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Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by claremont(m): 10:12am On Aug 11, 2012
I can't begin to imagine that ladies still use that phrase in this day and age of seven women to one man. What's the point?! A gullible guy will remain gullible regardless of whatever 'playing hard to get' techniques the lady uses; it only means that he should be as patient as the Serengeti crocodile. . .
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 10:38am On Aug 11, 2012
*Shollypopz:
lol Ogugua
You seem to undermine how fickle like is. Just look at the amount of people you've liked and those u used to like and don't like anymore
This is exactly my problem with all this bf/gf relationship. Most of them are out rightly dumb. You mean to tell me because i like a guy or because this guy has the some of the qualities I'm looking for in a guy i should agree to be in a relationship with him. Just like that! lmao! Outrageous!....

There is this guy i have been crushing on for 2 yrs now.. Like i really really like this guy and the qualities he exudes. If he asks me out right now, I'm going to say capital letter NO! Why?? At this stage of my life relationship can be a distraction, probably by fall next year. If i tell him i'll think about it, it's because i'm trying to stall till a time that's convenient for me.
"I'll think about it" @ times, is because you really like this dude and you want to be with him even though u knw u're not in the right frame of mind or there are some other things in ur life that requires utmost priority.

If i had gone out with every guy i once liked, I think i deserve to be called a slut!! Honestly, like wtf??!!

Going into a relationship should be a lil more than "OH! I really like that guy!"

No, that's not what I'm saying at all. At a certain age, each man and woman should know what he or she wants in a partner. I'm referring to when you've gotten to know this person well and he asks the woman to be his girlfriend (or vice versa, it is 2012). There's a difference between crush/infatuation/like and attraction on multiple levels. That kind of attraction can only come with knowing someone.

There's no way a woman would say "I'll think about it" if she really wants him. Absolutely no way, even in your kind of situation. For you to put the man to which you're referring on hold means you don't mind risking him being taken by the time you've sorted your personal affairs. It's no crime; don't take offense. However, if one felt about the other strong enough to the point that he or she couldn't do without that other, one would at least explain the situation and ask him or her to bear with the situation, rather than giving a flat "no" or "I'll think about it".

Biology is very simple. Relationships? Very simple. It's people who make the game of love and attraction complicated. Initially, you mentioned "playing hard to get". It's when people choose to play "hard to get" and expect the other person to use telopathy and read their actual feelings that things become difficult and/or go wrong. Then they come to Nigeria's #1 counseling site for relationship advice.

I think the moral of the story is that if a woman says "I'll think about it", more than likely she's already thought about it and has a response. That's what I tried to convey initially but didn't do as well as I could have lol.

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Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by davidcobi: 10:40am On Aug 11, 2012
^^^
@Ogugua! How come people always misunderstand you here on NL?
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 10:40am On Aug 11, 2012
My own language I speak.
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by davidcobi: 10:44am On Aug 11, 2012
ogugua88: My own language I speak.
I really dreamt about you last night!!
You wouldn't believe what happened in that dream....
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 10:45am On Aug 11, 2012
My language I was teaching you?
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by davidcobi: 10:52am On Aug 11, 2012
Nooo! I was about having my breakfast in the dream, and you broke into my house with a huge cutlass... I ran throughout the entire dream! :-/ No thanks to you.

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Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 10:52am On Aug 11, 2012
ogugua88:

No, that's not what I'm saying at all. At a certain age, each man and woman should know what he or she wants in a partner. I'm referring to when you've gotten to know this person well and he asks the woman to be his girlfriend (or vice versa, it is 2012). There's a difference between crush/infatuation/like and attraction on multiple levels. That kind of attraction can only come with knowing someone.

There's no way a woman would say "I'll think about it" if she really wants him. Absolutely no way, even in your kind of situation. For you to put the man to which you're referring on hold means you don't mind risking him being taken by the time you've sorted your personal affairs. It's no crime; don't take offense. However, if one felt about the other strong enough to the point that he or she couldn't do without that other, one would at least explain the situation and ask him or her to bear with the situation, rather than giving a flat "no" or "I'll think about it".

Biology is very simple. Relationships? Very simple. It's people who make the game of love and attraction complicated. Initially, you mentioned "playing hard to get". It's when people choose to play "hard to get" and expect the other person to use telopathy and read their actual feelings that things become difficult and/or go wrong. Then they come to Nigeria's #1 counseling site for relationship advice.

