omoadeleye:
Who the hell is Irukera?

If air peace can't compete with the price war then they should leave business,

For other airlines to reduce their airfare below AIRPEACE price, that means AIRPEACE can do better with their price too


Nigerians are known for tagging abnormal prices on their good and service

Eunoiaa:


So you want to get married, and you will not be financially buoyant? Is that what you're saying? If you cannot comfortably take care of your own daily needs and feeding and all, you will get married? In today's world? Nah, if you think that's realistic in any way, godspeed to you then.

There's nothing uncommon about what I'm saying or that's outrageous- everybody should be a responsible adult. There's nothing y'all are suggesting that our mothers haven't tried and gone through. Yet we see how their marriages mostly are.



No, you saying a man should provide while a woman nurtures is you selling yourself short rather, because I noticed you're not even saying the man should also support you in nurturing? You want to share in his own 'role', while your own is solely yours? Why work at all, since it's not a woman's place to contribute? Because at what point will your job and deference to your boss outside clash with your wifely duties at home to your husband? Unless you're recommending being a supermom who can balance all these together.



My baby, this outcome is the result of "supporting him while you do yours." Don't you see the correlation? You either chip in or don't chip in at all. And if you want to chip in, make it significant so you can know that you did something. It is not the 'separation of gender roles' that'll make a man not demand provision of you 'till the last straw, it is because he is an inconsiderate person and can equally demand the last of your emotional labour until the last straw. I'm not coming from a career/independent/providing vs. homemaker/stay-at-home/non-providing place. Dropping money down can never match school runs; diaper runs; schoolkids' runs; house runs; domestic and extended family runs, and sex runs. Is it presenting yourself as a nurturer, too, that they won't exploit? If all those runs are solely for you to do, then why do you still want to chip in and support him? It's like you want to be seen as being both independent and traditional, when you can just stick to one thing you want to be. Be both homely and providing, or outsource to a nanny and enjoy your lives as a couple, or one's duties doesn't cross into the other's at all.



This is another point. The 22-year-olds are not doting nurturers to these men. They leave their virtuous, 'non-equal' homemaker wives too to run after businesswomen. So, again, it is not doing or doing gender roles that'll stop men from doing or demanding whatever they want. Thinking it's only 'independent' women they leave alone at home is just a coping thought lol.



Again, semantics. Supporting him in providing is not co-providing?



But they also ask a 'nurturing woman' what she has contributed to a man's life, if he wants to divorce her later on after years of marriage. And they also blame a nurturing woman for turning the minds of the children away from an emotionally absent father.

It IS having things in your name, having a paper trail of major financial contributions to the home that ensures that one is not kicked out and left with no properties in the end should a man decide he wants divorce, at least.

On the sex part. See the woman has the right to claim that just as the man has the right to calm money. Sex is different in marriage, it becomes more of a responsibility so if she sees it as a big deal, let her be. There's no need for anyone to sound politically correct about it.

Let's bring it to the street...

You dey fvck person, you no take care of the body you dey fvck, who does that? Even the usual sex worker gets down under a roof with fan/AC and good bed after eating and drinking. Shey na married woman supposed dey knack on empty stomach? Abegii !
If the lady takes sex off the table because her husband does not provide she's within her right same way a man can quit providing if the wife is not performing her duties. It's what they both offer.

No wahala. As to this one, I believe the men have come and will come up with perfect arrangements for that.


Someone up there said the man should only provide when he needs sex. I mean, sex lasts for a few minutes, an hour at most. So maybe they'll come up with a measurement rooster for how much provision will get a period of sex.

And saying this is what a particular couple choose to do is quite different from saying this is what all couples ought to do as "man and woman", else their marriage is a waiting disaster.

That's my own grouse. It is not a one-size-fits-all thing.

CaveAdullam:
1. If you say they are "horsebands", I get the point. But to say "they lack empathy is a twist of facts and reality".

Ok. Let's go.


2. Genuine love means the tendency to go beyond your boundary and make sacrifices for the person you desire. This can cause you pain and loss, however, you don't care because you are obsessed with this person - your lover.

