Raskasal:

Lol

Hope u learn one or two things ?

generationz:
goodluck in your search for Mrs right

lol !

generationz:
goodluck in your search for Mrs right

lol !

profeazy:


Please anyone that read this textbook should summarise what the heck the dude is saying for me.

Na u sabi ooo ....

Having read all the comments up to this point, I cant but strongly agree with advice of majority here that the op should start looking out for another lady that will give him respect and peace of mind.
Those two attitudes cannot be overlooked at all. They are very strong and will cause you psychological and emotional torture.
You are feeling reluctant to let her go going by your writeup maybe due to the fear of getting another good one but my dear, what is happening now is just a tip of the iceberg compared to what awaits you after marriage.
Somebody mentioned that you asked for same advice last year, here you are again this year with same thing. You seems to be an unserious fellow if that's true and it seems your village people havent back off.
Be man enough to take a decision that suits you and dont come back here next year again for same issue.

biafraisdead:

Months back I was in a similar relationship before I finally call it a quit(I also intend to keep her as a wife, I have even introduced her to my people). I always apologise to her even while she was at fault and she will never admit been at fault or even say sorry, though she would stupidly tell me at times that her bad side is her being too proud and that she was working on her self to correct it. the day I ended the relationship was a day she insulted me and I just told her I won't call her again but she thought I was joking and since that day(over 7 months now) I haven't called her neither has she called me(because of pride). But I know she is seriously dieing now her problem is for her to call me and say 'I am sorry' she keeps calling me with unknown numbers and each time I pick she would end the call without saying anything but I know she is behind those calls, also she keeps stalking me on LinkedIn, she doesn't know LinkedIn sends u profile of people viewing ur profile. so my brother if u try to change her and she is not changing I would advise u to let her go; imagine what u would go through when u finally marry her, we shouldn't allow love to block our senses at times. any man or woman that can't say sorry is not worthy to be a husband or a wife. By the way where is she from cos we may be talking about the same girl.

U took best step by letting her go..... I just pity her dat she is learning d hard way.

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Months back I was in a similar relationship before I finally call it a quit(I also intend to keep her as a wife, I have even introduced her to my people). I always apologise to her even while she was at fault and she will never admit been at fault or even say sorry, though she would stupidly tell me at times that her bad side is her being too proud and that she was working on her self to correct it. the day I ended the relationship was a day she insulted me and I just told her I won't call her again but she thought I was joking and since that day(over 7 months now) I haven't called her neither has she called me(because of pride). But I know she is seriously dieing now her problem is for her to call me and say 'I am sorry' she keeps calling me with unknown numbers and each time I pick she would end the call without saying anything but I know she is behind those calls, also she keeps stalking me on LinkedIn, she doesn't know LinkedIn sends u profile of people viewing ur profile. so my brother if u try to change her and she is not changing I would advise u to let her go; imagine what u would go through when u finally marry her, we shouldn't allow love to block our senses at times. any man or woman that can't say sorry is not worthy to be a husband or a wife. By the way where is she from cos we may be talking about the same girl.
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hehehhehehe ......u nvr can tell bro

If i tell u waitn u suppose do u nor go gree do am see all what u said so chairman na waitn i don experience like this so....(true story) same thing she dey do me she gets angry for no reason, stubborn, keeps malice infact th begging nor be here. One thing we must learn is this " is good to love ooooh but moderately". Something i seem to understand with females now is that wen u give dem this leg to take for granted bros dem go over use am....i swallowed my pride i was scared of losing her till one day bro..guess what we had dis issue that could have been sorted out peacefully, one month pass i beg she nor gree. 2Month,3month bros i stopped begging and do the needful everybody get pride...10months no words no chat i bone infact wen u're scared of losing something baba u go lose that thing. Only for her to chat me up for a meet i ballantly declined....so what am saying is this put maturity aside and act like a man if she nor follow u talk bros waka comot for house go dey with niggas nor send am, nor go dey beg her.....you go thank me later sometimes u have to go hard like a dick.

aaronson:
This is a tough one to deal with.

She is emotional selfish, Narssicist and rude but if you still do love her like you claim, Over look her flaws, loose your self esteem but don't loose your brain in dealing with her the matured way you have been doing. Or plan B, Call it quit, maintain your self esteem and keep looking for more decent girl.

over look wetin? Which kind love be that? Op she go give u hypertension

ladys aint to be trusted same as guys https:///Q6zvzD

Use her for money rituals

Thank God it made front page.

Don't hv any advice 4 u bro cause am still battling in my r/ship. She switches ON and ON like LED light

I don't need to talk too much or overanalyse.

Bro, I swear to almighty, if you marry this aunty, you will WEEP and GNASH your teeth.

Play with your future blood pressure if you doubt me.

Perfect love casts out ALL fears.

