How did the payment of bride price come into existence ?

lekkipropertyy:
I paid my long term gf bride price last weekend. . Her request was below 50k

List nko?

VocalWalls:
First of all, photoshoot... Please do a post related to ways Nigerian reacts when they are finally given #TheList

Dear OP, to be serious, are you scared already when they haven't even requested for anything?

Let me tell you the best way to go about it... Your husband should buy white sweet chalk... Shebi ma calabash them dey call am... Then lick it for three days alongside sugar...

Anything he tells them, they will Concur... I swear down... If he add red oil, na finishing be that... they will be the ones to sponsor the wedding...

Oya, on a more serious note... accept however way
could possibly mean that they don't send you at all, especially if you consider the fact that you aren't closely bonded to them. They just want your man to do the right thing and bounce... In order words, be done with you... Rightfully.

Hence, you have nothing to fear, your husband should just be loyal, give what he can, and bounce... They don't send you anymore... They probably had given up sef based on the fact that you court-married several years ago.

Anything you give them is bonus... No need to shiver.

I concur..
Cc: PHOTOSHOOT.

epmmiks:
]The Nxt 5 ppl to Comment might have something to say about this but as for me #NoComment :-
U never marry ?]

in what way did he (fayose) assit the young man to better his life in future?

DirtyGold:
If you guys did the right thing in the first instance, I dont think you'll be here asking this sorta question.

What's tha business?

Did you read the first post at all?

My advice is simply don't act like a big boy, if possible there should be no rice and stew just the bride price and nothing else but If they say want a party it should be funded by the family members that wants it. Am not yet married but that is exactly what I will do.

AyaSunday:


Did you read the first post at all?

Oversabi

Bluette:


I concur..
Cc: PHOTOSHOOT.

If he does, I will abandon all my options and vote for him...

The basic elements of the pride price paying ceremony are food and drinks, items( in the list)to be provided, and the pride price money.
Few people are required: maybe at least 5 from your husband's side.

Unless you want to make multiple trips with your husband, you can obtain the list ahead of time and take the items with you.
What most people do is convert all the items to cash. It is more convenient.

You and your husband may provide money for the entertainment to augment what your people have.

Any elder in your family should be able to give you more details, but it won't be far from what I have said.

VocalWalls:

If he does, I will abandon all my options and vote for him...

Haaaaaaaa...no Now. Pls vote and support him even if he dosent.

AyaSunday:


Did you read the first post at all?

Yes I did!
If you respected tradition as you are coming back to it now, you would not have gone to court first before the necessary groundwork.

What's tha business?

Bluette:



Haaaaaaaa...no Now. Pls vote and support him even if he dosent.

He must oh!

4 barrels of Palm wine and 2 pieces of kolanut. That's enough for ur bride price, cos you must hv milked the man dry.

VocalWalls:


He must oh!

I'm pleading on his behalf.

[quote author=Lukmann1 post=48038044]Marriage and his wahala, This is one of the reasons i don't like getting marriage, All the stressed attachment to it. LUKWOMAN NA EKWUYELI

Don't you have elders and relations to seek advice. Must you bring this here

Nyceguy92:
The basic elements of the pride price paying ceremony are food and drinks, items( in the list)to be provided, and the pride price money.
Few people are required: maybe at least 5 from your husband's side.

Unless you want to make multiple trips with your husband, you can obtain the list ahead of time and take the items with you.
What most people do is convert all the items to cash. It is more convenient.

You and your husband may provide money for the entertainment to augment what your people have.

Any elder in your family should be able to give you more details, but it won't be far from what I have said.

onye nkwuyeli ozo

Bluette:


I'm pleading on his behalf.

I no dey hear girl.plea...

ikiller:
onye nkwuyeli ozo

Mouthed!

It is very important to note that for the Yoruba culture at large there is no regard for the bride-price but the important aspect is the ceremony of the family identifying your husband traditionally and prayers being said by elder members of the family.

A poster has above listed the items that would be expected to be bought

here is a post by another NL member miteolu

The Yoruba Traditional Wedding Engagement list is presented to the groom’s family from the bride’s family some weeks prior to the traditional wedding day. The gift items asked for on the list (known as Eru Iyawo in Yoruba) are packaged and presented to the family of the bride on the traditional wedding day. The engagement list items below are not set in stone, although some like the Bible/Quoran, bitter kola, and are a must.

The items on the engagement list will differ based on what part of Yorubaland the bride’s family is from and your family may decide to ask for more or less items. The groom’s family can also haggle to reduce the number of items. The engagement list is drafted by the bride’s family members and unfortunately the bride has no say as to what is requested.

Yoruba Engagement List (Eru Iyawo List)

42 Bitter kolas (Orogbo)
42 Tubers of yam (Isu)
42 Kolanuts (Obi abata)
42 Chilli/Alligator Peppers (Atare)
42 pieces of dried Fish (Eja Osan)
1 Dish of peppered corn meal (Aadun)
1 Pack of Sugar
2 Baskets of Fruit (incl Coconuts, oranges , pawpaw, sugar cane, pineapple , water melon)
2 Decanters filled with honey
4 Crates of canned or bottled soft drinks
2 Crates malt soft drinks
4 Cartons of bottled water
2 Bottles of non alcoholic wine/ could be alcoholic dependent on the family
1 Bag of salt
1 Bag of rice
1 Umbrella
1 Goat
1 Keg of palmwine
1 Keg of groundnut oil
1 Big suitcase containing clothes, shoes and hand bags including aso-oke fabric, 2 sets of lace with gele and 2 sets of ankara
1 Wrist watch, Earrings and Chains
Biscuits and Sweets
Engagement rings for bride and groom
Bible(for Christians)
Quran, praying mat, praying kettle, rosary, white hijab, veil and tasbir (for Muslim weddings)

