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Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 1:34am On Sep 27, 2015
There are jocular anecdotes told of the Igbo people...a couple of then I favor...if you get to a strange land and find no Igbo man therein,you Berra port or while theres war in Syra, or any other place for that matter,the Igbo man is defying all odds to do his business in the midst of it! The doggedness,tenacity,the business acumen and industrious spirit of the Igbo man..amazing..admirable!
I went through a thread of a certain nairalander whom whimsically stated her admiration for Igbo men...I smiled to myself on her newfound dedication; a thought occurred to me to get the issue of intertribal marriage to the front burner..albeit focusing on the IBO tribe..I detest generalisation in any context, but there are some perceived stereotypes which borders on some inherent truth...this brings up the question:

Why is it that some or most Igbo men no matter their love or commitment to any woman that is non-igbo will leave that same woman and must marry one of their own? ..no matter the stand of the man,the relatives,Umunna..especially if the man have sisters would subjugate the non Igbo wife of their brother and frustrate to the point of ruining the relationship of their brother to his non Igbo girlfriend or wife so that he can marry "properly" an Adaobi..on the flip side,the Igbo females have less trouble marrying non-igbo men...I understand there are Igbo men and women whom have had the liberty of choice to marry non-igbos..that given,the above stated is a fundamental issue...now will the agitation for Biafra fuel the prejudice of intertribal marriage of Igbo sons to non Igbo women? Why do the igbos kick frantically against their sons marrying non-igbo women?

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by bigfrancis21: 1:50am On Sep 27, 2015
A thread of this sort has been created before on this thread. I'm sure that if you use the search option on this website, you'll find it.

To give you a glimpse, being an Igbo myself, Igbo men believe that their women are the best - make good housewives, excellent mothers, partners, raise kids properly, cook the best meals, know how to rub their egos, understand them well, etc. It is only natural that they go for people of their kind. This also ensures continuity of the tradition and culture.

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by tonychristopher: 1:53am On Sep 27, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
There are jocular anecdotes told of the Igbo people...a couple of then I favor...if you get to a strange land and find no Igbo man therein,you Berra port or while theres war in Syra, or any other place for that matter,the Igbo man is defying all odds to do his business in the midst of it! The doggedness,tenacity,the business acumen and industrious spirit of the Igbo man..amazing..admirable!
I went through a thread of a certain nairalander whom whimsically stated her admiration for Igbo men...I smiled to myself on her newfound dedication; a thought occurred to me to get the issue of intertribal marriage to the front burner..albeit focusing on the IBO tribe..I detest generalisation in any context, but there are some perceived stereotypes which borders on some inherent truth...this brings up the question:

Why is it that some or most Igbo men no matter their love or commitment to any woman that is non-igbo will leave that same woman and must marry one of their own? ..no matter the stand of the man,the relatives,Umunna..especially if the man have sisters would subjugate the non Igbo wife of their brother and frustrate to the point of ruining the relationship of their brother to his non Igbo girlfriend or wife so that he can marry "properly" an Adaobi..on the flip side,the Igbo females have less trouble marrying non-igbo men...I understand there are Igbo men and women whom have had the liberty of choice to marry non-igbos..that given,the above stated is a fundamental issue...now will the agitation for Biafra fuel the prejudice of intertribal marriage of Igbo sons to non Igbo women? Why do the igbos kick frantically against their sons marrying non-igbo women?

I don't think it's wrong for Igbo to marry their own...Igbo women are pretty and wonderful so why look outside

.even if we look outside its within the south south region especially the efiks, the ogoja at most the ijaw on rare cases

Inter tribal marriage isn't good it confuses the offsprings and waters the genes


This is my own submission

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:00am On Sep 27, 2015
bigfrancis21:
A thread of this sort has been created before on this thread. I'm sure that if you use the search option on this website, you'll find it.

To give you a glimpse, being an Igbo myself, Igb men believe that their women are the best - make good housewives, mothers, partners, raise kids properly, know how to rub their egos, understand them well, etc. It is only natural that they go for people of their kind. This also ensures continuity of the tradition and culture.

