You have no sense honestly...

darbeelicous:
No lady wants to get married to a poor guy, but the guy in question should be hardworking and financially balanced. In a way that he can cater for his family.

Please, don't have children in abject poverty.
Don't breed kids you cannot feed.

Alondra:
The man reasoned relatively to his problems overlooking the consequences and effect of his advice.

Poverty to begin with is on increase, average Nigerian can not feed on $3 per day and here comes a man who encourages getting married, making a family with no financial sustainability.


Crime rates elevates daily, children bore in poverty tend to be involved in criminal activities. Everyone wants to live a better live, those won't cant afford it find alternatives ( crimes) tho not all but majority of them.

Moral standard is decreasing continually. While both parents struggle day and night to feed, who takes care of the children?. Will there be time to give the children moral training needed?

If I continue on and on I will take over the whole thread. I see no reason why you should have a family when you aren't certain on what to feed them with.

My sister you don't need the whole world...you're a lady with all due respect to the female folks here. How long will you work? How much will you make before you look around and breathe a sigh of relief? Do you know how incredibly tough it is as a guy to get someone who truly loves you for who you are and not what you own? Do you know how much tougher it seems when you have all the 'money' to go around? Well people marry for various reasons. With all due respect, the greatest injustice poverty has inflicted on us is the disease of the mind. Two heads are better than one. Combine your resources with him, pull your wits and face the world together. Poverty won't kill both of you. And there's no rule that says you can't advance financially once married...that's a lie from the pit of Hades.

Berbierklaus:

We know a ban will end your life

Besides watch and see if I will be banned or not
hahahahaha,what a comedian

Both of you are responsible people. Cmon. I'm very sure you both didn't really mean to hurl insults @ each other. You guys are the best ok. Just overlook everything, we're here to have fun and learn.

emperormossad:

My sister you don't need the whole world...you're a lady with all due respect to the female folks here. How long will you work? How much will you make before you look around and breathe a sigh of relief? Do you know how incredibly tough it is as a guy to get someone who truly loves you for who you are and not what you own? Do you know how much tougher it seems when you have all the 'money' to go around? Well people marry for various reasons. With all due respect, the greatest injustice poverty has inflicted on us is the disease of the mind. Two heads are better than one. Combine your resources with him, pull your wits and face the world together. Poverty won't kill both of you. And there's no rule that says you can't advance financially once married...that's a lie from the pit of Hades.

No one is saying you have to own the money in the whole world before you marry. But improper preparations leads to improper failure. I for one ain't ready to marry without having a stable source of income. I hope I'm able to help you understand my earlier post better

HarveySpecter1:


Well said. Most Nigerians care about having their kids out of the universities before they hit 50years. The development and success of these kids do not matter. To them, it's not how well but how fast.

Harveyspecter1

Exactly... bill gates was a billionaire in his early 20s with no degree... i wonder how old his parents were?
Main thing is to go into it mentally prepared and ready

HarveySpecter1:



Nice point of view but your last paragraph is so flawed. It's fine that you will rather " eat results than potentials" but dont forget that your rule should apply to you too. Most girls have the wack mindset that the men should be financially healthy while they contribute a little or nothing. I would like to ask you and your fellow girls the following....

Did you not go to the school that the guys attended?
Was the syllabus used for the guys different from that used for the girls ?
Do we not have the same brain? Do you accept that our brains are superior to yours? If our brains are superior then girls are inferior to guys. QED

If a man should realise his potentials and turn it to results so should our girls. African women should wake up. Twerking,bj and f0rking around can't bring as much money as the brain.

If a husband should earn 300k/month, the wife should earn likewise. African men are also the problem. They except less from women and African women give far below " less".

i like your thinking

darbeelicous:
No lady wants to get married to a poor guy, but the guy in question should be hardworking and financially balanced. In a way that he can cater for his family.

Since you are also educated, try to get something doing not just to support your husband but to contribute substantially to the family. He shouldn't be the only one catering for the family. In countries like the USA,canada and UK , women work and contribute to the welfare of the family.

Are you African women brain dead that you don't see yourselves being rich from the works of your brain. Ahhh. Why do you all think like this? Ans you lots will be asking why African men have no respect for y'all.

