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Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by isalegan2: 4:07pm On Apr 18, 2015
jeeqaa7:
D details of this story would haunt u 1 day... If u like nor go hustle .. That fine girl wen u marry go gve u high bp

They can do a 1-year anniversary party and really treat the people this time. cheesy

Or a fabulous naming ceremony for their firstborn pikin. grin
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by zomoears(m): 4:07pm On Apr 18, 2015
zomoears:



Can't contribute to a discussion without attempting to insult...how typical.

That said, my point is, d op made a point thru d story, that it's not about how much u spend for d wedding( a one-day ceremony by the way), but the fact that he is married without spending so much. Most of us break our backs to have elaborate ceremonies just to service our larger-than-life egos.

I envy those who are more focused on what makes them tick, and don't give a hoot what others will think about em.
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Nobody: 4:10pm On Apr 18, 2015
Why not have a very early morning wedding with both parents present. Call a couple of friends to join you at a Fast Food Restaurant and have them served a commensurate number of meals you paid for (probably 10-15) and drinks? If anyone asks why you never invited them, my brother, explain you had it "quiet" than serving a whole village rice, fish and water lipsrsealed.


Pardon me, was your wife smiling all through this

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Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by jamillion: 4:11pm On Apr 18, 2015
Its ur choice, I like it flamboyant and larvishely expensive. Its once in a life time thing u know..
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Mekzmoney(m): 4:54pm On Apr 18, 2015
grin

menix:


Re u not a christian?
Did Jesus not feed 5k guest wiv 5 Agege bread nd two titus fish.
Don't 4get d parties involved re strong Jesus followers.

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Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by nedu2000(m): 4:55pm On Apr 18, 2015
isalegan2:


So, every man must have a 'white collar job' before he can fulfill his purpose for being on this earth and start a family? And if he's a farmer nko?
I meant 'white collar job' metaphorically,"financially stable" is a a better term
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Allureoftheseas(m): 4:56pm On Apr 18, 2015
onismate:
I have always been a good Christian. To me my faith permits marriage but I can’t just marry anybody. At 35, marriage was already on my mind. I need it, my body needs it. I have abstained from sex for too long. I had to do something before I fall into the evil hands of the sons of Lucifer. Even though my finances were a little bit low I prayed fervently to God to give me the right person.

Two weeks later I was returning from evangelism, I saw a very beautiful young lady preaching to some group of young menu in the neighbourhood. I decided to come closer to listen to her message very well. I began enjoying her message, she was so fluent. Her beauty didn’t attract me as such, what attracted me the most was her charisma and the way she preached. I decided to sit on one of the empty chairs at the back. After the message, I approached her, we exchanged pleasantries and introduced ourselves, I requested that I should walk her home and she agreed. We chatted and talked as I walked her home. I got to her house and we spent over 2 hours talking. I really enjoyed her company that I requested if we could do a joint evangelism together, she agreed.

As we go to evangelism together we became closer and fond of each other. I was not comfortable with our relationship as just friends. I wanted us to move to the next level.

Behold it happened. I asked her to marry me. She appreciated my courage but asked for little patience for her to go and pray to God about it. On my mind I was very sure that she is the right one for me.

A month later as we were going to visit some of our new converts, she broke the news to me. That she has agreed to marry me. I was just so happy about the good news.

We courted for about 6 months and started the preparations for the traditional rites. It proved a little difficult when we (me and my family) went to see her parents.

They insisted that all the drinks we must bring will be alcohol (ogogoro, sepe), because they are from isoko in Delta state. Isokos love taking alcohol a lot. I totally refused buying any alcohol because it’s outside my faith.

I gave them my own option of what I will do. I told them I can’t buy them alcohol, I will rather give them the money so they can make do with anyhow they like. They refused my offer, they still insisted that I must buy the alcohol if I must marry their daughter. I myself refused too, I told them that in fact I wasn’t interested in the marriage any more if I have to buy alcohol for them. Later on they called me back after 3 months. They said they don’t want anything to stand on their daughter’s way of happiness. They accepted my offer to take the money, and the traditional rites were completed.

We started planning our wedding immediately after the traditional rites, I didn’t want to waste much time about it. I had wanted it to be a month after the traditional rites. Even though I didn’t have much money for the wedding, I had to make do with the little I have. My “wife to be” had just graduated from the university some few months back. She was yet to get a job. I myself was an NCE holder and a class teacher. I only had about N50,000 in my account. I was determined to carry on with the wedding, to manage the little money I have, I had already told her we wouldn’t borrow or beg. We budgeted N30,000 for that wedding while the other N20,000 will be for our upkeep after the wedding while I wait for the result of the interview I did which I believe and sure I would pass very well because they had informed me that before the end of the month they would call me back for the appointment. It is a good, well-paying job. Not forgetting that my fiancé will look for job too to reduce the responsibility on me.

