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Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 2:57pm On Oct 09, 2015
[b]I asked my friend, 'can you marry a lady that can't cook?' And his reply was swift and blunt.... "For wetin nau?".... Then I knew I can't continue on the topic with him.

This notion is same with over 80% of men (either Nigerians or Not). Men have this strong rule that their wife must be a good cook or average at least, But must not be a bad cook.

This has nothing to do with tribe or ethnic group, I have noticed it with men from all walks of life. Cooking shouldn't be Seen as a criteria for marrying a lady. For the fact that a lady is a good cook doesn't make her a wife material and the fact that a lady is not good in culinary duties doesn't mean She is a bad wife.

From a personal point of view, I Don't think it is a prerequisite for women to be a Very good cook. If you happen to have a wife who doesn't cook well, the man can help out by hiring maids who is good to help her out or invite Any relative over to teach her. If the man is not a Foodie (like me), they can eat out. I know this will not go down well with African men.

On a general note, men must jettison that idea and practice of making cooking a criteria for marriage or even dating. There is so much to a woman than her culinary skills.



Freeman David, a Philosopher!
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Cc lalasticlala

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Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by HungerBAD: 3:02pm On Oct 09, 2015
Na you dey talk like this?shuoor.

Me no sabi Cook and she no Sabi Cook? that means say na another man i marry na.

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Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by POWEROFPEACE(m): 3:05pm On Oct 09, 2015
Yes because food cooking problem can easily be tackled except if the woman in question is very lazy, that is when it becomes an issue.
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 3:13pm On Oct 09, 2015
Except say u want to dey eat for restaurant all ya life or make nanny dey cook for una!
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by elantraceey(f): 3:16pm On Oct 09, 2015
The tide is changing now, women now want men who can cook also but not more than them, me inclusive.

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Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 3:20pm On Oct 09, 2015
HungerBAD:
Na you dey talk like this?shuoor.

Me no sabi Cook and she no Sabi Cook? that means say na another man i marry na.

Lwkmd...

Boss maids and the likes will help out...
She can come in in other areas.
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 3:22pm On Oct 09, 2015
elantraceey:
The tide is changing now, women now want men who can cook also but not more than them, me inclusive.
Chei
I Don lose this one be that...
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 3:25pm On Oct 09, 2015
vfactor:
Except say u want to dey eat for restaurant all ya life or make nanny dey cook for una!
A good Nanny won't be bad...
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 3:27pm On Oct 09, 2015
POWEROFPEACE:
Yes because food cooking problem can easily be tackled except if the woman in question is very lazy, that is when it becomes an issue.
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 3:29pm On Oct 09, 2015
Freeman an..a good cook for a wife is essential..but a good cook almost never means she is wife material..whatever wife material means..cooking for your man is just a secret ingredient every woman must have
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 3:35pm On Oct 09, 2015
Freemanan:

A good Nanny won't be bad...

Yeah. It won't. For me its a matter of personal preference. I am selective of where I eat. So I learnt how to cook myself. And I personally don't like nannies.
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 3:36pm On Oct 09, 2015
Freemanan:

A good Nanny won't be bad...
Nanny? hian..oh..its like say a nanny should share your bed! No matter how wealthy my husband may be..i.e to afford a cook,his meals must be prepared by me! ..its just that extra special loving care..its like making sure the pantry is stuffed with some of his special things
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Taiwo20(m): 3:42pm On Oct 09, 2015
If you have experienced some poor customer service at any restuarant before, you would be tempted to think otherwise.
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 4:03pm On Oct 09, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
Nanny? hian..oh..its like say a nanny should share your bed! No matter how wealthy my husband may be..i.e to afford a cook,his meals must be prepared by me! ..its just that extra special loving care..its like making sure the pantry is stuffed with some of his special things
I grab...
But food should not be a priority in relationships
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 4:04pm On Oct 09, 2015
Taiwo20:
If you have experienced some poor customer service at any restuarant before, you would be tempted to think otherwise.
Lol...
Like Sizzlers and Kilimanjaro abi?
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 4:07pm On Oct 09, 2015
vfactor:


