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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by raymondFirstborn(m): 5:13pm On Sep 03, 2017
Lalas247:

Lol no take laugh ki me abeg grin
Ova include the ones wey dey uncertain cheesy

Think it's just in you guys blood .. some ladies do masturbate too n watch porn .. in secret grin

Thanks God for confessing.
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by raymondFirstborn(m): 5:13pm On Sep 03, 2017
Lalas247:

Lol no take laugh ki me abeg grin
Ova include the ones wey dey uncertain cheesy

Think it's just in you guys blood .. some ladies do masturbate too n watch porn .. in secret grin

Thank God for confessing.
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by raymondFirstborn(m): 5:17pm On Sep 03, 2017
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smiley Haba lol p0rn that pop up on everybody laptop as spam We've all seen it from the p0rn hub .. red tube ... etc Even if there is pussy don't think masturbation will change .. [/quote]
kai this babe even sabi website uhm. pornhub redtube.I hail o
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by aibikhay(m): 5:27pm On Sep 03, 2017
Jesus Christ is the only way out. Bro/sis come to Him while you still can. Remain blessed!
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by aibikhay(m): 5:42pm On Sep 03, 2017
SolexxBarry:


Tell me who goes about masturbating when having real sex is not a problem


O beloved, you don't right a wrong by doing something wrong cry. How does being/getting laid help your self esteem for example? It doesn't, no it doesn't. If you think it does, It's only a shadow of your own imagination undecided there's a perfect way out..selah
Thank God for those who have taken up the challenge to stop. God bless you all. Amen.

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Lalas247(f): 6:51pm On Sep 03, 2017
raymondFirstborn:


Thank God for confessing.
grin
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by bukas15(m): 7:34pm On Sep 03, 2017
Beetwaise:


You're right @Sterix10. Masturbation & pornography causes brain fog & mental laziness. That's one of the reasons many brilliant guys struggle in their academic works but people don't know even their families.
To stop masturbation, you need a combination of prayers & strong will. Strong will is highly needed cos when the urge comes up, you've got to prove stubborn & suppress it completely at all cost.

Time they say heals everything. So be patient & keep fighting, you will be victorious.
In general, Here are the mind blowing benefits of quitting masturbation & pornography:

- More energy
- Less depressed
- More confidence
- Happier
- Less anxiety
- Increased social skills
- Highly motivated to succeed
- Highly motivated to do more
- Highly motivated to approach real women
- Increased fat loss
- Increased muscle growth
- Improved workouts
- Improved sporting performance
- Deeper voice
- Improved skin
- Thicker hair
- Increased hair growth (Facial, body and hair)
- Less sleep required
- Brighter eyes
- Clearer skin
- Improved body language
- More alpha male behaviours
- Increased attention from women
- More respect from men
- Improved memory
- Removal of brain fog
- Smarter
- A cure to hair loss
- Better sex
- Thicker/longer penis
- Stronger
- Aloof attitude
- High sex drive
- Controlled aggression
- Feelings of power
- Improved relationships
- Improved immunity
- Increased stamina

The goal is to maintain focus, Prayer & Strong-Will to quit is all that is needed.
i feel multivated by your write ups.i think i need all the stuff u mention.i rilly want to add some flesh to myself.i pray for te grace to overcome

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by lilmarley: 7:47pm On Sep 03, 2017
Hmmmm I really don't know what tew say

Tho I haven't stopped fully but am recovering.......

It all started since when I was in SS1. I could hardly go a day without masturbatin... I did that till I graduate last year . Tho I haven't had sex in mah life

But I had my first sex experience last week Sunday tho am a little bit shy.........

So since that day av really dislike masturbation...

I only did it ones this week
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Prinsola(m): 7:52pm On Sep 03, 2017
Happy Sunday guys
4/7
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by shotizzy: 8:19pm On Sep 03, 2017
it's a good day guys 5/7
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Daviestunech(m): 8:45pm On Sep 03, 2017
Well, nice strategies track u develop OP

TRULY masturbation is really a bad habit cultivate by most guys dho gals do it but not most often as we guys.



D best way is determination ND make sure u never stay idle all d time cus bin idle alot of sexual thoughts will surely arise ND by God's grace ND mostly prayers.


Guys trying to stop it shud not also engage in pre marital sex cus bin laid won't prevent u from it cus wen u feel d urge for sex ND d opposite partner ain't available den u will go for the alternative (masturbating).so don't believe having a galfrnd ND engage in sex will solve it.the best thing is to pray ND really determined to stop ND make sure u do move along with friends ND stop being idle all d time.


#God bless u op
#surely we can stop masturbation
#by God's grace

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Skmoda360(m): 11:05pm On Sep 03, 2017
hmmmmmm!!!!
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by santiagoz(m): 6:58am On Sep 04, 2017
Why do normal sex don't have all these negative effects on the body since both involves sperm ejaculation?? Just curious!!

