From my observation, it seems that women get their hearts broken earlier (younger) and more frequently than men do. I'm not sure if my observations are representative of the wider human experience, so here's the question:

Men, what was the age of your first heartbreak?
How many times have you been heartbroken (disappointed)?
How many times do you think this shall happen to you in life (hopefully before marriage)?

Ladies can contribute too but I really want to hear from the men, so ladies, abeg, whisper. [table][/table]

Which heart? Obi Nka? Obi Agu! you no serious! no be if I allow you near am before you fit break am!

I don't want to break anyone's anything (hearts included), I just want to know more about men.

My heart has never been broken (then again, im just 16 going 17). And ohh boy, the guy that breaks it, will deffinitely get something that he owns broken.

mine was so sad , i think it was 17 or 18, it was really painful, ofcourse i thought it served me right for what i did to someone else , but hey that's life, it boomerangs, but i have made a promise to ma self that it will never happen again, and i sure want to keep that promise

@ Vichel
Thanks for contributing! It's funny how being broken hearted so reminds us of our own misdeeds. That happened to my cousin when he was 20 or 21. Yep, he was a dirty dogg up till then.

15

My heart has never been broken. I've always guarded it.

When a girl wants to go, I just let go because from the start of any
relationship I always prepared my mind for the unexpected.

Well, @ those who never experienced heart break, good for you and don't think its about being smart or because you guided against it. Well, i was heart broken twice in high school and i wish i could count the number of times that has happened. its painful though and its still happening, not because i am a dollard but men, them no dey write am for face and as i dey break heart na him them dey break my own heart too. tit for tat i ll say. i have gotten used to it now that their is no heart for any one to even break again!

@Ashiwaju
My dear, it is "tit for tat". But anyway sha I'm sorry about your heart! Don't say it is no more there! That's too sad!

mine was when i was 17.

travelled for vacation, heard she is having another affair . it wasnt funny cuzz i kindda bougth a lot of things for her. that was actually my first relationship . i came back. gave all the gifts i bought for her to her best friends and closest friends. told her i will meet her at a party. she came there and i was like did u cheat on me. she said yes but it wasnt serious. **imagine** will another affair be serious i asked. she was smiling a lil bit.
i kissed her and told her goodbye. i was hurting for a month bfor i finally got over her . she tried calling and stuff but i just didnt want her back and i nearly made her kill herself when i went out with her 2 best friends at a time. i gave them what i bought for her right when she was looking at them. i kissed them passionately and left. it hurt her really bad but i didnt care. she crossed the line a long time ago and she cant get back


thats the only relationship i have had and since then, i have sworn not to venture into another one. the pain is too much for me to handle . i hail dozz that go through it alot. thats why i respect women cuzz they go through it like its a plane ride to hawaii.

i gotta think of dating again but it wont be now. i pray i meet someone that will love me as much as i love her.

Ndo. I'm sorry to hear that Diddy4dt! What a shame! And "it wasn't serious"? Well you will meet the right someone & it'll be worth the wait.

chinani:

Ndo. I'm sorry to hear that Diddy4dt! What a shame! And "it wasn't serious"? Well you will meet the right someone & it'll be worth the wait.

thanks hun, i am going to take my time till i find her.

some people just dont deserve to be treated nicely cuzz u will never satisfy them no matter what.







if u dont mind my asking hun, which part of east naija are u from cuzz u r ibo?

diddy4dt:
if u don't mind my asking hun, which part of east naija are u from cuzz you're ibo?

Abia State. Are you familiar with the area?

chinani:

Abia State. Are you familiar with the area?

**kneeling down**

thank you God.


i lived in Aba most of the time then a lil bit in port and lagos.

but Aba na my home base girl. damn.

tot i never gonna find someone from there.


hey girl if u wanna chat a lil bit of nairaland, just hit me up. diddy4dt@yahoo.com


i knew that face was unique with a particular kind of people from the east but i just wanted to make sure.

@Chinani, 10x 4 taking note but Why Men alone if i may ask?

when you come across a girl,
and soon you develop feelings for her,
finally you approach her,
and its like OK, things are running well,
and both of you get talking, etc,

After like 3-4weeks,
she tells you she's getting married,
and you're like,
what da ?

is that one a heart break too?

that depends on U!! or dont U get the meaning of a heart-break??

well, i aint never had my heart broken lol who could veer do that to me

@Rhodalyn
pls what is the definition of heart-break, im all ears,

U're know when U get there hun but for now, U lil kids gotta wait

Heart break means being smashed on the chest with a matchet

@Chinani

Not yet. I guess i am waiting earnestly for you to break my heart.

I hope to make the best of the time before the heart break.

19yrs

@Diddy4dt
Aba? My aunt lives there! It's a small small world.

@Ashiwaju
Well I made it men only b/c as a woman I'm constantly hearing stories about heartbreak from other women. I do have male friends - completely platonic sha - but few of them have been heartbroken. Only 2 have been truly heartbroken - they are 24 & 21 - it was about 4 yrs ago for both. I have cousin who's heart was broken - he's 21 - but that was a case of karma. Of the rest of my guy friends 2 or 3 more have been slightly dissapointed. So I began to wonder if men, particularly young men, even invest enough into relationships to have any type of emotional reaction. So I started this thread.

@Mrlawng
Do not wait my dear. I'm no heartbreaker! Once it happened to me - even before - I knew better.

I have a heart? But I feel so empty inside.

Afeni, what is there to smile about in such a message?

chinani:

Afeni, what is there to smile about in such a message?

i asked u what part of abia u r from and u snobbed me.

@Diddy4dt
I did not see where you asked! Sorry o! Wait just a moment now. . .I'm from a village called Ihechuknwa. It's under the Ohafia government but we're not Ohafia ppl. It's on the border of Ohafia and Arochukwu. That's actually what we write on mail. It's not too far from Umuahia.

Now, where are you from?

chinani:

@Diddy4dt
I did not see where you asked! Sorry o! Wait just a moment now. . .I'm from a village called Ihechuknwa. It's under the Ohafia government but we're not Ohafia people. It's on the border of Ohafia and Arochukwu. That's actually what we write on mail. It's not too far from Umuahia.

Now, where are you from?

ok, just tot u are another cutie from abiriba shaa.

well am from anambra but i lived mostly in abia so i got a lot of friends from abiriba and ohafia. so u aint ohafia and u aint arochukwu so u guys are just known as ihechukwu people?

LOL! No, we're Arochukwu ppl. We beef w/ the Ohafia ppl alot b/c we're under their govt but I love 'em anyhow.

oh u beef with the ohafia people, this is getting interesting.


but u still like the ohafia people.

i need to call baba obasanjo to come and settle the beef.