temzybabe:
keep searching for foreign wife till u reach 50

richol:
pray to GOD....cos ive seen cases that the aa marrying ss nd all the children are ss

ochiosa:
. That is not through

searching4love:


OP WHY DON'T YOU TRY DATING A FOREIGN LADY? THEY DON'T HAVE THIS SICKLE CELL PROBLEMS LIKE MANY NIGERIAN GIRLS


#team foreign girls

NLSince:
Hey Guys,

I'm in a fix right now. I created this account to seek advice about my current situation. I have seen some very good and some not-so-good advice being dished out here. I really hope I get more of the former.

So there's this lady who I'm interested in dating. infact, I was about to ask her out yesterday when one thing led to another and she told me she was SS.

Here's a little background to this:
1. I consider myself a good guy. I'm not a player and I can't date you if I don't see us heading to the aisle. I have been in relationships before which have ended but I don't date with the intention of ending it.
2. Because of Number 1, I don't just ask out anyone. I start by being friends and then if I see a future, I'll then take it forward else we mutually friendzone ourselves. I'm different, Bite me.
3. This Lady ticks most of the boxes I think is important. And I actually believe(d) that this would be my Last Bus stop. However, I don't want to get a wife who'll leave me soon.
4. I'm AA

I'll be grateful if you guys help me with answers to this:
a) Should I go on with this? or should I free her? or go against everything I believe in and break off the relationship once her next crises comes. (OMG, that's brutal. I'm cringing just writing that)
b) I know if we have kids, they'll be AS. What chances of survival does she have? at least to get up until 70. She's 25 right now.

Searching for a wife is hard. I really don't want to lose a good one (If I don't have to) and start searching again.

cc:s

searching4love:



Will you marry me?

Afolabs101:
I am AA and I'm engaged to a lady who is SS. She is the one person who truly gets me and who I believe will support me and love me no matter what happens. I am truly in love with her too and am ready to support her and take care of her. It is difficult to find someone like that, so even when she told me she was SS, I continued with the relationship.

My advice is to go ahead and leave her health to God. As long as she is taking the necessary steps to keep the condition under control and has a good ad close relationship with God, she will live long.

As for me, I don't think about how my wife to be might die early as I believe that God will keep her and she will outlive me.

ask4bk:


My SS cousin died of recent at 28. RIP

NLSince:
Hey Guys,

I'm in a fix right now. I created this account to seek advice about my current situation. I have seen some very good and some not-so-good advice being dished out here. I really hope I get more of the former.

So there's this lady who I'm interested in dating. infact, I was about to ask her out yesterday when one thing led to another and she told me she was SS.

Here's a little background to this:
1. I consider myself a good guy. I'm not a player and I can't date you if I don't see us heading to the aisle. I have been in relationships before which have ended but I don't date with the intention of ending it.
2. Because of Number 1, I don't just ask out anyone. I start by being friends and then if I see a future, I'll then take it forward else we mutually friendzone ourselves. I'm different, Bite me.
3. This Lady ticks most of the boxes I think is important. And I actually believe(d) that this would be my Last Bus stop. However, I don't want to get a wife who'll leave me soon.
4. I'm AA

I'll be grateful if you guys help me with answers to this:
a) Should I go on with this? or should I free her? or go against everything I believe in and break off the relationship once her next crises comes. (OMG, that's brutal. I'm cringing just writing that)
b) I know if we have kids, they'll be AS. What chances of survival does she have? at least to get up until 70. She's 25 right now.

Searching for a wife is hard. I really don't want to lose a good one (If I don't have to) and start searching again.

cc: MizmyColi, Kachisbarbie, Xiadnat, PickaBeau1, MatthewBriggs

Ipledge:
I think all the children should be AS(carrier),and that look odd...what is AA genotype doing?

searching4love:


OP WHY DON'T YOU TRY DATING A FOREIGN LADY? THEY DON'T HAVE THIS SICKLE CELL PROBLEMS LIKE MANY NIGERIAN GIRLS


#team foreign girls

Namzy:
People here can talk rubbish. See dude am a doctor and my sincere advice is no don't marry. She most likely wont live up to 40. I have never seen any ss at 40. Most even die while giving birth which is really a trying time and challenging if you want multiple kids. There are severe costly management to research on but even that is not guaranteed. Had a medical colleague who was ss and during our internship we dont let her stress herself, we did most of her calls and people were wondering why she had to read medicine and waste her years instead of a 4 year course. She died during nysc. May her soul RIP. Almost all ss crisis is an emergency and have seen many die from complications. You can even google their life expectancy which will of course be lower in Nigeria

Vyolet:
If you do not love her enough to sacrifice for her then do not go into the marriage.