Raskasal:
This post is directed to the matured minds in the house.

I've dated this lady for close to a year now and I have the intention of having her as my wife because of my love for her. She's got good qualities, cooks well, supportive in a little way but temperamental and easily provoked.

But there is this challenge I'm having with her, she puts up surly attitude and would always keep to herself whenever I correct her, and she won't talk to me for as long as we stay together, call or try to get in touch while away. This might last for as many days not until I come out to calm her down. Over times shes been doing this and the only way I've had to let things be normal is for me to talk to her again and beg her not to be angry. But I'm feeling I'm loosing my worth. This is someone that never admits she's at fault, talk less of apologizing. On several note I have had to take blame for her errors even when I'm not at fault just to make sure we're fine.

A recent development was that she came for holiday and was using the rest room within my apartment, I was passing by and asked her to close the door, she murmured, closed the door and she hasn't been talking to me since then and even when I do she'll answer reluctantly for like five days now. I am tired of living under same roof with someone that never feel anything keeping malice and I want her to realize her mistakes and apologize, but she won't, she'll rather stay back in the room, and whenever I go to the room, she be making avoiding moves.

I watched her closely to observe if she's into someone else but I haven't got any traces of that.

I have decided not to call her to terms again not minding if it costs a break up, but then am thinking I might be taking things way far.

Pls How best can I handle this? I really do love her tho and I am afraid of loosing her but I am loosing my worth and this has made her not have regards for me.

Thank you all

You say you love her?
Does she really love you also or she just loves your good and quiet nature?

You need to show her your bad side to know who she really is?

Playing so cool with a woman who you intend to marry will not do you any good in future.

Send your email to adaezeq@yahoo.com for a confidential stuff. You are about to commence a journey of no return. Be careful..... now
Don't ever fall in love but what I'm seeing now is that you are already in love.
Run run run

Raskasal:
This post is directed to the matured minds in the house.

I've dated this lady for close to a year now and I have the intention of having her as my wife because of my love for her. She's got good qualities, cooks well, supportive in a little way but temperamental and easily provoked.

But there is this challenge I'm having with her, she puts up surly attitude and would always keep to herself whenever I correct her, and she won't talk to me for as long as we stay together, call or try to get in touch while away. This might last for as many days not until I come out to calm her down. Over times shes been doing this and the only way I've had to let things be normal is for me to talk to her again and beg her not to be angry. But I'm feeling I'm loosing my worth. This is someone that never admits she's at fault, talk less of apologizing. On several note I have had to take blame for her errors even when I'm not at fault just to make sure we're fine.

A recent development was that she came for holiday and was using the rest room within my apartment, I was passing by and asked her to close the door, she murmured, closed the door and she hasn't been talking to me since then and even when I do she'll answer reluctantly for like five days now. I am tired of living under same roof with someone that never feel anything keeping malice and I want her to realize her mistakes and apologize, but she won't, she'll rather stay back in the room, and whenever I go to the room, she be making avoiding moves.

I watched her closely to observe if she's into someone else but I haven't got any traces of that.

I have decided not to call her to terms again not minding if it costs a break up, but then am thinking I might be taking things way far.

Pls How best can I handle this? I really do love her tho and I am afraid of loosing her but I am loosing my worth and this has made her not have regards for me.

Thank you all

... Believe you. Me this is sincerely what happened to me.. Been in a relationship for good 2 years. Always been begging just to ensure peace, many at times when I even correct her, she would tell me it's cos of my Nigerian mentality... I broke up with her. Now. Am. Happy like real happiness. The best thing you can do is to break up with her. Bet you she would come to. Her senses but mind you a cat will always be a cat

LivingFree:
You sound overbearing, is this not an adult who has lived all her life governing herself? How do you come along and start telling her what to do? I think you should let people live their life how they see fit and if you have a problem with the way they're doing things you should recognise that it's your problem and you should reflect on how you can manage it or if it's a deal breaker for you then move on with you're life. Imagine telling someone to close the door when they're using the toilet. It's not everybody that closes the door when they're pissing and they live with their partner. I find it uncomfortable personally so I close my door instead of telling them what to do. You don't sound like a fun person to be around always correcting people upandan like you an eraser. Learn to chill and deal with your control issues.

Na them
No be person ocean sees its leg e dey shop
Truth is that not every woman is meant for marriage & ur one of them

IS LIKE NIGERIAN MEN DEY TOO MUCH LOVE WOMEN, WITH WHAT I SAW TODAY ON THIS PLATFORM MEN LOVE MORE THAN WOMEN IN RELATIONSHIP.... GUYS WISE UP, DON'T LET ONE LADY MUMU US

He who has ears let him ear what the spirit is saying.

delugajackson:
You are dating a woman with so much ego and such woman will never make a good wife. Truth is, you can never control a woman with so much ego. If she can't apologize for little things, then she has no business being in a relationship. Take my word, she has little or no respect for you. The only reason she is with you up till this moment is because she is gaining from you, once she fulfills her aim of running you down, she will leave your áss for good.

