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Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Nobody: 8:53am On Sep 21, 2012
Hey Ladies, this is absolutely for the men. So we advised that you don’t read it (laugh).

Now guys, It’s time to face business and study this. Yes, I say study ‘cos one silly mistake from you might cost you your life-partner. So why not buckle your belt and Cram this into your heart.

Bathe

Obvious, right? The worst thing you could do when going out on a date (especially if it is your first date with her) is to turn up unshaven, looking dirty and smelling bad. Women are clean and will judge you on how hygienic you are. Plus, no offense, but you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a hippie that hadn’t bathed for a while. It doesn’t cost anything to take a bath and make an effort.

Remember, bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off, and she will assume that this is how you are all the time. Even if you are just having a bad day or didn’t think you have time to clean up, she won’t see beyond your appearance, so you’ll never get a second chance to impress her.

Arrive on Time

One of the worst things you can do is turn up late. Turning up late will give her the wrong impressions of what you think about her. Women always assume the worst, so she’ll sit around considering the worst case scenarios when you’re late. Not only will she think that she has been stood up, but will also think that you are unreliable.

If you are picking her up from her home, then it is advisable to turn up 5 minute before you are due. But don’t come any earlier or she will be adjusting her makeup or getting dressed and won’t want you to see her half finished.

Be a Gentleman

Hold the door open for her. Let her walk through the door first. Pull out her chair. Be polite to her and the people around you. Women like to feel special, and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.

Compliment Her

The first thing to say to her is “you look beautiful” before you even ask how she is. Keep the compliments flowing throughout your date, such as “your hair looks nice, I like the color of it, and your outfit is great.” But don’t go overboard. A woman loves to be complimented because it makes her feel sexy, gorgeous and beautiful. She needs to feel you are attracted to her. So it shouldn’t sound fake.

Listen to Her and Ask Questions

Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves or being ignored. And you do have to get to know each other. So ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. There is nothing woman likes more than when someone is interested in what they have to say.

I remember once I was sitting in a restaurant waiting for some friends. There was a man and woman sitting at the table next to mine and I couldn’t help overhearing their conversation, though it isn’t a conversation when only one person is talking. I could tell it was their first date from what he was telling her about himself. “I play Saturday league football, I like boxing…” He went on like this for about 10 minutes without stopping or asking her questions.

She was just sitting there nodding slightly every so often and looking bored. That day left an impact on me, and every time I have been on a date since, I have been conscious of the woman, making a point to take an interest in what she had to say. This is probably the best bit of advice I could give.


Prepare

The last thing you want is to be sitting having a meal and the conversation dries up, leaving you bored with each other for the rest of the night. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her, and in return what you would like her to know about you. Try and think of any questions that she might ask you, so that you can prepare the answer.

You think that it is easy to talk, and that you will not run out of questions to ask, or that you will automatically have the answers. But until you are there and in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. You can avoid all of this by meeting for a quick drink, then go on to see a film, so you have something obvious to talk about.

Who Will Pay?

This is a really tough question since women are increasingly independent and may want to pay their way. I suggest that you offer to pay and, if she lets you, take care of the bill.

If she wants to pay, you can argue that you want to, but make sure you pay for at least half no matter what.

The Goodnight Kiss

Some women prefer not to kiss after a date while others are disappointed if the guy doesn’t even try. There is no easy answer to this. Wait until either she makes the first move or it’s very obvious that you are both ready. Watch out for body language and little touches. And I would strongly advise against sex on the first date.

I’ll Call You

Only tell her that you will call her if you mean it and intend on seeing her again. This is an awkward situation, and most of the time the easiest solution is to take her number and tell her you will call her. But don’t do it if you are not interested. Just say good night, smile and walk away. But if you do like her and are interested, then make sure you let her know and tell her you’ll be in touch.

For more of these tips for Ladies and Gentlemen, check out http://marriageessence./

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Kenistry(m): 9:30am On Sep 21, 2012
Nice

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Mynd44: 11:34am On Sep 21, 2012
What a load of poo

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Nobody: 11:45am On Sep 21, 2012
This is the offspring of the mating of bullshit and donkeyshit

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by johnstar(m): 11:46am On Sep 21, 2012
Wow nice 1 bro, I ll gv it a try, on my way owt nw grin grin grin grin, I ll cum bck nd gv testimony cheesy
Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Mynd44: 11:48am On Sep 21, 2012
SimonAndal: This is the offspring of the mating of bullshit and donkeyshit
Very nice
Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Debroslink: 11:49am On Sep 21, 2012
GOOD OLD DAYS WHEN LADIES' CHARACTERS WERE LIKE "JEWELS". NOWADAYS, U DON'T NEED TO GO OUT ON A DATE B4 U GET IN BETWEEN HER LEGS... cry cry cry

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by emsquare(m): 11:51am On Sep 21, 2012
Interesting!
Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by airroseice(m): 11:52am On Sep 21, 2012
Mynd_44: What a load of poo

LOL! Y U NO drop dead already?

