Vivly:
No. I think they want a humble, loyal and submissive woman that is independent and does not depend on them financially.

The Average Nigerian Is A Hypocrite not just men oooooooo Nigerians are 2 edge sword....

carefreewannabe:


Most of these women here are in relationships or married to desirable men.

Keep deceiving yourself!

Minus moi!

AS LONG AS IT IS A NIGERIAN SOMETHING. . . you can only MANAGE de DAMAGE!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GMbw8IBJH3Y

firstEVA:
my point is, since you have your pride, you want to be head, why be uncomfortable when she wants you to play the role of a head when it comes to meeting her needs?

As wife ? YES..

As girlfriend ? IF HE LIKES..

You have parents..

kaboninc:


Sometimes I don't understand you guys.

Meeting her needs as per boyfriend and girlfriend or married couples?

A man marries a woman and assumes complete responsibility over her and her needs. The average man DOES that...whether Nigerian or not.

However a man is human and humans are generally selfish including women. So he might be selfish in meeting certain needs and so there might not be a balance. So that's where a responsibility comes in and he knows about it.

Besides a woman also should consider her man when meeting her own needs too.

I wonder what the women of today are striving for. . A man is born, he struggles to survive, earn a living, marries a woman and sets up a family, he continues struggling to keep his family alive and dies while struggling. What else do you ladies want again?

The bolded caught my attention.

Have you noticed how early most Nigerian men die off leaving wife and children ?

I keep asking myself why most Nigerian men die early.

aisha2:
Why should you give him a slap? Is that what " western " women do?
What has paying bills got to do with being badly behaved, rude and uncultured? Even when I go out with friends we spilt the bill based on what we all ate does that mean I will now start challenging them, slapping them and being rude to them?

Young ladies please read and understand the concept and struggle of feminisim before you put yourself in trouble.

If you slap a man he has the right to give you a powerful slap back. If a woman in the west slaps a man he can sue her for assault and get paid loads of money in damages.


If I pay my own bills, spilt cheques and take care of myself it simply means I respect myself and know my responsibility towards myself and don't see a man as my atm.

You marry a man because you love him and respect him. That love and respect shouldn't be based on what he can or can't give you.

This is the real woman talking. A woman who has a brain and a source of income.

This poster's mentality is why I hate dating girls from poor homes. Girls from poor homes are very bitter and they deal with men ruthlessly. Oftentimes you see them discussing about " opening office " on a man's head..

My mum and all my sisters have paid employment. I detest ladies living off me and when they start their reverse psychology or black mail, " Don't your sisters do it ". I just tell them to stop. My sisters are all working class. They don't even depend on me talk less of an imaginery boyfriend..

Thank you ma'am !.

As a woman, after your parents spent a fortune on you to get educated, you still wanna sit on your butt in a man's house, doing nothing but cooking and making babies, Talk about self respect and being productive.A man and a woman relationship that does not transcend the dependent and provider type will never flourish, someone is bound to be disrespected and it will only be a matter of time before everything caves in.

I can't stop laughing! See as the few wretched women here are busy defending western lifestyle and the high divorce rate there but can not even spare a moment to praise the heroic women of Nigeria who are successful and yet hold it down at home. Their is no better way to describe slavery to western lifestyle. Their description of happiness is the western women who have had multiple divorces and are extremely selfish thinking only of themselves and what money they can make off men. Like someone said, if you want a western lifestyle marry an American or European and leave Nigerian men in peace.

@Op ...I pity your life,if this is the kinda mentality u have!

KanwuliaJara:


Minus moi!

AS LONG AS IT IS A NIGERIAN SOMETHING. . . you can only MANAGE de DAMAGE!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GMbw8IBJH3Y

ROFL




Nice pic, you look good.

carefreewannabe:




ROFL




Nice pic, you look good.

Thank you jare!
Girl YOU KNOW IT'S TRUE!

It gets to a stage in life. . . YOU CAN'T LIE TO YOURSELF ANYMORE.
I never did!
What on Earth would I gain?
Nothing!

I have never 'gelled' with Nigerian MEN. . . NEVER!!!!
E get as dem dey behave!
Not normal AT ALL!!!!!