..thank you for the heads up on that thread...there is an inkling of race or tribal superiority in your submission; kind? whatever happened to love knowing no color, boundary or nationality? the fearsome part is when the younger generation holds on to the detrimental part of culture..hypothetically speaking, say in 20years from now,your sweet little princess meets and falls in love with my son and i for one read the riot act for him never to bring before my face an Igbo girl?

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:02am On Sep 27, 2015
tonychristopher:


I don't think it's wrong for Igbo to marry their own...Igbo women are pretty and wonderful so why look outside

.even if we look outside its within the south south region especially the efiks, the ogoja at most the ijaw on rare cases

Inter tribal marriage isn't good it confuses the offsprings and waters the genes


This is my own submission
..interesting to note.. I am an offspring of inter- tribal marriage..I am every inch as one as the other

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by tonychristopher: 2:07am On Sep 27, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
..interesting to note.. I am an offspring of inter- tribal marriage..I am every inch as one as the other

You see what I am saying

You can't confidently say the tribe you are .

Ok let me help u

Which tribe is your father from ?

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:10am On Sep 27, 2015
tonychristopher:


You see what I am saying

You can't confidently say the tribe you are .

Ok let me help u

Which tribe is your father from ?
I am Yoruba by tribe,also very much aligned with my Itsekiri ancestry maternally...the bottom line is Igbo's are tribal bigots

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by bigfrancis21: 2:18am On Sep 27, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
..thank you for the heads up on that thread...there is an inkling of race or tribal superiority in your submission; kind? whatever happened to love knowing no color, boundary or nationality? the fearsome part is when the younger generation holds on to the detrimental part of culture..hypothetically speaking, say in 20years from now,your sweet little princess meets and falls in love with my son and i for one read the riot act for him never to bring before my face an Igbo girl?

Love knows no colour and boundary and, often times, cases of inter-tribal love like this pop up, however the majority of love cases of the Igbo people still fall within the same ethnic group. Igbo people are encouraged to find love within their own - there are over 35 million of them. Finding love amongst that number should be easy.

I did not intend to feel superior in my post but was only giving you an inside view as seen from the lens of Igbo men and people in general. I must also add that feeling superior is only a thing of the mind. If you feel you are superior, so be it. Just once you don't lord it over other people. If feeling superior drives you to succeed, that's good.

Also, Yoruba men and Hausa men marry mostly from within their kind. I don't see why that of the Igbo should be any different

If I may ask, were you recently in love with an Igbo? What happened?

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by tonychristopher: 2:19am On Sep 27, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
I am Yoruba by tribe,also very much aligned with my Itsekiri ancestry maternally...the bottom line is Igbo's are tribal bigots
Is this thread for bashing Igbo


Marriage no be by force na

Why must everybody want to marry Igbo na

Why lamenting

Our women are just OK for us ..is that a crime ?

Why don't you find pleasure in your own women ?


Why run away from them ?

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by bigfrancis21: 2:22am On Sep 27, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
I am Yoruba by tribe,also very much aligned with my Itsekiri ancestry maternally...the bottom line is Igbo's are tribal bigots

Are you aware that Hausa men barely marry from outside the Hausa tribe? Does that make them bigots?

Are you aware that Yoruba men mostly marry Yorubas and even the few that have married Igbos, still went on to take on Yoruba spouses? Aren't they 'tribal bigots' by doing so?

Are you aware that white men marry mostly within their race? Does that make them racist?

Why should that of the Igbos be different? Why should Igbos be labelled 'tribal bigots' for choosing to marry their own? What has happened to freedom to marry who one wants?

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:26am On Sep 27, 2015
bigfrancis21:


Love knows no colour and boundary and, often times, cases of inter-tribal love like this pop up, however the majority of love cases of the Igbo people still fall within the same ethnic group. Igbo people are encouraged to find love within their own - there are over 35 million of them. Finding love amongst that number should be easy.