I think the moral of the story is that if a woman says "I'll think about it", more than likely she's already thought about it and has a response. That's what I tried to convey initially but didn't do as well as I could have lol.
End Of Discussion! E O D
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 10:56am On Aug 11, 2012
ℓ̊ hope ur relationships are_working out jez fine... undecided
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 11:05am On Aug 11, 2012
davidcobi: Nooo! I was about having my breakfast in the dream, and you broke into my house with a huge cutlass... I ran throughout the entire dream! :-/ No thanks to you.

grin grin grin

In your dream I was not. Allergic to cutlass I am. Peace, I practice. Violence not lol.

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Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by jhydebaba(m): 11:22am On Aug 11, 2012
OP, go and make money first. Haven't you heard of this quote: "Money brings b*tches, b*tches bring life".
No girl will put u in waiting (I'll think about it) if u are rich but I'm sorry if u are still struggling.
Another quote from a rich man who was once poor "I get more asssssss now than a public toilet"

I tot most of dis girls sef don turn olosho finish, so, which one be I'll think about it sef.
Money unlock punnary not love.

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Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 11:26am On Aug 11, 2012
No, that's not what I'm saying at all. At a certain age, each man and woman should know what he or she wants in a partner. I'm referring to when you've gotten to know this person well and he asks the woman to be his girlfriend (or vice versa, it is 2012). There's a difference between crush/infatuation/like and attraction on multiple levels. That kind of attraction can only come with knowing someone.
[size=13pt] ^^Too big of an assumption to make from the OP's post!![/size]
ogugua88:
There's no way a woman would say "I'll think about it" if she really wants him. Absolutely no way, even in your kind of situation. For you to put the man to which you're referring on hold means you don't mind risking him being taken by the time you've sorted your personal affairs. It's no crime; don't take offense. However, if one felt about the other strong enough to the point that he or she couldn't do without that other, one would at least explain the situation and ask him or her to bear with the situation, rather than giving a flat "no" or "I'll think about it".

Biology is very simple. Relationships? Very simple. It's people who make the game of love and attraction complicated. Initially, you mentioned "playing hard to get". It's when people choose to play "hard to get" and expect the other person to use telopathy and read their actual feelings that things become difficult and/or go wrong. Then they come to Nigeria's #1 counseling site for relationship advice.

I think the moral of the story is that if a woman says "I'll think about it", more than likely she's already thought about it and has a response. That's what I tried to convey initially but didn't do as well as I could have lol.

One misleading assumption in your post: The op has gotten to know the girl he's asking out well and vice versa
Lmao...how many relationshps Ogugua, do ppl have now was based on prior friendship. That number i assure you is very low. I favor going out with someone whom u were already friends with. It helps clear obscure situations but we all know most relationships are not like that.
You prolly met him somewhere and was feeling the guy, started talking, and then u started to like him even more, bla bla bla...........*u knw how d story goes*

For the bolded part: If you dare go out with someone when u are not ready to, because you are scared of losing him, just start preparing for a breakup. Because you would end up messing up that relationship with your problems and issues because you were not mentally and emotionally ready for it. Like i was saying, if i go out with that guy now than next year. I would ruin what could hv been a long lasting relationship........
#My bad, i dont knw ppl gave flat NOs and "I'll think about it" without reasons. I thought they went hand in hand.
Well, my favorite line is- "For reasons best known to me". (lol).... At times, i don't give reasons because the guy might convince me that my reasons are flimsy and all. So must of the time, i don't open my reasons up for debate. If he is that willing to let me go and replace me, lmao....i don't think his feelings were that strong in the first place.

As far as playing hard to get is concerned, i was only giving reasons why a girl would say I'll think about it when she really likes the guy.
I'll think about it @times is simply I would need to think about it; no games!
Hold up!!!.......Were u just marketing for Nairaland??!! lmao!

Again, i list my reasons why i oppose "A girl that is into you would not say i'll think about it":
1.) She's playing hard to get
2.) Not sure if you feel strongly for her as she feels for you
3.) She's not ready for a relationship now, but she's scared of loosing you
4.) Does not want to ruin the feelings you guys have for each other. (If she brings her issues into that relationship, it might go sour and they might never be able to remain cordial to each other again, ever! The like they thought they felt would be completely destroyed.)
5.) Getting to know the guy a lil better
6.) She's stalling (For reasons best known to her, lol)

[b]P.S: [/b]Biology and laws of attraction??!! lmao...u know Biology relates attraction btw animals more to mating. Which changes d whole discussion and supports my stance even more. It's not that simple!! 'Really like' we assume will grow into love. Love my sister is not simple. Don't forget relationship exists mostly because of love; hence relationship is not simple
Love not simple. Why?? .......I wuld go on if u ask me to......

