Have anyone seen the mans picture or his own side of the story before jumping to conclusion?

uzolexis:


At the bolded,some People behave like animals, it has nothing to do with the gender of the person, some men behave like animals too, it goes both ways. If your partner always provokes you, the best solution is too quit the relationship. You think hitting a woman makes you less of a womanliness You actually become a womanliness when you hit a woman cos it shows you lack self control but the strength of a man is when he can control himself.

I agree not just women, some humans behave like animals! You are still getting me wrong, violence will not solve most marital issues but to say there are no reasons a man should ever hit his wife is to live in denial. The same goes for women towards their man in a moment of rage. Take a look at advanced societies where a woman can hit a man and the woman is celebrated while the man is laughed at but when a man does the same he is demonized and the woman shown sympathy, this single behavior has resulted in men becoming inferior as the years went by, in an attempt to protect women, the laws have actually castrated men. This has resulted in men watching on for years and years until one day just snapping and doing the unthinkable. This is what I meant by men turning into p*ssies! In the Nigerian context we don't have such a problem, men are still in control and even though some men abuse this control, the majority of men still cherish their wives and rarely get violent with her but to say a situation would never arise where a slap or two is dished out from the husband or even the wife is just plain ridiculous! I've given you examples, this is real life and not a fairy tale, shit happens in marriages and relationships, there's a clear difference between an abusive/violent spouse and a random act of aggression coming from one's spouse!

Lucasbalo:
I stand by my point. There is no excuse for violence. I rather walk away than to get violent and end up in jail or worse, dead. Hope you get my gist.

I understand and you are entitled to your opinion, not everyone would be lucky enough to walk away!

GloriaNinja:
you are very correct, if most of the women are independent and well-to-do, their cowardly husbands won't maltreated them like slaves, domestic violence is awful, a man who beats up his wife is weak-hearted and shameless.

@ GloriaNinja, women being independent would not stop an abuser from doing his thing. A lady very close to me who has her own business (and doing great) went through serious abuse for about 5 years. When I say abuse, I mean serious “panel beating” – days of broken hands, red eyes, etc Cases that she ended up in hospital for days. She was not only abused physically, but even verbally and the man collected every kobo she made from her business. She finally “escaped” to America and the last I heard the stupid man was begging the woman’s family to send his wife back to him.

fem29:
Lord have mercy. What is going on these days. Just joined a Facebook group and there is just a ridiculous amount of domestic violence going on. Lord help us

it is not a new thing. More people are beginning to speak up. That's all.

Na Waoo.I Wonder D Kind Of Evil Spirit Dat Has Posessed The Men Of Dis Days.They Only Show Their Powers On Their Women.

They are already affecting the child psychologically, for a child to be screaming 'Mum, daddy will kill you', from his sleep. I can't imagine for how long such has been going on. Those waiting cos of the children, you are doing more harm than good to those children.

All these archaic mother's sha, she is only concerned about a useless marriage not her daughter's life, if the woman and slumped and died, I'm sure she would be cursing the man o. Nonsense.

It is well with her and her child.

abbey621:
There's always 3 sides to a story. Her side, his side and the truth! I've learned that issues of domestic violence are rarely black and white but due to the nature of men(Superior strength), we should learn to walk away. Now don't get me wrong, a slap or two would fix most women but when it comes to the point of spilling blood and head injuries, it's just not worth it! I've always said this, it's much more easier to get a divorce than to stick with a woman that gives you high blood pressure!

You know you're a fool don't you?

A slap or two as if you're talking about some littling who's your slave. What right do you have to slap your fellow human being? Would a slap or two fix you when you misbehave? Or you think you can't annoy your wife some day. Does she have the right to slap you to reset you?

All these stupid boys who have no respect for women.

Guyman02:
Have anyone seen the mans picture or his own side of the story before jumping to conclusion?

We don't need any explanation ... He should be arrested.... For attempted murder..

BeeBeeOoh:
Nigeria is looking for men to fight Boko Haram, but this foolish good for nothing man is exercising his powers on his wife.




I hate wife beater with passion

since u know nigeria is looking for people to fight boko haram, what are u waiting for?

abbey621:
There's always 3 sides to a story. Her side, his side and the truth! I've learned that issues of domestic violence are rarely black and white but due to the nature of men(Superior strength), we should learn to walk away. Now don't get me wrong, a slap or two would fix most women but when it comes to the point of spilling blood and head injuries, it's just not worth it! I've always said this, it's much more easier to get a divorce than to stick with a woman that gives you high blood pressure!

