I love the analogy used here...






"MARRIAGE is like a shoe. When you wear oversize, be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life".





One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is. That is why I thought it necessary to write you this letter.
Dear Singles, When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things:




PHYSICAL APPEARANCE : Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and belief, the one who you meet at your life's journey. It is important to know where you're going in life before you think of getting a wife.




POSITION : All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place. There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people's sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe.



Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can't just be everywhere.


Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values.



PERCEPTION : In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy.


This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (Pastors and Relationship coaches). And most importantly to avoid much time wasting time, simply consult the SHOE MANUFACTURER to tell you your size (GOD ALMIGHTY ).



"You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage." Ladies these days get so motivated when they attend wedding and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy.
Wait!!! It is not just the wedding oh. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT?


Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it. Ask questions -Where is this shoe made from? (Background) -What's the size (Values) -How much (His/Her interest) -How long will it last (His/Her Character) -Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith This is compatibility) -Will it match me? (This is whether he/she love you and will accept you the way you are)



Dear one, remember many are dragging their foot and they would hardly reach their destinies, many are feeling endless pains and wish they could pull off the shoes but no way!!! I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars.


Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is the size, you can't know the sizel from afar so come close, build a relationship first but remember 'you are not permitted to try it before you buy it'.


And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes, you can still make it your size again if you'd consult the manufacturer and let Him have His way in your marriage. God bless us all.

Ok

Interesting.

I love the analogy using shoes. Made the writeup easier to understand and assimilate. God bless you too

Atleast you will test the shoe with your leg before buying it. If you now buy over size or under size after then, OYO is your case.

There's someone for everyone

op, are you married?

some shoes shrink in siz
some legs ougrow the sho
you can always buy another shoe for comfort

Constellation of fine nonesense here basically. Shoe kor suit ni. You better go and sleep so you no go late get to work tomorrow.

bitchcrafts:
Constellation of fine nonesense here basically. Shoe kor suit ni. You better go and sleep so you no go late get to work tomorrow.

it's not necessary for you to comment on my post

Idydarling:
op, are you married?

I'm not married

lilyqueen:



it's not necessary for you to comment on my post

Pele o. Na my hand u suppose con hold nah, or change your privacy setting to 'only me' or something. Mtseew!

lilyqueen:


I'm not married

ok, ur post is full of Wisdom, thumbs up! ☺

Idydarling:
ok, ur post is full of Wisdom, thumbs up! ☺

thanks Darling

mumumugu:
some shoes shrink in size

some legs ougrow the shoe

you can always buy another shoe for comfort

this ur siggy self...

This site sucks in many ways. No matter how magnificent a write up is one will never fail to see one "nonsense" emerge from no where to display the worst levels of stupidity.
i really don't blame them but the owner of this site who has failed to improve on it.
See how Facebook has upgraded from level to level over the years but nairaland has never been able make the slightest changes known to me to improve user experience, comfort and confidence.
What is wrong with upgrading this site to give OPs the privilege to delete nonsense and block the nonsense sources from where they emanated?. Rather than being forced to condescend to verbal exchanges with people having no capacity for good reasoning.
See nonsense?. Don't give a reply. Simply delete and block!.
Some of these folks, i have come to realize are kids in primary and junior secondary schools with little experience in life.
This is one reason I seldom put up topics in this forum.
Sorry about everything OP. Your courage and efforts are clearly appreciated by the majority so don't be discouraged. It is well with you IJN.

I'll look for the beautiful and nice ones, within my size, and in the right places. Nice piece.

Beautiful write up ma'am ,

Never ever marry because u think it'll make u happy, it's a journey not a semester. Marry for the right reasons o, #love.


But this write-up supoz dy fp o.

Beautiful...

May God give me my shoe size...I can't comman be dragging shoe or walking in a painful shoe till d end of my life...it's just like hell on earth...

Sincere4u:
I'll look for the beautiful and nice ones, within my size, and in the right places. Nice piece.

Oh yeah, on point bro, on point.

refiner:
Beautiful...

May God give me my shoe size...I can't comman be dragging shoe or walking in a painful shoe till d end of my life...it's just like hell on earth...

God will do it, just don't lose focus on him. Cheers.
Refiner!,
Nice moniker ....is that what they call it?.

AlexCk:
Beautiful write up ma'am ,

Never ever marry because u think it'll make u happy, it's a journey not a semester. Marry for the right reasons o, #love.


But this write-up supoz dy fp o.

On point. I wonder the criteria used in determining what goes to the front page.

karacta1:

God will do it, just don't lose focus on him. Cheers.
Refiner!,
Nice moniker ....is that what they call it?.

Yea...thanks

This is perfect

This is a perfect analogy...A simple mistake in this aspect ruins a lot of things

all these unmarried ladies wey go dey give marriage advice upandan, na their dey flop pass. mstchewww.

karacta1:


Oh yeah, on point bro, on point.

Thanks dear. There seem to be no straight rules anymore on this issue. Most rules have been broken. Frustrations everywhere. When it's your time bro, use my template and never put all your hope on a girl. Guard your heart. Use your head and not your heart for the most part and look beyond your immediate environment. Gone are those days she must be from the next street or your Church.
These are desperately wicked times. Do it prayerful.

This is mainly for the girls

Sincere4u:

Thanks dear. There seem to be no straight rules anymore on this issue. Most rules have been broken. Frustrations everywhere. When it's your time bro, use my template and never put all your hope on a girl. Guard your heart. Use your head and not your heart for the most part and look beyond your immediate environment. Gone are those days she must be from the next street or your Church.
These are desperately wicked times. Do it prayerful.

Hmmmmmmmm.
Na wao

Sincere4u:

Thanks dear. There seem to be no straight rules anymore on this issue. Most rules have been broken. Frustrations everywhere. When it's your time bro, use my template and never put all your hope on a girl. Guard your heart. Use your head and not your heart for the most part and look beyond your immediate environment. Gone are those days she must be from the next street or your Church.
These are desperately wicked times. Do it prayerful.

Hmmmmmmm
Na wao.
Often hear people say love doesn't exist anymore. So it's true?.

karacta1:

Hmmmmmmm
Na wao.
Often hear people say love doesn't exist anymore. So it's true?.

Love does exist but it doesn't work for everybody. Where it isn't reciprocated pain and misery could be the end result so better you use more of your head than your heart.

I just pray to God to give my own gud size of shoe.