I did not intend to feel superior in my post but was only giving you an inside view as seen from the lens of Igbo men and people in general. I must also add that feeling superior is only a thing of the mind. If you feel you are superior, so be it. Just once you don't lord it over other people. If feeling superior drives you to succeed, that's good.

Also, Yoruba men and Hausa men marry mostly from within their kind. I don't see why that of the Igbo should be any different

If I may ask, were you recently in love with an Igbo guy? What happened?
..what am I to say Francis?he had an excuse for balls!
Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by bigfrancis21: 2:28am On Sep 27, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
..thank you for the heads up on that thread...there is an inkling of race or tribal superiority in your submission; kind? whatever happened to love knowing no color, boundary or nationality? the fearsome part is when the younger generation holds on to the detrimental part of culture..hypothetically speaking, say in 20years from now,your sweet little princess meets and falls in love with my son and i for one read the riot act for him never to bring before my face an Igbo girl?

Lots of Yoruba families in the south west specifically warn their children not to marry any 'omo ibo'. Some Igbos who have dated outside their ethnic group have consistently faced this discrimination within their own country. Even some half yoruba half igbo people in relationships with full yorubas have been told by their yoruba spouses to hide the fact that they are Igbo from their yoruba spouse's parents. Some Yoruba families would never let their children marry Igbos.

I hope you are aware of this?

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:29am On Sep 27, 2015
tonychristopher:

Is this thread for bashing Igbo


Marriage no be by force na

Why must everybody want to marry Igbo na

Why lamenting

Our women are just OK for us ..is that a crime ?

Why don't you find pleasure in your own women ?


Why run away from them ?


smiley
tonychristopher:

Is this thread for bashing Igbo


Marriage no be by force na

Why must everybody want to marry Igbo na

Why lamenting

Our women are just OK for us ..is that a crime ?

Why don't you find pleasure in your own women ?


Why run away from them ?


..a gal like me no need to force marriage on any man nah...marriage proposals I have quadruples that your average Igbo chick may never dream of having...sides the issue bothers on love
Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:29am On Sep 27, 2015
Would have loved to contribute to this discuss until I saw tribal bigots.

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:31am On Sep 27, 2015
bigfrancis21:


Lots of Yoruba families in the south west specifically warn their children not to marry any 'omo ibo'. Some Igbos who have dated outside their ethnic group have consistently faced this discrimination within their own country. Even some half yoruba half igbo people in relationships with full yorubas have been told by their yoruba spouses to hide the fact that they are Igbo from their yoruba spouse's parents. Some Yoruba families would never let their children marry Igbos.

I hope you are aware of this?
now I understand fully why IBO's are discriminated upon...their bigotry
Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:32am On Sep 27, 2015
xoxom:
Would have loved to contribute to this discuss until I saw tribal bigots.

contribute..it may affect you or a loved one someday
Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by tonychristopher: 2:32am On Sep 27, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
..what am I to say Francis?he had an excuse for balls!

Go and marry your men and live in polygamy
It's always non Igbo crying that Igbo won't marry them
The truth is that Igbo don't consider most marriageable n it is considered an infra dig for an Igbo to marry a woman from some places


So stop whining


Yes I am a bigot


Deal with it



I just can't imagine marrying our of Igbo



So cry more

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:34am On Sep 27, 2015
bigfrancis21:


Are you aware that Hausa men barely marry from outside the Hausa tribe? Does that make them bigots?

Are you aware that Yoruba men mostly marry Yorubas and even the few that have married Igbos, still went on to take on Yoruba spouses? Aren't they 'tribal bigots' by doing so?

Are you aware that white men marry mostly within their race? Does that make them racist?