HarveySpecter1

Africans, NIGERIANS, third world countries, we all have one thing in common : producing babies like rats irrespective of whether we can provide QUALITY livelihood for those kids

Our economy is dying, infrastructure non existent or decaying, and yet all we think about is produce more population to weigh down on the little infrastructure and social amenities we have left

Check the pattern, the wealthy nations and also the wealthy ones in our country too, don't see this marriage and producing babies thing as an accomplishment, most times you'll see just a kid or two and the best quality of life is provided for them, but it's from those broke niggas or the average struggling ones that you keep hearing marry marry marry, born born born, that's the highest accomplishment

It beats my imagination how some people assume that producing babies like rats is the only thing that can make a man/woman happy and fulfilled in life. How can someone who was raised in a struggling home filled with poverty want to quickly rush and bring in kids to experience the same suffering they went through

What's the point of having 7 kids at the age of 50 and the best yoh can offer them is public schools of #2000 school fees, is it not better to have 2 kids at 50 and provide quality education and upbringing to that kid, is it not better for both you and society

We keep producing prospective issues for the society, touts, thiefs, prostitutes, just name it, someone who doesn't even have sufficient to financial backing to withstand multiple emergencies will be pressured into marriage and it will be hailed as an accomplishment, and 20yrs from now, we'll want whoever is the president to turn nigeria to usa overnight

Why do countries like China now have their govt enforcing a population cap by legally allowing only one kid per household, despite being so better off than us in all aspects, yet as poor as we are as a country we keep pressuring our young ones to keep marrying and producing babies

The president of united States has only two kids, daughters for that matter, I have never heard any outrage from his countrymen, imagine if this was a nigerian.

This is how most of my friends who bowed to society pressure and entered the eternal rat race in the name of marriage and kids keep asking for financial help every now and then, and next thing you'll see a post on fb with them and the kids saying how God is doing it and they're so happy, the ones who are not yet into it will be fooled.

It is well

GOFRONT:
Abeg....Later he wil start tellin us that family plannin is not good....That we should try and produce upto 21 kids.......Disffrent stroke for diffrent folks Mr Man!!!

BTW, since he has realize his mistake, I hope to start seeing his Pre Weddin pics soonest or What is he still Waitin for?

You don't mean this do you? Making fun of people to prove a point? Cmon man. We should be homies

GOFRONT:
Abeg....Later he wil start tellin us that family plannin is not good....That we should try and produce upto 21 kids.......Disffrent stroke for diffrent folks Mr Man!!!

BTW, since he has realize his mistake, I hope to start seeing his Pre Weddin pics soonest or What is he still Waitin for?

You don't mean thi do you? Making fun of people to prove a point? Cmon man. We should be homies

Before some wholly adopt the Jude advice, think of them Fulani beggars who marry early and dump dozens of kids early as well.

I'm sure they are not enjoying the experience. Then again, they are growing /playing / begging with their kids on the streets.

What a fantastic outcome!

nigeriancuban:
Is marriage the main priority in life I don't know why people see children as one of the bigeat achievement of their life, its the same attitude that has put Nigeria in the population mess we are in today.....


I don't agree with the animal ooo, gone ate the days when life was about kids, now make sure you have enough to give your kids the best or else your kid will end up being killed for stealing garry

You can raise your kid(s) without marrying, your choice. I don't think his statements warrant you calling him an animal. That's wrong.

Truth be told, i quite agree with him, though am 28 and looking forward to getting married soonest, most guys my age range spend lavishly on irrelevant things, beer, women, party etc and when its late they begin to regret not settling down earlier with the humane wealth they had.

benedictnsi:
Lol...... D guy is just lamenting ....

His business though.... I need to be comfortable a bit before I even start thinking about marriage

nd wen will u be comfortable

Marriage is overrated; it is not the most important thing in life

emperormossad:

My sister you don't need the whole world...you're a lady with all due respect to the female folks here. How long will you work? How much will you make before you look around and breathe a sigh of relief? Do you know how incredibly tough it is as a guy to get someone who truly loves you for who you are and not what you own? Do you know how much tougher it seems when you have all the 'money' to go around? Well people marry for various reasons. With all due respect, the greatest injustice poverty has inflicted on us is the disease of the mind. Two heads are better than one. Combine your resources with him, pull your wits and face the world together. Poverty won't kill both of you. And there's no rule that says you can't advance financially once married...that's a lie from the pit of Hades.