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by haylegbede1(m): 7:34am On Sep 04, 2017
santiagoz:
Why do normal sex don't have all these negative effects on the body since both involves sperm ejaculation?? Just curious!!

Like really. Why
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by haylegbede1(m): 7:42am On Sep 04, 2017
Its painful a lot of guys suffer from this stuff
An iron will to stop and closeness to God is needed to quit this shit
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by dexoubie(m): 7:56am On Sep 04, 2017
zionmade1:
Masturbation is like a spirit wen it gets hold of u, it will be hard to abstain from u.
As someone rightly said, first u have to admit that u have a problem that needs urgent solution
2. Only u can successfully profer that solution to urself
3. Stay away from romance section
4. Many of us have fears, something that sends a chill down our spines, maybe nightmares, wen u get an erection in one second brood over those fears and the erection will flap down in a moment.
5. Get busier than u ever think u can, always work urself up the entire day, u can hardly self-service wen u re tired.
6. If after a week or two u go back to it, dont accept defeat, start up again and this time determine to do better.

Sometimes all these things might fail but if u re a christian then become a worker in church and get more committed.
Different stroke for different folks but thats my penny advice.
Remember masturbation is better than pre marital sex, in as much as both are undesirable dont exchange the former for the latter, abstinence is the best
Bro u just summarised my problem in no 4 and it is tearing my relationship with ma girl apart.but it is different wt oda random girls. I am hoping I could talk to u better on this..chimaoubie7@gmail.com or 09051318615..pls help a broda in need..#badly
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by dexoubie(m): 8:06am On Sep 04, 2017
antiFapping:
Don't be ashamed to talk to people about it if you genuinely want to stop. Well, it's okay to be ashamed, let that shame not consume you rather, let it be a motivating factor
to stop, if you can't talk to people face to face about it, you can comment on forums or threads about your addiction, you can create anonymous monikers for it, remember a problem shared is nearly solved
It has really affected my self esteem big tym
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by dexoubie(m): 8:08am On Sep 04, 2017
Mnewton:
Masturbation is simply a habit that can be curbed only when you decide deep within you DAT you ain't gonna do it no more. It begins by avoiding certain website and videos. Believe me as soon as you stop masturbating you will start noticing some changes in your live generally. using myself as an example, I noticed d following;

1) I started thinking straight; before now, I discovered I easily forget things but as soon as I stopped masturbating, I felt a significant improvement in my mental agility and coordination.
2) I started feeling strong and energised.
3) my spiritual life was strengthened.
I really need d guide cos it is affecting ma rlship
4) my social life and self esteem was boosted.
5) ! I discovered masturbation killed my love for women and sex but after i stopped masturbating,I started caring more for my girlfriend and started thinking more about a future with her!
6) I discovered a significant increase in d size of my penis.
I became a normal human being after I stopped masturbating !




Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by dexoubie(m): 8:09am On Sep 04, 2017
SolexxBarry:
To me the easiest way to quit masturbation is to have sex often
Will it work
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by SAMBHOSS(m): 8:51am On Sep 04, 2017
where d females at

well...na dem sabi

too shy abi too ashamed

I no wan believe say na only guys dy fapp

BTW..nice thread......#Anti-FappingMovement#
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by SolexxBarry(m): 9:41am On Sep 04, 2017
dexoubie:

Will it work
It worked for me,I don't think u can masturbate when having real sex is not a problem

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by dexoubie(m): 11:11am On Sep 04, 2017
SolexxBarry:

It worked for me,I don't think u can masturbate when having real sex is not a problem
Wat do u suggest I do cos it's affecting MA rlship..my erection goes flat whenever I want to penetrate ma girl but it is absolutely normal with other random girls

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by antiFapping: 5:38pm On Sep 04, 2017
dexoubie:

Wat do u suggest I do cos it's affecting MA rlship..my erection goes flat whenever I want to penetrate ma girl but it is absolutely normal with other random girls
There is probably little or nothing you will be told here that you haven't seen somewhere else, but you were alone all those other times, now you're part of a fold, a really strong one.
Together we conquer, we're stronger together. For a start, join us in the one week NoFapping challenge, most of us are on the fifth day
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by antiFapping: 7:04am On Sep 05, 2017
We won't relent... 6/7
Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Ginaz(f): 9:58am On Sep 05, 2017
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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by shotizzy: 5:32pm On Sep 05, 2017
6/7... shocked

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by antiFapping: 7:19am On Sep 06, 2017
7/7

Today marks the end of the 1 week NoFapping challenge for those of us that that started on 29th of last month.

