Having said all these, how long can a date be? 30minutes, 1hour, 5hours?

12 inches!:


It's abnormal to take ethics and codes hook line and sinker without ur own self analysis. How does leaving pieces of meat and dodo and grains of rice on ur plate show finesse or etiquette. Rather to me it shows wastefulness and a flagrant behavior. Have u seen white pple when they eat at their dinners? They always serve in excess but nigerian culture (or atleast yoruba culture) dictates that we do not waste food especially considering those who have none.

It's a general assumption that a clean plate means you're hungry. Infact in most cases you will be asked if you need more food. Get that straight and stop given waste principles.

kunle.t.ade:
Is it ok if you give a girl monmey to go and order anything she want and other anytin for you also on the first date, coy I have done it once and lady gave me a look that simple mean you are arrogant. Is this a bad idea or a good one

jst as u love to be served,she deservd to be served 2..ordering hers sounds ok 2 me,bt ordering 4 urs 2 sounds selfish and bossy...a frnd of mine ended her relationshp cos her bf was alwayz doing dat,he didnt belv in serving a lady,while she belvs in being treatd as a queen,cos dats d way she was brought up.

if u dnt keep your hands to urself, where will it hv to b?

The best thing to do on a first date is to be a "gentle man"...or try to be one even if you're not.

B strict,no mater wat cms out of d date,either negative or positive...Learn 2 say thank you!

pearl~hapi:
Be confident,smart and not boring[how I hate timid pepo]crack jokes and make him or her laugh!I repeat don't be boring

How boring or lively a person can be is sometimes depends on the other person they're conversing with - will you just sit there and stare like a blackboard waiting to be entertained by a comedian or contribute your quota to making the date lively!?

toygod2: REMEMBER TO COMB UR HAIR BFO U LEAVE UR HOUSE

Cuddlemii: 1. Don’t have se-x on the first date.
Men loose interest easily if they tap that, nothing to wait around for.
It also means you are a cheerful giver so only God knows how many guys you offer it to.

2. Make sure your first date is at a neutral place and not anyone’s crib/house

3. Don’t arrive too early or before the guy. Arrive on time or slightly late(maybe 5 mins)

4. Don’t talk too much because men make use of the vital info you give and sometimes use it to their advantage. It’s better for you to be unpredictable and keep him in suspense.
Don’t start talking about how your ex used you, dumped you bla bla bla. Men are smart; don’t give them more leverage to use you.

5. Be yourself, be composed and don't show off. You don't need to sing along to all songs playing at the background or start chewing your mouth and mumbling/humming nonsense (not following the words of the song) all in the bid to show you are what's up babe. Don't chew gum like a roadside girl.

6. Maintain eye contact so he knows you are confident and bold. That way, he would know that the “look in to my eyes trick” won’t get you dropping down your pants or allow him have his way in the future.

7. Ask intelligent questions. First dates are good times to know a guy because guys are fond of not telling anything but keep the questions brief you don’t want to scare him off!

8. When you order don’t raid/rob the whole restaurant by purchasing everything like a hungry girl. Don’t ask for take away for your family and friends if you need to, pay for the take away yourself.

9. Don’t over dress. If you don’t know where he is taking you to or what happens there, it’s always safe to wear a pair of jeans as it can fit into almost anywhere. Don’t wear a ball room gown and people start looking at you at eatery as Cinderella visits Nigeria

9. Make sure you leave on time. Some babes can spend 20 hrs gisting on a date like they are jobless. Let the guy know you have a life and have errands to run. So it won’t look like you don’t go on dates often or you don tey for rack without an admirer.

10. When he is about to pay for the bill, offer to assist, just form by bringing out your purse and ask “you sure you can handle it all by yourself, do you want me to chip in, we both know naija economy is not easy na” Obviously you just did that to fulfil all righteousness, you were not going to pay.

11. Always go out on a date with your own money in case things go wrong and the guy abandons you in the restaurant and escapes through the toilet or just incase a fight ensued like he insist on sleeping with you for the money he spent. Guys can be ill mannered; they can drive you to an hotel to pay back what they spent. Anything can happen so you don’t end up washing plates or stranded on the street.

12. Always say, "thank you" even if it was gala he took you to eat. Always sound appreciative!

this is good

4reigningqueen: dont keep looking at her breast eventhough you are tempted to .

even if she comes dressed like this:

Whu carez! If u like date me if u like dn't. I wil neva stop 4 a sec. 2 enjoy ma lyf just to show u dat am gud.

Cuddlemii: 1. Don’t have se-x on the first date.
Men loose interest easily if they tap that, nothing to wait around for.
It also means you are a cheerful giver so only God knows how many guys you offer it to.

2. Make sure your first date is at a neutral place and not anyone’s crib/house

3. Don’t arrive too early or before the guy. Arrive on time or slightly late(maybe 5 mins)

4. Don’t talk too much because men make use of the vital info you give and sometimes use it to their advantage. It’s better for you to be unpredictable and keep him in suspense.
Don’t start talking about how your ex used you, dumped you bla bla bla. Men are smart; don’t give them more leverage to use you.

