moneybags:

Good to finally see someone who's understanding my view point here. However, I wouldn't call the things a husband does to meet his wife's needs "niceties". They're not niceties, they're a part of his responsibility -- that's what he signed up for when he took her to the altar and said "I DO". He's not doing her a favor by meeting those needs, it's his responsibility and should be taken seriously. Same applies to the woman as well.

4Him:

that is no solution at all. What is the point licking your lips when the milk is right there beside you?
I am sure you were just joking when you told us to lie there quietly. Impossicant.

ROFL!

4Him:

i can't technically call it rape. Women love to exagerate . . . soon husbands will be accused of robbing wives at gun point.
Unless she's tired, or sick or on her period a husband shld know his wife well enough to know what he can do to get her excited enough for sex without "raping" her.

women like to say no when all they want is for u to try harder.

4Him:

if he has to beg he shld do so . . . if he has to touch some buttons to get her in the mood then by all means. There are always ways to get a reluctant horse to drink.

efuah:

yeah, begging is good! But sometimes all da buttons wldn't be functioning no matter what. . . not in the mood is simply not in the mood!

. . . wait till tomorrow, abeg, it won't take long.

RichyBlacK:

@moneybags,
I see your point. However, the emotional interplay between to humans is sufficiently complex that a simple/single formula is unlikely to capture all its ramifications. Not everybody is wired like you are, no matter how much you/we wish it so. We are all wired differently, some more similarly and others very differently. For example, I prefer women who freely verbalize their feelings. I will not want to be with a woman who, instead of verbally expressing her worries to me, starts to withdraw herself emotionally first, and then expects me to decipher the code that connects her emotions to her worries. In resolving any problem in a relationship, I believe in the idea of talking about the problem instead of using negative actions/non-verbal cues, no matter how subtle. I'm a good listener and always ready to listen to my sweetheart. I tend to interpret negative actions as a deliberate and unilateral escalation of a problem, especially when the issue of concern has not been given the basic benefit of being discussed. So, I tend to prefer women who are very good in verbally, i.e., those who will tell you how they feel about any and every issue - that's my kind of woman. You, on the other hand, seem to be more responsive to negative actions/non-verbal cues, like emotional withdrawal, and then do a very good job in responding positively, both in action and in words, in the spirit of maturity and head of household.

I used the words niceties , because I'll be going out of my way to try to please an emotionally cold wife, and hoping that she returns from her emotional journey, simply because she could not communicate, verbally, her worries to me. I don't like women like that. I prefer those ladies who, before going into some emotional desert, have the wherewithal to articulate their worries in words, so we can discuss them like man and wife. Same goes for me, I will not start acting out some emotional stunts without giving my woman the basic courtesy of telling her what's bothering me.

Bottom line is just as some other poster mentioned, no single formula works for everybody. However, your ideas will work for some couples

4Him:

Thanks though . . . u'd make a great wife too.

efuah:

4Him, yeah, exactly!

When am fully pregnant, possibly can't be turning around. . perhaps lie flat on my back or side by side all night,
Very sick. . . everywia is painful
or too much stress from the office, all da buttons would go off!

R-Dynamite:

Efuah, I agree with you

moneybags:

Please tell Him! It's obvious 4Him isn't married. Sometimes NO means NO and no amount of anything will make her change her mind.

R-Dynamite:

Ain't u a darlin?

moneybags:

Please tell Him! It's obvious 4Him isn't married. Sometimes NO means NO and no amount of anything will make her change her mind.

R-Dynamite:

Ain't u a darlin?

efuah:

ehem. . ehem

4Him:

close your eyes . . . didnt u say i was single, free and ready to mingle?

R-Dynamite:

lmao. . .4Him, you a clown. Efuah, leave him na _{funny people}

Dajen:

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SENATOR JD:

@dynamite
she/he only asked an innocent question.c'mon b nice

yeah, begging is good! But sometimes all da buttons wldn't be functioning no matter what. . . not in the mood is simply not in the mood!

. . . wait till tomorrow, abeg, it won't take long.

R-Dynamite:

There's a section where he can ask that. You should have been nice enough to direct him there than pick on me. Senator, abeg leave me

Uncle Dajen, please go to the phones section or e.mail Seun.

Dalby:

I did not see this o

@Efuah
Honey I hope you will be this understanding when the reverse is the case