There are many good girls around who are healthy with less health and financial burdens. Take your time and choose one.
Try to avoid stories that touch in the long run.

In another dimension,you can go ahead with a block mind that whatever happens is what is meant to be. If she lives to be the mother of your kids,fine and if she doesn't,you will atleast be glad you married who please your heart and no regrets.



On a lighter note,Life itself is a risk,whether AA or SS,whoever will live long will live long. The very healthy man or woman might die as a result of one thing or the other.

MizMyColi:


This choice remains largely yours to make.
An SS woman who has a child that is approaching 20 and another child just left my office.

I understand your fears and I do not judge you at all.

I don't know much about SS people but I know that it gets easier after a certain age.

OP, if I were in your shoes I will marry her. I'd do a little more research on how to handle her crises, become resolute and marry her.
I will not marry her out of pity, no.
I will not marry her out of desperation, no.

The Emboldened and Reddened Answers Your Question.

There are no immediate risks, your children won't have to suffer because of the choice you made.

People have towed the same path, while it is not all that have been success stories, there are actually success stories. What is wrong in believing and actually hoping for the best. When it is plausible, let us try to always practice selfless love. Its gains are eternal.

I don't believe in coincidences, everything happens as a small part in the grand scheme of things.
If you've met a dozen women in your lifetime and this is the one person you are pretty much positive about, while it remains largely unconventional, I would that you sit yourself down, take sometime off and meditate.
Call up the life giving spirit within you, the one that gives you understanding, the one that has led you to this stage of your life. Pray how you know best to. ["If she is mine, let every fear be dispelled and let resources manifest; if she isn't - cause us to separate peacefully and connect us with our partners, people who'll bring us peace of mind and happiness"]

I will not spoon feed you, even though I personally do not see a biggie, save for some unfounded fact that she might die tomorrow (besides, everybody dies; Aunt Shey is an SS in her late forties and is alive, has two kids, runs a fashion shop, drives a car......Sister Amy (28) on the other hand is very healthy, was very healthy actually, she died 2nd january this year. These two persons are/were close to me in varying ways.

Wisdom and understanding remains largely profitable to guide your path OP.


For someone or something whom you are sure is worth it, it becomes a risk in itself not to take the risk of being with that person for as long as it takes.
Peace

CACACTION:

Lies...how can u integrate your claim

Numerouuuno:

RIP to your cousin. Do you mind to tell what happened?

pickabeau1:


AA n SS have no issues
However the only risk area is during labor but ifthis is managed (good hospitals or even abroad)
I see no issue


MizMyColi

What I do na
I just wrote

temzybabe:
yes please.. are you rich?

ibe9ja:


Bros na night school u go?

Ishilove:

You really need to grow up. Like seriously

Eluwilussit:
Don't marry her. Move on. There are marriage materials with less problems everywhere. I guess all the people who are telling you to marry her, either don't know about the theories of evolution and survival, or are just being "good". You don't have the right to knowingly and possibly create a problem for your future generations.

I know the heart wants what it wants, but that ain't always right and good. Be wise.

blessedfavoured:


so the SS carriers will never get married ? Is that what you're saying?

Who say's a perfectly healthy AA girl cant die shortly after marriage. Sickle cell is the only thing that kills abi?

It's okay

ask4bk:


You know they have this occasional crisis they handle always. Money has been spent for ages to sustain them (twins). They are graduates and have served. Doing the last crisis, he couldn't struggle out of it again. But his brother is still ok and strong right now. Also ss