3. Firstly, is there anything like genuine love?

"Genuine" becomes attached to "love" when the sacrifice of one lover supersedes the other. Or, when both are working together and reciprocating the benefits they gain from each other, albeit, unequal.

There's nothing like "genuine love".

Though, we may want to cancel the aforementioned by introducing religion: God and his worshippers, and nature: a mother and her child.

It seems genuine because both God and the mother are stronger and wiser. They cater for the ones beneath them because they are weak. However, if this relationship between them can tarry amid sin and old age, it would have been "pure genuine love". But this is not the case. In the end, God wants stainless worship and the mother wants to be taken care of in old age. Their present sacrifice is speculation of reciprocity in the future.

4. Empathy and kindness are easy byproducts of "genuine" love, even outside the sexual relationship.

Take note: there is nothing like Nigerian men or Nigerian women. Men are men. Women are women. There will always be tinctures that tend to differentiate them in their behaviors, but these are just social behaviors, that sprout from their culture, tradition, background, etc. To get the full scope of "men are men" and "women are women", you must begin to microscopically examine them from their evolutionary behavior, biochemical makeup, and physical and psychological makeup. Now you don't judge from one demography, you conclude by judging men and women from different demographics.

5. Constant weddings keep churning weekly. Men in their hordes still complain about being manipulated and losing their money.

Young women still see young men without luxury as useless (of course, they are useless to women in the grand scheme of the reproductive game).

Weak men who plead for love aka "simps" still abound.

This evidence questions your take on their level of empathy, kindness, and genuine love. If they were absent, it wouldn't have been the case.

6. To date, (Nigerian) men are still proving their love for (Nigerian) women. Empathy, genuine love, and kindness are famous in men's corridors. They may be suppressed, but for the women they love, it manifests.

7. Meanwhile, men don't marry women they hate. But a woman can deceive a man into marrying her even if she doesn't love him. It is a psychological and evolutionary game.



8. I agree.

But as stated above, relationship is a transaction, love is the currency. It is less mechanical because both love themselves and fight to stay above the odds or see each other not as tools but rather, as an unequal useful pair.

9. Let me tell you, it is women and children that benefit not the man. The man holds a greater power because he's able to provide and protect for his family. What's his benefit there?

10. Women cook and clean, a role that can easily be reversed and given to a maid for lesser amount and problems. But can the woman wake up one morning and pick any man that will commit? No.

You may think that this is the reason women should become independent and have their money. Yet if she gets married, she desires the man to meet up with his primal duties. In egalitarian societies, there are still sexual differences.

11. The benefits men derived are evolutionary. The benefits women derived are evolutionary, physical, material, and emotional.


12. You are correct.

What you must understand is that the average human is under the control of their primal instincts. Despite our evolved environment, that hunter-gatherer instinct wired in us for thousands of years still got a loud mouth and a loudspeaker.

It takes self-awareness to understand another person, only then will you be able to reach reasonable conclusions about people and not fall into feuds daily.

13. Based on their nature and environment, cooking and cleaning were the appropriate ways to get their number 1 priority, which was to get married to a man that will fulfill their needs. In the same way, "horsebands" work hard to provide for their wives.

These were the thought of 99.9% of women even to date. The reason you are objecting is because of the rapid change in our environment, level of exposure, and information consumed.

14. However, there is a need for women to understand themselves before even choosing a man. Here the importance of a father and mother becomes imminent, to guard, lead and counsel her in the way of men and the operations of the world.



15. Financial resources are not all they need, however, come first on the list of what they should possess before getting married.

Finance is important for his personal growth and development.

Without finance, he will be ridiculed.

Without finance, no one will respect him.

Women want commitment, finance signals that. This is what women consider before marriage.

16. Intelligence, personality, wisdom, kindness, empathy, confidence, and braveness comes second. If women chase this second bag in men, many wouldn't have been baby mamas/single mothers who complain about deadbeat dads; finance may not be obvious for this reason, but there was the mystery of it. They made the mistake of choosing wrongly.