I was so sure that we would have much guests, even unwanted guests too, because it’s a village. I told fiancé is either we give them biscuits and drinks or rice and fish with water as refreshment. We had to cut our coat according to our material.

On the wedding day, our guess was actually right because we had over 700 people as guests including uninvited once. The whole reception hall was packed full. The wedding vows were taking in a scanty church. But the reception! It was a massive turnout.

We made a very beautiful small cake worth N2000, though we didn’t share it because it will not get to everybody. We kept it for just the traditional “Cutting of the cake.” After cutting it, our helpers took it away. Thank God we made use of rice and fresh fish, the people sharing just had to manage it little by little so it could get to everybody. It was 2 bags of rice.

We made available about 7 drums of water. After eating you take water. No drinks or meat were provided. Infact we didn’t have high table and chairman of the occasion.

Finally am happy I was married to the love of my life and the wedding was successful. To those who spent or are spending big budgets for wedding/marriage, borrowing for people to be impressed, at the end of the day all of us have one thing in common! Which is, “We all got married.”

http://www.hovabuzz.com/frontline/978-my-wedding-story-how-we-met-and-did-our-wedding-with-just-little-money-we-had

Poverty don finish your soul.
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Nobody: 6:18pm On Apr 18, 2015
Op. You try jorr. You be man.


I don see for nigeria her were women dey beg men say them go sponsor the wedding. Even give the man job if he marry her.

As for me! 50k even dey much.
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by nigerbabe: 6:37pm On Apr 18, 2015
this gentleman is damn wise- you are not stingy but worked with what you have- doing it according to what you have. being faithful in the little you have is a clear indication that you will be able to manage the much that is coming your way shortly. pls share this with many intending couple
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Toks2008(m): 6:38pm On Apr 18, 2015
menix:
Ow I wish I can ve such courage.

Had a funny experience, budgeted 1.5million last year buh had a million jan. 2014 instead of proposing nd takin d bull by d horn.
Had 2 postpone d proposing till I get d extra 500k.
While I waited she did not wait nd now I don't even ve d million box nd ve lost out on her.

Wish we culd really learn to cut our boxers to size us..

one of the reasons why many ladies are still single today is because they value that one day glamour of getting married above the life long reality of staying married.

i always tell ladies.. if you know you are psycologically rdy for marriage and you hve a guy that truly wants you for keep, as long as he has at least a room apartmnt of his own,start a life with him. So ironic that many ladies live with a boyfriend in one room while in school yet they cant start life with a man froom a room apartment.

there is only a type of favour that a man recieves after he gets married just as the bible says....he whosoever finds a wife finds a good thing AND HE RECIEVES FAVOUR FROM GOD.

simply have a moderate introduction,go for legal wedding in a registry and start your life tgether while you plan for the big wedding celebration.

As long as that guy is hardworking trust me,he will get there. All the rich men you see today started from somewhere.

i hve seen cases where a lady leaves a man she loves simply because he has no money for an elaborate wedding ceremony just to end up with a man she feels is ready for marriage because the dude has mney to splash on an exquisite wedding.

It is one thing to get wedded and another to stay wedded. Marry a man for the right reasons.

Never leave a man with a vision for a man with television.
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Orjhong(f): 7:34pm On Apr 18, 2015
I cannot marry a 35 year old that has a 30000 marraige budget plan, no offence...after marriage, how will we survive? On the 20,000 plus house rent and every, I no even talk honeymoon o...then the girl doesn't have a job and his own doesn't pay well, I have no intentions of running back to beg my parents after marraige. The story sef!!!...let's leave all the modesty, money is good
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by MizMyColi(f): 7:35pm On Apr 18, 2015
donphilopus:


Gawwwddd....dunno how and where to get the number, would have just dialled it to inform them!!!! See as she sweet...Pls I wanna lick!! cheesy grin

Just don't get catfished bro.
I caretongue

grin
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by bb6xt(m): 7:36pm On Apr 18, 2015
mrking3:
@OP stop giving us zobo here!! Even 50k can't be enough to celebrate one's birthday let alone of wedding!! You can't tell this honourable house of nairaland that you bought 2 bags of rice which I know is worth 20k, bought packs of fish and other miscellaneous expenses with 30k!! That's trash man! WHAT IS WORTH DOING IS WORTH DOING WELL! You ended up embarrassing yourself before your inlaws and the entire whole village! You should have saved up atleast 200k for an average wedding I wonder why the rush in the first place when you aint even ready!! I'm planning to do my white and Trad this year and I've tried all I can to make an average budget evrything will cost about 400k. That's even the minimum!!! For both traditional Rites which include marriage LIST, Trad, and white wedding. All will be done same day just to save cost. When I saw your thread I got attracted to read how you made it with just 50k but then, that's way below average! Just CLASSLESS! How do you do such lifetime event without serving people with common pure water, mineral and meat? Wow!! Who does that? Shameful bro!!!

