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| Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by acidtalk: 12:10pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
When it comes to hearing people ho dated for several years (some up to 10years) with both the male and female's family members as well as friends all hoping and looking forward for the couples to tie the knot only for them to come up with tales of "incompatibility" issues and stories. Stories of ladies (and sometimes guys) committing suicide due to breakup of relationship that lasted many several years only got ended when marriage talks where in progress. The question is, why do so many years of courtship end up with excuses of incompatibility issues just before marriage. If this people could date for years at what point did they decide they can't marry based on compatibility issues. 1 Like |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by ITbomb(m): 12:26pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
Normally most people get bored being with the same person for too long , even inn marriage after like 2 years . The only reason marriage stand is because of societal influence and the stigma of divorce in Nigeria especially so called christians or the kids, the parties just have to stay in. However for an uncommitted relationship , people can just walk away without any string attached. But I'm still confuse on why it is only the woman labeled as ' used ' . After the man took care of her all those years 13 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by acidtalk: 4:15pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
I think 'responsible and caring men' are more used than women cry out to be used. True, the societing frowns at divorce and divorce cases but so many people are dying gradually in the marriages because they are miserable in them. I have seen a man who always celebrate with his friends whenever he is sent out on official assignment of of the country or state. He pulls strings in his office to be sent on long official duties outside his state so he can avoid his wife because in his words "he is just stuck in such a terrible union". |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by Mynd44: 4:28pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
^^ |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
Helo Mr Acid, causes and why actually means the same thing...  |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by acidtalk: 5:05pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Brand_new: Helo Mr Acid, causes and why actually means the same thing... Thank you sir. Put the blame on my Nght school teacher who didn't teach me that. 4 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by kokoye(m): 6:11pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
acidtalk: If this people could date for years at what point did they decide they can't marry based on compatibility issues. A million years of courtship is still different than Marriage. There's no 'lock' that binds a courtship like wedlock. If you KNOW it wont work and have grown enough balls to call it quit... better late than never. 4 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by Nobody: 6:22pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Greed 1 Like |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by Mynd44: 6:41pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
acidtalk:You should demand for a refund 3 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by acidtalk: 9:08pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Mynd_44: Its a FREE school so there's no way I can get a refund. 2 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by Mynd44: 9:33pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
acidtalk:They should pay you damages for wasting your time 10 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by Goldieluks: 9:43pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
acidtalk: When it comes to hearing people ho dated for several years (some up to 10years) with both the male and female's family members as well as friends all hoping and looking forward for the couples to tie the knot only for them to come up with tales of "incompatibility" issues and stories. Because it is wrong to court someone for years without marrying that person. Six months courtship should be the maximum, of getting to know one's partner. 2 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by tpia5: 9:47pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
op you seem like a very curious person. o maa nwadi nkan. |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by KINGwax(m): 9:54pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Brand_new: Helo Mr Acid, causes and why actually means the same thing...he's from kogi state, cut him some slacks. He really tried at that level. Continue jare mr acid. Keep pourin acids on the thread wit your 'talk' 2 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by KINGwax(m): 9:58pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Goldieluks:do you meant to say six months is enough to keep up the pseudo.behaviors in order to lure a party into marriage? 1 Like |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by Goldieluks: 9:59pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
KINGwax: do you meant to say six months is enough to keep up the pseudo.behaviors in order to lure a party into marriage? Indeed, and am referring to two serious minded adults. |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by acidtalk: 10:44pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
tpia@: maybe because i feel very free sharing personal experiences and thoughts. |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by acidtalk: 10:45pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