I suggest you look for someone else with better attitude, character and finesse that will make life worth living for you, cause once you marry this particular girl, you will experience x2 of what you're suffering now. She will offer you a lifetime of misery! Who wants a stubborn, nagging, disrespectful woman with an over-bloated ego as a wife?

You need to re-consider this cause it seems you're gradually becoming a victim of emotional deficit. And the hard truth is that you both are not meant for each other.

I wont lie I'm like the lady the OP mentioned. I always try to justify my actions and emotionally trap you into apologizing by playing the ignoring game. God help me to be better, I'm working on it as well.

-Either the OP is too controlling and she is trying to act back so as to not completely lose herself in the relationship...I know I did
-Or she is trying to get out of the relationship but she is not courageous enough so she is using that medium to see if he can call it quits for her.
-Or she just plainly have that attitude of not apologizing. I know I do to an extent, mostly if I don't like you like that.

Bro. It's pathetic. I would be straight to the point. You have a decision to make. The decision is either to continue or break up wt her as from your explanation she might change or never change. U can't be sure. She can change for good now and change back to ds bad attitude after marriage. You know women are real after marriage. So decide if u can live wt her attitude if she refuse to change for good. Attitude is difficult to change except woman is desperate not wanting to lose u. But it seems u love her more. That's risky to me. I prefer dating someone that love me more, at that she will listen to me.

Why don't you just have a heart to heart talk with her? Some people don't know they're doing something wrong or hurting their loved ones. My boyfriend and I do it all the time. That aside, some ladies get cranky and temperamental during some delicate times in their cycle. Communication is the key, bro. Don't give up just yet.

Bro, i seem to understand your plight but u see, thats what makes both of you worth staying 2geda. She's temperamental and you are not, she rarely accomadate blame even 4 her own errors and u can take blames. Thats uniqueness and u guys are really meant 4 each other

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They say that women outnumber men. Therefore, you stand a better chance of getting someone better.

Everyone is expendable as has been proved by death.

Don't limit yourself. Is she the best you can do?

I guess you cannot wait to marry her and start writing Chronicles and Lamentations about your life.

Problems are easy to get into but very difficult to get out.
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Who made you her father that you will be “ correcting” her ? Is she your student ? How would she not have a bad attitude when your house is a “ correctional home “ for juvenile delinquents! You think you will be telling an adult what to do and she will like it ? Obviously your attitude to your relationship is wrong ! This is not your fathers generation where they used to “ correct “ their wives like 5 year olds ! Of course you can dump her but I seriously doubt you are going to find any girl nowadays that likes being “ corrected “ ! Otherwise you can work on your communication and learn to deal with her as an equal !

InvertedHammer:
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They say that women outnumber men. Therefore, you stand a better chance of getting someone better.

Everyone is expendable as has been proved by death.

Don't limit yourself.
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women do not outnumber men !i don’t think There is any natural population in the world where women outnumber men ! There worldwide ratio of boys to girls is 107 boy births to 100 girl births ! So there are 7 more boys than girls at birth worldwide ! You can do your own research!

Raskasal:
This post is directed to the matured minds in the house.

I've dated this lady for close to a year now and I have the intention of having her as my wife because of my love for her. She's got good qualities, cooks well, supportive in a little way but temperamental and easily provoked.

But there is this challenge I'm having with her, she puts up surly attitude and would always keep to herself whenever I correct her, and she won't talk to me for as long as we stay together, call or try to get in touch while away. This might last for as many days not until I come out to calm her down. Over times shes been doing this and the only way I've had to let things be normal is for me to talk to her again and beg her not to be angry. But I'm feeling I'm loosing my worth. This is someone that never admits she's at fault, talk less of apologizing. On several note I have had to take blame for her errors even when I'm not at fault just to make sure we're fine.

A recent development was that she came for holiday and was using the rest room within my apartment, I was passing by and asked her to close the door, she murmured, closed the door and she hasn't been talking to me since then and even when I do she'll answer reluctantly for like five days now. I am tired of living under same roof with someone that never feel anything keeping malice and I want her to realize her mistakes and apologize, but she won't, she'll rather stay back in the room, and whenever I go to the room, she be making avoiding moves.

I watched her closely to observe if she's into someone else but I haven't got any traces of that.

I have decided not to call her to terms again not minding if it costs a break up, but then am thinking I might be taking things way far.

Pls How best can I handle this? I really do love her tho and I am afraid of loosing her but I am loosing my worth and this has made her not have regards for me.