Money /Fees
Owo Ori (The Bride Price) – Varies
Owo Ijoko Agba (Money for the elders consent) – N2000
Owo Baba Gbo (Money for the bride’s father’s consent) – N5000
Owo Iya Gbo (Money for the bride’s mother’s consent) – N5000
Owo Ikanlekun(Door knocking fee) – N1000
Owo Isiju Iyawo (Fee for unveiling the bride) – N1000
Owo Aeroplane (Bride transportation fee) – N1000
Owo Iyawo Ile (Money for the Housewives) -N5000
Owo Omo Ile (Money for the Children of the household) – N1000
Owo letter kika (Letter reading fee)-N1000
Owo Telephone (Fee to call the bride out) – N1000
Owo Isigba (Engagement gifts unveiling fee) – N1000
Owo Alaga Ijoko (Master of Ceremonies fee) – N1000

*note : the amounts above can be adjusted to suite your abilities, but you get the idea

The money is collected at different points during the traditional wedding ceremony, while the gift items are arranged at the venue before the ceremony starts. Gifts are usually packaged in baskets or boxes, which are coordinated to match the wedding colour scheme or wedding theme.

Here are pictures of some packaged engagement gifts at Yoruba traditional engagement.

www.nairaland.com/attachments/2920751_eruiyawo_jpeg0f88e73571ea9747b8536941352dc706

I would recommend you seek advise from a close friend's mother or a wise elderly lady of good repute whom you can confide in.

VocalWalls:

I no dey hear girl.plea...

Kikikikikikikiki... So whos' plea o

sweetgala:
It is very important to note that for the Yoruba culture at large there is no regard for the bride-price but the important aspect is the ceremony of the family identifying your husband traditionally and prayers being said by elder members of the family.

A poster has above listed the items that would be expected to be bought

here is a post by another NL member miteolu



www.nairaland.com/attachments/2920751_eruiyawo_jpeg0f88e73571ea9747b8536941352dc706

I would recommend you seek advise from a close friend's mother or a wise elderly lady of good repute whom you can confide in.

Why all those lists?

I thought the op typed bride price!!

Bride price is different from dowry!!!!!

DICKtator:



Why all those lists?

I thought the op typed bride price!!

Bride price is different from dowry!!!!!

She would be doing the engagement and introduction the same time, this in-fact was how Yoruba traditionally and culturally married off their daughters in a modest singular event before the fanfare of big white owambe asho ebi weddings came to be

AyaSunday:
Please I news inputs on how best to get this done:

My husband has decided to pay my bride price after we did our Court Wedding several years ago. The truth is we married when we had almost nothing so we just didn't want to be burdened with financial pressures. I am an orphan and my husband is from a very humble background.

I am Yoruba, hubby is Akwa Ibom
I am from a large family with many very rich and comfortable peeps but we all don't relate well cos our parents never really brought us together with them when they were alive.


We are meeting the eldest member of my family soon but I want to ask for your opinions on how to go about the ceremony? Cos my extended family is saying they will accept however way I and my husband want the ceremony done.
I believe they said that since the funding will not come from any of them, other than I and hubby.

Please for those that have done bride price paying ceremony (if there's anything like that), can you please advice me on how to go about it?

I do not want something too poor or too expensive. Just moderate but I need to know the basic things we should have.

Welcome to yorubaland, where we Dont depend on bride price to pay our age long debts, send other children to school, buy/furnish a house, buy cloth, buy spoon, etc.

What's the difference between bride price and dowry

ikiller:
onye nkwuyeli ozo

Sorry, but I don't understand...

DirtyGold:
If you guys did the right thing in the first instance, I dont think you'll be here asking this sorta question.

What's tha business?

u mumu pass dona trump

lekkipropertyy:
I paid my long term gf bride price last weekend. . Her request was below 50k

It all boils down to the bride's family.

Mine was 28k in total sef.

Just fix date to see the Olori Ebi. Come with his fam members. You and hubby, wear and co Lace material. No too much paparazzi. They will deliver the bride price stuff. Family will pray for you, then photo session. Before 5pm, una don comot.

Marriage don set. I have no idea why people make weddings so much of a big deal

Hubby now felt if he knew how simple and easy it was, we would av been married 3 years b4 we did. Anyways, God bless my family for making the wedding simple and easy for him.

We kukuma saved the party money

love4rent80s:
What's the difference between bride price and dowry

You pay bride price to marry a woman

You pay dowry to marry a man

We don't pay dowry in Nigeria. It's mostly seen in India and traditional/old school europe.

Bluette:


I concur..
Cc: PHOTOSHOOT.

. Wat re u concurring, na copy and paste the guy dey do.

He suddenly turn to zikoko agent ontop MR.NAIRALAND Contest. Rubbish



Happy Sunday

VocalWalls:


He must oh!

shey u think say he dey creative reach that level?

Na copy and paste e boy dey do na, wait till zikoko.com update something like dat so he can copy nd paste here



Happy Sunday.

uchennaq:
Don't you have elders and relations to seek advice. Must you bring this here

Obviously you didn't read the first post