5. Be yourself, be composed and don't show off. You don't need to sing along to all songs playing at the background or start chewing your mouth and mumbling/humming nonsense (not following the words of the song) all in the bid to show you are what's up babe. Don't chew gum like a roadside girl.

6. Maintain eye contact so he knows you are confident and bold. That way, he would know that the “look in to my eyes trick” won’t get you dropping down your pants or allow him have his way in the future.

7. Ask intelligent questions. First dates are good times to know a guy because guys are fond of not telling anything but keep the questions brief you don’t want to scare him off!

8. When you order don’t raid/rob the whole restaurant by purchasing everything like a hungry girl. Don’t ask for take away for your family and friends if you need to, pay for the take away yourself.

9. Don’t over dress. If you don’t know where he is taking you to or what happens there, it’s always safe to wear a pair of jeans as it can fit into almost anywhere. Don’t wear a ball room gown and people start looking at you at eatery as Cinderella visits Nigeria

9. Make sure you leave on time. Some babes can spend 20 hrs gisting on a date like they are jobless. Let the guy know you have a life and have errands to run. So it won’t look like you don’t go on dates often or you don tey for rack without an admirer.

10. When he is about to pay for the bill, offer to assist, just form by bringing out your purse and ask “you sure you can handle it all by yourself, do you want me to chip in, we both know naija economy is not easy na” Obviously you just did that to fulfil all righteousness, you were not going to pay.

11. Always go out on a date with your own money in case things go wrong and the guy abandons you in the restaurant and escapes through the toilet or just incase a fight ensued like he insist on sleeping with you for the money he spent. Guys can be ill mannered; they can drive you to an hotel to pay back what they spent. Anything can happen so you don’t end up washing plates or stranded on the street.

12. Always say, "thank you" even if it was gala he took you to eat. Always sound appreciative!

I disagree with the 'bolded' .

As far as the guy was the one who initiated the date, never offer to pay on the first date, except of course you want to get something extra for yourself to take home, or something.

As far as am concerned, i don't prescribe even eating on a first date, a drink will do, except in some cases, but even then it should not be heavy.

Even if you do eat on a first date, eat lightly.
Only offer to pay if you truly mean it and i do not think it should be on a first date.


My opinion though!

MRbrownJAY:

even if she comes dressed like this:

the way a girl dresses on a first date matters a lot

If i were a guy, i think it would matter to me the way a girl dresses on a first date, and the way you come, is the way i would take you.

If am a guy, any girl that comes for a lunch or dinner date like this,even if i had good intentions before, i will just do hit and run (if am that kind of person)or cut off ties with you.

No offense ladies!

@Cuddlemii, U ar a bi.arch! A stoopid 1 for dat mata. WTF is al dat crap u typed? Girls lyk u ruin d good guyz av 2 show 2 ur kind. Damn u!

AmBeautiful:
the way a girl dresses on a first date matters a lot

If i were a guy, i think it would matter to me the way a girl dresses on a first date, and the way you come, is the way i would take you.

If am a guy, any girl that comes for a lunch or dinner date like this,even if i had good intentions before, i will just do hit and run (if am that kind of person)or cut off ties with you.

No offense ladies!

the way a girl dresses on the first AND last date matters.
sadly we all know that many women out there have lost the plot on what is SEXY, and are quick to flaunt their body outrageously, in order to "make an impression" (not knowing that they make the wrong impression). i mean, when there is not much about a lady BUT her body, then i understand why she is quick to flaunt it.

AmBeautiful:


I disagree with the 'bolded' .

As far as the guy was the one who initiated the date, never offer to pay on the first date, except of course you want to get something extra for yourself to take home, or something.

As far as am concerned, i don't prescribe even eating on a first date, a drink will do, except in some cases, but even then it should not be heavy.

Even if you do eat on a first date, eat lightly.
Only offer to pay if you truly mean it and i do not think it should be on a first date.


My opinion though!

Not offer to pay for everything but chip in.
Just checking to know his funds is sufficient.
Its a very clever strategy.
Obviously, you won't pay na but the fact that it even crossed your mind or you were even considerate to ask,
That guy would pamper you and take care of you.
True life story!!!

If the guy allows you to pay when you offer then you know there and then who you are dealing it
Its up to u to free him or continue with him
Its part of testing and getting to know his true colors too.

kavey10: @Cuddlemii, U ar a bi.arch! A stoopid 1 for dat mata. WTF is al dat crap u typed? Girls lyk u ruin d good guyz av 2 show 2 ur kind. Damn u!

Are u ok?
What exactly do you find offensive in what I wrote?
Or is it because I said no se-x on the first date?

Enough points to write a book. Mine goes this way, don't bite what you cant chew. Don't do stuff to impress her cos you will have to keep doing that (eating everything from Chinese to point-and-kill). It doesn't have to be expensive.

