Hello guys..so i have this issue that has been disturbing me and i am close to losing focus at work.I have three serious relationship.I didn't intend to have all these relationships but the first girl started acting up,i started trying out other women.
First Lady: She is 23,we have been dating for 3 years,i have met her family.She is beautiful.But she has allot of immaturity stuffs.We have also had trust issue before and this still keep affecting us.She is the one i still really have full feelings for.But she has alot of attitude issues and her mum keep saying i should give her time that she will change.
Second Lady: Due to the nonchalant attitude of the first girl, i started dating even though the first relationship is still on,the second girl is very fine,tall and very homely.She is also from my Village which makes everyone in my house to like her.she is still a Virgin and she is 24 years old. I dont have intention to sleep with her until i am sure i want to ring her.
Third Lady: she is 26 years old,the most generous lady i have ever met. we started dating without even me noticing. she started committing,I had just moved into a new apartment,and i was stack broke, she took it upon herself to do all my Kitchen Furnishing,she is talking serious, she wants marriage obviously.I like her personality.
Now, my problem is,the first girl is the person my heart really wants,she is d person that i worry about most night. We haven't spoken in four days.She has accused me of not trusting her and that she is just worried things will get rough.
Despite these two other girls,i still cant stop missing or thinking about the first girl.
Should i just let the first girl go and deal with the two other girls? I am tempted to call the first girl but i do not even know how to start the conversation again.

Men and dere confused nature
U want a perfect babe wen u are half perfect
U ll continue datin diff babes and findin diff reasons u want dem
Wat can I say 2 a selfish n greedy man?

Dyt: Men and dere confused nature
U want a perfect babe wen u are half perfect
U ll continue datin diff babes and findin diff reasons u want dem
Wat can I say 2 a selfish n greedy man?

i am not selfish.the first lady started the whole problem,she wasnt communicating enough,she was highly immature,she just felt relax that she already got me and so wasnt doing anything. I have never cheated on her,her behavior made me to start looking at other girls,because i wasnt sure where she wants to be.

Chai
U men r so easy 2 put all blame on us
Jst listen 2 ursef
She's nt doin d things she does anymore simply cos she's got me
Are u doin things 2 mk her want u more?
We ladies too nids 2 b understood, cared for, remind us ow much u love n v loved us and still lovin us
We also nid d surprise calls, d gifts, d dance

U too try spicing it up

Na wa!
If this was a woman now, she'd be called all sorts....

If I were in your shoes...


I'll marry the 2nd lady. Period!

Dilemma

If dose gals cast a spell on u now, u will begin 2 shout women r wicked
U startin wat u know u can't finish

Dyt: If dose gals cast a spell on u now, u will begin 2 shout women r wicked
U startin wat u know u can't finish

are you the no.3 lady ??

na wa oh, you don make 3 posts so far.

You're just complicating it for yourself. It's clear you're still in love with the first and only started dating others because you weren't getting as much attention as you hoped you would. Stick to the first and let the others go gently. Don't carry the other two along as you'd only hurt them in the long run. Your heart is still with the first.

acidosis™:


are you the no.3 lady ??

na wa oh, you don make 3 posts so far.

I cld b
Who knows

acidosis™:
If I were in your shoes...


I'll marry the 2nd lady. Period!

Nahhh i don't think dats wise.Marrying d 2nd while u are always gonna b thinking about d 1st?@OP There is no perfect babe without any issue,ur heart belongs 2 d 1st,i would advise u work on urselves.Marriage is all about where Ur heart lies,its a life time thing!Marrying 4 d wrong reason is d worst thing ever u can do 2 urself.#My own view Sha#

Dyt:

I cld b
Who knows

awww....
Op, I beg you, if the no3 lady turns out to be dyt, just pay her off!

If I wanted his moni, I wldnt v done anyth
All I want is jst sincerity

ceewai lebi: Nahhh-i-don't-think-dats-wise.Marrying-d-2nd-while-u-are-always-gonna-b-thinking-about-d-1st?@OP-There-is-no-perfect-babe-without-any-issue,ur-heart-belongs-2-d-1st,i-would-advise-u-work-on-urselves.Marriage-is-all-about-where-ur-heart-lies,its-a-life-time-thing!Marrying-4-d-wrong-reason-is-d-worst-thing-ever-u-can-do-2-urself.#My-own-view-Sha#

You see, love is not all.. How can you cope with a nagging girl with bad attitude? There is no love without mutual cooperation. As you can see, the mother is the stock broker of the 1st relationship and for how long would she do that??


Now its obvious the family is interested in the 2nd virgin mary girl.. Show me a man that doesn't like a virgin girl, and I'll pour acid on his face
Mind you, Mr. Op approached her, she didn't come begging on her knees for marriage.


However, the 3rd only fell in the arms of this man unknowingly, he didn't woo her, and she didn't woo him.. they just met, slept together and now, she need marriage.

Dyt: If I wanted his moni, I wldnt v done anyth
All I want is jst sincerity

Yep I understand your points..

