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Florblu:
Hmmmmm.....Treat her like your own daughter and let the mother stay away from your home.No form of contact should be between your husband and his baby mama.Just like Sarah you gonna laugh and celebrate soon

my dear. Can you do that? If you were the mither of the girl, will you accept that. I feel this your idea can only be possible if the lady in question is married already.

This kind of pressing matter created since end of July is being brought to FP in September

Temilola01:
I really need people's advice on how to handle this, as the next few weeks will either break or make my marriage stronger. My husband and I have been married for 5yrs now but we have been together for 11yrs. We have been through so much together, ivf procedures, miscarriages, failed businesses and the usual ups and downs in every relationship. He came to me last night after discovering he has an 18yr daughter who he has never met or did not know till yesterday. We are still waiting on God. Although this was before we met but does not make it less of a blow. I want him to do right by his daughter but I also fear for my marriage. I only just learnt about this literally 8hrs ago so I'm in shock and still trying to wrap my head around it. I need people's unbiased advice. Thank you everyone.

Embrace it....it's fate, though it hurts, because the love will somewhat be distracted and divided. If u feel comfy living with little child, bring the child home and show some love...but if u ain't comfy living with the kid, show support by always asking and showing care. Don't deny the child whatever you believe your own child will want or be given. Believe me you will forever be grateful

Na wa, it's a nice time to be a man ESP in naija.


I have one kwesion, why is it that some societies are quick to say......

Ori omo L'oun pe omo wale
when they suspect it's the woman's fault there are no kids in the union. And ask her to allow hubby bang other women in a bid to make any of his sidebabes have kids and maybe the wife would have hers too.

But if it is confirmed that the man is the problem, the same principle doesn't apply. The wife is asked to sit down and fast and pray for husbands shooter to recover fast and do it's natural job. Why doesn't the Ori Omo L' oun pe omo wale apply to the man too?

I really did not wish to reply but had to,this is not an insult but seriously if you and your husband(whom i assume you love dearly)has a problem you can fix it without coming to nairaland or any social media site...just thinking out loud

Believ in God, trust in him nd very soon u wil laugh while satan cry. Take the girl as urs, God bless u

Free ur mind nd don't let ur feelin destroy ur marriage. Go bk sit wit ur husband and discuss the future of the child. Find out if the mother is willin to giv ur husband the child, if she is fine, if not; then he should find a away to send aids to her. Its well

Temilola01:
I really need people's advice on how to handle this, as the next few weeks will either break or make my marriage stronger. My husband and I have been married for 5yrs now but we have been together for 11yrs. We have been through so much together, ivf procedures, miscarriages, failed businesses and the usual ups and downs in every relationship. He came to me last night after discovering he has an 18yr daughter who he has never met or did not know till yesterday. We are still waiting on God. Although this was before we met but does not make it less of a blow. I want him to do right by his daughter but I also fear for my marriage. I only just learnt about this literally 8hrs ago so I'm in shock and still trying to wrap my head around it. I need people's unbiased advice. Thank you everyone.

my dear, believe God, d realization of dis daughter n how much u pple accept dis daughter will to a large extent determine if u will av ur own children.

pls don't pretend but give all ur heart to dis girl wen she comes. see her as ur own daughter @ least u still av d right to av a son in d future.

She's 18. She'll be married off in a few years. It's only male children that are trouble.

Temilola01:
I really need people's advice on how to handle this, as the next few weeks will either break or make my marriage stronger. My husband and I have been married for 5yrs now but we have been together for 11yrs. We have been through so much together, ivf procedures, miscarriages, failed businesses and the usual ups and downs in every relationship. He came to me last night after discovering he has an 18yr daughter who he has never met or did not know till yesterday. We are still waiting on God. Although this was before we met but does not make it less of a blow. I want him to do right by his daughter but I also fear for my marriage. I only just learnt about this literally 8hrs ago so I'm in shock and still trying to wrap my head around it. I need people's unbiased advice. Thank you everyone.

madam there's no need exploding, take her as your own child , respect and love her. WHAT YOU EXPECT YOU RESPECT AND LOVE. WHAT YOU RESPECT AND LOVE YOU ATTRACT

LuvU2:
Everyone is absolving the man of blame. 'He shouldnt be blamed', ' accidental discharge', 'he didnt know' blablabla.

