Oluwasaeon:
Yes!

mistel:
The question is hard for singles to answer as i see they rush to say "YES."
As a married dude i wil advice guys "DO NOT EVEN TRY IT!"
Two things matters, 1. what kind of a child is d child? 2.wat kind of woman is ur wife? U wil never knw til u get married, u wil regret it later in marriage...

Justeenaleo:
There's nothing wrong with it. If I like you then I will like whatever you come with as long as you said it upfront.

Papiikush:


Love is never enough to sustain marriage.


No, it strengthens love.

It's just that Sometimes people wonder to themselves during misunderstanding "why did I even marry this guy/babe in the first place" (reason I mentioned marriage being an eye opener).

It reveals your partner's true identity. Now you've got to deal with that for the rest of your life.

bluetrails7:



May your wisdom continue to grow, what deep yet easily expressed views


I like this part, It just boils down to tolerance and compromise ", the two pillars of sustainable and long term relationships, tolerance and compromise...

tosyne2much:
That's very the bro and that's why you need to trash out any habit you cannot condone while in relationship, otherwise, you will continue to live with it in marriage

989900:


Save this your post in your memory, and replay it in 20 years from now, I'm sure you will be far blessed with more experience of life then to realize life ain't math.

bobolizim:
It's been long we've checked on each other so I saw her online on Facebook one day and we shared eachother's contact . On checking her dp on whatsapp, I saw her carry a child and I inquired from her whether she's a child and her answer to me was yes, she does .

Well, I'd considered asking her out before this occurrence but this answer of hers put me off totally . Anyways, we ended up meeting and during the course of our discussion , I probed again ; at first I wasn't sure of her answer , I was clearly obfuscated but at the end she eventually demystified my mystry . She's not with any child but then she asked me whether I could marry a lady with a child or not ? Which I hurriedly said no .

She began to tell me reasons there's nothing bad in doing that using a story of a lady who was raped by a guy she'd never fallen in love with. It's not like she didn't have the person she's dating , it just occurred that she's forced and all. Well, she made it known to her boyfriend, her predicament;hmm, it's a cliche that ''love is blind'',her boyfriend who is madly in love promised to care of her and the baby when delivered of.

Well, i have empathy for such a person but my answer is still no. It's not like I'm selfish but I'd not train a child that'd eventually become someone else amongst ample reason.

Hence, I'd like to know whether you can marry a lady or guy with a child ?

Coldfeets:
Why not?

Papiikush:


Women have a saying

"You will have to love me just the way I am" or "You met me this way, I can't change my lifestyle just to please a guy".

Then they call men trash when such guy decides to walk away.

mistel:
was it ok?

bobolizim:
It's been long we've checked on each other so I saw her online on Facebook one day and we shared eachother's contact . On checking her dp on whatsapp, I saw her carry a child and I inquired from her whether she's a child and her answer to me was yes, she does .

Well, I'd considered asking her out before this occurrence but this answer of hers put me off totally . Anyways, we ended up meeting and during the course of our discussion , I probed again ; at first I wasn't sure of her answer , I was clearly obfuscated but at the end she eventually demystified my mystry . She's not with any child but then she asked me whether I could marry a lady with a child or not ? Which I hurriedly said no .

She began to tell me reasons there's nothing bad in doing that using a story of a lady who was raped by a guy she'd never fallen in love with. It's not like she didn't have the person she's dating , it just occurred that she's forced and all. Well, she made it known to her boyfriend, her predicament;hmm, it's a cliche that ''love is blind'',her boyfriend who is madly in love promised to care of her and the baby when delivered of.

Well, i have empathy for such a person but my answer is still no. It's not like I'm selfish but I'd not train a child that'd eventually become someone else amongst ample reason.

Hence, I'd like to know whether you can marry a lady or guy with a child ?

tosyne2much:
That's attitude is the destroyer of marriage and relationship and many ladies don't know. However, no matter how much a guy can loves a lady, such an attitude usually quench the love

Some of them are like, "that's my nature and I don't think I can change it," that's the way I've been right from my childhood and my parents know me for it", "my ex knows me for that and he's already used to my character

You will only be jumping from frying to fire if you wife such a lady with negative characters