@mrking3 I am interested to know how you plan to do your trad and white wedding with just 400k. I would like to get married myself but am planning on just trad+court and maybe a little reception. I am looking at a similar budget as yours hence it'll be very helpful if you could give me the breakdown of your planned expenses to guide me. Does this include intros, lists etc? what part of the country is your fiancé from? what city will you be holding it in, how many guests etc. I look forward to your response.
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by dober(m): 8:34pm On Apr 18, 2015
Op might be right saying he actually spent 30k for the wedding. I guess other expenses were done by families and friends,which he didn't mention to us..
Last year, a friend of mine did an early morning mass wedding in our Parish (I believe some catholics know what I mean), entertaining few guests. And I knew then that he spent upto 200k let alone Op's where he had much guests.
Please I must advice, do not attempt to start producing babies until you are financially stable. You may have one though.
Bravo!
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by mrking3(m): 8:54pm On Apr 18, 2015
bb6xt:


@mrking3 I am interested to know how you plan to do your trad and white wedding with just 400k. I would like to get married myself but am planning on just trad+court and maybe a little reception. I am looking at a similar budget as yours hence it'll be very helpful if you could give me the breakdown of your planned expenses to guide me. Does this include intros, lists etc? what part of the country is your fiancé from? what city will you be holding it in, how many guests etc. I look forward to your response.
well nothing really much bro! Introduction is not inclusive on the list coz i've already done that! Everything on my list will cost about 250k on the average! Coz i just decided to cut down somethings i was asked to provide! Like where they say 30 creates of Beer, me and my fiancee will give 15! Same goes to the Rest! Thats what brought the list down to 250k. Else everything was almost heading to 400k!(JUST THE LIST) i plan to combine the Trad+wedding since it will be just one Reception for both ceremony. My Fiancee is into event planning and management so she's actually handdling the planning process. The ceremony will hold in Eastern part of the country! (Abia) we happen to come from the same state but different local government. But for some reasons, i wouldnt want to disclose my personal plans on this forum. We can talk privately! This is a public forum. The white wedding wont take more than 2 hrs max! And would avoid all this paparrazi stuffs! Just me and my best man! No grooms men ! Will make budget for few invited friends lets say 150 invited guest! Then make provision for 50 uninvited guest! Its actually cheaper doing it outside Lagos! But i'm sure i wount go beyond 500! Budget is within the range of 400k but will have to keep 100k just incase!!! My lady too will assits with the little she can. Thats it!!
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Phummiegold(f): 9:36pm On Apr 18, 2015
...Mtcheeww!!!...Adonbilivit bro.
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Moana(f): 9:54pm On Apr 18, 2015
mrking3:
@OP stop giving us zobo here!! Even 50k can't be enough to celebrate one's birthday let alone of wedding!! You can't tell this honourable house of nairaland that you bought 2 bags of rice which I know is worth 20k, bought packs of fish and other miscellaneous expenses with 30k!! That's trash man! WHAT IS WORTH DOING IS WORTH DOING WELL! You ended up embarrassing yourself before your inlaws and the entire whole village! You should have saved up atleast 200k for an average wedding I wonder why the rush in the first place when you aint even ready!! I'm planning to do my white and Trad this year and I've tried all I can to make an average budget evrything will cost about 400k. That's even the minimum!!! For both traditional Rites which include marriage LIST, Trad, and white wedding. All will be done same day just to save cost. When I saw your thread I got attracted to read how you made it with just 50k but then, that's way below average! Just CLASSLESS! How do you do such lifetime event without serving people with common pure water, mineral and meat? Wow!! Who does that? Shameful bro!!!
is a wedding about 2 people becoming one or its about impressing people who will go and shit your N400,000 or whatever 1hr later?
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Nobody: 10:02pm On Apr 18, 2015
mecussey:


With due respect sir, permit me to call you "Bsc mumu" lollll. But on a serious note, your girl no like you at all or you guys were not communicating well. If you had 1m, you must not spend all celebrating marriage, to maintain the marriage is more difficult. Why would she leave you because, you don't have enough money for wedding, when you can actually do the trad comfortably. To me self, na God save you for that marriage.

