I’ve been doing some research on female abuse of males in marriages for a movie script I’m co writing. I never knew this issue was as rampant as it is and yet there is hardly any publicity given to it, even in the Western world. Its so bad that when there’s a fight where the woman assaults the man and he calls the police, most of the times the man is taken away even when there is evidence to prove it. Even getting help is a problem as there is a lack of institutions set up to deal with abuse of men.

Even in Nigeria here, the cases of female violence on men is on the increase. But since this is a patriarchal society, no man wants to speak and be called a wussie. Same thing for the cases of boy child rape where some people even claim that it’s a right of passage sexually for men and even some of the victims see nothing wrong with it.

A Nigerian NGO against female violence headed by a female advocate claims that many men are coming to her to tell their stories of being abused by their wives which has surprised her but since they were set up to deal only with female victims, there is little she can do.

Read the rest of the article here http://www.jovibabs.com/when-wives-abuse-their-husbands/

Akuko MBE na umuanumanu. Protection for women can never be too much.

At least d man can fight for himself, but a woman is weak.

No to rising up for men against women.
Call me a feminist, I don't care. #istandwithwomen

SUV:
Akuko MBE na umuanumanu. Protection for women can never be too much.
At least d man can fight for himself, but a woman is weak.
No to rising up for men against women.
Call me a feminist, I don't care. #istandwithwomen

Hmmm, Typical feminist! Read the article well. It addresses emotional and psychological abuse which is even more deadly than physical violence and which some women do very well. If you want gender equality as you feminists always cry out, what is good for the goose should be good for the gander. Of course I dont support a man hitting a woman but abusing anybody no matter the sex is wrong, Period!

Nkan none.

Violence against men is usually hard to believe because when they see the woman who the man claimed to have perpetrated the violence against him the police will be like is it this small statured woman who beat a grown man like you.look yourself look her.this one fit carry cement talkless of beating you

You nor dey shame.

SUV:
Akuko MBE na umuanumanu. Protection for women can never be too much.

At least d man can fight for himself, but a woman is weak.

No to rising up for men against women.
Call me a feminist, I don't care. #istandwithwomen

And if the man fight for himself you and your ilks would still call him a woman beater

lynx200:


Hmmm, Typical feminist! Read the article well. It addresses emotional and psychological abuse which is even more deadly than physical violence and which some women do very well. If you want gender equality as you feminists always cry out, what is good for the goose should be good for the gander. Of course I dont support a man hitting a woman but abusing anybody no matter the sex is wrong, Period!

I totally agree with you on emotional and psychological abuse being more deadly than physical violence. But until we begin to understand this better in our society there is nothing much that can be done for the men. Why do I say this? When a man constantly abuses his wife verbally calling her all sorts of names and even packing her stuffs sometimes to throw her out, abusing her family and everything she stands for and meting out sexual double standards on her. If she complains, what she would meet is 'at least he doesn't beat you' ' you are lucky he does not cheat on you' 'be patient, go on your knees and pray for him, he will change' 'Ah! Don't tell another person this story if you want your marriage to work.' and then the classic 'Do everything his heart desires and you will see that he will forget all those things he is telling you'...lol. Now this is how the society handles the situation and the woman keeps absorbing and keeping quiet. Very soon she develops one silent killer disease(like heart problem) and dies off quietly, nobody knows what happened.

So please tell me how I am supposed to be an advocate to stop such treatment on men when we as women, have been tolerating emotional and psychological abuse since 19kporodom and infact, still tolerating , even expected to keep tolerating? Haba! Infact, it is the norm in the society. Seriously tell me @lynx200, If a female friend tells you she separated from her husband because of psychological and emotional abuse will you take her seriously. Especially when you don look her finish you no see any visible scar from any beating wey dey her body. You will probably dismiss it and say she is not serious in her marriage.

PinketteDawn:

I totally agree with you on emotional and psychological abuse being more deadly than physical violence. But until we begin to understand this better in our society there is nothing much that can be done for the men. Why do I say this? When a man constantly abuses his wife verbally calling her all sorts of names and even packing her stuffs sometimes to throw her out, abusing her family and everything she stands for and meting out sexual double standards on her. If she complains, what she would meet is 'at least he doesn't beat you' ' you are lucky he does not cheat on you' 'be patient, go on your knees and pray for him, he will change' 'Ah! Don't tell another person this story if you want your marriage to work.' and then the classic 'Do everything his heart desires and you will see that he will forget all those things he is telling you'...lol. Now this is how the society handles the situation and the woman keeps absorbing and keeping quiet. Very soon she develops one silent killer disease(like heart problem) and dies off quietly, nobody knows what happened.
So please tell me how I am supposed to be an advocate to stop such treatment on men when we as women, have been tolerating emotional and psychological abuse since 19kporodom and infact, still tolerating , even expected to keep tolerating? Haba! Infact, it is the norm in the society. Seriously tell me @lynx200, If a female friend tells you she separated from her husband because of psychological and emotional abuse will you take her seriously. Especially when you don look her finish you no see any visible scar from any beating wey dey her body. You will probably dismiss it and say she is not serious in her marriage.

You've made some very good points Pinkette. It's regretable that in this time and age there are men who abuse their wives in all manner of ways. I'm not denying that and I say more needs to be done to combat abuse of women in our society. But what I am saying is that the same help extended to abused women should be extended to abused men because lets face it, we all as a society suffer if abuse from both sexes is left unchecked. At least there are places that an abused woman can go to to get help and she can talk about what she's gone through. But there are so many men silently dying in pain because they can't voice out what they are suffering. Many people still believe that it doesnt happen here and I was one of them until I started work on the script job which prompted this research. Imagine if you had a brother or male friend going through such abuse, won't you try to help him as one would help an abused woman?

mrwonlasewonie:
Nkan none.

Violence against men is usually hard to believe because when they see the woman who the man claimed to have perpetrated the violence against him the police will be like is it this small statured woman who beat a grown man like you.look yourself look her.this one fit carry cement talkless of beating you

You nor dey shame.

Hehehe,
This got me laughing to the extent of farting a loud and continuous fart in mum's presence...