God bless u sir...

cococandy:

You know you're a fool don't you?

A slap or two as if you're talking about some littling who's your slave. What right do you have to slap your fellow human being? Would a slap or two fix you when you misbehave? Or you think you can't annoy your wife some day. Does she have the right to slap you to reset you?

All these stupid boys who have no respect for women.

You see why I said some of you deserve a slap or two? I'm sure this is how you call your boyfriend, husband, brother or father a fool too so I'm not surprised!

Congratulations!

remioshy:
Domestic abuse has been happening years and years ago, I prayed women will wise up and leave such relationships, I had the courage to leave an abusive relationship when I got lucky to be given another chance at living. I had been in an abusive relationship with my then boyfriend for about 2 years, he was so controlling , I was young and in love, he always beats me at every argument or provocation, I kept it to myself, I got pregnant for him in my final year at the university, heavily pregnant, he still beats me, but belts me on my legs and says you can beat a pregnant woman but only on her legs, I could not tell my mum because she didn't like him at all , I had a child for him and he still continues, I was scared to leave him cos I thot who will marry me now with a child, the last time he beat me, he was so angry he grabbed a plank and bang on my head, I woke up in hospital, his cousins took me there and they told the doctors I fell off the stairs, I realised there and then that if I don't leave him he will kill me one day, if I had died that day, his family would have covered for him, I didn't care anymore what people will say or who will marry me, I grabbed my child and left him, told him it was over and never to come near me again, I removed his name from my child and made sure he won't be able to find us. It's been 20 years now and I never regretted leaving him. Anytime I hear of such abuse I always remember him and what a lucky escape for me. Women should be courageous to walk away from a violent and abusive man or relationship. It's just not worth it, for the children and for them

abbey621:


You see why I said some of you deserve a slap or two? I'm sure this is how you call your boyfriend, husband, brother or father a fool too so I'm not surprised!

God forbid any man I know make this comment in real life. I'd do more than call him a fool. I'll disown him.

I don't frolick with ediots raised by ediots.

If your father wasn't resetting your mother with one or two slaps for breakfast every morning, you wouldn't have come out with that bump on your head where your brain is meant to be.

clogogo:


We don't need any explanation ... He should be arrested.... For attempted murder..

shat up ya mouth... are u his accomplice?

johnson232:

God bless u sir...

Of course.

Because he's helping you spread your misogyny.
Well all this na internet talk.

Y'all should go out there and look for females to beat up and slap. Let's see how many of you will survive it.
All you do in come online and spread hate for women and support for violence.

cococandy:

God forbid any man I know make this comment in real life. I'd do more than call him a fool. I'll disown him.

I don't frolick with ediots raised by ediots.

If your father wasn't resetting your mother with one or two slaps for breakfast every morning, you wouldn't have come out with that bump on your head where your brain is meant to be.

Thanks for confirming that you insult any man that comes your way, I'm sure your father must be very proud

What's the group name?

fem29:
Lord have mercy. What is going on these days. Just joined a Facebook group and there is just a ridiculous amount of domestic violence going on. Lord help us

johnson232:

since u know nigeria is looking for people to fight boko haram, what are u waiting for?

Wife Beater Spotted!!

Even if a woman is the one on the offensive, you are allowed to defend yourself using REASONABLE force.

So can anyone tell me where planking the other party is considered reasonable? (I'm just putting this forward to those who are saying we don't know if she provoked him).

There is no way his actions can be justified, it is excessive and he should go to jail.

Again, happy parent (especially if you are the primary caregiver)=happy child.

When it stops working for you, shift and go live the rest of your life. All these peeps who say stay and pray are not the ones chopping beating on your behalf neither would they offer to.

It is better to be alone than unhappy (Whitney Houston)

abbey621:


Thanks for confirming that you insult any man that comes your way, I'm sure your father must be very proud

My father is proud indeed. He didn't raise me to have low esteem. And he definitely didn't raise me to think its okay for a man to slap me in the name of resetting (oh the nerve of you).

Can I say the same for your father who raised an assholl like you? Prison candidate. Just try and slap someone and let's see if you won't be locked up with the keys tossed over 3rd mainland bridge.
Anu mpama.

I'd love to stay and do this though but I gotta go. Stop typing stupidd comments or you'll be hearing from me.

cococandy:

My father is proud indeed. He didn't raise me to have low esteem. And he definitely didn't raise me to think its okay for a man to slap me in the name of resetting (oh the nerve of you).