KanwuliaJara:


Thank you jare!
Girl YOU KNOW IT'S TRUE!

It gets to a stage in life. . . YOU CAN'T LIE TO YOURSELF ANYMORE.
I never did!

You're welcome.

dicefrost:



Ofcourse not, if i'm married, i will help out with house chores wether my wife is employed or not. Its out of love, and not because i 'must' do it. But in all, she has to be submisive and recognise that i am the head of the family.

no one is disputing a man is the head of the family. but its just crazy when some men think helping out with chores make them a weaklings or less of a man..

good of you tho!

Vivly:
No. I think they want a humble, loyal and submissive woman that is independent and does not depend on them financially.

hmmm...

deeptesting:


Kids who thinks love is stupidity.

You are the kid here who can't understand the fact that he's just insecure in his own skin. No one is asking you to be stupid. Treating your wife with respect doesn't make you stupid, it makes you a responsible man. And stop making it sound like you are doing a woman any favour by being married to her. You both make sacrifices and benefit from eachother. It's not a one-way thing.

KanwuliaJara:
* See HBP! SHAI!!! *



Mumu!
Ala-OKIJA husband nor dey work o!
Ashawo Mrs. dey feed am. . . .as usual with NIGERIAN MARRIAGES!

After MRS. ALA-OKIJA. . . .what other names do you care to drop?

BIANCAR-ONYE-FANNY-NKE-KAYODE?

Kanwuliaaaaaaaaa you no go kill me o. see as i dey laugh like craze person for quiet lecture theatre.

Mariopgomery:


i wonder why the divorce rate is so high in the western countries since women in the west seems to have such perfect marriages with the most understanding husbands.

The reason why it is higher in the west is the same reason why no black will endure any form of racism in this century.

scribble:



Nigerian women cheat for neglect and revenge and oftentimes lust


Nigerian men cheat because polygamy is our cultural heritage which women were happy when the white man taught us their way which is not even sustainable or working for them any longer

There are good men out here sha, that is men whose wives dont know about the away games

choiiii. polygamy is our cultural heritage. selfish pleasure is YOUR cultural heritage.

scribble:
Dont mind all these women coming here speaking English

A real man will never see it as a favour from a woman for him to marry her

But women their brain is wired like fish...all their desire is for a man

the resentful ones go towards feminism and/or lesbianism but all in all, they are looking for a man to make them complete

thank you for generalizing all women as having fish brain. hope your mother and sisters are involved.

MarieSucre:
Kanwuliaaaaaaaaa you no go kill me o. see as i dey laugh like craze person for quiet lecture theatre.

Sorry o!

Holiday nefa reassh ya side?
Na wetin you dey do for dia?

dinachi:
I can't stop laughing! See as the few wretched women here are busy defending western lifestyle and the high divorce rate there but can not even spare a moment to praise the heroic women of Nigeria who are successful and yet hold it down at home. Their is no better way to describe slavery to western lifestyle. Their description of happiness is the western women who have had multiple divorces and are extremely selfish thinking only of themselves and what money they can make off men. Like someone said, if you want a western lifestyle marry an American or European and leave Nigerian men in peace.

Dinachi are you a virgin? how many women have you slept with? the last peson you slept with was she your wife? is it our culture to sleep with women who we have not brought drinks and money to their fathers? i guess such double hypocritical adoption of western standards completly eludes you.

https://www.nairaland.com/2054691/top-10-ladies-nairaland-potential


WHERE ARE THE NIGERIAN HYPOCRITES OF DUDES that will marry these ones on NL?
Abi dem still dey 'sample'?

See wasted NL poohsies waiting to be FIFTH AND TENTH WIVES of BOKO HARAM GRASS-CUTTERS!

This is scary....knowing that there r men like that out there...

Evina:


LOL.

Slimmy, learn from the gospel of truth offered.
You know you are not Indian, why is the payment of dowry your challenge?

I am not one with such mentality that dowry are not meant to be paid. I am in full support cos every man got to protect his pride by doing the needful.

But the present irresponsible demands of the present day transgendered,
delusioned, ignorant, empty, overused, wasted and uncultured breed of females who parade themselves as feminist has gone nuts. It's quite pathetic that the usual training acruing to one from a responsible home they don't hold.