@Cuddlemii, ur 3, 4 nd 10 are disturbing!

omega25red: Then you already know your role as a prosti-tute. so get your cash and make sure you work her azz

indulge me 4da pls,u seem 2 b a veteran at it

kavey10: @Cuddlemii, ur 3, 4 nd 10 are disturbing!

Whats disturbing about them?
Explain!

I was about to ask why majority of the posters were only talking about how a guy should act on a first date then I read cuddlemii's post. Excellent. In fact nah to convert am to manual sure pass
More ways to form an opinion on a girl

kavey10: @Cuddlemii, U ar a bi.arch! A stoopid 1 for dat mata. WTF is al dat crap u typed? Girls lyk u ruin d good guyz av 2 show 2 ur kind. Damn u!

Someone left the psychiatric hospital waaaay ahead of schedule.

I see u lyk long tori, I aint gat tym 4 dat isht. No mata hw I explain(of whch I won't) u ar a bleeping gal so u won't undastand.

Cuddlemii:

Not offer to pay for everything but chip in.
Just checking to know his funds is sufficient.
Its a very clever strategy.
Obviously, you won't pay na but the fact that it even crossed your mind or you were even considerate to ask,
That guy would pamper you and take care of you.
True life story!!!

If the guy allows you to pay when you offer then you know there and then who you are dealing it
Its up to u to free him or continue with him
Its part of testing and getting to know his true colors too.

My dear,
i still totally disagree.
Testing on a first date, is weird.
First date is a time for observation not testing.

I still say, never offer to pay especially on a first date
And especially when the guy initiated the date.

Instead stick to taking a drink or something light!
That's my take.

Am saying this because all guys are not the same.
It worked for that person in real life because the person you met a guy who liked the idea.
I know some guys who may not like this idea.

What if you offer to pay and the guy allows you pay?
Are you saying the guy is bad?
No he is not bad, HE TOO IS TESTING YOU NOW.

testing on the first date is not it,
observation is the key!

@AmBeautiful, I totally support ur stance. Dnt mind dat Cuddlemii!

D-Explorer:

It's a general assumption that a clean plate means you're hungry. Infact in most cases you will be asked if you need more food. Get that straight and stop given waste principles.

So being hungry is now a crime now...Or shows u don't have etiquette.

[quote author=AmBeautiful]

Why not?

What I meant is: no 'touchy-touchy' if you convert all the 'touchy-touchy' to dollars, you are hitting...
hahahahaha 'touchy-touchy' analyst

@Cuddlemi
your list is very dangerous o!!!!!! do you really believe the stuff you wrote?!

[b]1.Don’t have se-x on the first date.
why not?! not everyone is closed minded and insecure like that. if a woman is fully comfortable with her sexuality then why shouldnt she enjoys herself, if thats what they BOTH want to do?

3. Don’t arrive too early or before the guy. Arrive on time or slightly late(maybe 5 mins)
in my world, even arriving 1min late is considered a lack of respect. people should ALWAYS arrive earlier to make sure that they dont make their date waiting. making anyone wait on a first date is WRONG on so many levels.

4. Don’t talk too much because men make use of the vital info you give and sometimes use it to their advantage. It’s better for you to be unpredictable and keep him in suspense.
KAI!!!!!! there is nothing worst than a date who DOESNT talk, thats a sure date killer IMHO. the lady doesnt have to talk about her past r/ship, but she must take part in the date fully, in order for both of us to enjoy it, and not just one person.

5. Be yourself, be composed and don't show off.
again, the first date is very important, and although you shouldnt go overboard, you should DEFINITELY showcase some of your "qualities" (whatever they may be)..... no need to tone who you are in real life. if you like to sing then do so, and if you like to dance on your seat then do so....... it may actually make you look DIFFERENT than most.


6. Maintain eye contact so he knows you are confident and bold.
constantly staring at someone's eyes?! here is what i would think of such person: madness/crazy/on drugs/ plotting something etc lol!

9. Don’t over dress.
the simplest thing to do is to always ask where y'all are going so that you can dress accordingly.

9. Make sure you leave on time.
why so much faking?! if you guys have a great time together, then spend as much time as you can together. nothing worst than killing something good with pretence etc. there is nothing wrong in showing someone that you are actually liking this date.....and ladies, when you finally get home, let the guy know that you had a great time and enjoyed his company!!!!

10. When he is about to pay for the bill, offer to assist, just form by bringing out your purse and ask “you sure you can handle it all by yourself, do you want me to chip in, we both know naija economy is not easy na” Obviously you just did that to fulfil all righteousness, you were not going to pay.
BLASPHEMY!!!!! are you trying to start a NL war of the sexes?! these women are not willing to pay for shiit......and we all know that. a man who makes the mistake of asking a girl to pay for half, will automatically be branded STINGY!!!! as for pretending to do something that you do not want to do?! i think not![/b]

btw, any reason why you had #9 twice?