shaybebaby:

Funny how that isn't so in my case though. Depends on the players in the situation.

lefulefu:
lol shaybebaby conditions overseas on the issues of divorce,child adoption is clear cut unlike Nigeria. In Nigeria a single mom separated from the father of the child is not actually separated cos these men are always involved in their lives. If they have a boyfriend the father of their child sometimes harrases them .many of these men are quite jealous and they won't take it lightly when another man is dating an ex that had a child for them. There are lot of baggages involved here.

shaybebaby:

Happens here as well. Besides, what makes you think the father of the child is interested in the mom's personal life. Quite often, he has moved and is otherwise occupied with his new squeeze.

lefulefu:
even if he has a new squeeze he will hardly move on as long as his child is with the mom.

DreamChaser2000:
I won't mind dating her.

humilitypays:
So real men are men ready to carry someone else baggage

So those who don't like embarking on journey they will later regret are not real men ba

I am sure your dad didn't marry your mom a single mother, and I am sure none of your married brothers did,which means your dad is not a real man lol

Ladies and their wacked definition of real men; any man that's taking ladies bullshit and answering yes yes to their nonsense is a real man, a word they use to manipulate feeble and faint hearted men, it no longer work in 2018 lol‎

dollynnn:
by the way, who asked her to be a single mom ? lol guess that was what 5mins enjoyment caused.... Shioor!

alexialin:




That's what u think.

But it's not 5mins enjoyment. Her bf may have convinced her to get pregnant saying he will marry her.
Foolishly she got pregnant and viola! He disappears.

Some men are that wicked.

And she despise abortion, so she kept the beautiful baby.

Ladies stop listening to any bf that says u should get pregnant first. Cause such risk is very very risky. He can bail out at any given ducking time!

dollynnn:
abegi! if she had steer clear off pre marital sex, this wouldn't have happened

humilitypays:
All over the world, men are usually scared of marrying a single mom...unless the single mom is very very attractive and rich, if not, she may never find a husband that will stick around for long.

This is one reason ladies must be very careful of taking in for a guy not ready to settle down with them.

Believe me, if Genevieve Nnaji didn't have a baby, she would have been married for long....

Single mothers usually have lots of emotional, material, financial and psychological baggage that scare most men away.

Only divorced men, widowers and gigolos go for single moms, sadly that's how bad the world is.

This lady should focus on looking more attractive in real life not just on IG pictures and should strive to make plenty money to attract some guys that will be ready to marry her if not...

od4life:

What you just posted is trash. Imagine a young lady gets married, has kids & loses her husband to death. Now would you now say because she has kids, she's ineligible for marriage again or men wouldn't like to marry her? I've seen men marry such ladies without any qualms whatsoever. In fact one of such men was even a pastor that married a single mum. My then neighbor married a single mum who had a daughter. The lady's daughter even lives with them.

Divay22:
This will only get real men to admire her and go for her and not those fu*ck boys..
Gabriella pls forgive mummy She loves you.

Such a cutie she is.. Thank goodness you came back

Brightgem:
Much as you have your point, that isn't what she meant, she isnt limiting only men who will accept her as real men but that the more real she is, the more likely to attract genuine men, and yes some men cannot handle this, they have a choice not to, we all hav a choice what we can accept. Bottom line is women shd be careful, as they are the ones who carry evidence that sex happened and society will not be Merciful.

humilitypays:
Bros, I am not here to be kind in words to make some people feel good, I am here to tell you the absolute truth of what's happening in real life not what we wished is happening.

Many young ladies who lost their husbands to the cold hand of death rarely get remarried again. Its very very difficult for single ladies talk more of single mothers in today world that majority of men are becoming so scared of marriage.

The few single mothers who lost their husbands to death that later get married again are usually very pretty, attractive and rich (either by their husbands wealth inheritance or their parents or their own money).

Do you know how many young single mothers who lost their husbands and are still single and yet to find a man to settle down with They are thousands if not millions.

Yes the world and nature isn't so kind to women in many aspect of life, but who do we blame

CioAngels:
Thank God she realise her baby is, after God. Toro, nobody can take the place of your child, just know that. The man that will come should love your baby first before you.

od4life:

And I gave you instances of single mums or widows I know personally that got married or remarried. And for your information those ladies were normal ladies (not rich ladies). You better change this your warped mindset about single mums & remarriage. In Delta State where I'm from single mum dey marry well...unless the lady has a bad character or is unproductive.

humilitypays:
oh nice to hear that some men are really taking on that task; I doff my hat for them.

But the truth remains, in reality, if we are to be real, u and I know that majority of men all over the world don't like to marry single moms unless the man himself is a single dad or widowed or over aged, get real bro.

Even ladies here won't agree if their young, never married brother brings a single mom home as his wife to be, let's get real for once and stop telling people what they want to hear just to make them feel good

Divay22:

Pls don't judge them, you don't know the pains and stigma they go through, because of criticism...

Guys will see these ones and call them promiscuous, just because they decide not to kill the baby but bring them into this world ,cause they deserve to live but will hail the ones that commit abortion.

Now tell me who is more promiscuous, who deserves to be shamed..

Brightgem:
Much as you have your point, that isn't what she meant, she isnt limiting only men who will accept her as real men but that the more real she is, the more likely to attract genuine men, and yes some men cannot handle this, they have a choice not to, we all hav a choice what we can accept. Bottom line is women shd be careful, as they are the ones who carry evidence that sex happened and society will not be Merciful.

ehix89:
The struggle continues, she is Adopting a new strategy since the previous one failed her. Goodluck in her hustle.

graphiti:


With this comment I think ds thread shd be closed RIGHT NOW!
You have said it all!
The one u marry as a virgin sef na palava talkless of....
Moreover, the baby 'dadda' angle hasn't bn touched o.
If u can't match up to him in bed u are in 'soup'.
Also, remember Okafor's law: "A kongo once 'shined' can always be reshined at will"

Peacefullove:


You have sense. Very true ... I will commend single mums any day anytime over Those who did abortions .

of course, If am asked to choose between the two, I will prefer a single mum over a Murderer .

DreamChaser2000:
I won't mind dating her.