cooljoe13:

thanks bro for d advice but am the type that i dont have female friend, i dont even move freely wit them. bt now am thinking of going to them and asking for friendship maybe that can help

You don't ask people for friendship. That's awkward. You just let it happen naturally. And I'm not your bro, I'm a woman

Wow you are kinda short. I'm 5"5. It shall be well

cooljoe13: thanks bro for the comment, i really appreciate it. which means i need to be in a relationship before i get to meet d real one. thanks once again

I don't think he meant you have to be in a relationship per se, but at least get some experience under your belt. Develop stronger friendships with females, date around a little, and build yourself up. You'll learn a lot about yourself and women that way.

Whose picture is that? And please take it down and respect that person's privacy.

densil: dont let little things build up, express ur sef by telling him or her how and wot u feel

That's true. But sometimes it's hard to know when to bring something up. Like if something is bothering me about my relationship, I have to sleep over it. The reason why is because I can be very over dramatic sometimes to the point where I over analyze things based off of my emotions. But when I sleep over it it helps me to calm down and look at this from a more logical point of view. Then once I've done that, I determine whether or not if the issue is still a big deal enough to tell my partner or if it's something that I can let slide.

Mynd_44: Talk about everything in the early stage. Talk about what you like and dislike

I agree. And it's not just talking about it but also spending quality time with your partner so that you can see for yourself the things they enjoy and the things that bug them. You can only learn do so much from talking with your partner over the phone. It's when you spend physical time with them that you get an in depth idea of who they are.

Ridiculous smh

For a cousin you sure do know a lot of what's going on in his life.

Ummm pencil and eraser? That's a very unhealthy relationship. You can only be one or the other. That means that the pencil will never take accountability for its mistakes. Why not just cross the mistake out and keep writing instead of expecting the eraser to be responsible for all your mistakes.

Mmm mmm mmm ^^^ I didn't read the extra info. That's a very interesting husband

Come on it's 2014, what's the big deal? Whoever is available should do it.

What is life? I'll tell you one thing. With this thread you are going to get a whole lot of posts attempting to answer your question. None of them will be right and none of them will be wrong. They will all be different answers because there is no answer. Life and its meaning has to be defined by you and only you because you're the only one who gets to live your life. So enjoy the answers you find.

Mynd_44: The major problem here miss is that you don't seem to understand your husband. He is avoiding you not because he does not forgive you or he is punishing you, far from it ma'am, he is avoiding you because he is scared.

Him being scared here is because of the fact that he fears what he might/do if he does not stay away from you. He might have a wicked tongue he is trying to check or be the violent type and everytime he remembers what you have done, he might lash out at you which will eventually make him feel guilty and of course hurt you.

Try to understand this and try talking to him about it after the next round of silence. You will be suprised.

That sounds like a possible reason for his behavior but we can't really tell because only he knows why he does what he does. I think the wife should ask him why he feels that's the best way to handle the heat of an argument

I overanalyze and overexaggerate things too much

Hmm for starters how about I use my income to:

Pay my car note
Pay my car insurance
Pay off my student loans
Pay off my credit card debt
Pay my phone bill
Pay for health/ dental insurance (unless my husband will cover that for me too)
Buy groceries
Go shopping
Get my hair and nails done
Increase my savings

Because as a single girl these are a few of my financial responsibilities anyway.

If my man doesn't want me contributing to the house hold bills, fine with me. I have a whole rack of other stuff I need to pay for anyway.

Interesting post, but I think I will just do my own thing and just let 2014 be. There are already enough guides to live by in life.

You know you can't change your husband unless he wants to himself. You've already told him that you don't like the way you guys argue. Now instead of waiting for him to be the one to change, you change. If you know that his way of handling disagreements is to give you silent treatments and that that is killing you, then fine, be the one to always apologize first. Or keep talking to him and going about your day normally and if he continues to ignore you, just remind yourself that its a childish fit that hes throwing and he'll get over it soon. It's not about right or wrong, but it's about doing what will keep you happy and sane.