Why should that of the Igbos be different? Why should Igbos be labelled 'tribal bigots' for choosing to marry their own? Why has happened to freedom to marry who one wants?
noun (plural bigots)One who is obstinately orintolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices.One who is strongly partial to one's own group, religion, race, or politics

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:40am On Sep 27, 2015
tonychristopher:


Go and marry your men and live in polygamy
It's always non Igbo crying that Igbo won't marry them
The truth is that Igbo don't consider most marriageable n it is considered an infra dig for an Igbo to marry a woman from some places


So stop whining


Yes I am a bigot


Deal with it



I just can't imagine marrying our of Igbo



So cry more
eh mehn,take a chill pill...your shoulders just hunched on hearing I am part Yoruba..on the low..guys on queue for me to wife them am taking my time on choosing..I am yet to decide on being with a naij man..

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by bigfrancis21: 2:42am On Sep 27, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
smiley..a gal like me no need to force marriage on any man nah...marriage proposals I have quadruples that your average Igbo chick may never dream of having...sides the issue bothers on love

I strongly believe that you recently fell deeply in love with an Igbo guy, who later left you for an Igbo girl.

I would advise you not to take it personal. That Emeka did not marry you does not mean Obinna will not marry you. Igbo guys are said to be very hardworking, good-looking, believe in family and take very good care of their family. If you truly like Igbo guys, keep searching and you'll definitely find one who is willing to make you his oriaku. One case should not be used to generalize. And also try dating specifically Igbos born and raised in Lagos as they are a bit more open to inter-tribal marriages than Igbos born and raised in the east.

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by bigfrancis21: 2:44am On Sep 27, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
noun (plural bigots)One who is obstinately orintolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices.One who is strongly partial to one's own group, religion, race, or politics

From what i've observed so far, every tribe in Nigeria is loyal to their own tribal cause. Each ethnic group fights for their own interest. The Yorubas are as tribally bigoted as the Hausas or Igbos. We should not take the word out of context to single out a particular group for what every single tribe in Nigeria is guilty of.

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:49am On Sep 27, 2015
bigfrancis21:


I strongly believe that you recently fell deeply in love with an Igbo guy, who later left you for an Igbo girl.

I would advise you not to take it personal. That Emeka did not marry you does not mean Obinna will not marry you. If you truly like Igbo guys, keep searching and you'll definitely find one who is willing to make you his oriaku. One case should not be used to generalize. And also try dating specifically Igbos born and raised in Lagos as they are a bit more open to inter-tribal marriages than Igbos born and raised in th east.
..gee,the guy for want of marrying an Igbo woman,married his elder sisters friend, 5 years older than him...all I do is laugh..from the on set the elder sister had kicked against the relationship so it was a desperate move on her part..sickening tho,but hilarious

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by bigfrancis21: 2:50am On Sep 27, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
eh mehn,take a chill pill...your shoulders just hunched on hearing I am part Yoruba..on the low..guys on queue for me to wife them am taking my time on choosing..I am yet to decide on being with a naij man..

Its not an issue of 'men queuing up for you' but the quality of the men in queue for you? wink Because if the men queuing up for you so far were of solid quality, you wouldn't still be single by now. wink

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:53am On Sep 27, 2015
bigfrancis21:


From what i've observed so far, every tribe in Nigeria is loyal to their own tribal cause. Each ethnic group fights for their own interest. The Yorubas are as tribally bigoted as the Hausas or Igbos. We should not take the word out of context to single out a particular group for what every single tribe in Nigeria is guilty of.
oh puleease...for the hausa, its an issue of religion and whichever either of the couple choose to convert,it works..for the Yoruba's..they are particular only on the IBO's..I guess its informed by the IBO bigotry

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 2:55am On Sep 27, 2015
bigfrancis21:


Its not an issue of 'men queuing up for you' but the quality of the men in queue for you? wink Because if the men queuing up for you so far were of solid quality, you wouldn't still be single by now. wink
every inch quality with money too..I just want to marry for love,the right reason and I am commitment phobic if I am not in love..
Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by bigfrancis21: 2:57am On Sep 27, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
..gee,the guy for want of marrying an Igbo woman,married his elder sisters friend, 5 years older than him...all I do is laugh..from the on set the elder sister had kicked against the relationship so it was a desperate move on her part..sickening tho,but hilarious

Aha!...there you go. I understand how you feel. Cases like this happen worldwide. A black girl falls in love with a white guy only for the white guy to later on marry a white girl instead. Don't brood over the issue too much. Move on, you'll find someone else. I have a classmate here in the US who is Yoruba who had the same issue too. She was deeply in love with an Igbo guy who used to work in her office. According to her, he was tall, well-built, hardworking, intelligent, good-looking, very mature for his age and understood me very well. In the end he still left me to marry a girl from the east.' Today she is happily married to a Yoruba guy who bears the same English name as her former Igbo boyfriend.

