nyere84: Mr Ayobase, i cant believe u wrote dis. I remember vividly in one post abt Ex, U said “ Relationships must not end in marriage“. Pls, clarify me on ur stand abt dis. And b sincere.

~vicky~:

Long courtship equals long trouble

suolboy:
this is a typical lie. am in a 11 years relationship now and about to get married, meaning we done introduction and I have paid dowry . the good thing about it is that we are more sure of one another and can live the rest of our lives together peacefully.

ayobase:

Not “ Relationships must not end in marriage“, but ''Its not a must relationship ends in marriage''.
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A lady should wisen up against being taken for years of free punny.....she is supposed to know if the relstionship is not heading anywhere within the first 3 months.....u wanna sure of a guys's dedication, deny him punny for months and c how it goes!
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How d guy no go dey play along since ur punny is always at his beck and call!

KINGwax: biliv me goldie, it's not. Plssssss

Brand_new: Helo Mr Acid, causes and why actually means the same thing...

Dipwater:

Six months is even too much,I culd tell if we are compatible on the first date .am serious
One major problem we have in nigeria is too much pretending as if. Everything is perfect
U don't need to dress in way dat uve never dressed b4 just to pls someone or speak phoney like no mans bizniz
Pls try to be urself,u can even meet dat special person in a danfo ,at the bus stop while its raining,on the street etc it musnt be one fairytale romantic nonsence ,seriously those things only happen in movies and romantic books

No matter how a guy or a girl pretends u will get to find out as the relationship progresses. Except u are just too dull. Thanks

Mynd_44:
They should pay you damages for wasting your time

obowunmi: Punny or no punny --- what will be, will be. What won't, won't. The fact you get married doesn't mean, marriage will last. You can get divorced, separated, widowed.

Life happens - sh, it happens.

Gogobiri Lalas: A guy will usually know his wife within 2wks of meeting her, anything longer is just enjoyment, marriage is over rated

ndukwejoe: Nigerians ! I am ju ;Dst enjoying myself with the discussion between Mr acid and the guy that pointed the tautology.

Brand_new: Helo Mr A :Pcid, causes and why actually means the same thing...

ayobase:

passionate88: why can't the gal propose?.. If I start dating and my lady proposed 2 me after courting 4 sm months.. I will accept it.. Forget the talk that a man should propose.. It isn't a must...

acidtalk: When it comes to hearing people ho dated for several years (some up to 10years) with both the male and female's family members as well as friends all hoping and looking forward for the couples to tie the knot only for them to come up with tales of "incompatibility" issues and stories.

Stories of ladies (and sometimes guys) committing suicide due to breakup of relationship that lasted many several years only got ended when marriage talks where in progress.

The question is, why do so many years of courtship end up with excuses of incompatibility issues just before marriage.

If this people could date for years at what point did they decide they can't marry based on compatibility issues.

Goldieluks:


Because it is wrong to court someone for years without marrying that person. Six months courtship
should be the maximum, of getting to know one's partner.

Goldieluks:

So you are insinuating that the youths in Nigeria are not too keen on the idea of marriage?
When i mentioned a 'serious minded' person, i meant..
1. a person who is God fearing
2. ready for a commitment
3. ready to make sacrifices to get the best out of the courtship.

NOT

A desperado who wants to get married at all cost, due to aging or pressure from family,
or a gold-digger who wants to reap where he/she did not sow.

Alaafia l‘oro:

Six months shd b maximum?? Are u kidding me?? Do u think ppl can‘t pretend for six months to get what they want?? For me,it‘s a minimum of 1.5yr to know each other well & if things don‘t work,u break up..cest finis.

lagerwhenindoubt: My Wife and I courted for 6 years and still married for 4 years more.. so that makes it 10 years of being together.. this post is not well formed.
If you do not understand the dynamics of courtship/marriage please say so. You do not engage in courtship because you want it to end up in marriage, you do so because you need to understand your partner before you make a decision to be shag-partners or life-partners.. that is 6yrs of shagging which now comes free