^^^ Hmm

Women who don't work should not be viewed as necessarily un-independent. Somebody needs to run the home and doing that isn't as easy as people make it seem. Men who are the breadwinner and only source of income in their home need to understand that all of those promotions and pay raises and other accomplishments are only made possible because someone else is sacrificing her time to worry about the home stuff so you don't have to. I'm tired of people bashing stay at home moms or housewives as if one size stereotypes fits all. You can be a stay at home mom or housewife and still be emotionally or financially independent. How? It's called having a backup plan. Ladies plan your marriage even before you get married.

OMG people! He's two years old for goodness sakes. This is normal. Imagine being two years old and not knowing what a shadow is or why it suddenly appears sometimes and follows you around, doing everything you do. Of course he'd be freaked out.

ene_elfreda: I was actually sleeping wen i heard loud fireworks behind my window...tot it was armed robbers, nearly jumped out of my skin, den i heard "happy new year" 4rm my neigbours. I crossed ova in my sleep. Lol!

Haha me too. I was asleep in the couch and my boyfriend was watching sports when I heard the fireworks . I asked him if they were gun shots and he laughed at me.

I dunno, because they can

Why not?

reganvida: What does being in love feel like... THE DUMMY EDITION.

It feels like there is a button in front of you that says "press this for free cookies," but every time you press it, a bird sh*t on your head but you keep pressing it anyway and once in every 100 times, you get the cookie. And its the best f**king cookie you've ever had. And while you're eating it, you realize you'll willingly get sh*t on 99 more times in hopes of getting another cookie. Then one day, THE COOKIES STOP COMING

Ummm....I don't know what kind of dysfunctional relationships you've been in but that is not love.

I think she's trying to tell you that she doesn't enjoy sex with you. It feels like she's doing you a favor because you're the only one enjoying it. Therefore she wants you to thank her for going through something she doesn't enjoy.

foxgiovani: Hmmm, you really sound professional. Many th,ks for your contribution. Now, the thing there is that she bites if they try to collect what she's holding or if she tries to collect what y wheare holding. This will make them want to drag the thing in question. So she does it to attach or to defend.

That's normal for her age. You have to teach her to use her words. Every time she tries to grab the thing in question from her peer, get in her face, tell her to look at you and say with a very stern voice "Not nice!!!! We don't snatch, we say please." You will have to keep doing this over and over again. Children learn through repetiton. By the time she's 3 years old, you would have given her more vocabulary, and you would have taught her that biting isn't the only way to get what you want.

I'm not a parent but I'm teacher who has taught in early childhood education before. Caining can be effective but it will only bring immediate change instead of long term. Since she's two, it's important to figure out what is triggering the biting behavior. Observe her when she plays with her peers. Is she biting as a way of initiating play? Or is she biting her friends when they try to play with something that she has? Or maybe she enjoys all the attention she gets from biting. Just imagine from a two year olds perspective. You bite your friend, your friend starts crying, all the teachers rush to you after they've seen what you've done and they scold you for it. It's exciting, because it's attention and a lot of stimulation all at once. Children don't care if it negative or positive attention. And also understand where she's at developmentally, its normal for two year olds to have the tendency to bite when they want something a friend has, because they lack the proper vocabulary and language skills necessary to communicate their needs. That's when you as an adult have to step in and say "We don't bite!!! We use our words. Tell him you want the ball." It's good to correct bad behavior, but remember you have to also actively teach good behavior. Hope this helps.

He woke me up each morning. He took me to work safely and brought me back each day. He gave me love and taught me how to give it.

It's not disrespectful if the father and mother have no problem with it. And plus these children are little. They're probably mimicking their mom. I have an aunt who calls her husband Darling K as a pet name, and for the longest time her three year old daughter kept calling her dad by that name. She didn't mean any disrespect by it. As a child she was just mimicking the mom and now that she's older she's grown out of it.

greatgod2012: Obviously, no sane person can do this, the woman need to be mentally examined, and might also be as a result of late post natal depression, also, bipolar disorder might not be ruled out.

I agree, there must have been some kind of post traumatic stress going on because this is just crazy.

I don't know what to say.