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by fergieboy: 11:54am On Sep 21, 2012
BulShitology 101

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by mich2012: 11:55am On Sep 21, 2012
Debroslink: GOOD OLD DAYS WHEN LADIES' CHARACTERS WERE LIKE "JEWELS". NOWADAYS, U DON'T NEED TO GO OUT ON A DATE B4 U GET IN BETWEEN HER LEGS... cry cry cry

hahaha you are right on point! The copied post would have been more appropriate for my grandfather/father.
Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Claus(m): 11:55am On Sep 21, 2012
Many good points in there.

However, I am a big fan of putting advice for guys and advice for girls side by side so that they complement each other.

I admit there may be a declining number of gentlemen out there, but the number of ladies who don't know how to react to a gentleman is also alarming.

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by freecocoa(f): 11:57am On Sep 21, 2012
Does this one apply to Nigeria\Nigerians?undecided

Do people even go on dates the way its portrayed in onyibo films in this country? No be to just tell the girl say you wan enter relationship with her and every other thing is done inside house.undecided

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Nobody: 11:57am On Sep 21, 2012
Who will pay? undecided that is the most foolish topic here. Girls in nigeria expect the guy to pay nah. Even if they are rich or broke girls. Iv met rich girls who expect you to pay on a first date. So mr poster, go and study well. This post is total failure. Like senator Patrick will always say, it is the ogolomentary of the highest berry berry. grin

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Leobreezy(m): 11:58am On Sep 21, 2012
Ehm, op, we have heard all this before o. But please, ehm, can you write an article titled THE REALITY OF DATING A NIGERIAN LADY? Thanks for understanding.

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Salvation001(m): 11:59am On Sep 21, 2012
This is too much. I can't do all these. Especially that part about keeping the compliments rolling. If a guy continues to compliment a girl, then she will assume that he is all-over-her, what next? She will then assume leadership over him. Its good not to make a woman feel too special.

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by akpunku1: 11:59am On Sep 21, 2012
ok nah - this may work in the western world. Then painting a naija scene.

1. Be financially ok plus a sleek ride

2. Tell her u luv her and back it up with enough gifts and gadgets.

3. You dont need to come on time or have any gist, just have enough money to throw around her and her friends. Infact if u like, no brush sef.

4. Buy her blackberry, an Iphone and more Blackberry

5. Now this is the most important point. She is all yours 'do' her as you please, even if she caught you cheating, she'l still not think of dumping you.

P.S: sweethrt i knw you have joined nairaland, if you are reading this, i don't mean it o, you know i am a perfect gentleman.

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Nobody: 12:00pm On Sep 21, 2012
Darling, hope u are reading dis??

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Nobody: 12:00pm On Sep 21, 2012
This will defo not work with naija girls.
Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Donawoite(m): 12:07pm On Sep 21, 2012
Nice tips, kep it up
Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by KingOfNairaland: 12:08pm On Sep 21, 2012
Mynd_44: What a load of poo
I've never seen you being Positive on any of your comments on NL. You are full of Negativity and I doubt if you'll ever make a good Husband. Denm! undecided

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Nobody: 12:09pm On Sep 21, 2012
This post is definitely not for naija men! Infact they do the opposite. Naija men never advance reach this level at all. This is arrant bullshiiit! undecided

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by cashdude: 12:09pm On Sep 21, 2012
Dude it seems u reali knw my intentions 4 putting up dis,im tryna hav a date wif dis new girl i jst met....will stick 2 ur principles....
Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by tmed1(m): 12:11pm On Sep 21, 2012
Who Will Pay?

This is a really tough question since women are increasingly independent and may want to pay their way. I suggest that you offer to pay and, if she lets you, take care of the bill.

If she wants to pay, you can argue that you want to, but make sure you pay for at least half no matter what.


I don't need to argue naw! let her pay. It will extensively reduce my financial expenses. wink

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Leobreezy(m): 12:12pm On Sep 21, 2012
cashdude: Dude it seems u reali knw my intentions 4 putting up dis,im tryna hav a date wif dis new girl i jst met....will stick 2 ur principles....
Make sure you hold enough cash while you're at it.
Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Nobody: 12:12pm On Sep 21, 2012
cashdude: Dude it seems u reali knw my intentions 4 putting up dis,im tryna hav a date wif dis new girl i jst met....will stick 2 ur principles....