KINGwax: he's from kogi state, cut him some slacks. He really tried at that level. Continue jare mr acid. Keep pourin acids on the thread wit your 'talk' DAMN!!! THAT'S HARSH. Dont let those Kogi folks in here curse you oh! |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by KINGwax(m): 10:47pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Goldieluks:and sadly in Nigeria, a serious minded person is the one that's so good at keepin up a facade in order to get married at all cost since most wait till their 'desperation' time before forcing the development of a 'serious mind'. I can't date for less than 2yrs! If we can't tolerate each other in two yrs, there's no point in tryin to try for a life time 7 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by ndukwejoe(m): 10:54pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Nigerians ! I am just enjoying myself with the discussion between Mr acid and the guy that pointed the tautology. |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by Goldieluks: 11:09pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
KINGwax: and sadly in Nigeria, a serious minded person is the one that's so good at keepin up a facade in order to get married at all cost since most wait till their 'desperation' time before forcing the development of a 'serious mind'. I can't date for less than 2yrs! If we can't tolerate each other in two yrs, there's no point in tryin to try for a life time So you are insinuating that the youths in Nigeria are not too keen on the idea of marriage? When i mentioned a 'serious minded' person, i meant.. 1. a person who is God fearing 2. ready for a commitment 3. ready to make sacrifices to get the best out of the courtship. NOT A desperado who wants to get married at all cost, due to aging or pressure from family, or a gold-digger who wants to reap where he/she did not sow. 4 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by frank317: 11:20pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
KINGwax: and sadly in Nigeria, a serious minded person is the one that's so good at keepin up a facade in order to get married at all cost since most wait till their 'desperation' time before forcing the development of a 'serious mind'. I can't date for less than 2yrs! If we can't tolerate each other in two yrs, there's no point in tryin to try for a life time Pls repeat this again, I don't think she heard or read it rite. 3 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by Acidosis(m): 11:25pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
KINGwax: he's from kogi state, cut him some slacks. can you really be that shortsighted? (I'm trying to be nice here. The word I was going to use was "st. upid" ) Next time: you don't correct 1 by insulting 100. It would save you some slaps on your face. |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by Alaafialoro(m): 11:57pm On Sep 11, 2012 |
Goldieluks:Six months shd b maximum?? Are u kidding me?? Do u think ppl can‘t pretend for six months to get what they want?? For me,it‘s a minimum of 1.5yr to know each other well & if things don‘t work,u break up..cest finis. 2 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by ayobase(m): 12:09am On Sep 12, 2012 |
Acidosis: Why u come dey vex for here....tot una don settle the matter up there as buddies! |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by Acidosis(m): 12:13am On Sep 12, 2012 |
ayobase:aint acidtalk broda.. |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by ayobase(m): 12:14am On Sep 12, 2012 |
And na the ladies dey suffer the consequences mostly. . Why will a lady of 25yrs of age wanna court a guy for years without knowing where the train is going...Ladies could be funny sometimes....y aint the relationship defined in the first place.....guys are big time time-wasters.....they have nothing to lose as such....and after dating a guy for yrs, she is gonna go date another for yrs. Then tell me, when menopause no go catch up with her...no wonder some are always so desperate! . Goldieluks don talk the koko thing! 4 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by dubem3(m): 7:33am On Sep 12, 2012 |
frank3.16:you know that moment when somebody just says what ur thinking? ayobase: And na the ladies dey suffer the consequences mostly.thats some serious picture u painted there oh...make them no come de give u/us ultimatum oh... but seriously, it works out differently for each couple and u can't for fear of outcome, refuse to try...besides, Ayo,whats up? |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by 190: 7:49am On Sep 12, 2012 |
I repeat never you date a lady after a year I repeat Never you date a lady after a year - BREAK UP WITH HER Someone roger that hello . . hello is something! someone roger! Over  |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by ITbomb(m): 8:50am On Sep 12, 2012 |
190: I repeat never you date a lady after a yearDude, where have u been . I heard the british govt are building facilities here in Nigeria . Hope to see u soon here |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by olanie(m): 8:58am On Sep 12, 2012 |
Irreconcilable differences is it. Many try patching up a partner's defective behavioural pattern with a tag of "no one is perfect" only to realise that its beyond them, if the relationship tarries into years. Those that aint "lucky" end up being unfulfilled and unhappy married souls. 4 Likes |
| Re: Reasons Why Years Of Courtship Never Lead To Marriage? by acidtalk: 9:29am On Sep 12, 2012 |
190: I repeat never you date a lady after a year When will you ever grow up and start contributing wisely. Since you joining nairaland around 5years ago till date you keep getting sillier each day. 1 Like |
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