chineloSA:


.........If I was her, I was going to date but not marry yet until my kids are of legal age.

Once again one you have kids, its not always about you, the welfare of your children should come first.

I wish her well though.

chineloSA:


I hear you, its also not guaranteed that cutting your losses will bring better prospects. I have seen seperation works in a lot of cases, but in some cases it doesn't work.
Marrying again does not guarantee better prospects, its a matter of trying.

I also don't agree with violence on women and nursing mothers. The man was wrong from all angles.

I wish her well

Fedayeen02:
O gini di. Haba


You ll be the first person I'm asking and you turned me down


This is real broken heart in play

engrMikemd:
which is "brand new" again?










it seems the first two poster above gat nofin to say








me too gat nofin to say

somegirl1:


What if she wants more children? Should she have them outside wedlock since she'll probably have reached menopause by the time both her children are adults?

Thats where you miss the point, once you bring children to this world, things change. Your childrens wellbeing becomes a priority. Its not about you only. It was about you when decided to marry their father.


You won't know unless you try.

talk2alabama:
God is not asleep, he sees all that is happening, he has heard her cries and he has wiped her tears....



Sometimes, letting go is just d best option. And to all men out there, value a good woman.......

misspicy:

Hello,are you married now?

chineloSA:


I hope you red my ensuing comment. I dont agree with abuse or violence, but I said that seperation for longer periods could have resolved issues.

Coming from a blended family, i can tell you that there will always be uneven distribution of love and resources. More especially once this men start producing his children with the women. Unless they are rich. In the event where there is limited resources, women/men normally start singing a different tune, passing the buck of financial responsibility to the childrens biological father.

Yes a woman or man can love someones child but can never love them more than she/he would love her/his children if he/she had children. There will always be imbalance and disagreements and complaints on distributing the resources.

Example, If a man doesnt agree to buying a child an iphone 7 before they are say 18, but the woman feels that its no big deal. She will only think that its because its not his biological children, if it was his children, probably he would have agreed, even if its not the case.

Being from a blended family setting, and having experienced it, I am not for it, unless one partner is dead. Blended families are not ideal and easy.

If I was her, I was going to date but not marry yet until my kids are of legal age.

Once again one you have kids, its not always about you, the welfare of your children should come first.

I wish her well though.

Ugosample:


Yours is just one example
I know MANY blended families that worked and worked well; even though it is not perfect.
There is nothing wrong with a blended family, if both parents work hard, especially in the first few years to make things work.

Nora to me did the right thing by taking a walk, life is too short to be miserable.

chineloSA:


Are you from a blended family, or you just look at it from an outsiders perspective?
If you have no experience, I think its easier for you to just talk. There is a lot that goes on.

ephi123:
Brand new....hehehehe. There is nothing we won't read on Nairaland

Are there second hand or tokunbo human beings now?

chineloSA:


Once you have children, life is not about trial and error. It becomes real, not an experiment lab.

jidxin:
her friend only went tru dz writeup just to make d former husband jealous.....but anyway dats a sin ...u cannot divorce ur husband except hez dead. .marriage to anoda man is nothing but an adultry anyway none of ma biz.