ifyalways: Would it make any sense to have Mr chima and mrs winter as a couple?
How would strangers identity them as a couple without stress?[size=18pt]what name(s) would their children bear ?[/size]

nyameke: 1. I believe your husband did the right thing.. I mean why should he be part of something he does not support or condone..
[size=18pt]2. I don't see why or how changing a females surname to the husbands denotes to keeping the woman in property mode. Why did you make that statement ? [/size]
3. A union between a man and his woman makes them ONE unit and the man being the head of the family it is only natural for the woman to take after the man's surname..

The surname should not be the issue But LOVE.. W

nyameke: ^^^^ So you only worried bout the kids identity? Btw any man that would let his kids have any other surname besides his should be slapped back to his senses..

@darkskin why you not using your other username anymore.

*Kails*:


so you don't think it is means to "mark property" or claim a female into a family?
lets not forget the reason for last names to begin with.

*Kails*:


lol so if the woman wants him to have her surname and he obliged..would that make him a sucker?

@username question,
i just wanted to start over.

the "msdarkskin" name has been through to much ish and things im not proud of.
to you i am sure it makes no sense but for me it a necessary move.

nyameke: slaps will not do in this scenario because tNot only a sucker but he should be castrated and consider handing the pants over to the woman.

@ username as long as you keep making intelligent posts which drew you to me and stays darkskin and no bleaching we ll be fine

*Kails*:

lol silly sef.
bleaching never that! dark till i die!

nyameke:


I just love darkskin women.. They usually have everything in the right proportions ..
Do you cook?

*Kails*:
Well I don't know about all of the homosexuality stuff as I am straight.
But I believe love is love. You don't even have to be married to be happy or to work out much less change your last name.

I respect most cultures but in my opinion and as far as I am concerned, my keeping or changing my name won't determine how we connect as a couple therefore it is irrelevant.

nyameke: 1. I believe your husband did the right thing.. I mean why should he be part of something he does not support or condone..
2. I don't see why or how changing a females surname to the husbands denotes to keeping the woman in property mode. Why did you make that statement ?
3. A union between a man and his woman makes them ONE unit and the man being the head of the family it is only natural for the woman to take after the man's surname..

The surname should not be the issue But LOVE.. W

ifyalways: Would it make any sense to have Mr chima and mrs winter as a couple?
How would strangers identity them as a couple without stress?what name(s) would their children bear ?

*Kails*:


so you don't think it is means to "mark property" or claim a female into a family?
lets not forget the reason for last names to begin with.

nyameke: I know but I wanted to know if she meant it as in servitude mode. Because I don't see anything wrong with us marking our territory and I also don't see why my woman should..

If she meant servitude mode then its a different ball game

Mrs..Chima:
Yall need to get a room.

Mrs..Chima:


Marking your territory is the same as claiming something as property. A woman having your surname doesn't and won't keep another man from dabbling in your "property".

As a woman...I wouldn't want my husband to claim me as property or his territory as if I am an asset or commodity. It is the same as a slave owner saying brand the slaves so people can recognize who they belong to.

Lord_Reed: So do children taking up their parents surname mark them as property?

All this talk just sidesteps the main issue and creates unnecessary tension where there does not need to be.

If a couple love themselves and live in harmony, if their culture allows them to change name to whatever who cares what they answer to?

Abeg let's leave matter for Matthias, we have better things to think about.

Mrs..Chima:


Answer to number 2...this is what the MEN SAID...they said it is a way that a woman can be tied to her husband therefore she is HIS PROPERTY.

Answer to number 3....the man is the head of the house has nothing to do with her taking his name naturally if it was natural then women wouldn't have opposition with taking their husband's surname.

Mrs..Chima:


Marking your territory is the same as claiming something as property. A woman having your surname doesn't and won't keep another man from dabbling in your "property".

As a woman...I wouldn't want my husband to claim me as property or his territory as if I am an asset or commodity. It is the same as a slave owner saying brand the slaves so people can recognize who they belong to.

nyameke: well sorry but MEN with those mentality are ignorants and know no better.. You can't refer to your woman or wife as PROPERTY as in something you buy off the street.. human beings are above that. A woman becomes a helper and an extension of the man when they become ONE UNit and is equal to a man.. Any sane and sensible man knows that Looking at your woman as a property means you look at yourself as a property as well. Not smart!!!
Yes it is.. Any woman having an issue indicates that consciously or subconciously they still see themselves as separate from the man. But the reality is that once the two come together they become as ONE.. That's what marriage is about. If it wasn't then what's the reason for both to live under the same roof.. because if it was about just sex and babies then all we had to do was stay at our separate abodes and call each other for boo.Ty calls when the need arises..

nyameke: Slave owners maltreats their slaves and dehumanize out of hate and disdain and not Love..

Btw I don't see why a female should think and compare themselves to a commodity just because of us marking our territory..

*Kails*:


LOL WTF? light skin women don't have proportions too?

and yes i cook. y?

nyameke: " most" endowed black women do I just think iMO that darkskin women fits the rod better.

well good cuz one I have a high metabolism and love to eat and now know our kids won't go hungry. . what's your favorite food and recipe..