Here are the things I I discovered during the latter days of this NoFapping challenge:

increased confidence
I felt an influx of energy
Increased stamina, I played football yesterday for over 2 hours without gasing out.
I noticed that the urge to fap was not there probably because my mind is/was fully conscious of the NoFapping challenge,
and many other observations.


Let's stretch the timeframe a further I week

please those of us that have completed this 1 week, let's not get overly confident and complacent, these are common pot holes in this path of recovery of ours.

Those of us that couldn't complete it or those that are yet to complete it, please be strong and positive, nothing is impossible.

So it's 7/14

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Santos07: 10:17am On Sep 06, 2017
7/7 i could not update my no fapping status work tied me down all week

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Beetwaise(m): 12:09pm On Sep 06, 2017
bukas15:
i feel multivated by your write ups.i think i need all the stuff u mention.i rilly want to add some flesh to myself.i pray for te grace to overcome

Sure you can. It's very possible. Here are the first steps you have to take to put yourself in order:

1. Keep away from sexually stimulating materials like pornography. Also, keep your eyes off the contours of a female's body. In other words, guard your eyes & mind.

2. Engage in workout programs as they help in curbing addictions.

3. Engage in stuffs that will keep you positively busy. Never stay idle.

4. Eat more of natural foods & pray to your Maker.

In three weeks, you will notice some transformations in your body & mind.
#Live well.

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by okikiosibodu(m): 12:17pm On Sep 06, 2017
Wow! I read this thread from the very beginning to this point.
I am less than 25yrs old, and I must Confess, I have been battling it for almost 10yrs now. It all started when I was in secondary school, in the boarding house (the only reason I am considering not sending my children to boarding school when I start having children. Besides that, I will preference a boarding school over a day school). Till date, my heart doesn't bless the senior that introduced me to it cos though we where close then, he was a bad influence to gullible me, without even knowing it.
That aside, I can attest to it as someone stated at the early part of the thread that sometimes you try to test yourself by deliberately watching porn, to see if you won't succumb to the nasty act, only for you to succumb. U first tell yourself that you will stop soon, and just when you want to stop, one voice will tell you to keep trying, so you will stop when you are about to cum. When the time comes, you try to stop, but when the ultimate moment approaches, that nasty voice will tell you "you have sinned, kukuma cum and know that you will ask God for forgiveness'. And your mind will not go off it even if you manage to stop after being interrupted maybe by a guest that just entered the house, until you cum. One feels less bold to come to God after the act cos in you mind, a voice will be telling you "God cannot answer your prayer for today". The guild lasts throughout the whole day til 12am ticks. If it happened around 12:01am, the whole day is messed up. Also you feel really dirty after the act and sometimes wish God takes away the urge from you and return it after you marry.
I must confess I once went online to search for drugs to suppress the urge but found none. I discussed with a female pharmacist who is a friend and she said such drugs will be hard to find cos those in the drug filed gob for something of high demand and will bring money for them, and people request for drugs to increase the urge or last longer, and few people seek drugs to kill the urge. She however told me of some anti-hypertensive drugs whose side effect kills libido, but warned me that they are expensive and that it could be hazardous to me since I am not hypertensive.
During my quest to search for help online, I cam across some that helped me, I will share them:
1. Find a replacement for the nasty act... Esp an energy sapping one
It is an addiction and thus need to be replaced by something else. Usually, an energy sapping activity is recommended. I started riding bicycle to replace mine. For some, it is jogging. Now how this work is that it distracts your mind and takes it off masturbation over time and it helps for the future not present . Not sure I know how to explain this but let me try. If I ride bicycle Say for 30mins now, it is gonna help me fight the urge tomorrow such that the mental energy I would have used to think about masturbation, would have been depleted today on the physical exercise of riding bicycle.
This is not an immediate approach however (doesn't work the time when the urge is knocking, but it helps prevent the thought. More like a preventive approach.... Just like you taking coffee when you are prepping for exams)
2. One I found very effective when the urge comes knocking, is listening to a fast and loud music. Something like a rock music or Terry-G's kind of music. It doesn't necessarily have to have a good lyrics, the fast and loud music does the magic. This works more at night when it is time to sleep, and worked best wit ear piece. I just plug in my earpiece and drift into the Dream land. It helps to distract the mind. The bathing of cold water thing does not appeal to me cos I don't like bathing with cold water and bathing with warm water could be disastrous especially when my soapy hands touch my joystick. The sensation becomes irresistible.
3. Avoid romantic scenes.... Be it movie, or in a public place or even the "you may kiss the bride part" in wedding parties. You will be amazed at how much John Thomas will resume his military lessons and be on full alert for "military" actions. The annoying thing is that is is not easy to stop once you start after a very long time. Personally, I stopped watching hip hop videos a long time ago cos many of them are like soft porn. When I made up my mind to stop, was when I watched D'Banj's video of 'Suddenly' shortly after it came out. Many videos today of hip hop must show curvy hips, erect nipples, ladies bikini and G-string, and other erotic contents. It is almost impossible to watch an average Nigerian hip hop video wit a child without getting embarrassed, or wishing the child doesn't ask you some questions that has to do with the moral values the video has depicted
4. Dissociate yourself from friends/ scene, and other conditions that make you engage in the nasty act
5. Have someone you can share your challenge maturely with without being shy, and be bold to tell them when you fall... They serve as a check mate to you.
6. Avoid flirting, cos just an act or a word could turn you real on, and you become vulnerable.
7. Avoid being alone esp in secluded areas
Piece of advice: Let him that thinks he stands take heed, lest he falls. If you have not done the act in a long time, please don't relent on the checks you put in place to avoid it cos it is easier for such person to fall than someone that just did recently.
Never test yourself to see if you will scale through the temptation by stimulating yourself (be it audio, literally or visually).... One will always fall. It is only a matter of time.
Different strokes for different folks. Know what works for you, and try to work with that.
I learnt online that it take about 21days to break an habit and it becomes easier to break after 21days. Trust me, I can testify to that. I didn't jerk during my days in NYSC orientation camp, and few weeks after I came out, the urge was gone. It was when I tried to "play" wit myself to see how much temptation I could take, that I fell again.
I apologize for my lengthy post (I suck at summary... I don't mind someone doing this on my behalf) , and any typo error that must have been committed in the post.
Wish you all success on you quest to freedom from masturbation and a journey to sexual purity