PLS DON'T.... I cud teach u tho!
Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by eastman11: 12:16pm On Sep 21, 2012
This sermon is for a guy who have all the time to wast, modern babes don't even need all these protocols, they expect to slug it out with you right from the first date and either forget about you if you are not sweet or the relationship starts from there.
@Poster, wake up, these days you don't ask a babe out you ask for f.u.ck. Stop wasting peoples time.

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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by BB013(m): 12:19pm On Sep 21, 2012
Product of copy Ąπ∂ paste. when does women start paying bill. Whenever they go on date
Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Nobody: 12:21pm On Sep 21, 2012
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Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Gkiks1406(m): 12:22pm On Sep 21, 2012
lifted: Hey Ladies, this is absolutely for the men. So we advised that you don’t read it (laugh).

Now guys, It’s time to face business and study this. Yes, I say study ‘cos one silly mistake from you might cost you your life-partner. So why not buckle your belt and Cram this into your heart.

Bathe

Obvious, right? The worst thing you could do when going out on a date (especially if it is your first date with her) is to turn up unshaven, looking dirty and smelling bad. Women are clean and will judge you on how hygienic you are. Plus, no offense, but you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a hippie that hadn’t bathed for a while. It doesn’t cost anything to take a bath and make an effort.

Remember, bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off, and she will assume that this is how you are all the time. Even if you are just having a bad day or didn’t think you have time to clean up, she won’t see beyond your appearance, so you’ll never get a second chance to impress her.

Arrive on Time

One of the worst things you can do is turn up late. Turning up late will give her the wrong impressions of what you think about her. Women always assume the worst, so she’ll sit around considering the worst case scenarios when you’re late. Not only will she think that she has been stood up, but will also think that you are unreliable.

If you are picking her up from her home, then it is advisable to turn up 5 minute before you are due. But don’t come any earlier or she will be adjusting her makeup or getting dressed and won’t want you to see her half finished.

Be a Gentleman

Hold the door open for her. Let her walk through the door first. Pull out her chair. Be polite to her and the people around you. Women like to feel special, and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.

Compliment Her

The first thing to say to her is “you look beautiful” before you even ask how she is. Keep the compliments flowing throughout your date, such as “your hair looks nice, I like the color of it, and your outfit is great.” But don’t go overboard. A woman loves to be complimented because it makes her feel sexy, gorgeous and beautiful. She needs to feel you are attracted to her. So it shouldn’t sound fake.

Listen to Her and Ask Questions

Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves or being ignored. And you do have to get to know each other. So ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. There is nothing woman likes more than when someone is interested in what they have to say.

I remember once I was sitting in a restaurant waiting for some friends. There was a man and woman sitting at the table next to mine and I couldn’t help overhearing their conversation, though it isn’t a conversation when only one person is talking. I could tell it was their first date from what he was telling her about himself. “I play Saturday league football, I like boxing…” He went on like this for about 10 minutes without stopping or asking her questions.

She was just sitting there nodding slightly every so often and looking bored. That day left an impact on me, and every time I have been on a date since, I have been conscious of the woman, making a point to take an interest in what she had to say. This is probably the best bit of advice I could give.


Prepare

The last thing you want is to be sitting having a meal and the conversation dries up, leaving you bored with each other for the rest of the night. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her, and in return what you would like her to know about you. Try and think of any questions that she might ask you, so that you can prepare the answer.

You think that it is easy to talk, and that you will not run out of questions to ask, or that you will automatically have the answers. But until you are there and in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. You can avoid all of this by meeting for a quick drink, then go on to see a film, so you have something obvious to talk about.

Who Will Pay?

This is a really tough question since women are increasingly independent and may want to pay their way. I suggest that you offer to pay and, if she lets you, take care of the bill.

If she wants to pay, you can argue that you want to, but make sure you pay for at least half no matter what.

The Goodnight Kiss

Some women prefer not to kiss after a date while others are disappointed if the guy doesn’t even try. There is no easy answer to this. Wait until either she makes the first move or it’s very obvious that you are both ready. Watch out for body language and little touches. And I would strongly advise against sex on the first date.

I’ll Call You

Only tell her that you will call her if you mean it and intend on seeing her again. This is an awkward situation, and most of the time the easiest solution is to take her number and tell her you will call her. But don’t do it if you are not interested. Just say good night, smile and walk away. But if you do like her and are interested, then make sure you let her know and tell her you’ll be in touch.

For more of these tips for Ladies and Gentlemen, check out http://marriageessence./
Re: Essential Dating Tips For Guys by Nobody: 12:24pm On Sep 21, 2012
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