Can I say the same for your father who raised an assholl like you? Prison candidate. Just try and slap someone and let's see if you won't be locked up with the keys tossed over 3rd mainland bridge.
Anu mpama.

I'd love to stay and do this though but I gotta go. Stop typing stupidd comments or you'll be hearing from me.

hahahahahaha.....spoken like a true kid, I know you have the history of getting into confrontation on Nairaland so I won't drag myself down with you, I'll just laugh at your words and use it for my personal amusement

cococandy:

My father is proud indeed. He didn't raise me to have low esteem. And he definitely didn't raise me to think its okay for a man to slap me in the name of resetting (oh the nerve of you).

Can I say the same for your father who raised an assholl like you? Prison candidate. Just try and slap someone and let's see if you won't be locked up with the keys tossed over 3rd mainland bridge.
Anu mpama.

I'd love to stay and do this though but I gotta go. Stop typing stupidd comments or you'll be hearing from me.

God bless you, let them keep hitting women and very soon they will be paraded and put in jail or executed like their friends. I am sure that's how that one too refused to listen till he killed his wife. Most abusers don't plan to kill their spouses but one day the beating will go wrong and they will find themselves facing the noose then they will start blaming the devil

remioshy:
Domestic abuse has been happening years and years ago, I prayed women will wise up and leave such relationships, I had the courage to leave an abusive relationship when I got lucky to be given another chance at living. I had been in an abusive relationship with my then boyfriend for about 2 years, he was so controlling , I was young and in love, he always beats me at every argument or provocation, I kept it to myself, I got pregnant for him in my final year at the university, heavily pregnant, he still beats me, but belts me on my legs and says you can beat a pregnant woman but only on her legs, I could not tell my mum because she didn't like him at all , I had a child for him and he still continues, I was scared to leave him cos I thot who will marry me now with a child, the last time he beat me, he was so angry he grabbed a plank and bang on my head, I woke up in hospital, his cousins took me there and they told the doctors I fell off the stairs, I realised there and then that if I don't leave him he will kill me one day, if I had died that day, his family would have covered for him, I didn't care anymore what people will say or who will marry me, I grabbed my child and left him, told him it was over and never to come near me again, I removed his name from my child and made sure he won't be able to find us. It's been 20 years now and I never regretted leaving him. Anytime I hear of such abuse I always remember him and what a lucky escape for me. Women should be courageous to walk away from a violent and abusive man or relationship. It's just not worth it, for the children and for them

Sorry about such experience and congrats.


The story would have sounded nicer to me if you had gotten some thugs to beat him up well with a good belt and whip and probably break like 3- 4 fingers, he would surely think twice before beating up another woman just cos he feels she is at his mercy.

By the way as for this issue. Even if a thief comes to your house and you use excessive force you will go to jail
You are only meant to defend yourself to the point of ensuring your safety without doing undue damage to the attacker.

Many are in jail for killing people who tried to rob them or even rape them. The law will ask why you didn't shoot him bin the leg instead just to demobilised him. There's no way he can provide to the courts that he couldn't have gotten not of that situation with less force. Self defence does not give the right to maim people when you don't need to

to marry na by force?na question i ask o

I don't know why I find it hard to feel pity for women who are victims of domestic violence.
There's no way you can tell me that you didn't see a sign.
The rest of you that are unmarried should continue falling blinding in love.

Say no to domestic violence. He will keep hitting her until she goes six feet and then gets a replacement at the snap of fingers. Life first my dear.

fem29:
Lord have mercy. What is going on these days. Just joined a Facebook group and there is just a ridiculous amount of domestic violence going on. Lord help us

Can u send the link to the group ma'am?

Thanks

I can't even date a hot-tempered or ill-tempered man talk more of marrying one! Women dey try sha! All in the name of marriage smh

The bible says wisdom is profitable to direct. Some women and their mouth! Chaiii!!! My mother once told me a virtuous woman is that woman that runs once she senses beating from her man while a foolish woman will wait for him in challenge and say, "you go kill me today"

Lucasbalo:
How many American women have you known or dated to say Nigerian women behave better. Women are the same all over the world. There is no excuse to beating a woman. Been married for over 20 years and never touch my wife. Violence is not the answer to marital problems.

pls women are not all the same. Even though i have a problem with the northern way of life, one thing i can vouch for them at anytime is dat dia wives/women are generally humble and submissive, dey dnt compete with their men. Dey are easier to deal with than most other "civilised" women. I dnt like Islam but i tink it helps make de kind of women most men want-submissive wives!