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Re: Want To Stop Porn And Masturbation? Get In Here by Beetwaise(m): 12:59pm On Sep 06, 2017
Ginaz:
I'm a girl and very honest and straightforward...so I'm gon' be.

Seriously I wonder what the excitement about porn. Then I was a teen (very curious one at that) I used to watch porn with my cousin, my dad carelessly left his piles of porn it was a free show for us. Even my mom too. I think they were just grossly neglectful.

I would take, hide and watch till morning. It never had any effects on me. In fact as the years run by I don't get stimulated by porns at all. I can't even remember the last time I watched a porn. Since 4 years, it was last year and this year I watched (since April) . ( I was going through some emotional stuff and needed the distraction)

I find it hard to think someone would get so addicted to masturbation that they can't stop. I won't lie, I used to self-service but I can go a whole year without masturbating. What's it dudes?

You guys need to chill, what thy fuccck! You gonna masturbate yourselves to death. It's a thing of the MIND. LEARN TO CONTROL IT. If you can have the power over your mind then you will lose the addiction.

Don't be a slave to your additions, you are the one with the mind, body. Don't let the mind be controlling you instead you ought to be the one to control it.

I could have been a very bad girl at a tender age. There were very bad friends around me( all pregnant before we finished our SS3 exams. My mom and dad were not diligent embarassed .take a look at what they left carelessly (hard core porns that would make an angel turn devil in less than a minute) but I controlled them through my mind in such an extent they never left any effects on me.

Everything starts with the mind, good or bad. Anybody can change but they need to decide if they wanna change at all. I wish you guys wellness and progress in overcoming this "addiction "

Sorry for my lengthy write ups cheesy




I'm glad you turned out to be a good lady @Ginaz. And just as you said, everything starts with the mind.
I don't know if Masturbation has any devastating effects on ladies (@Ginaz, pls if you know of any, do well to share them here). In a brief summary, here are the damaging effects of masturbation on the body/mind of a guy which are not observable in having healthy sexual life with a partner
Here they are:

1. Masturbation deteriorates the testosterone level of a guy. And just as nature would have it, once the testosterone level in the male body is low, several things will start going wrong in his body like poor concentration/brain fog, poor body metabolism, hormonal imbalance, loss of energy/strength/muscles and lots more.

2. The end point of masturbation in guys is the release of sperm. Sperm is life & contains lots of antibodies, nutrients & other constituents that make man unique. Most folks masturbate more than five times in a day (imagine what will happen in days, weeks or months if this continues) thereby releasing lots of sperm cells without giving the body time to recover, create & transmutate sperm. This gradually turns the guy into a "vegetable" & results to premature ejaculation, poor development of the joystick or erectile dysfunction.

3. A reward hormone called Dopamine is excessively released in the brain when guys masturbate continuously. This reduces his interest or zeal to embark on "rewarding activities" like motivation to study/pursue a career/set life goals; also his zeal to meet or get a woman in the real world will be crushed too by the excessive release of the reward hormone.

>>>> The human body is indeed complex & one shouldn't deviate from the way nature has placed things. Above all, moderation & self control should also be applied if you have a partner to achieve a healthy lifestyle.

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