| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by Ibunkun1(m): 9:42pm On May 27, 2017 |
dominique:
It was for the best. If you're in Lagos, go to a General hospital close to you. Ask for the days when they hold clinic for SS patients and go and see for yourself what these warriors and their parents are going through. Trust me, it is not something you will wish for your worst enemy.
I doubt if you can use IVF to determine the genotype of your baby. At best, they will check the genotype of the embryo before implanting it into you. If by chance they are all sicklers, they will be discarded. How many of your unborn children to you want to waste before getting your desired result? Believe me, I don't think its worth all the stress and expenses. My only grouse with you and your ex was allowing the relationship to go further. You should have both called it off before investing so much energy and emotions into it. You're Absolutely Right,and I Think You Guys Were Kind Of Scared To Address It,I'm Sure It's Been On His Mind all Along |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by shekauvsbuhari: 9:47pm On May 27, 2017 |
Baby, brace up. Pull urself together n move on. I know ur emotion ve got hold of u concerning him but its better u parted ways. I am a very strong-hearted fellow but de sufferings n eventual death of my closest friend way back in high school bcs of ss issues broke my heart. They died four in their family in a straight row and always in their final year or close to it. Chibueze my friend suffered in a way I cant forget. At a point he was begging death to come n kill him as de pain was unbearable. Baby, pls dnt even try it. |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by fem88(m): 9:48pm On May 27, 2017 |
[quote author=meiyol post=56922521]I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me
My dear,you must accept this fact and move on.The truth is,there is more to life than love.
I was in your shoes before,I had to painfully part ways with my girl of six years when I knew more about the dangers of bringing a sickle child into this world..
The Young man is brave enough to end it now....
Please,don't be heartbroken your own my is by the corner...Onelove |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by ipobarecriminals: 9:49pm On May 27, 2017 |
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| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by kadree(m): 9:50pm On May 27, 2017 |
meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me
My very close friend is presently experiencing what you are going through. Everything on your write up appears the same except your profession and years of togetherness as hers is up to 3yrs +. Each and every time I c her down with the guy not wanting to take the relationship to the next level, u know what I tell her? "Cry your cry now if it's all you need to get better and be strong so you don't get to cry for the rest of your life" . Truth be told, love is not all in marriage. It will get to that point where the guy would be frustrated as a result of persistent severe sickle cell crises .When a man start saying you led me into this then something is definitely heading somewhere. It's truly not easy but think about the pain and unrest of your unborn innocent child who isn't part of your now love story. The time to truly smile deep will come. Please ignore my errors as I had to hurriedly let you have this for I understand how emotionally imbalance your are right now. |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by sirfee(m): 9:50pm On May 27, 2017 |
PotatoSalad:
you're not serious. Prevention they say, is better than cure.
I lost 4 cousins born to the same parents to the mistake. it's ignorance. I believe your strong faith but God gave doctors the gift to know our genotypes. don't test God by doing what's not right. bikokwa. carry your prayer keep one side. Biko!!! OMG! 4 children, may their souls rest in peace. |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by lepasharon(f): 9:50pm On May 27, 2017 |
Op as a Medical student, couldnt you think critically?
Both you and ur partner could have still had perfectly healthy chidren. Remember you had a 25% chance with every pregnancy of conceiving a child with SS. Also with the pregnancy, you could have done amniocentesis to check the condition of the fetus. Also you could have pre-implantation testing done in vitro... 1 Like |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by mamajaz(f): 9:51pm On May 27, 2017 |
delugadou:
If it is ordained by God, the devil will try to oppose the union. Prayer will fix it since both families are in support. The Lord is your strength. Africans are notoriously religious. ...and to your virtue, add knowledge... |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by nduchucks: 9:54pm On May 27, 2017 |
meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me
Since he is a Doctor and you will be one soon, you should be able to afford going to the US for medical purposes. There are tests which can detect if your foetus will be AS, SS, or AA, within only 3 - 4 weeks of getting pregnant. Thereafter you can let your moral compass guide you. I know a AS couple with 2 Children and the children are not SS. They knew the status of the foetus within 3 weeks of pregnancy. Lucky for them they did not have to make the abortion decision. Good luck |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by fem88(m): 9:57pm On May 27, 2017 |
meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me
My dear,you must accept this fact and move on.The truth is,there is more to life than love. I was in your shoes before,I had to painfully part ways with my girl of six years when I knew more about the dangers of bringing a sickle child into this world.. The Young man is brave enough to end it now.... Please,don't be heartbroken your own my is by the corner...Onelove |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by Hitunnu(f): 9:59pm On May 27, 2017 |
Take Heart dear! Same happened with my first love. He studied public health while I studied marketing knowing the implications. He sighted ways we can prevent SS, knowing I will surely bear most of the pains. I broke up. He met another lady studied public health after 4yrs the lady broke up with him. He is happily married now with kids. We are all happy now. Just be prayerful and be strong. He made the best decision. |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by dingbang(m): 10:00pm On May 27, 2017 |
ednut1:
Truth is he knew how it wud end. He just dey chop ponmo till e tire lol that's why she said she felt used  |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by gifted166: 10:04pm On May 27, 2017 |
dominique:
It was for the best. If you're in Lagos, go to a General hospital close to you. Ask for the days when they hold clinic for SS patients and go and see for yourself what these warriors and their parents are going through. Trust me, it is not something you will wish for your worst enemy.