It is not mandatory to get married. You can stay single and progress, Oprah is a living testimony.

Why hate on Nigerian men for your incompetency to manage a home? Why spread frustration rather than treat your ineptitude and crass ignorance.

I am off the thread Abeg. Such issues irritate me, feel like I just swallowed a maggot.

MarieSucre:
Dinachi are you a virgin? how many women have you slept with? the last peson you slept with was she your wife? is it our culture to sleep with women who we have not brought drinks and money to their fathers? i guess such double hypocritical adoption of western standards completly eludes you.

You need to learn and stop exposing such ignorance. What happens to sexual compatibility in relationships? What happens to sexual kinks? What happens to curiosity?

Why do you have this misconception that every relationship should lead to marriage?

If I date a lady and I found out we are not sexually compatible or she cannot cook, I'll walk away.

slimmy05:
You need to learn an stop exposing such ignorance. What happens to sexual compatibility in relationships? What happens to sexual kinks? What happens to curiosity?

Why do you have this misconception that every relations should lead to marriage?

If I date a lady and I found out we are not sexually compatible or she cannot cook, I'll walk away.

You exposed your igorance when 1, you did not understand why i quoted his post. 2, did not comprehend what i wrote in relation to his post. 3, Chose ranting over asking me to clarify. Dear sir, i'm pointing out his hypocrisy concernig the adoption of the so-called western values.

MarieSucre:
Dinachi are you a virgin? how many women have you slept with? the last peson you slept with was she your wife? is it our culture to sleep with women who we have not brought drinks and money to their fathers? i guess such double hypocritical adoption of western standards completly eludes you.

If care is not taken, you will die of bitterness against men! The truth is simple go and marry Oyibo and leave us Nigerian men alone.

When I was little, my mom made domestic work compulsory for her sons.
We take over the kitchen at age 10 till 17 or 18.
She makes sure after u run around the street chasing football, u will still comeback home and take ur responsibilities without been told.
Fast forward to me now, I can cook (very very well), make my bed and take care of my laundry.
So tell me that I won't lift some domestic works off her shoulders when I get married??
So while u ladies are bashing men everywhere have u taught about it if they actually know how to do this things

dinachi:
If care is not taken, you will die of bitterness against men! The truth is simple go and marry Oyibo and leave us Nigerian men alone.

You're the one with so much bitterness in your mind, how can you think it is okay to belittle some one else and treat them unfairly because they are of a different gender. don't let your ego be your own undoing. People can't be this sexist and i'll choose to believe that.

I don't agree. Nigerian men generally like to spend money on the girl/woman they like. When we say we like independent women, we mean we want a woman who has stuff going on for her aswell, a woman with a life who doesnt have to depend on you for every little thing. Knowing she can walk out of your life without losing anything keeps you alert and prevents the relationship from getting boring.

firstEVA:
The Average Nigerian man of today expects his wife/girlfriend to not depend on him financially, she should be an independent woman, she should be like the women from the west who would pay the bills when they both go out on a date.

On the other hand, the average Nigerian man of today wants a humble, loyal and submissive woman a woman who MUST NOT behave like women from the west who would challenge his authority as head, argue with him and even give him a slap when the argument becomes intense, no, mba. In other words they want gender equality but do don't want gender equality.
Isn't this the greatest hypocrisy of all times?

There is nothing average about the Nigerian man except he is an invalid. There are Nigerian men who are married to core professionals with character respect and sometimes hard to believe traits. Who told you we cant marry women of status? What makes you think so.? Stop generalising things my dear. Just pray that the man of your dreams comes your way.

Vivly:
No. I think they want a humble, loyal and submissive woman that is independent and does not depend on them financially.

Somebody that has sense

apparently , you are the confused person OP, you may perhaps just br trying to please a man at all cost . its so simple ..... be yourself and you will find a man who will love you for who you are . if you are the dependent type , sure you would find a man who is looking for liability at sometime even if you have to wait till you are 50. if you are the proud and independent type , you will find a man who will not consider your flaws and still love you . if he is not into you , he is not into you.