Flip roles, assuming a man was posting this, saying his wife has a child out of wedlock,

the "hôes, whôres and bîtches" choristers would populate the thread lready.

No sense whatsoever in ur contribution.

Pple who have been commenting so far understand also that a man can av a child without honestly knowing abt it for years (Tnx to the child's mother) But will a woman actually av a child and claim oblivion?

Receive brain!

oglalasioux:
She's 18. She'll be married off in a few years. It's only male children that are trouble.

Male children shelf are not trouble if you are a nice woman.

Some will blend better than with their mother cos she can indulge him more than mama will.

It's an issue you've got no control over so just concentrate more on controlling your emotions.
Going back, I wonder how the story was presented to your husband. 18 YEARS There had better been an undeniable facial resemblance shared by him & the girl.
O ga o.
Pls I'm calling out to all y'all Ho's I've poured in in the past. Bring forth my fruits y'all keeping NOW or FoREVER HOLD YOUR PEACE.

Eketem:
1. Your emotions and fears are valid don't let anyone downplay it for you or force you to automatically accept this and act happy

2. You have been through a lot with conception so it is a shock to find this out

3. Don't rush into trying to be her mother, even your husband cannot automatically become her father, you guys are just getting to know each other, she has her own mother the best you can do is get to know her as she is and as you are no pretence.

4. Extend the basic decency and fairness in relating to her, don’t be rude or project your insecurity on her. Be calm let whatever relationship you would have with her naturally develop

5. She is coming to meet her father not to snatch your husband or too make her mother marry your husband, you are his wife she is his daughter there is no competition

6. I wish you the best. The worst thing you can do at the point is suppress your hurt and pretend. It would burst one day

I go with this comment. It makes good sense. Op, take one step at a time. No need to rush. Peace be yours.

abbey621:


It's not about my conscience, it's about reality! I don't know why most women are so overwhelmed by emotions that they fail to consider the consequences of their actions or inaction. All I'm saying here is that in most African homes, men make most of the vital decisions. There might be a need to consult the wife at times but mostly the decision maker is the man unless he willingly gives up that right. It's a God giving role, a traditional role and a natural role. Now don't get me wrong,serious issues like this one should definitely involve dialogue with one's spouse but for the woman to think she can use force to deny a man's legitimate child or in the name of jealousy or bitterness is just plain silly. Anything short of juju will not work . For the issue of not having a child for the man after some years, it is simple. This according to African societal values and tradition is a negative, she's already being judged, making her husband unhappy or bringing up outrageous demands might just be the catalyst needed to end it all! THIS IS AFRICA, FORGET ABOUT THOSE MOVIES YOU WATCH ON TV!

What is ur conscience telling u?

PDF:



No sense whatsoever in ur contribution.

Pple who have been commenting so far understand also that a man can av a child without honestly knowing abt it for years (Tnx to the child's mother) But will a woman actually av a child and claim oblivion?

Receive brain!

too bad, I dnt reason wif people struggling with 50/55 I Q

delishpot:
Na wa, it's a nice time to be a man ESP in naija.


I have one kwesion, why is it that some societies are quick to say......

Ori omo L'oun pe omo wale
when they suspect it's the woman's fault there are no kids in the union. And ask her to allow hubby bang other women in a bid to make any of his sidebabes have kids and maybe the wife would have hers too.

But if it is confirmed that the man is the problem, the same principle doesn't apply. The wife is asked to sit down and fast and pray for husbands shooter to recover fast and do it's natural job. Why doesn't the Ori Omo L' oun pe omo wale apply to the man too?

Women shouldnt allow themselves get treated in this manner. If most of us wise up, this will stop.