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Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 11:43am On Aug 11, 2012
davidcobi:
Send me your PIN. I've been looking for you..
lol, Nigerians!!...... When will u guys realize not everyone uses a blackberry
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by davidcobi: 11:48am On Aug 11, 2012
*Shollypopz:

lol, Nigerians!!...... When will u guys realize not everyone uses a blackberry
It doesn't matter babe! We could still be connected through other channels!! Send me a mail!
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 11:52am On Aug 11, 2012
davidcobi:
It doesn't matter babe! We could still be connected through other channels!! Send me a mail!
"I WILL THINK ABOUT IT".....Lmao!
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by davidcobi: 11:55am On Aug 11, 2012
*Shollypopz:

"I WILL THINK ABOUT IT".....Lmao!
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Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by bendazum: 11:59am On Aug 11, 2012
madeonline: Every lady always has to think about it or had thought it through before the proposal came. For the man, what you have control over is your waiting period if she would not give you a firm response in three months , she would probably never give you one in the next three years. So you have to quickly make up your mind either to play along or walk away!!!!

Walking away is most preferable here. To avoid manipulation, waste of time, money, energy, resources etc
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 12:00pm On Aug 11, 2012
*Shollypopz:

"I WILL THINK ABOUT IT".....Lmao!
undecided
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 12:04pm On Aug 11, 2012
hornipipe: undecided
Excuse me, do i know you??!! angry
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 12:05pm On Aug 11, 2012
*Shollypopz:

Excuse me, do i know you??!! angry
undecided
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 12:08pm On Aug 11, 2012
*Shollypopz:

Excuse me, do i know you??!! angry
let me_think about it_ undecided
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 12:10pm On Aug 11, 2012
hornipipe: let me_think about it_ undecided
Naah brah, dat was rhetorical..... undecided
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by davidcobi: 12:11pm On Aug 11, 2012
*Shollypopz:

Excuse me, do i know you??!! angry
We are here to seek a solution to " I'll think about it" @Shollypopz.... So! Do send me a mail.
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 12:15pm On Aug 11, 2012
*Shollypopz:

Naah brah, dat was rhetorical..... undecided
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Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by truthhurts2: 12:22pm On Aug 11, 2012
engrtee: TELL HER DIS.....SAY YES OR I KIL U.she wil say yes
u DULLL?
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Emmy9ite(m): 12:23pm On Aug 11, 2012
hornipipe: u say this because?
because no gal has told me that! wink
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by vislabraye(m): 12:24pm On Aug 11, 2012
@ poster how did you ask ur first gf out?Personally I would take things gradually without any expectation. Flirt with her and enjoy yourself. If she reciprocates get her number and fix an appointment with her. You will know if she gives u green light.

People try to complicate things including these babes. Over all, if you have a lot of money and an average game you'll still be successful.
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by truthhurts2: 12:26pm On Aug 11, 2012
mikeuz:



Ugly is far 4fm me, handsome is nearer to me.
can u post ur pics? to stand as a prove
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by truthhurts2: 12:35pm On Aug 11, 2012
ogugua88: "I will think about it" means she's probably not that into you. Every woman fantasizes about an array of scenarios for every potential bf that crosses her path. If she likes you, then she wouldn't hesitate.
what if her diary is pritty full?
What if she feel like staying indoor?
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Nobody: 12:40pm On Aug 11, 2012
Emmy9ite: because no gal has told me that! wink
all these mouth rappers..
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by davidcobi: 12:42pm On Aug 11, 2012
hornipipe: all these mouth rappers..
grin grin grin Another August Visitor?
Re: HOW TO AVOID "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" RESPONSE? by Okontami: 12:42pm On Aug 11, 2012
Guys no lady rejects a great treat. It depends on what exactly you want. If its a truthful relationship, you might need to give her time to really reflect on her view about you. otherwise, if you just wanna bang her and she is this godess giving you a strong headache , then give her a treat of her life eg. a weekend holiday in Kenya, Ethiopia , South Africa , Dubai or UK will do the job if you can afford it, if not you can look inwards in Naija and the rest is history. Your JT is already dangling in her PUNNY. True fact

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