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by bigfrancis21: 2:59am On Sep 27, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
oh puleease...for the hausa, its an issue of religion and whichever either of the couple choose to convert,it works..for the Yoruba's..they are particular only on the IBO's..I guess its informed by the IBO bigotry

Don't try to shift Yoruba tribal bigotry on the Igbos. Yorubas are as tribalistic as every other tribe in this country and this attitude is prevalent in the politics they play since Nigeria's independence. Yorubas discriminate against 'omo ibos' in dating, relationships, housing and tenancy etc. On the other hand, Igbos prefer to marry their own because they believe their own is the best. I guess that balances the scale.

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by scholes0(m): 2:59am On Sep 27, 2015
bigfrancis21:


From what i've observed so far, every tribe in Nigeria is loyal to their own tribal cause. Each ethnic group fights for their own interest. The Yorubas are as tribally bigoted as the Hausas or Igbos. We should not take the word out of context to single out a particular group for what every single tribe in Nigeria is guilty of.

Personally, i don't think the Yorubas are as bigoted as the hausas or Igbos- (Although this is from my own personal interractions and nothing else, I could be wrong)

"Tribalism Index"


http://www.usfglobalinitiative.org/newsletter/high-definition-tribalism-index/

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 3:03am On Sep 27, 2015
xoxom:
Would have loved to contribute to this discuss until I saw tribal bigots.




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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by bigfrancis21: 3:04am On Sep 27, 2015
scholes0:


Personally, i don't think the Yorubas are as bigoted as the hausas or Igbos- (Although this is from my own personal interractions and nothing else, I could be wrong)

"Tribalism Index"



http://www.usfglobalinitiative.org/newsletter/high-definition-tribalism-index/

That image you've posted is false in its entirety. The so-called article barely mentioned how they came up with their statistics nor how they went about with their so-called index. For what it is worth, just anybody can put up anything on the internet. Just because it comes from a website or blog does not mean it is valid.

Also, I have noticed you posting false images on nairaland of recent, many of which have no web sources or links.

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by bigfrancis21: 3:06am On Sep 27, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
oh puleease...for the hausa, its an issue of religion and whichever either of the couple choose to convert,it works..for the Yoruba's..they are particular only on the IBO's.. I guess its informed by the IBO bigotry

If that's the case, why dating an Igbo in the first place?

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Re: Igbo Men And Inter- Tribal Marriage by Nobody: 3:08am On Sep 27, 2015
bigfrancis21:


Aha!...there you go. I understand how you feel. Cases like this happen worldwide. A black girl falls in love with a white guy only for the white guy to later on marry a white girl instead. Don't brood over the issue too much. Move on, you'll find someone else. I have a classmate here in the US who is Yoruba who had the same issue too. She was deeply in love with an Igbo guy who used to work in her office. According to her, he was tall, well-built, hardworking, intelligent, good-looking, very mature for his age and understood me very well. In the end he still left me to marry a girl from the east.' Today she is happily married to a Yoruba guy who bears the same English name as her former Igbo boyfriend.

i feel sorry for him,because he did it out of pressure and duty..trust me,he just acquired a window dressing...thing is another IBO guy who would give anything for me to accept his proposal..his ex was an Edo babe whom he told me he loved to bits but his father fought against his settling down with her and told him to bring home an Igbo girl..in his search for an Igbo girl,we met..but I just from the get -go don't want anymore of the drama..but he claims he is ready to be his own man and marry his choice...

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