I doubt if you can use IVF to determine the genotype of your baby. At best, they will check the genotype of the embryo before implanting it into you. If by chance they are all sicklers, they will be discarded. How many of your unborn children to you want to waste before getting your desired result? Believe me, I don't think its worth all the stress and expenses. My only grouse with you and your ex was allowing the relationship to go further. You should have both called it off before investing so much energy and emotions into it. You could use IVF to select the genotype as well as the no of babies you want. |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by chronique(m): 10:04pm On May 27, 2017 |
meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me
You better quit this nonsense you are saying. If you as a future medical practitioner can't see the stupidity in what you are trying to get into, then I wonder what kind of doctor you would turn out to be. When the issue of the SS genotype comes up, spirituality and emotions/sentiments, should be the last thing, to think about. |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by Nobody: 10:14pm On May 27, 2017 |
meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me
that's the best dear.. God will help you to get over it.. Just wait for God direction.. He will lead you right. |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by Ezionye(f): 10:14pm On May 27, 2017 |
Please move on. All has been said already |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by mechanics(m): 10:15pm On May 27, 2017 |
Never give up |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by PotatoSalad(m): 10:16pm On May 27, 2017 |
sirfee:
OMG! 4 children, may their souls rest in peace. Amen. 4 boys with bright future. 27, 22, 6 and 4. one is still alive. he's 28 now and i pray nothing happens to him too  |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by sirfee(m): 10:33pm On May 27, 2017 |
PotatoSalad:
Amen.
4 boys with bright future.
27, 22, 6 and 4. one is still alive. he's 28 now and i pray nothing happens to him too Nothing will happen to him by a the grace of God,I'm an as also,I know what the op is going through.I broke up with girlfriend last four months because of the same issue,I'm just surprised with the op and her fiance for wasting so much time,resources etc. |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by PotatoSalad(m): 10:37pm On May 27, 2017 |
sirfee:
Nothing will happen to him by a the grace of God,I'm an as also,I know what the op is going through.I broke up with girlfriend last four months because of the same issue,I'm just surprised with the op and her fiance for wasting so much time,resources etc. amen o 1 Like |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by GindoX(m): 10:41pm On May 27, 2017 |
Hmm, so dis issue of genotype NA true? I no even know the one I be... The last time I fell sick was four years ago.... Ma Go for checkup and know ma genotype |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by Funjosh(m): 10:48pm On May 27, 2017 |
Am currently in such now. We AS get serious work to do but honestly letting go is not easy  |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by Nobody: 10:56pm On May 27, 2017 |
nnanaut:
Am surprise that medical personnel can even think of taking such risk that's why they can take such risk, because they know what it entails |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by rikamann: 10:56pm On May 27, 2017 |
Thanks for allowing me know the word 'amniocentesis'Suprnov3r:
Did you find out about amniocentesis? |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by VickyRotex(f): 10:59pm On May 27, 2017 |
ipobarecriminals:
u again?Come pay me biko Eleko!!!!  Payer ni. Makoba mi o. Where you go hide? We no see eko buy again for Nairaland.  |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by Mypeople2(m): 10:59pm On May 27, 2017 |
meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me
Babe sorry about that.You have to move on . You will get a cool guy who is not AS. My genotype is AA and I am still single. I have several friends who are AA and are still single .So I believe you will find a good AA sweetheart. Please wipe your tears |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by ipobarecriminals: 11:03pm On May 27, 2017 |
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| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by cutierashy(f): 11:05pm On May 27, 2017 |
Science or no science...whatever is meant to be will always be...heard of people who are AS and hv healthy kids...n people who married AA that gave birth to children with other kinds of disease and health complications 1 Like |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by altim8(m): 11:14pm On May 27, 2017 |
Sweetheart if he had told u he was HIV+ would u have remained with him in d name of love? SS isn't state security but sickle cell... It's an avoidable condition which is worse than HIV OOOO. Pls come to me all AS for I am AA. Nothing do me. No shaking(in two face voice) |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by Tobbylobba(m): 11:15pm On May 27, 2017 |
At times... Things you'd want to do for love.. Spare them the abuse.. If you have been in her shoes before, proffer words of advice as to how to move on. |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by creepsyme(f): 11:16pm On May 27, 2017 |
meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me
Sis I promise you will be fine, just move on and let him be. |
| Re: My Fiance Just Left Me Due To Genotype Issues by rossyc(f): 11:17pm On May 27, 2017 |
meiyol:
I just lost my relationship due to genotype issues..he is AS and I'm AS. We knew abt our genotype incompatibility frm the very first day..we were cool with it or so i thought. We were together for a year nd some months before we switched to long distance relationship cos of his job. I'm a med student, he is a doctor, so we both knew wat it meant. I was cool with it cos the signs were there that God put us together..everybody knows it, his parents, my parents..we ourselves knew it that our paths were ordained by God.. Then suddenly, from nowhere, he comes up with dangers of having sickler kids, the diseases they face, their pain and all..he suddenly stopped talking abt d fact that we may be lucky not to have any of our kids as sicklers, or medical methods we could use like IVF and all..our parents are both aware of the genotype ish, mine are very okay with it. He said he's not sure his parents are okay with it and yet they call me EVERYDAY to assure me nothing will go wrong and to cheer me up and all.. i questioned him cos it made me feel he was looking for an opportunity to leave..and he didnt give me any reply, just stopped talking to me.
Our introduction was slated for next year, he is my first love, I've been so loyal nd i pray for him.. I feel so used and heartbroken..my instincts tell me something is wrong..I'm back to square 1, where would i start from? He was my best friend, my everything..now, it's just me
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.. My dear u won't even want to imagine what u will go through in the future if u end up bearing a child that has a sickle stem cell. Yes it hurts when u must have invested much in a relationship and at the end things didn't work out, wish u guys called it off earlier but it's better late than never.. With time u will get over it and please when going into a new relationship ensure the next guy is AA.. All the best. |
