think this ladies all belong to different witchcrafts that's why they hardly get along and always size each other up. Well, it's all to a niggah's advantage.

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the world was at peace when was the only human in eden. the moment eve joined him, humans have not known any peace.

@OP,You are your own worst enemy for thinking every woman is out there to get you.....what if they are not in a good mood or cos she is a woman she should smile back at you,which kind eye service be that?
Anyway sha am not a woman so I won't truly understand how you feel,although I think you are being petty.
#my opinion.

SAMBARRY:
Maclatunji since when did you become a lady or have you travelled abroad to change your gender to a lady as in tr@s sekzu@l




Anyway good to know about that. So to the matter its individual differences its not in all cases

@bolded #Yeyewoman

*flips hair*
If we don't give the world drama, who will?

UjSizzle:
*flips hair*
If we don't give the world drama, who will?

Indeed. Your drama no get part 2 #Ladies

UjSizzle:
*flips hair*
If we don't give the world drama, who will?

Abeg which hair you been dey flip biko?

jaybee3:

Abeg which hair you been dey flip biko?

My weave-on

Very true..

Women are their worst enemies.

You see them beefing each other,when a woman passes,her fellow woman would have sized her to know the worth of what she's wearing,and instantly be condemning her..

They bad mouth each other openly,and secretly..

I wonder why they are wired that way.

maclatunji:


@bolded #Yeyewoman

Yomieluv:
Very true..

Women are their worst enemies.

You see them beefing each other,when a woman passes,her fellow woman would have sized her to know the worth of what she's wearing,and instantly be condemning her..

They bad mouth each other openly,and secretly..

I wonder why they are wired that way.

competition for the fine boys in that environment.

coogar:


competition for the fine boys in that environment.

With the benefit of having the most healthy and vibrant offspring that would help ensure the continuity of the human race.

It is more biological than we think?

Op, not in all cases. My boss is a man and he's a nightmare to all.

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women dislike themselves. They are only united when they have to diss men.

Yomieluv:
Very true..

Women are their worst enemies.

You see them beefing each other,when a woman passes,her fellow woman would have sized her to know the worth of what she's wearing,and instantly be condemning her..

They bad mouth each other openly,and secretly..

I wonder why they are wired that way.

Ahem. We are not wired that way
If someone's got a bad attitude, call it just that.

Instead of them to be united, they are busy comparing themselves with men

agbeke58:
Very correct.

Let me quickly share this, where i was working before now, my boss i report to, a man, we always get along so easily, and work was going on smoothly, no beefing, everyone goes abt his/her work. Later on, my boss got more responsibilties, so he has to hand over d dpt to another of his colleague, which is a woman. When she resumed office, she told us reporting to her that she is a devourer, i tot she was joking, she really devoured most staff working under her. Within the space of one month, 4 of my colleagues resigned. I thought i wld be able to work with her, but i was mistaken.

What she does is to sit her big ass in her office, jist with her clan abt peeps, drink her coffee, issue out query letter,suspends staff at will, debit staffs salary, look for one offence or the other, and d list goes on.

I bet you your previous boss may have done the same thing but because he is a man you failed to notice those "flaws"....why because it has been "something-cally" programmed into your head to only respect and "submit" to a man...thats why a lady will deliberate make snide remarks on another lady why is that so, because she is jealous or even insecure, Wetin come bring the jealousy or insecurity na because by virtue of the fine dress wey the other one wear or maybe the fine car wey she dey ride or her "enviable" position in the company, she has somehow consciously or unconsciously managed to look "superior" to her, which she can't tolerate because a fellow woman is not suppose to look or even be superior to her only a man is allowed such "benefits"...so Mr. O.p, you wanna know why women despise themselves so much, it boils down to these three letter words; MEN!

A woman just wrote a lengthy half-assed article about her exclusive personal experience to castigate her gender, and generalized everything without conducting a proper research.

Yes, women are their worst enemies.