That nonsense tradition cannot work with me or any of my relatives.

for me, one good thing about it, at least now you are sure that your husband is "potent" enough to impregnate you, and that is a word of hope as it concerns your delay childbirth

Am not a family guy though
But i think u should encourage him to meet his daughter and u should he calm also give him the necessary support, also try to know the gals mother and make friends wirh her,
Always pray to God

Please take her as your own, love her more than ur husband will love her and see what God will do on your behalf.

You have to be very careful, I think your husband has just acquired a replacement for you under the guise of a lost daughter.

Inlaws at work.

Have DSTV remove telemundo from dstv and u would notice the change.

take a bold step by belief urs child is comming soon... keep ur marriage nothing to worried about

ikbnice:
Has there been DNA test to ascertain the paternity of that child? Why has the woman waited so long to contact him. They shouldn't just accept that dogmatically. But if afterwards proven to be true, they have no choice than to live with the reality but honestly, their relationship may never remain the same.

I don't understand the need for a third person plural tense when you are supposedly talking directly to the person affected, the message looses its empathy

Florblu:
Hmmmmm.....Treat her like your own daughter and let the mother stay away from your home.No form of contact should be between your husband and his baby mama.Just like Sarah you gonna laugh and celebrate soon

How can there be no contact between a man and the mother of his child?

In my opinion, that is the kind of thing that ultimately leads to the very same issues you are trying to avoid. Soon the man begins to creep around behind you to go see the woman, you find out, trust is broken and all that you have been struggling to build is out of the window.

My advise is that you not only allow the man to relate freely with his child and her mother, but you also need to build a good relationship with both of them. Make room for openness and raise concerns where necessary to avoid any shadiness.

Don't know for a fact but I suspect the baby mama did not put her life on hold all of this time...18 years is a long time. So I do not think she will be aiming to build any kind of conjugal relationship with her child's father right now.

Exercise patience and continue to pray to God. I am sure he will grant you your own fruit soon. May God grant you wisdom in dealing with this matter.

First of all, we are humans with emotions but I tell you that This is a TEST!

Take all the Good advice that has been shared here and remain positive. There's nothing too hard for my God

If the daughter is truly his,keep calm dear.Accepted the daughter wholly and be the best to her.Don't fear,nothing is going to happen to your marriage, instead it will be more stronger and through her God will bless you too.

misspicy:

I don't want to read meaning to this but I can't help it


your point

I understand and share your view of equality between male and female child, sometimes a female child is more than three male combine.

However, I think his point is that the society see things from a different point of view, which may lead to family and peer pressure that may complicate things for the lady in question.

Temilola01:
I really need people's advice on how to handle this, as the next few weeks will either break or make my marriage stronger. My husband and I have been married for 5yrs now but we have been together for 11yrs. We have been through so much together, ivf procedures, miscarriages, failed businesses and the usual ups and downs in every relationship. He came to me last night after discovering he has an 18yr daughter who he has never met or did not know till yesterday. We are still waiting on God. Although this was before we met but does not make it less of a blow. I want him to do right by his daughter but I also fear for my marriage. I only just learnt about this literally 8hrs ago so I'm in shock and still trying to wrap my head around it. I need people's unbiased advice. Thank you everyone.

Madam calm down and embrace the child
ori omo lo nfomo waye...

Leave and lose everything...

Temilola01:
I really need people's advice on how to handle this, as the next few weeks will either break or make my marriage stronger. My husband and I have been married for 5yrs now but we have been together for 11yrs. We have been through so much together, ivf procedures, miscarriages, failed businesses and the usual ups and downs in every relationship. He came to me last night after discovering he has an 18yr daughter who he has never met or did not know till yesterday. We are still waiting on God. Although this was before we met but does not make it less of a blow. I want him to do right by his daughter but I also fear for my marriage. I only just learnt about this literally 8hrs ago so I'm in shock and still trying to wrap my head around it. I need people's unbiased advice. Thank you everyone.

is it that you cannot be a mother to your husband's daughter? or is it because she is not yours? take a very good look at your conscience and determine if you are a good person.