Yeah. It won't. For me its a matter of personal preference. I am selective of where I eat. So I learnt how to cook myself. And I personally don't like nannies.
I see...
But you know you have to compromise when you get married..
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 4:07pm On Oct 09, 2015
Freemanan:

I grab...
But food should not be a priority in relationships
Bros,it should..if she got those other wifey potentials and she can't cook,let her learn..in anycase,you can't be listed as being a wife material and cooking is not listed as a strong point...though I don't subscribe to the fact that a woman can tend the home,clean, cook, possess some qualitative character traits,manage resources in the home she then automatically is wife material..there's more to being wife material for all its worth..in any case if she is a good cook,its an added advantage...for every woman,there are some things that should be nonnegotiable in keeping a home/family
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 4:10pm On Oct 09, 2015
BlaqCoffee109:
Bros,it should..
Well, coming from a lady, who am I to oppose? grin
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 4:22pm On Oct 09, 2015
Freemanan:

Well, coming from a lady, who am I to oppose? grin
..IMO...speaking for myself tho
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Section8(m): 4:23pm On Oct 09, 2015
You go marry woman wey no sabi cook ur days go end for buka and other restaurants imagine being the man and the only one who can cook, shey Le Boo go sidown dey watch afmag while u dey slave for kitchen, and I pity the man with a working wife wey go hire maid the day ur wife go dey too busy and the ynash of the maid bcmes VERY ATTRACTIVE....YOYO oo!!!
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 4:24pm On Oct 09, 2015
Taiwo20:
If you have experienced some poor customer service at any restuarant before, you would be tempted to think otherwise.
..it ain't good' ol home cooking

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Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 4:56pm On Oct 09, 2015
Freemanan:

I see...
But you know you have to compromise when you get married..

Compromise is compulsory for marriage to succeed. But some things cannot be compromised cos of the implications!
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 5:31pm On Oct 09, 2015
vfactor:


Compromise is compulsory for marriage for marriage to succeed. But some things cannot be compromised cos of the implications!
I see.
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 5:33pm On Oct 09, 2015
Section8:
You go marry woman wey no sabi cook ur days go end for buka and other restaurants imagine being the man and the only one who can cook, shey Le Boo go sidown dey watch afmag while u dey slave for kitchen, and I pity the man with a working wife wey go hire maid the day ur wife go dey too busy and the ynash of the maid bcmes VERY ATTRACTIVE....YOYO oo!!!
Lwkmd
Your mind is corrupt
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Omotayor123(f): 10:38pm On Oct 09, 2015
The Fastest way to a man's heart is his stomach. A good wife must know how to cook. #Shikena cool

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Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Omotayor123(f): 10:40pm On Oct 09, 2015
HungerBAD:
Na you dey talk like this?shuoor.
Me no sabi Cook and she no Sabi Cook? that means say na another man i marry na.
Hunger Bad grin

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Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 11:08pm On Oct 09, 2015
Omotayor123:
The Fastest way to a man's heart is his stomach. A good wife must know how to cook. #Shikena cool
For every general rule, there is always an exception.... I guess Freeman David is the exception to this rule of yours... grin
A woman gets to my heart with things above culinary skills!

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Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Omotayor123(f): 9:31am On Oct 10, 2015
Freemanan:

For every general rule, there is always an exception.... I guess Freeman David is the exception to this rule of yours... grin
A woman gets to my heart with things above culinary skills!
I see... You won't mind going to mama put at 70
Re: Guys, It's Time To Stop Making "Cooking" A Prerequisite For A Good Wife by Nobody: 9:58am On Oct 10, 2015
Omotayor123:

I see... You won't mind going to mama put at 70
I won't mind if a Nanny cooks for me @ 100 sef...

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