17. These personalities may be suppressed due to circumstances at a particular time, but for the average man, these personalities are quotidian in their domain. You just need to observe the way they treat their loved ones and the people around them.



18. Women or not, men must provide, either for their family or themselves. It is because of this eternal burden to provide that makes them dwell less in the emotional domain. That emotional plane is for women because nobody expects much from them.

Men must either provide or create or else, be considered a nuisance. A bigger nuisance if he opts out of the game because he will first be disrespected and later die of hunger.



19. To be sincere, all men desire in a woman is teachableness, smartness, boldness and being able to fulfill her common role: nurturing, cleaning, and cooking.

Woke and independent women going off the scale find a problem with men since in the long run, men aren't willing to comply.

Many men are sheep though.



20. For the record, men don't marry women they hate. The cost of a wedding ceremony and running a family is too risky a task to treat a woman wrongly. Disagreements will always arise but they wouldn't get to the point it will erase his love for her except otherwise.

21. It is left for the woman to do a thorough job on the man she decides to submit to. Women make mistakes in selecting the wrong men and cry cats and dogs when these men aren't what they bargained for.

Thanks.

Cc. Emmaodet, Hedgefunds, Reminderz

DaddyJapan:
Farooq is basically right here, but this is why my nuanced position has been wholesomely offensive to the unlettered and uncultured wing of the Obidient movement and feral BATistas of late.

Tinubu is guilty of many sins that are capable of torpedoing him from the high office he occupies.
I know this well because having studied him for a long time, I have been able to locate where bodies are buried - metaphorically speaking.

The problem is that, propelled largely by undiluted hatred and barely disguised bigotry, a lot of his traducers have been unable to separate the wheat from the chaff. Again and again, armed with seemingly scintillating but easily dismissible claims, they have ran up the hill screaming blue murder even as they were completely off base. In other words, for want of a crime Tinubu's opponents went off tangent and therefore lost by a mile.

Sadly, while Teflon Don would emerge from the current assault on his chequered and duplicitous past weaker and somewhat compromised, it is our nation that suffers the more, thanks to the incessant de-marketing efforts of his opponents. If there is a lesson to be learnt here at all, it is quite simply that emotion and sentiment can never be the main driver for any forensic investigation.

Beverlyjean:
Y is this guy too arrogant and petty.... beginning of last season , he missed a penalty and there was no fuzz about it , he acted like a normal.player will... he later on had a successful season blasting goals and he was honoured by the fans ... he now started feeling like a god ... the same thing happened this season, instead of him to even overlook the miss like he did last season, he started throwing tantrums and then insulted his coach... cos he now feels without him Napoli is nothing....typical arrogant fool...and that's what lead to the tiktok video ... that's the problem with some people, humility should always be maintained, no matter what u have achieved...

DIVINEEVIDENCE:
We wear suits and ties to work not because we love them above our jeans and sneakers, but because it is appropriate for the formal work environment.

People must encounter and interact with our dressing and appearance before interacting with us on a spiritual, emotional or psychological level.

There are kingly robes and presidential demeanor. To carry oneself unseemly without recourse to the office one occupies is the very apogee of puerility.

A G.O. who looks the part of a ruffian and sees no reason to moderate his appearance to compliment his spiritual (if any) impartation to his congregation is a ticking sh*t bomb.

I simply hope the church has not mistakenly cast their pearls to swine.

All in all, I see this church splintering very soon.
Mark my words.

Varunpulyani:
Bola A Thubv say if them release e certificate heaven go fall o

wittywriter:

Saw your email request can you kindly tell me the reason why?

Wittyness

Acidosis:
Omo, this man is being used by God to accomplish remarkable feats. I followed the programme online, and everywhere choke. The whole space was filled up. I thought UK was the height...

I'll continue to emphasise this: Religion and Entertainment have the potential to elevate this country to greater heights. Christianity was one reason that European powers used to colonize and exploit Africa. We can use the same Christianity as a country to re-colonize the world and take back what belongs to us.

There are only a few MOGs on Earth who can consistently attract over 500,000 live viewers online every day for 365 days.

