richol:
pray to GOD....cos ive seen cases that the aa marrying ss nd all the children are ss

Starie:


Den der have been a cheating sum where! They were supposed to have only AS children. No AA no SS...

@ Confee; I will advice u meet a doctor and a councillor for counselling. As for me, if u truly love her den marry her but note that it won't be an easy one!

NLSince:
Hey Guys,

I'm in a fix right now. I created this account to seek advice about my current situation. I have seen some very good and some not-so-good advice being dished out here. I really hope I get more of the former.

So there's this lady who I'm interested in dating. infact, I was about to ask her out yesterday when one thing led to another and she told me she was SS.

Here's a little background to this:
1. I consider myself a good guy. I'm not a player and I can't date you if I don't see us heading to the aisle. I have been in relationships before which have ended but I don't date with the intention of ending it.
2. Because of Number 1, I don't just ask out anyone. I start by being friends and then if I see a future, I'll then take it forward else we mutually friendzone ourselves. I'm different, Bite me.
3. This Lady ticks most of the boxes I think is important. And I actually believe(d) that this would be my Last Bus stop. However, I don't want to get a wife who'll leave me soon.
4. I'm AA

I'll be grateful if you guys help me with answers to this:
a) Should I go on with this? or should I free her? or go against everything I believe in and break off the relationship once her next crises comes. (OMG, that's brutal. I'm cringing just writing that)
b) I know if we have kids, they'll be AS. What chances of survival does she have? at least to get up until 70. She's 25 right now.

Searching for a wife is hard. I really don't want to lose a good one (If I don't have to) and start searching again.

cc: MizmyColi, Kachisbarbie, Xiadnat, PickaBeau1, MatthewBriggs

This choice remains largely yours to make.
An SS woman who has a child that is approaching 20 and another child just left my office.

I understand your fears and I do not judge you at all.

I don't know much about SS people but I know that it gets easier after a certain age.

OP, if I were in your shoes I will marry her. I'd do a little more research on how to handle her crises, become resolute and marry her.
I will not marry her out of pity, no.
I will not marry her out of desperation, no.

The Emboldened and Reddened Answers Your Question.

There are no immediate risks, your children won't have to suffer because of the choice you made.

People have towed the same path, while it is not all that have been success stories, there are actually success stories. What is wrong in believing and actually hoping for the best. When it is plausible, let us try to always practice selfless love. Its gains are eternal.

I don't believe in coincidences, everything happens as a small part in the grand scheme of things.
If you've met a dozen women in your lifetime and this is the one person you are pretty much positive about, while it remains largely unconventional, I would that you sit yourself down, take sometime off and meditate.
Call up the life giving spirit within you, the one that gives you understanding, the one that has led you to this stage of your life. Pray how you know best to. ["If she is mine, let every fear be dispelled and let resources manifest; if she isn't - cause us to separate peacefully and connect us with our partners, people who'll bring us peace of mind and happiness"]

I will not spoon feed you, even though I personally do not see a biggie, save for some unfounded fact that she might die tomorrow (besides, everybody dies; Aunt Shey is an SS in her late forties and is alive, has two kids, runs a fashion shop, drives a car......Sister Amy (28) on the other hand is very healthy, was very healthy actually, she died 2nd january this year. These two persons are/were close to me in varying ways.

Wisdom and understanding remains largely profitable to guide your path OP.


For someone or something whom you are sure is worth it, it becomes a risk in itself not to take the risk of being with that person for as long as it takes.
Peace

NLSince:
Hey Guys,

So there's this lady who I'm interested in dating. infact, I was about to ask her out yesterday when one thing led to another and she told me she was SS.

4. I'm AA

a) Should I go on with this? or should I free her? or go against everything I believe in and break off the relationship once her next crises comes. (OMG, that's brutal. I'm cringing just writing that)
b) I know if we have kids, they'll be AS. What chances of survival does she have? at least to get up until 70. She's 25 right now.

Searching for a wife is hard. I really don't want to lose a good one (If I don't have to) and start searching again.

richol:
pray to GOD....cos ive seen cases that the aa marrying ss nd all the children are ss