This is just theory

Alondra:
No one is saying you have to own the money in the whole world before you marry. But improper preparations leads to improper failure. I for one ain't ready to marry without having a stable source of income. I hope I'm able to help you understand my earlier post better

Gbam!!!

Mikylopez:
den what everyday you go about begging people for money to buy baby food to buy diapers hell no. although i agree with getting married early buy u cant do dat if u aren't financially buoyant to take car of your house expenses if any guy does dat he is indirectly inviting a third party to their marriage

Madam no big deal in all dis marriage brouhaha.
If a man is working, let him get a working class lady too.
No matter how little from each other... With love, u guys gon make it.

goingape:
that's our naija women mentality!

what can a woman offer if not her yansh?

It's a pity that none of them wants to be different. No wonder they get excited when told that they have large butts. They see having large butts as having good future.

When you converse with some of them, you will feel like weeping at their shallowness. It's pathetic.

chacoonder:
Though i totally disagree with some of your notions but you still made a few points. There are still a handful of decent women in our society , just that they are hard to get.But i can assure you that we still have them amongst us.

indeed!


no handful of decent women in our society, those one you see are the repented one! there have left a horrible past behind them which if discovered can damage you.

micflo28:
Truth be told, i quite agree with him, though am 28 and looking forward to getting married soonest, most guys my age range spend lavishly on irrelevant things, beer, women, party etc and when its late they begin to regret not settling down earlier with the humane wealth they had.

So lemme get this, you want to get married because "most guys spend lavishly and regret it".

Do you spend lavishly? And, if you do, is marriage the way to get out of the habit?

emperormossad:

You can raise your kid(s) without marrying, your choice. I don't think his statements warrant you calling him an animal. That's wrong.

okay, maybe he is not an animal but only someone who is not in school(university or secondary) and don't have any youth service to worry about will have such thoughts going through his mind....


Is getting a kid he main priority? Ain't you gonna put the kids in school,ain't you gonna give hem the best education so they can be useful to themselves? Well Its obvious that the guys doesn't even have such thoughts in his mind, maybe the children go go learn work(him tol)

NON-MATERIAL QUALITIES of a man > His money or lack thereof.

The former is what I care about.

goingape:
indeed!


no handful of decent women in our society, those one you see are the repented one! there have left a horrible past behind them which if discovered can damage you.

And all the men running around are saints with all the decency in the world.

Kettle/Pot

benedictnsi:
Lol...... D guy is just lamenting ....

His business though.... I need to be comfortable a bit before I even start thinking about marriage

I hope you have a job. Just asking

Akinman:
Marriage is overrated; it is not the most important thing in life

Gbam!!!
But our society makes it seem like it's the only thing that matters.

Bride price is enough as far as I'm concerned

Alondra:
No one is saying you have to own the money in the whole world before you marry. But improper preparations leads to improper failure. I for one ain't ready to marry without having a stable source of income. I hope I'm able to help you understand my earlier post better

And that stable source cannot become unstable and disappear due to 'circumstances' beyond your control? You have it today is no guarantee it will be there tomorrow. I'm not comfortable buliding homes and dreams around 'fleeting' commodities, money inclusive. Stability is a relative term subject to change. I perfectly understand your previous post honey. Very well.

goingape:
indeed!


no handful of decent women in our society, those one you see are the repented one! there have left a horrible past behind them which if discovered can damage you.

Well..that's your view though.

Smellymouth:
Ogbeni talk to naija ladies jare..


Which babe ready to settle down with a broke 24 year old dude?

The ladies are over there.. Go and talk to them..

Bros u are so so on point. Wetin concern naija babes with a broke ass nigga.

HarveySpecter1:


It's a pity that none of them wants to be different. No wonder they get excited when told that they have large butts. They see having large butts as having good future.

When you converse with some of them, you will feel like weeping at their shallowness. It's pathetic.

to be honest there are not intelligent and when trying to start a convo, you will find yourself as being dumb by just talking with them alone.

all them every think of is how large their svpid yansh is and what to eat! the black women don't every think on how to be successful and a help mate!


just look at that typical wolf up there who said she rather eat result than potential

she only think of her self just like a parasite.