Nigeria is currently the powerhouse of Christianity, not Israel, not USA. But, politicians persist in prioritising personal gains over the Nigerian dream. Nigerian MOGs (all the big names you can think about) continuously shut down stadium all over Africa without making any noise. They (and entertainers) are the reason we still get some level of respect. Politicians add nothing but shame and reproach.

uche87:
Nigerian Marriages always appear solid and formidable until the union gets a visa. The moment it passes through the UK Point of Entry, it starts to develop cracks until it takes more falls than the Naira under the current Tinubu administration. In this piece, I will be taking a dive into the common reasons why Nigerian marriages struggle on UK soil.

(1). Personal Vendetta:
Marriage as an institution in Nigeria is modeled around patriarchy - a system of male dominance. In this case, the man is the king while the woman is the queen. As you know, the king dominates the queen, and nothing he does is wrong in most cases (especially for the wealthy men). The woman could be forced to endure physical, verbal, psychological, financial abuse, and lots more. She stands to get mocked if her marriage crashes. This creates age-long bitterness and a cold war in the union. Women have a long memory and they hardly forgive. The moment the marriage transits to a society that gives women an upper hand against men, they come for their pound of flesh like Shylock. This destroys the foundation and subsequently brings it to an end.

(2). Level Playing field:
Marriage in Nigeria is a bit lopsided in terms of the professional profiles of the couples. In some cases, the husband might be a doctor while the wife might be selling beauty products or other petty items that cannot sustain her financially. The man steps in, and this gives him an undue edge in the marriage. In the UK where a hard-working bartender can match a nurse financially, and there is a level playing ground, power changes hands. The man who might be an alpha male loses that edge. This kind of equality - an unfamiliar territory for the man, if not well-managed might be the collapse of the marriage.

(3). Cultural Issues:
In the UK, the difference between a man and a woman might be that one menstruates and the other doesn't. In fact, people switch genders according to their moods. In simple terms, there is no duty/responsibility that is totally exclusive to a man or woman. Over here, men go to the market, clean, wash, cook, babysit, run errands, and also fund the home. Local champions who are used to being served like emperors by their wives might struggle to cope with the new environment and could feel short-changed.

(4). Busy Schedules:
It is no longer news that the cost of living in the UK is as high as a COVID-19 patient's temperature. In my previous articles, I have overemphasized how people inevitably work for long hours in order to cope with rising living expenses and financial demands from their families back home. This might affect bonding between young couples and reduce intimacy. Most times, when one party is ready for a "mid-section parley", the other might be unavailable due to conflicting shift patterns, not being in the mood due to mental or physical stress. This gradually takes a negative toll on the marriage.

(5). Women Are Powerful Abroad:
In the West, there are checks to prevent the domination of women by men. This has made women so powerful. In the event of a conflict, the odds are always against the men. The Spanish FA chief, Luis Rubiales learned the hard way for controversially kissing midfielder, Jennifer Hermoso at the recently concluded 2023 Women's World Cup. Also in February 2021, Yoshiro Mori - head of the Tokyo 2020 Olympic Games Organising Committee, was coerced into resigning after saying 'women talk too much in meetings'. Former Manchester United player, Mason Greenwood apparently ruined his career due to struggles with his partner. In marriage, some women mischievously abuse their powers. A colleague lost his marriage of 5 years after his wife reportedly abused him physically multiple times. A behaviour that was never evident in Nigeria according to him.

(6). Cheating:
A randy man who is obsessed with beautiful women would easily make mistakes in the UK. The UK exposes you to numerous women of different shapes, forms, and beauty. If you think you have seen it all, you need to see the Jamaican, Somalian, Pakistani, Iranian, curvy Kenyans, and some pretty Indian women. It is not just how they look alone but what they are wearing. Some of them might fancy you and might be willing to hand you the cookie on a platter of gold. There are also several single mothers who have nothing to lose. They are ready to 'share it' graciously like the Federal Government palliatives across their community. One person's husband might be hooked to the detriment of his marriage.