Can you please read and comprehend. He catetigorically said he has not proposed,
Now, why would a girl stay in such relationship when she is not sure of his intentions and where it is heading to.
He admitted his mistake which is waiting for the money to be complete before proposing .
I'm sure the girls would have agreed to manage a wedding even with less than that 1 million naira if she had been aware of his intention.

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Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Nobody: 10:05pm On Apr 18, 2015
stinggy:


Thought we agreed we'll have it big, are you changing your mind sad
hahahahahaha

Crazy guy
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Nobody: 10:09pm On Apr 18, 2015
dkronicle:
if she is urs, she would av stayd
No she wouldn't have
In fact staying in such relationship is not advisable except there is no option.
Any mature girl that wants to settle down should not stayed in an undefined relationship.
Not when he has not made his intentions known.
If he had had courage as he said and proposed even before gathering the said money.
I'm sure girl would have certainly stayed and even agree to manage manage wedding.
Not every girls is looking for a royal wedding.
And sure most girl would forfeit that to have a good man that made good his words

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Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by mrking3(m): 10:19pm On Apr 18, 2015
Moana:
is a wedding about 2 people becoming one or its about impressing people who will go and shit your N400,000 or whatever 1hr later?
. Girl no one is impressing anyone with 400k for both Traditional and white wedding! Thats the average any reasonable person can go! If dude doesnt have money for proper ceremony no one would have nailed him for doing just church blessing which involves the pastore and the couple! It would save him the embarassment of serving people with drums of water. Isnt it shame that he couldnt afford common pure water let alone of mineral. I didnt mention malt, average wine, etc. Even 30k isnt enough to do Registry that involves couple and few witness! Mhen!! Stop defending absurdity pls!!!
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Moana(f): 10:26pm On Apr 18, 2015
mrking3:
. Girl no one is impressing anyone with 400k for both Traditional and white wedding! Thats the average any reasonable person can go! If dude doesnt have money for proper ceremony no one would have nailed him for doing just church blessing which involves the pastore and the couple! It would save him the embarassment of serving people with drums of water. Isnt it shame that he couldnt afford common pure water let alone of mineral. I didnt mention malt, average wine, etc. Even 30k isnt enough to do Registry that involves couple and few witness! Mhen!! Stop defending absurdity pls!!!
is it not the same ordinary water every average person drinks daily? suddenly on wedding day they become allergic to it abi? what will mineral water do? speed up the second coming of Jesus Christ?
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by mrking3(m): 10:31pm On Apr 18, 2015
Moana:
is it not the same ordinary water every average person drinks daily? suddenly on wedding day they become allergic to it abi? what will mineral water do? speed up the second coming of Jesus Christ?
please get off my mention with your medieval reasoning!!!

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Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Moana(f): 10:36pm On Apr 18, 2015
mrking3:
please get off my mention with your medieval reasoning!!!
simple questions u cant answer? typical average person, jan-dec u chop idomie with half an egg and when you go to someone else's wedding u expect to eat your life away. my reasoning maybe medieval but yours is beyond poor.
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by mrking3(m): 11:13pm On Apr 18, 2015
Moana:
[s]simple questions u cant answer? typical average person, jan-dec u chop idomie with half an egg and when you go to someone else's wedding u expect to eat your life away. my reasoning maybe medieval but yours is beyond poor[/s].
trash
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by per1: 11:27pm On Apr 18, 2015
Hmmmmm on this Nland somebody will come and tell u he earns 80k so he can't marry. It goes thus can u marry some body with a monthly salary of 50k.


Pls let's be real
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by bosschinalu(m): 1:22am On Apr 19, 2015
Can some people differentiate between marriage and wedding?? Marriage in infinite while wedding is just the event of a day....
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Nobody: 3:00am On Apr 19, 2015
freshness2020:
Seven drums of water?
Hmmm...are ♈όϋ dat poor ♈όϋ couldn't afford #80 bags of water!..
That seven drums of water got me thinking if this Ūя̲̅ story was real...who still drinks water from drum in this dispensation!
he said it ws in d village

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Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by Nobody: 3:08am On Apr 19, 2015
I dnt believe,period
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by isacolukay(m): 7:46am On Apr 19, 2015
EggovinMma:
cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy grin cheesy cheesy grin cheesy

*wipes tears*

Babe aw far?
Re: How I My Wife Had Our Wedding With N50k. Its Possible by kingsarch2000: 7:47am On Apr 19, 2015
People should read his story well b4 the comment. He said he did his wedding and not trad with 50k or 30k. He has already done his trad. Also, the wedding was done in the village. Although he did not mention that he rented a hall or chairs for the reception. But in some village, they use their church halls and chairs for free. And he might have gotten some other things for free. So it is possible considering that the wedding took place in the village.

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