Thank you all

Your girl is still behaving like a child..I guess she is still in her early 20's?some people might tell you to talk to her but there is nothing to talk to her about.she is intentional doing what she is doing because she knows you love her and can't do without her.
One thing you will tell yourself is that you have loved someone in the past,and if you could separate from that person and survive,you can also do same to this one and find a better person.that your girl is going to be a disaster in your life and your family.she will so disrespect every member of your family including your mother because she knows you will always be on her her side and if you don't support her that would mean you begging for one month.if you don't take this decision and correct this now then you will never have the opportunity to.who gets angry just because they told her to close the door if the person is not sick in the head,what if something serious happens?better break up with her and tell her you can't continue with such character and any times she feels she is tired are will beg for forgiveness and change for good or you keep begging her like a woman.

biafraisdead:

Months back I was in a similar relationship before I finally call it a quit(I also intend to keep her as a wife, I have even introduced her to my people). I always apologise to her even while she was at fault and she will never admit been at fault or even say sorry, though she would stupidly tell me at times that her bad side is her being too proud and that she was working on her self to correct it. the day I ended the relationship was a day she insulted me and I just told her I won't call her again but she thought I was joking and since that day(over 7 months now) I haven't called her neither has she called me(because of pride). But I know she is seriously dieing now her problem is for her to call me and say 'I am sorry' she keeps calling me with unknown numbers and each time I pick she would end the call without saying anything but I know she is behind those calls, also she keeps stalking me on LinkedIn, she doesn't know LinkedIn sends u profile of people viewing ur profile. so my brother if u try to change her and she is not changing I would advise u to let her go; imagine what u would go through when u finally marry her, we shouldn't allow love to block our senses at times. any man or woman that can't say sorry is not worthy to be a husband or a wife. By the way where is she from cos we may be talking about the same girl.

Lol@ where aRe u from. U got me there hahahahhaajah

profeazy:


Please anyone that read this textbook should summarise what the heck the dude is saying for me.

In summary he is still in love with the so called ex!! Wats with all the epistles Guy is still keeping tabs on her and monitoring her life

Pataricatering:
women do not outnumber men !i don’t think There is any natural population in the world where women outnumber men ! There worldwide ratio of boys to girls is 107 boy births to 100 girl births ! So there are 7 more boys than girls at birth worldwide ! You can do your own research!

Na.na. na.

At birth it is 107 boys to 100 girls.

Then before 25, it evens out because men are more prone to death due to risks, war, etc.

Beyond 25 (marriage age), women are surplus. We are talking about ladies not girls. Of course cradle-snatchers up North will beg to differ.

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DonroxyII:
Some girls are like that especially all these lack of exposure girls ..... immediately you teach her something or correct her assertions , she will feel worthless , in secured and insulted ... GBAM, Malice has started until you reexplain yourself again via apology ...

The thing is that , her attitude ain't enough to dump her especially if she has other areas/aspects she excels like :

Career/Professional/Academic oriented,
Home management skills ,
Financial management skills,
Social skills,
Kid raising skills,
Bedmatics,
Level of Spirituality etc

There is no perfect person anywhere but you need to confirm the key indices you want in a woman .....
and her ability to learn .... The above yardstick are mine .....

My first gf/fiancee was a Medical student now a medical doc with poor family/social skills but averaged and aced some other yardsticks .... she fights over little and most stewpid things if not with Okada rider, it may be a taxi driver , her colleagues at school or her nuclear/extended family member, If it were me she's having issues with, She will rake, rake while I will just be smiling and telling her how beautiful she is when she is angry ...... If she was reporting any incident to me, I dare not blame her nor question her judgment else, she will transfer all aggression to me ....

So, anytime she was reporting anyone to me , I dey follow her insult that person ooo .... (Na psychology), at that moment of reporting (Chai, thunder fire me if I don't , else she will tagged me as aiding and abetting that person )

Then, after a day or two that sweet nonsense would have happened between us like outing, movies, lovey-dovey (Like immediately after some Sxx) ..... I would now revisit the issue and sternly recommend appropriate course of action she should have taken in that scenario and avoid any such occurrence in the future.......
I'd let her realised how much she embarrassed herself even her profession simply because of lack of patience or for as low as "I'm sorry" or #50 disagreement .... you would hear :
"yes sir, yessur " .... she tend to listen better at that moment .....

Since we broke up in 2013 , she still ain't find a man to manage her and me too on relationship holiday since then (Book ti take over)

Now that's a matured reply...

Agree wt his premise...
If this is the only slur in her character, help work on it.. Get mentors, books, counseling tips..
No one's perfect
2 imperfect people trying for a perfect union.

If looking for the perfect person, the search never ends or you end up picking a fake who reveals their true colours once married!!!

Ask the bros who are perenially lamenting on social media.


Good luck!!!!

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