(7). Finances:
Another area of challenge in a UK home is money. In an informal survey I personally conducted, I realized it is the most common problem around. It is extremely difficult for a man to singlehandedly foot the household bills in the UK. Paying for everything is easily obtainable in Nigeria where the cost of living is lower. A woman who is used to the Nigerian system might be hoarding cash, and under-declaring her finances. This is done to force the man to fill the vacuum. This creates discontentment, and over time, frustration starts to hit the man. He might be tempted to seek solace outside the marriage to boost his mental health.

Osahon George Osayimwen is a Journalist and a Developmental Psychologist. He writes from the South Yorkshire region of England.

Mummyfour:
21st if August, I was at the American embassy for a visa appointment.

From the period spanning 3 hours I was there, nobody left the interview room with a smile or laughter. Almost every one there was rejected.

The funniest thing about the rejection was the verdict on the light blue paper given to the intending travellers which read" you have not demonstrated that you have enough ties to bring you back to Nigeria "

In a layman's terms, it means we are suspecting that you want to japa into the US.

The most painful aspect was a lot of undergraduates that were turned down. A guy that had a $60,000 worth of scholarship was bounced too.

I saw someone who was just going on a study leave from a whole Deloitte where he works in presently in Nigeria being bounced too.
Most of the interviewers didn't even check out relevant documents of the applicants, but just drew their conclusion based on face value.

I was discussing with people and they said inasmuch as the reason for that verdict was baseless and stupid, we Nigerians are viewed as the worst of the worst world citizens to allow access into the US, irrespective of one's qualifications.
We have a government, system and people that are fantastically corrupt.
We have people who engage in and support illegalities.

Our judiciary is biased and is for the highest bidders, and our political system and elections are flawed (none is perfect anywhere in the world) but ours is glaring and very embarrassing.

Our leaders are not patriotic and that is why when we as citizens have our rights trampled on locally or internationally, nothing is done about it.
Nigeria is not regarded as anything again.
In other words, we are just seen as nothing but irritating pollutants.

So for those of you that applaud evil in this land, pray you remain forever in Nigeria because even if it is just to go and visit and come back, they will not allow you.
If you even have a scholarship or any good thing that can take you out of this country, you will be frustrated at the embassy.

And for those of you that left already and are destroying the name of Nigeria, God's punishment awaits you.
And for those that are still making us proud in the US and elsewhere, may God continue to bless your efforts

I rest my case.
Please mods front page

astonished:
And some slowpoke will post a picture of Nigeria military men and says this people risk Thier life to make us have piece of mind,

That statement always make me nut, Nigerian soldier that the only thing they know in thier life is a show of force to the innocent unarmed civilian, brutalized unarmed innocent civilian and they started feeling accomplished in life

blabulu2000:
May his ways be rough

clinician2x:
Imagine the downtrodden disabled Nigerians living in the trenches and the rabbit hole. I saw one the other day and I wrote something in a piece of paper "sometimes death is a solution" and added to 500# and gave him. What that guy de live is not a life.

EkoIle1:



It doesn't matter many times you repeat that silly justification for ashebe's violent and destructive behavior, fact remains that his action was pure lunacy, it was violent and destructive, it was a reflection of his own crude ways and barbaric means of conflict resolution. People piss us off everyday, but we don't grab axes or weapons and start destroying things all over the place.


You are basically admitting that ashebe was emotionally unstable and he lacked the capacity to control his emotions (This we know he was incapable of doing especially with his bigoted and hateful book)and he was a ticking and destructive time bomb. Thank God he didn't chop off people's dead with the axe..

chatinent:
Abeg wetin we dey manufacture for Nigeria?


Corruption?

Nairalandar:
Kindly be of help...

He got a laptop as present from his mom and we are trying to update it with Educative apps.

Thanks.

Gabriel004:
Keep quiet, rather, CNN is dealing the bastard lying worthless government that are ashamed to tell the truth. Thinking they can intimidate CNN.


CNN has dealt with so many sensible government that they couldn't do a jark. Is it senseless backward government that want to do shit.


They should do what they want to do instead of blabbing. CNN will still bring another proof.


Una just start.

Which useless Country.