There is this friend of mine(female) who confided in me asking for my opinion; she's askin if its right for her to be the first to propose love to a guy she's having feelings for and will this said guy see her as one cheap girl?
She and this said guy are friends but she notice that she is developing deep feelings for him, thinking about him all the time
So i decided to post it here for mature contribution..

It is right in the Western world.
But in Nigeria it is all shades of WRONG,she might regret it for life especially with the prevalence of gullible Nigeria men

No dont tell him just keep it in ur mind and die with it because ure waiting for him and when you see him with another girl just keep feeling bitter and remorseful to urself too

blairlady:
There is this friend of mine(female) who confided in me asking for my opinion; she's askin if its right for her to be the first to propose love to a guy she's having feelings for and will this said guy see her as one cheap girl?
She and this said guy are friends but she notice that she is developing deep feelings for him, thinking about him all the time
So i decided to post it here for mature contribution..

I see nothing wrong in she opening up,as long as the guy is mature in mind,av witness. Such somany times and dey are still doing well,she should not waste time

theres nothing wrong in it,only that some guys will see it as been cheap

No die of silence

Lol,.there's nothing wrong tho,
If na cool guy, he won't think she's cheap, he'd be impressed too, might even accept especially if he likes her company, except if he already has a gf & says no, that friendship go dey awkward.

haba, this ur friend that have been falling for, so she can't just walk up anf toast me, chai, tell her am blushing already ooo

if the guy is matured no problem, if otherwise, na her center of gravity go pay the price.

I suggest she shows the guy some green lights to determine whether the guy has any iota of feelings for her before she opens up. There is nothing wrong in a Lady expressing her feelings first, only that some naija guyz wouldn't really appreciate it.

She should throw the question to him indirectly and judge from his reply...
But in all, it's better you say it and free your mind..
It's all part of life experience

I respect girls who are bold enough to do that... So yeah, to me, its right.

Can't speak for someone else.

Op you are pretty enough to stimulate a move from a man. Don't sell yourself short, it rarely ends well.

blairlady:
There is this friend of mine(female) who confided in me asking for my opinion; she's askin if its right for her to be the first to propose love to a guy she's having feelings for and will this said guy see her as one cheap girl?
She and this said guy are friends but she notice that she is developing deep feelings for him, thinking about him all the time
So i decided to post it here for mature contribution..

Tell her not to ever try it.

she's not developing any feelings jhur.

it's infatuation, she should give herself time it will go away.

she will make a big fool of herself by telling him.

Guys will tell you they like girls who are straight and who can do it bla bla bla but when you actually do it it's another ball game entirely.

she should save herself the mental stress, it's not worth it

She can go ahead and tell him bt after dat, u need to be very careful with the response u get.

If u get a no den, I'll thank God with u bt if u get a yes for an answer u need to be sure he's nt just up for d forbidden fruit alone.

Take dis from sum1 dat is speaking outta experience.

Only few guys will stick to a lady if she does dat while others will eat n go.

Av tasted both the eat n go and staying category. Bt my eat n go surpasses the one I took seriously.

In other words she should be sure dat the guy is really into her bfor she expresses her feelings.

I say...

Just make sure you are (mentally and emotionally) strong to withstand the outcome for proclaiming your feelings. If in case he does not reciprocate or it backfires etc.

But..yea. In any case, Get it out of ya system. I find It's better to just get it out sooner. Bottling emotions up is never good for anyone mentally, emotionally, physically (health wise).

Do it sooner, and move on sooner (if not reciprocated). Release yourself from the emotional torment and free yourself to move on.

No one ever regrets not telling someone they loved them on their deathbeds. It's usually regrets about what wasn't said or done.

Life's too short.............you have one life, strive to live it well, with minimal regrets.

Ghosttt:
She can go ahead and tell him bt after dat, u need to be very careful with the response u get.

If u get a no den, I'll thank God with u bt if u get a yes for an answer u need to be sure he's nt just up for d forbidden fruit alone.

Take dis from sum1 dat is speaking outta experience.

Only few guys will stick to a lady if she does dat while others will eat n go.

Av tasted both the eat n go and staying category. Bt my eat n go surpasses the one I took seriously.

In other words she should be sure dat the guy is really into her bfor she expresses her feelings.

Below are few points she needs to watch out for if she eventually gets a yes:

1. Walk away from d relationship If the guy is too eager for seks. U shud understand y
2. If he doesn't respects u
3. If he barely calls u
4. If at any point u feel u are nt treated d way u ought to be.
5. Run the moment ur mind tell u too

It's cool, though there might be some consequences

It's not a big deal, she should voice it out

she can try it, if it workout, fine,,,,,,life is ful of adventures, its all full, quote me

Evaberry:



Tell her not to ever try it.

she's not developing any feelings jhur.

it's infatuation, she should give herself time it will go away.

she will make a big fool of herself by telling him.

Guys will tell you they like girls who are straight and who can do it bla bla bla but when you actually do it it's another ball game entirely.

she should save herself the mental stress, it's not worth it

Sent you a mail eva

This is 21 century it is right for a girl to but In this part of our country its called desperation. All these guys will say you are desperate

Evaberry:



Tell her not to ever try it.

she's not developing any feelings jhur.

it's infatuation, she should give herself time it will go away.

she will make a big fool of herself by telling him.

Guys will tell you they like girls who are straight and who can do it bla bla bla but when you actually do it it's another ball game entirely.

she should save herself the mental stress, it's not worth it

Evaberry:



Tell her not to ever try it.

she's not developing any feelings jhur.

it's infatuation, she should give herself time it will go away.

she will make a big fool of herself by telling him.

Guys will tell you they like girls who are straight and who can do it bla bla bla but when you actually do it it's another ball game entirely.

she should save herself the mental stress, it's not worth it

see ur mouth.... Its people like you who replay a guy message 5yrs after jst becuuz he's back from America. Smh

You just said my mind.. God bless you for me

Evaberry:



Tell her not to ever try it.

she's not developing any feelings jhur.

it's infatuation, she should give herself time it will go away.

she will make a big fool of herself by telling him.

Guys will tell you they like girls who are straight and who can do it bla bla bla but when you actually do it it's another ball game entirely.

she should save herself the mental stress, it's not worth it

Yes

Ekakamba:
It is right but note that 99.9% of my niccas will accept not because of love but for the free supply of 24/7 kpansh. Beware!

my exact point

blairlady:
There is this friend of mine(female) who confided in me asking for my opinion; she's askin if its right for her to be the first to propose love to a guy she's having feelings for and will this said guy see her as one cheap girl?
She and this said guy are friends but she notice that she is developing deep feelings for him, thinking about him all the time
So i decided to post it here for mature contribution..

We understand that this your friend is you,so stop lying and hiding under that umbrella...So i just would advise you shouldn't take that step,but trying to show him some "Green light" will do.

For conservative societies, this is absolutely not the norm. For liberal societies, this practice is acceptable.

In my opinion, this action should be celebrated. If you have feelings for someone, you won't rely on fate to make the magic happen. Rather, you make sure that you do everything in your power to make the relationship happen. If you continue to wait, there will be a chance that you won't be noticed.

My stance is a yes. You should act now. Time is precious. Love is rare.

Why not? Is she not being human enough? If we thought because we do not have `the checks and pockets' to go all out with her, why not allow a girl box in?
The world is suffering because man wants to be a must man!

Woman, its not pride, its another side of humility, ask the tongueless soul out!


If your friend cannot say "will you..." Ask him then "won't you like to..."

This avaricious and pompous Adamic man! Woman, go out and ask him out...! Or have ypu no tongue?