The truth is op is a player but some men are worse.. Its not his fault afterall.

^ smh4 u
She's a virgin and dat qualifies her 2 b his wife?
Hian

acidosis™:

You see, love is not all.. How can you cope with a nagging girl with bad attitude? There is no love without mutual cooperation. As you can see, the mother is the stock broker of the 1st relationship and for how long would she do that??


Now its obvious the family is interested in the 2nd virgin mary girl.. Show me a man that doesn't like a virgin girl, and I'll pour acid on his face
Mind you, Mr. Op approached her, she didn't come begging on her knees for marriage.


However, the 3rd only fell in the arms of this man unknowingly, he didn't woo her, and she didn't woo him.. they just met, slept together and now, she need marriage.

The third seems to always talk about marriage and this is getting pissed off even though i know i want to settle down. But the situation when a woman always talk about the ring.thats hard to deal with.

U tell her na
Abi na we go help u?

Dyt: ^ smh4 u
She's a virgin and dat qualifies her 2 b his wife?
Hian

nah... what qualifies her is not the virginity but the fact that Op wooed a beautiful, homely, loving & compartible girl.

bolof2000: The third seems to always talk about marriage and this is getting pissed off even though i know i want to settle down. But the situation when a woman always talk about the ring thats hard to deal with.

Exactly.. thats a sign of something I don't want to talk about (Danger). It takes time to fully understand the attitude of such ladies.

And d oda two are not of dose qualities?
D op is jst a self centred mofo
He wants a perfect babe
He sees diff things dat amazes him in all of dem

I thought it was only applicable to girls.
The one who give us late night worries is the one our heart is as long as we have had a breathtaking beginning

Dyt: If dose gals cast a spell on u now, u will begin 2 shout women r wicked
U startin wat u know u can't finish

See your mouth like Spell
Asey ni e...

Dyt: And d oda two are not of dose qualities?
D op is jst a self centred mofo
He wants a perfect babe
He sees diff things dat amazes him in all of dem

Look beyond the similarities, you'll see the 'BUT' in the 1st and 3rd ladies

Na dat one hook u abi?
Opolo

I wouldnt blame the OP at all.

Some girls just need to learn their lessons the hard way.

Op if I were in your shoes, I will take the one that give me much attention, committment, etc.

The one that wants to work out things and willing to make sacrifices. You will have a hard time schooling the first and it obvious that she isnt matured. Therefore let life teach her some maturity.

The last thing I would want to do at this stage of my life is begging someone to give me that needed attention.

acidosis™:


Look beyond the similarities, you'll see the 'BUT' in the 1st and 3rd ladies

And dere is a huge BUT which is
He simply loves d 1st

bolof2000: I dont have intention to sleep with her until i am sure i want to ring her

Ring her? Is she an engine?!

Dyt:

And dere is a huge BUT which is
He simply loves d 1st

There is no fruitfulness in loving someone that doesn't love you..

bolof2000: Hello guys..so i have this issue that has been disturbing me and i am close to losing focus at work.I have three serious relationship.I didn't intend to have all these relationships but the first girl started acting up,i started trying out other women.
First Lady: She is 23,we have been dating for 3 years,i have met her family.She is beautiful.But she has allot of immaturity stuffs.We have also had trust issue before and this still keep affecting us.She is the one i still really have full feelings for.But she has alot of attitude issues and her mum keep saying i should give her time that she will change.
Second Lady: Due to the nonchalant attitude of the first girl, i started dating even though the first relationship is still on,the second girl is very fine,tall and very homely.She is also from my Village which makes everyone in my house to like her.she is still a Virgin and she is 24 years old. I dont have intention to sleep with her until i am sure i want to ring her.
Third Lady: she is 26 years old,the most generous lady i have ever met. we started dating without even me noticing. she started committing,I had just moved into a new apartment,and i was stack broke, she took it upon herself to do all my Kitchen Furnishing,she is talking serious, she wants marriage obviously.I like her personality.
Now, my problem is,the first girl is the person my heart really wants,she is d person that i worry about most night. We haven't spoken in four days.She has accused me of not trusting her and that she is just worried things will get rough.
Despite these two other girls,i still cant stop missing or thinking about the first girl.
Should i just let the first girl go and deal with the two other girls? I am tempted to call the first girl but i do not even know how to start the conversation again.

The question you are asking is a little like a teleguided one.
The simple answer is that, USE YOUR BRAIN ALONGSIDE YOUR HEART AND NOT YOUR HEART ONLY. That is the common mistake most ladies make: they always stay with a guy because they love him when it will be obvious that he uses them like punching bag and sex machine when another one will be on standby seeking their hands in marriage with all his belongings.

@Op Der are times wen luv myt nt jst be enuf; to make marriage work. I tink u shuld go 4 d 2nd, nt becos of ha virginity status bt becos of ha attitude. Allow d 1st 2 grow up nd as 4 d 3rd, shez jst putting up all dat cos shez desperate. Mind u neva 4get dat none is perfect